#or bc i dont want to deal with the gatekeeping just accept me lmao

[futilefangirl]

okay literally tho i do not understand the will schuester hate i have never got it like at all hes kind, caring, extremely patient, and obviously talented and has nice arms .... why is everyone literally so hateful to a character who isnt even a bad guy like i dont get if its just like ironically hating him but none of it makes any sense

[dimplesridley]

What are you confused about with ace discourse? I'm just genuinely curious and would like to know your thoughts

lmao im genuinely terrified to even write too much about this but i guess you’re anon for a reason. under the Read More for anyone who doesn’t want to read my shit.

cw for ace discourse and use of the q word

hmm basically my current stance is i accept asexuality, aromanticism as valid sexual and romantic orientations but if they’re that AND cis + heterosexual/heteroromantic, i struggle to agree with them being lgbt/queer solely bc theyre ace or aro

idk if that makes sense. feel free to disagree or comment your thoughts as well.

and of course, i have no right to say who is or isnt part of the community as i try not to be some kind of shitty ~gatekeeper person and i wouldnt protest the inclusion of these cis straight ace or cis straight aro people from lgbt events and stuff, i just havent been able to come to terms with them being labelled as lgbt/queer.

i guess cos im still thinking abt how lgbt people have all these like laws and hate against them specifically bc of same-gender/same-sex (not sure which is a more appropriate/accurate/inclusive term but this is all i can think of rn) attraction (sexual and/or romantic) as well for being non-cis, nonbinary, gnc, and so on. whereas cis straight ace and cis straight aro, and i guess cis ace aro people dont? idk. i dont view it as the same? and i try not to play the oppression olympics or the “ur not queer enough” thing but i think it might be coming off as that. maybe i am doing that without realising it.

sorry this got so long but im not v good at articulating my thoughts. and i try to be open and understanding of everyone and deal with my internal biases but this one in particular has been so hard bc i see both sides often presenting some valid points. so up till now i’ve sort of been on the fence. and unsure of where i really should stand. 

im not sure if this is supposed to be a clear cut “obviously X side is RIGHT and if you cant see that clear as day, ur scum” situation as with the inclusion of bi, trans, pan communities. but for me its been v confusing. also i dont expect ace/aro people to educate me bc its not their job definitely. but i think i def want to do more reading, researching, and reflecting, trying to understand this whole situation better. 

if youre one of the ace/aro people ive described here, and you would willingly like to comment or share links for my understanding, youre more than welcome to. i really want to learn. no obligation to do so of course. and basically anyone else who has thoughts to share are welcome to as well.

and if after reading all of this, you want to unfollow me i understand perfectly.