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🍼- do any of your S/Is also regress?

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💫 (bonus points if it’s a hot take)

🌿- do any of you S/Is or would any of your S/Is have a caregiver/babysitting blog? Ohhh or do/would any of your F/Os? What about a regression blog, would they have one of those? Esp curious abt Tate bc I’m not familiar with that dude so to me everything you say is canon

- birds :3 anyways I hope you’re okay that I slightly altered the asks to be more relevant/fun for selfship blog stuffs

Yessssss thank you I really really wanted some agere questions from this ask game!!! I super appreciate it and OF COURSE I love that you altered the questions!

🍼- do any of your S/Is regress?

Yeah! My Critical Role self-insert regresses (and so does Jester)! My League of Villains self-insert..... maybe regresses? I feel like they do, but they don't have words for it. My self-insert with Toshinori is a regressor as well <3 I feel like there are a lot of selfships where I could see my self-insert regressing, or my f/o regressing, but those three are the only ones where it's like "canon" to the dynamic.

❤️‍🩹 — do you have any special comfort items?

I collect comfort items like there's no tomorrow. I tend to switch between stuffed animals every few months, but I have three main ones (a bunny, a possom, and a weighted baby doll). Also, my poncho coat is definitely a comfort item. That's the main ones for now!

🌿 — do any of your f/os or s/is have an agere/caregiver blog?

Hmmm! I don't think Tate or Tomura would have an agere blog: I don't think they would connect to the current agere community, nor do I think my self-insert would have one in those universes.

My Silvertongue BNHA s/i might have a caregiver blog (they're a flip but I think they'd be more interested in being a cg online), and I think they would talk about that with Toshinori.

My DC/Sandman s/i would probably have both, their internet presence is very much the same as mine.

Me and Toga would share a blog that might have regression content on it, but it would focus more on the aesthetic stuff than the actual agere stuff.

💫 — is there anything you wish more age regressors knew? anything you want to tell them?

Beneath the readmore 'cause this is getting long!

Oof, it's been a while since I was in the main community, but here's a hot take, as requested.

The difference between age regression and age play is not whether it's sexual. The difference is whether there's an element of control and humiliation. If you like feeling like your caregiver is completely in control and you like the idea of punishment (even non-physical), you might want to look into nonsexual age play instead of the age regression community. Also, if having fantasies about someone helping you to regress in public makes you feel humiliated and small at the same time, that's another sign you might be on the kink side of things, at least some of the time.

You can, of course, enjoy both: but I occasionally see posts about punishment and humiliation in the age regression community that really make me feel like it's been mis-tagged.

At the same time, only you can really know what the centre of your regression experience is, and I know some people genuinely feel safer if someone else is making the decisions, but it's not in the same way that they're submitting to a dominant. It's a complicated kinda situation, I won't deny it, but sometimes I see people in the agere community that I just feel are only in the agere community because they don't realize kink can be nonsexual.

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Self Shipping Ask Game

I’m feeling self-indulgent as all hell so I did another one, with Patrick Verona this time!! 💙 I’m starting to lose track of my F/Os...

Tagging @jokershyena​ so she can see!

Word count: 2, 253 (lmao woops?)

Date you got together? April 24th 2020. We are... a very new couple and we’re still finding our way with what we have together. It feels like stepping into shoes you’ve worn a thousand times before, but the soles are different; there’s new marks left behind and we’re finding out what they mean slowly but surely. We have lots of love between us and we’re letting it guide us.

Favorite personality trait? I love Pat for all that he is, but if I have to pick just one thing then it’s his nature. He feels like... you know when you lay down outside on the grass or the beach and there’s a gentle breeze in your hair and the sun is warm on your face and your eyes are shut and you feel yourself smiling because this is why you’re alive, for moments like this? That’s how Pat feels to me, all the time. 

Favorite physical trait? His smile. I almost said his eyes but, oh... that smile makes flowers bloom in my heart. I would die to keep that smile on his face. He’s so beautiful and those dimples and his eyes, I... he’s so beautiful. 🥺 

Couple song We don’t have one yet. I’m still looking for the perfect one. I often listen to I want you to want me from the soundtrack when I want to feel him close by, just because it makes me think of him, so maybe that one? 

Pet peeves... He likes to leave his switchblade open and lying in random places and it freaks me out. I don’t even like kitchen knives near me and there he is, leaving it stabbed into the coffee table pinning a note for me to the surface. Sure, it’s convenient to just grab his knife out of his pocket and it’s a good way to get my attention, the silver glinting of the blade in the light of the room, but still.

Favorite outfit on them? As much as I adore those leather trousers, it has to be the dark grey shirt with the chain poking out... just him putting it on in the morning and the cold metal against his skin contrasted with the heat on my tongue... *ahem*

Favorite meal? Pat and I eat separately; I have coeliacs disease and Pat’s lucky enough to not have any food allergies so I always make us separate meals. I make his first, scrub down the kitchen and then I do my own food. Pat likes the tuna pasta bake I make; the golden crust of cheese on the top is his favourite and I always give him the corner bits; he likes the cronch. He always says I can just make one meal which is gluten free but I don’t feel right doing that to someone who doesn’t share my dietary requirements.

Early bird or night owl? Pat’s definitely a night owl, so long late night conversations where the two of us lay down in bed together are very common. I stay up every night for him to come home from the pub and then he showers (no dirty sweaty bodies in my bed, thank you) and we cuddle up in bed and just... talk. Sometimes we just lay there listening to music. Neither of us especially like mornings and it’s not unusual to wake up at noon or afterwards 😂

Snorer or sleep talker? Pat snores very lightly most of the time but when he’s deeply, deeply asleep, he sounds like a chainsaw lmao. I like that, though, because even though it makes the bed shake a bit, I know that he’s there with me and it eases my fears of the dark. I have my nightlights but I don’t need music because I know he’s there for me and he’ll keep me safe. Sometimes he’ll mutter unintelligibly as he rolls over and it’s always right in my ear and I have to try not to jump 😂

Do you have any pets together? Not yet! 💕 I wanna get some cats with him in the future; they’re such precious creatures. Pat wants a dog but between him and a dog I’d never get any free or alone time 😂 and I’m protective of both of those things.

Pet names! (Both from them and yours for them) I call him Pat mostly, but other times it’s “sunshine”, “baby boy” for when he needs comforting, “angel”, “darling”, “love” and he knows I’m angry/mad if I call him Patrick ksksksk it gets his attention so quickly. 

Pat calls me “sweetheart”, “angel”, “love” (saved for when he’s being sarcastic, it’s like a hint I need to Do Something Soon) “honey”, “girlie” and by my name when he thinks he has to.

How often do you fight? Not... very often. We have playful banter more than anything. We do fight, that’s normal and healthy, but we try to talk things out calmly rather than go at it and risk saying something we can’t take back. Words have greater power than people know, and where the sword cuts and forgets does the tree fall and remember.

What starts fights? For me, Pat gets angry at my blatant lack of self-care and it angers him to see me treat myself as I do (or don’t, more accurately) but to shower others in love. He doesn’t understand why and it frustrates him. I struggle to explain myself properly so then I get frustrated and it can lead into a whole thing lmao the tears start when he raises his voice so he usually calms down pretty quickly. And as I said, we prefer to speak it through calmly so we’ll go calm down separately and meet in the middle later on. He knows he’s forgiven when I throw myself at him and smother him in kisses.

For Pat, I don’t get angry very often or very easily but when I do, it’s because he was out for so long that I started thinking he’d died or was injured or something and he didn’t text me to let me know and though I don’t want to control him I also don’t enjoy staying up worrying he’s dying in an alley somewhere. So when he gets home I’m a bit... colder in how I greet him and then Pat gets defensive and eesh 😬 In the end, he’ll sigh and I’ll apologise and he’ll get irritated and we cuddle and talk it out. I’ll know I’m forgiven when he kisses my forehead.

Who apologizes first? Me. I will always apologise first, even if I was right. I cannot handle any kind of conflict or confrontation and due to things which have occured in the past I will always just... take it. I’ll just apologise, and get it over with, and hope it all smooths over quickly. Pat gently tells me off when I do this, “No, Erika. I’m the one apologising, not you.” and I usually get upset so we have some cuddle therapy - our touches speak louder and more concisely than we ever could. 

Big spoon or little spoon? asdfghjkl; we switch depending on who needs or wants what! Whomever needs comforting, the other is the big spoon and on the times we both need comforting or we just can’t decide who is either spoon, we lay facing each other so that we’re both the little and the big spoon at the same time! Problem solved! <3 

Dom or sub? Pat’s a switch; it depends on what either of us needs the most in any given moment. For the most part he’s dominant; I can be really shy sometimes and I have no idea what I’m doing with anything, so he tends to take the lead... before we realise that we’d rather walk into undiscovered territory together, hand in hand the way it should be.

What are their kisses like? They’re somehow comforting but intense. He kisses me so tenderly it can make me cry but it’s so passionate that it leaves me breathless. He commands my lips against his and he both takes and gives in equal measure. Pat is a passionate, compassionate soul and it comes through every time he kisses me; like he, too, is coming home.  He never kisses just once - just one sentence can hold a multitude of kisses. And the ghost of his lips against my skin lingers for hours after he’s gone home. He’s always with me, in one or another.

What do they smell like? Apples, leather, whiskey, stale cigarette smoke... and something spicy but so Patrick. If I concentrate, I can find it when I nuzzle into his neck.

What are their hugs like? Coming home. He always hugs me so tightly that I can feel those lost parts of me click back into place. I’m a known squeezer and he playfully grunts in my ear and it makes me smile and he squeezes back and it makes me giggle. Pat sighs happily and drops his head down into the crook of my neck and he rocks me from side to side... I’ve been known to fall asleep standing up in the safety of his embrace. He’s my home, nothing and no one make me feel as safe as he does. 

Who is more protective? I think we’re both as protective as each other. I have a mean streak when my loved ones are threatened or in any kind of danger and I’m not afraid to stand up for Pat against rumours, even if he’s not with me at the time. I hate confrontation but for my loved ones, I’d walk straight through fire if I had to. Similarly, Pat gets easily defensive and seems to have a bit of a temper as well so if anything happened to me, he’d get protective. I also... feel like we protect each other from our own selves, sometimes. I have some Bad Habits and so does Pat and neither of us are afraid to tell the other when we’re hurting ourselves and need to stop... like right now, it’s way past midnight and I’m yawning every few minutes but I’m pushing through to write this. Pat’s frowning and wanting to take my laptop away.

Interested in children? Pat might be... when he’s older. But he knows my stance on this topic and we never talk about it. 

Who needs the most TLC when sick? Pat. OMG he tries to work through it, to walk it off, but I can see. I do the same thing, I always pretend I’m not sick until it’s so obvious that I just can’t hide it. Pat’s a natural caregiver, he’s so used to taking care of others and that’s exactly why I deliberately go overboard when I take care of him. I buy every kind of medicine specific to his illness (and I dip into my savings but shush, don’t tell!), and I make him soup and I’m there for him and I make it known that I love him. I’m usually squeamish with sickness, even when it’s my own, but for Pat I push through and I try because he deserves nothing less than the best of everything I can give him.

Who says ‘I love you’ first? Mmm.... I think Pat said it first. He has more confidence in what we share together than I do and one day when I came through with his favourite meal and I had my own one, I sat down and he said, “I love you, d’you know that?” I just blinked at him a few times in shock and he said it again... and again... and again until I just had to put my food down so that I could grab that beautiful face and swallow his next words; he is... ethereal and I’ll never understand why he loves me but I’m so, so glad that he does! I said it back, of course I did, and his smile was brighter than the sun.

Which of you is more accident prone? Meeeee ~ omg lmao I always have bruises I don’t even remember getting. Pat gets frowny because I sit there poking them hoping the slight pain will trigger a memory of how I got the bruise, but I rarely remember. I’m forever bouncing off door frames, walking into tables, tripping over my own feet while I’m stood still... Pat finds it funny and sometimes when I actually trip he’ll say something like, “I know you fell for me, but, ah - did you have to show me, too?” or “How’s the world from down there?” and once... once, he laughed and laid down next to me on the floor and we just stared up at the ceiling and we just... were for a time. It’s a memory I cherish.

Bed hog? OMG me, hands down. Pat tends to lay on his back and I put my head on his chest so that I can listen to his heartbeat or I nuzzle into the crook of his neck, but it’s not unusual for me to wake up with my duvet on the floor and the sheets all over the place. I’ve been known to actually kick in my sleep and sometimes I wake up with bruises I don’t recall getting. Pat wraps himself around me like a koala when I move around too much because a) shitty mattress and b) I drink 18 coffees a day and in this way, I’m able to fall asleep quicker and in a more relaxed way. If I fall asleep relaxed, I move around far less when I’m asleep. I don’t know how Pat figured that out and he won’t tell me, either.

Who loves the other the most? We’re a very new couple and we’re finding our way with each other and our relationship, but I do think that I love Pat a little bit more than he loves me. But that’s okay; statistically, one is always loved a bit more than the other. I have trouble believing we’re even compatible because ??? look at him ??? and then look at me ??? and it drives Pat insane.

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Why anon/ ooc hate has no place in rp.

Some groups I am currently in have had a real drastic increase in anon hate, and I quite frankly hate it. I hate to witness it and I hat to even acknowledge it. No not just for the means words, cause let’s be real we are adults and hopefully handle both good and bad feedback, but the mentality of those who send it and what it says about a rp climate. 

1. You are hiding behind a mask cause you are afraid your character will be seen in any bad light to have a beef with someone else. These people really confound me, humans are complex, humans make mistakes, humans don’t all get along... The problem is someone always finds out it was you, someone always takes it ooc because you know what, you took it there. The rp environment becomes intoxicated by this ooc climate /you/ are creating. 

2. That being said, you aren’t doing a thing to make the place more of a creative space, just deafening voices that are probably already a bit shy to speak up.

3. It’s uninspired rp, it’s not even using basic communication skills. If you can’t in-person have your character productively express their feelings and thoughts then you aren’t challenging yourself.

4. They are probably your ooc thoughts and feelings and you need to assess your mental health, take a step back and understand why it’s unhealthy to blend ic and ooc boundaries, why you are so doggedly obsessed with getting this one opinion of yours out there at the sake of friendships, human connection, a good sound plot etc..

5. I have often seen those who get upset about the littlest comment or gossip suggestion send some of the vicious anon hate. Why? Because they simply are hurt easily and need to hurt someone else as worse, they learned this through their childhood attachments that every time they got hurt by a caregiver they had to release it on to someone else to feel better themselves. If you are doing this often, you are unknowingly expressing how unsecure and unhappy you are. If you find yourself doing this often, I ask that you find someone to talk too.

6. It’s just a really crappy thing to do to say something /you know/ will inflict pain on someone else and yes I will avoid people ooc who display these kinds of behaviors because they aren’t healthy and I don’t want to further encourage someone’s unhealthy mental habits. I’ll be as nice as I can to you ic because I don’t believe in continuing the cycle of this pattern of behavior but I will distance ooc until I view someone as emotional stable again. 

And that is my biggest suggestion for someone at the end of someone else’s ooc/anon hate, ignore and delete their comments, it denies the dopamine rush to their brain that is mainly reinforcing their repetitive inappropriate behavior. If you know who it is, back up from emotional engagement with them till they have seemed to calm, sometimes directly speaking to the person may help but be prepared to perhaps not receive resolution that meets your own desire, consider expressing to them how ic you’d be comfortable with the plot yet their behavior is demonstrating ooc volitilty that they need to address and explain. You should never have to explain to someone else /why their behavior made you uncomfortable it is up to them to prove they know proper and productive ways to express their emotions or they are a risk to the group climate and the main rp should be made aware.