#one that lets people currate their experience

[questforgalas]

A minor pet peeve of mine is when you search a tag and posts having nothing to do with that tag show up

The Clone Wars tag is saturated with TBB posts right now. And not even one’s doing parallels or analysis, like full posts that only have to do with TBB and nothing with TCW. I’m searching that tag for distraction and comfort, and instead I’m getting bombarded with the reason I was seeking distraction and comfort. It really irks me

[shipperssupport]

Proshipper ≠ comshippers ≠ dark/problematicshipper

Even though it may seem silly, these labels do not mean the same thing! Each one has its meaning and use even though they sound "similar".

Proshipper:

A person who is "pro" (for) shipping in general. Typically refers to someone who follows the philosophy "ship and let ship" and ignore or blocks ships or shippers they are uncomfortable with. An anti-censorship stance that promotes currating your own experience online, and avoiding any content you don't want to interact with, while supporting the rights of others to create and consume any type of fiction they enjoy.

Your basic "idea" would be:

don't like, don't look

don't harass people, especially over fiction

ship and let ship

curate your own internet experience

tag your stuff and blacklist stuff

mind your own business and i'll mind mine

dead dove, don't eat

Comshippers - Comship

A ComShipper is someone who enjoys more complicated or complex ships. These can include "dead dove" content, morally gray, problematic, socially unacceptable, abusive, or toxic dynamics. Comshippers do not endorse these things in the real world, but enjoy them in fiction.

Most comshippers are proshippers, but MOST proshippers are not comship.

Small examples:

Employee x boss

Human x non-human

Age difference but both older

Minor x minor

Non-human x non-human

Selfship

Selfcent

(and much more)

Darkship - Darkshipper

Darkship (also known as problematic ship) is a subcategory of Comship, which covers all types of ships that are considered illegal or immoral.

Small examples:

Minor x adult

Adolescent x adult

Minor x adolescent

Victim x perpetrator

Killer x victim

Animal x human

Family x family

dead x alive

(These are some examples)

(I suffered doing this, there are many pages that give so many different versions)

[kojoty]

I don't, actually, want to discredit people for utilizing the very literal 'laundry list' as an indictment against Thoreau. While I disagree with the way it's utilized, I can't fault people for reading history and realizing the fundamental fact that our Historical Greats-- specifically men-- are often only possible because of the achievements of the hidden women and forced labor thereof to grant them the freedom to be 'revolutionaries.' It is a real factor that we must contend with when lifting up historical voices of liberation-- if you crow and profess to liberation, who's liberty are you infringing upon to make this possible? For most historical figures, I think it is vastly important to talk about it, discuss it, bring up the spectre of labor that creates this.

But Thoreau is an odd one.

One of the most radical voices of his generation, one of the most obvious follow-throughs of his philosophies (going to prison for tax avoidance to prevent himself supporting, monetarily, an unjust pro-slavery war is the easiest point of reference for the way he 'followed through' on his philosophies, and very materially created the concept of Civil Disobedience in political parlance), one of the most obviously outspoken anti-capitalist voices, abolitionists, etc, it does make me wonder-- Who does it benefit to air out the dirty laundry on Thoreau?

Rebecca Solnit says pointedly, "“There is one writer in all literature whose laundry arrangements have been excoriated again and again, and it is not Virginia Woolf, who almost certainly never did her own washing, or James Baldwin, or the rest of the global pantheon. Only Henry David Thoreau has been tried in the popular imagination and found wanting for his cleaning arrangements.”

And it's something I've found wanting whenever I discuss Thoreau-- I will try to discuss his philosophies, his experiments, his activism, and be met with the 'laundry' quandary, as a way to discredit him wholesale. Usually, this is from people who very clearly haven't read Thoreau, but even people who have, but are swept up in the many 'take downs' of Thoreau that have circulated online for the last fifteen years.

As the previous post I reblogged speculates on, there is a very real undertone of historical weaving to make that indicates depression, grief, etc. But more concerned am I that, yes, perhaps his mother did his laundry-- but is it not in the very nature of transcendentalism to utilize and currate community? The question isn't 'was Thoreau a male pig who utilized women's labor'-- something that most of us, as children of mothers, have invariably done to varying degrees of misogynistic normalization-- but rather, 'What are the ways we can support one another in an ideal, non-capitalistic society?' 'How do we care for those we love?' 'What is appropriate labor to perform for others, and what isn't?' 'Does a mother doing the laundry of a grieving son indict and diminish his very ethos?'

Does a mother doing the laundry of a son discount the writing of someone who, by many accounts-- and there are criticisms to make of Thoreau, like any person, and especially any person from his living situation and era of pre-Civil War America-- followed through more succinctly than many other radicals at the time? Does the philosophy of transcendalism fail because he leaned upon the people in his community to make his two year experiment work? Was he ever claiming to be so self-sufficient that he was lying? Was Walden, the I in Walden, Thoreau, or the persona of Thoreau as he wished his philosophy to be reached? Is it inherently vile to let someone do your laundry?

I don't know. Your mileage may vary. And certainly, the leaning on labor is a conversation to have. But the indicting the idea of anyone doing labor for another person ever is a failure of ideology, in my opinion. To make community, we perform labor. To see the beauty of the earth, we must take solace in the love and gifts from others. That said, I think Thoreau could have stood to do his goddamn laundry. But hey, I've been there.

[depressedhatakekakashi]

I secretly think you probably have one of the healthiest approachs to fandom out of like anyone i follow 🤔

Ohh, i like this XD

It did take me a long time and two sort of failed fandom’s to finally find an approach that worked for me and allowed me to enjoy my fabdom experience without letting people get to me.

I left the Marvel fandom because of the toxicity

And while Star Trek fandom isn’t nearly as bad i was forced to remind myself that ‘this ship isn’t my cup of tea’ just means ‘scroll really really fast’ becuase the ship i didn’t like is legit the most popular ship in that fabdom (so i’d be feeling like someone who dislikes SNS in the Naruto fandom)

Those experiences really helped me find my place in fandom and realize that it’s ok to block what i don’t want to see and currate my experience. Of course i don’t expect everyone to agree with what i say, but i can put down a line and demand respect for myself while giving respect to those who may disagree with me. It’s why i never resort to insults and belitting those who argue with me

It’s not worth it. I’m here for a good time. If i want to ve stressed i’ll just add more courses to my school work load XD

[antiloreolympus]

Okay I keep seeing this argument and I would love for an actual Greek to come and explain this - every so often on here I see an anon that will claim that Hades (in myth) is an actual rapist - and idk if people are just confusing the statue title of "the rape of Persephone" - which as we know in this particular context does not mean rape (it means kidnapping) and taking it to mean literal rape, but again, I know most of the Greek pantheon (yes even Dionysis) are rapists in some context or another (most notably Zeus) but I would love to see someone of the actual current culture who worships said deities to explain this as I feel like more often than not, people are getting LO Hades and LO Persephone mixed up with Actual Myth versions without doing, idk, actual background checks / getting info from a reliable source that isnt, say, the first few paragraphs of Wikipedia. And or are just letting their anger of LO bleed through over to the actual myth versions that some Greeks do still worship to this day.

I just feel like some anons on here are getting a little too disrespectful of another's culture without ya know, bothering to do more than 5 seconds of research to see if their anger/out bursts match the canon myths.

Now granted myth versions of deities are not perfect (their gods after all) and this does not excuse those types of reprehensible behavior (such as rape), however, I feel like because people are so angry at LO and RS versions / depiction of the deities as characters that suddenly its somehow become okay to mock and or hate on another persons culture - at least on tumblr or something? And its not.

Be angry at RS all you guys want, but I'd just like to once again remind people to please try and seperate your hatred for RS and LO from actual Greek culture and deities - cause some anons seem to be leaning heavily (and a little too eagerly for my taste) into hating on another culture that you guys seem to only consume through various 3rd party sources (like Tumblr).

And yes, before any of you say anything about "just don't go on this blog / dont like? Dont read" I'd like to point out that yes the internet is a currated experience tailored to one's own enjoyment or lack thereof, but also the internet is a free space and I'm just here for some takes on LO criticism - not hating on another persons culture which seems to slowly becoming the norm apparently (which also unfortunately seem to go hand and hand these days).

Thanks,

-Anon

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[confessionsofa-roleplayer]

I'm friends and mutuals with some of my writing partners on my main/personal blog, and to not clutter the rp dash or try to tame the obvious 'favoritism' and excitement we have about our dynamics, we tag and shared head canons on our personals. Stuff I wasn't quite sure about but wanted to work out, like headcanons that were either very basic or unfinished, I'd share on my personal and tag my friend. This is all explaining how my excitement and having fun rping intrigued another friend. At first, I was like awesome yay! Another friend and writing partner!

But what could have been a fun shared hobby turned sour fast.

See, I've been rping since I was 16. I've been more than once around the block. I've learned via others and just pure experience about how it goes. I've put in the work to find partners and have had a variety of results. I know what it's like to pick up a variety of muses, canon and oc, and I know that a key is patience...it's one of the hardest things because you do want that immediate fun, but clicking with other writers isn't always so easy.

When they started, they also joined in the fandom that has been my obsession for the last couple of years. The fanbase, like in a lot of cases, and easily differ from totally amazing people to....really toxic people who just love to yell.

Another thing about the rpc other than having patience and doing some of the work, if that you kind of HAVE to currate your internet experience if you want to enjoy yourself. They....did not. They easily ran into canon purist. They seemed to almost be stalking my blog. Commenting on nearly every thread, every ask I got. Every person I interacted with they would follow and try to interact with. Which I wasn't opposed to if it read more as them being a roleplayer and seeking out other rpers of this fandom but they came out more as me sort of being their guide and therefore responsible for their experience. Which they got fed up quickly because the ship dynamics for them didn't happen how they wanted or how they saw me have. They would bug me constantly and daily about replying or when I was thinking of replying, and if that wasn't enough of reason that made me not want to reply, when I did reply they couldn't let go of a typo. They knew what I meant, they would drop into my inbox telling me 'if I wanted to fix it' but really meant, go fix it so I can reply. If I moved the thread too fast, in my in box about how we haven't planned that far ahead. I felt like I was being graded. Both characters we played go through a lot in canon. Mine was an obvious favorite of he writers so his things were more explored, so I work hard of having a balance of mentioning my muse's issues without making him seem like a downer and keep other people interested in rping with me and my muse. I love the other character and would have loved to explore things that canon didn't seem to give two shits about if it wasn't important to 'the plot' but when it feels like they're constantly making their muse the victim and taking out their hate for the writer's decision on my muse where all the threads are just angst and guilt....is it any surprise I took a break from that muse? And apparently with me taking a break, no one else wants to rp with them? They claimed to love rping but if I wasn't there to offer choices of other rp partners they can't find other people?

They've quit but I always feel like they give me the stink eye whenever I share anything about rping or that fandom, which I had to work through for months to feel not guilty about loving. And now I hate being the person who introduced people to things because I feel like if they have a bad falling out it's my fault...even though I know that I'm not responsible for another adult's inability to currate their internet experience.

[maybe-seggy-will-be-our-always]

Stars fans are trying to be happy for our wins but we constantly have other fans saying that our entire team is dirty and the refs handed us the win and that the stars didn’t play well tonight so sorry a few of us are frustrated anon

Yes, this. Really for me personally, I'm just trying to enjoy hockey being back. I'm not actively seeking out avs blogs to shit on them. I'm not going in their tag to start drama. None of the people I know here do that. I won't lose any sleep if anyone unfollows me or blocks me, that's everyone's right. No one has to look at stuff they don't like or makes them mad. Everyone currates their own tumblr/internet experience. Let's just all stay in our lane and chill.

And I want to add. There's different styles of play. Dallas knows how to throw their bodies around and how to hit but that does make them a dirty playing team. At first glance, you might think so. But we (stars fans) have watched enough stars hockey to know that. If anybody can't comprehend that there's different plays... I don't know what to do.

[isitandwonder]

i go back and forth with, yea the dude is dating this girl, so what. to wow its kinda funny all this is happening now right around the release of their movie. and the editor or whatever of cmbyn says that yesterday and today theyre wandering around together and shes wearing his shirt. idk, maybe its both their together and their playing it up. or its all fake. or its real. dont get it lol best to keep it light tho and realize the only real love is btwn him and armie lolol

Oh,nonnie, you asked (or maybe not lol):

What is truth? That question is keeping philosophers going since the old Greeks. Can we ever know what another person truely thinks and feels? What do we really know about people we interact with personally? We live in our cave and stare at shadows. So how can we assume anything about people we really don’t know at all?

Well, there are a few approaches. One is that you admit that you know nothing, that everything you believe (not know) is made up in your head anyway, so you can built YOUR OWN FANTASY. And it’s nothing wrong with that, as long as you stay aware that IT IS A FANTASY. You can’t prove or disprove a fantasy because it’s all in your head anyway, it’s highly subjective and made up.

And we are not curing cancer here, this is fun, so believe what you want if it helps you getting on with your life.

And isn’t it nice if you write or draw about THIS FANTASY and post it in fan spaces and find likeminded people with similar FANTASIES and you share them and a fandom grows and everyone has fun and is happy?

So, if, in this regard and context, for you, A&T are the greatest love story that ever happened, or LRD&T are the greates love story that ever happened, or Tim is secretly a shapeshifter, or a vampire, or is boning Glen Close - FINE! Knock yourself out. Believe what you want. Only, don’t insult or ridicule those who SHIP/dream/believe something else. Because no ship (aka FANTASY) is better than the other and there’s no truth to be found in a FANTASY. You either believe it or not and believe something else. It’s totally subjective and - as a FANTASY- there’s nothing wrong with that.

Trying to prove a fantasy is what leads to insanity. Believe me, it’s not that I wasn’t tempted at one point. Only, you know, I’m a scientist. And in science, when we start an experiment, we have a question or an assumption that we want to prove, not already an answer.

Because I don’t have to prove something that I know is true. You still with me? When I start to look for clues that A&T are together, lead by my knowledge (not assumption or question if) that they are together, of course I will only prove what I started with in the first place and ignore/disregard everything that speaks against my knowledge because I’ve known the truth from the beginning and will produce a narrative accordingly. This is called confirmation bias.

In that context, even the absence of proof is proof for something - and at this point, you can’t  argue with people who work like this because they have made their mind up long before they entered the argument. They had the answer before the question. For them, there isn’t an argument at all, because they KNOW. End of story.

True, sometimes the dog NOT barking is evidence. But for that to work there has to be a dog in the first place. If you don’t know that there is a dog, it not barking proves nothing.

So, again, can’t we know anything about anything? Well, there’s a thing called probability. Not all arguments are equally valid, some are more reasonable than others because we have experience, context, and from that we draw conclusions re the probability of things.

But lets first look at the evidence presented in favour of certain theories. I’ve been on this train for over 2 years. I saw a lot of the things going round in fandom and taken as proof for or against something now as it happened - and I have to say, many things got taken out of context and were blown up to much more proportian and meaning than at the time things happened. Pics have been cut in certain ways so people have been removed to make them look more intimate. Things no one has ever seen or knows anything about are suddenly taken as facts (a marriage contract, for example) just because they’ve been repeated so often by fans that they’ve been talked into existing.

These proofs are often photographic ‘evidence’. But pictures lie. And can be manipulated. What we see in them depends on lighting, angels etc. If you take a pic or vid out of context it can look as if it shows something totally different than it originally did. So never base anything solely on a single picture you didn’t even take yourself. Always ask for the context it has been taken in. Is it a fan snapshot? Is it a directed photoshoot? Has it been made during an official promo event? These things matter to determine the validity of the things show in these pictures.

For example, look at this:

Isn’t that a lovely pic of A&T? Doesn’t T look totally shagged out, bathing in the afterglow while Armie tells the world: ‘Look, he is mine!’ This is the photo as I saw it on tumblr.

This is the original:

As you can see, Tim is probably laughing at something Petra Collins says to him. This changes the whole context. And these things happened quite often in  the early days because we were shippers, we knew that we were wearing our shipper goggles, we spun a FANTASY, quite aware that what we were doing was playing freely with the facts. It wasn’t about proving something, it was about illustrating a fantasy. Taking these things now as proof for anything is absurd.

Same goes for interviews. These can be cut and edited in certain ways. Watch a whole press conference, not just the part your shipper heart loves if you want to get the whole picture (or live in the one sentence that makes your shipper heart flutter if this is just about your FANTASY).

As said in the beginning: no one on here knows these people and their circumstances. We didn’t even go to school with them, worked with them, or are their neighbours or in any direct contact with them whatsoever. So we base our judgement solely on currated content provided by them or people close to them, and public appearances that happen in a certain context like a movie premiere, and on very random public sightings by people we also don’t know and whose statements we can’t verify.

We can’t really built anything about their private lives upon these things, can we? It’s all highly speculative.

Okay, after having discussed the reliability of our evidence, lets move on to how to sort it. There is this thing called probability. In theory, everything is equally likely over an infinite period of time. But in reality, humans are able to learn from experience. And experience teaches us that some things are more likely than others.

Then there are facts. Facts are things we know to be true because they haven’t been falsified yet. For example, Armie is married. I know, there are many rumors going around about the state of his marriage, but as long as he’s not publicly divorced he got publicly married to EC and that’s the only thing we can work with. Otherwise, our already pretty sketchy footing slips away completely if we only work with hearsay, specualtion and gossip, and we end up with a fantasy again.

So, in our case: do we really think that friends, family, spouses, girlfriends, colleagues, ex-colleagues, ‘the press’ and random people on the internet are all conspiring since June 2016 together to hide that two actors - who to large parts of the world are totally unknown - are in a relationship, when, on the other hand, we have photographic evidence from multiple independent sources - and in Armie’s case even a marriage certificate and 2 children - showing that they are both with someone else?

Okay, but we’ve discussed the unreliability of photos. True. But it’s not just one cropped pic showing T with LRD. There are many, taken over a long period, by different people, professionally and privately. That makes them being a fact much more probable because why should all these people, who took those pics and reported sightings and don’t know each other and do gain nothing from their lies, lie? Isn’t it much more probable that what these pics show us is the truth?

On the other hand, what solid evidence do we have that A&T are a couple? We don’t even have one photo showing them kissing outside of a movie they made together 3 years ago. Compare this to pap and private pics of T&LRD kissing, that have been taken over a period of a year by different people. What does probability tell us here? That something we’ve never seen is more likely to be happening than something we’ve seen on different occasions, documented by different people independently for 12 months?

Isn’t it more likely that a man who’s never been seen out in public romantically involved with another man, who is married for years and has 2 children - is straight?

Isn’t it more likely that another man, who’s never been seen out in public romantically involved with another man either, who’s only other relationship the public knows of was with a girl, who - if he talks about his private life at all - talks about kissing a girl or wanting to impress a girl, who’s been photographed at different occasions by different people kissing a girl - is straight?

Leave aside what you want them to be and look at the facts, as sketchy as they are.

If you look seriously at what little facts we have - there is nothing reliable connecting A&T romantically that can’t be explained by them being friends and having filmed a movie together over 3 years ago. Everything else is subjective, projection, hearsay, wishful thinking, a fantasy, shipping, gossip, rumors.

Documented facts show us that their reality is incongruent with our ship. And if we start to disregard those facts it leads to sending hate to these very people because fans who took a ship for something real feel betrayed. So, please, sort facts from fantasy, take a look at the facts (not at projection, hearsay, wishful thinking, a fantasy, shipping, gossip, rumors) and draw your own conclusion.

What do you think is more probable when you look at proven facts? Probable, not true. There’s the possibility that I might get proven wrong someday. But, to me, all real evidence points towards T&LRD and AH&EC.

[pbandjesse]

I’m sitting in a bar celebrating Jess’s birthday. And like a very good millennial I am on my phone. I’m having a very good time. I’m really glad I got a nap this afternoon because man between last night and today. I was very exhausted. When I got into the port authority last night Jess told me to look for a certain sign. And I couldn’t find it. So I ended up talking to a cop and he was like. That’s not here.That’s at Penn station. And I’m like shit. So Jess was a few blocks away. But that was okay. She found me fast enough. We decided on sushi and went to a very trendy place that was moderately priced and very tasty. It was just really nice being with Jess. We went back to her place and I got to meet her cat. I cut the cats nails for her and that went fine but then as I was putting her down she scratched me with her back legs really bad. It looks really narley and it hurts but I’m okay. Its slightly deep and I’ll keep an eye on it. Once we cleaned me up we got changed and headed out to a party. Took the subway over to this inclusive bar for this wlw party. And I had a blast. We got photo booth pictures. We got drinks and danced. There were strippers and I was in love with the one girl. I danced with a bunch of girls and ended up really dancing with one girl for most of the time. She lead and we danced to the Spanish music and I love dancing so it was fun. She tried to kiss me but I don’t kiss strangers except for new years. She respected that. I just had a blast though. We left around 2 and I was asleep by 4. A very long night. And it was great. We got up around 8 and were dressed and out of the house within the hour. Picked up some liquid bandage for me and got some bagels at this cute cafe. Then into Manhattan. We got my check sorted and then over to Chelsea market. Which was very very fun. We got there at a good time. Before lunch. We wandered around and shopped. I got a little ceramic fish. And a macaron. It was just a really neat place and Jess got a bunch of photos for our project. We ended up in this artist flea market part and it was the best. I almost stole a ring by accident bedside I tried it on and got distracted. Oops. Then we ended up at this vintage charm making place. Which I loved. I spent a little bit more then I should have probably but like. It was an experience and it’s Jess’s birthday. We picked a bunch of charms and laid them out and she let me edit them to the best 6 or 7. Currate the best order for them. And then we watched the girl build then. It was great. Love my new bracelet. I got an Aquarius charm, a j, an L that’s a locket,an opal, a seashell, and a floral and black heart. Jess got 2 state charms (pa and nyc), another j, a moon, a clam shell, a star, and a Saturn. Very cute. Very space. We got these funny digital photo booth pictures next, got to meet the artist that designed the interface, and then once we found some bathrooms we headed out to find the ice cream museum store. We had to wait in a bit of a line. But we were in the shade for the most part. And the sun was bright but could have been worse. And the guy in charge of the line was a sweetheart and was very funny. Once we got inside we got to try some ice creams and took lots of instagramable photos. I wanted this pinata plush but he was Very expensive And I did not need him. So just pictures and then we headed out. We attempted to get Mexican food but the people there we’re very rude so we left. Ended up at this diner type place that was very good. Got a salad and a sandwich and felt much better. We wandered around the farmers market for a bit. Then back on the subway to Brooklyn. She got a sound machine from a guy in the corner. Then we shopped around this fancy vintage store. It was fun. I was texting with James and taking pictures of things I want to get for people as gifts. But I was also very tired and my leg hurt. So soon enough we headed home. I got changed and we both slept for a while. We had had plans on going to dinner before her celebration. But we didn’t wake up until like 6 and we weren’t hungry so we just bummed around. Eventually we got dressed. I felt hella cute. I’m so glad I brought these shorts because this romper is just to short, it’s good for like the beach but it’s a lot of thigh for walking around the city. We took a cab over to the bar. Kat showed up and it’s so good to see her. The cake was so cute and tasted so good. Some more of jess’s people came. And we’re probably going to get food once we leave. I’ve been having just a wonderful day. Tomorrow is supposed to be wicked hot. But were doing a beach day. Maybe the aquarium. I’m really looking forward to it. I miss the ocean. Terribly. I’m going to rejoin the party now. I hope you all have a great night tonight. Be safe out there.

[agrossunderstatement]

Ten Song Tag Game

I was tagged by @coffeewithconsequences !

Rules: list ten songs you’re currently obsessed with and tag ten others.

So, here is the thing. I can only obsess about one song at a time, and I play it on a loop for days and days. As I tell people, I cannot like anything a normal amount. Thus, I have currated a list with commentary because that is just how I roll. 

1) A Better Son/Daughter by Rilo Kely

But you'll fight and you'll make it through

You’ll fake it if you have to

And you'll show up for work with a smile

And you'll be better and you'll be smarter

And more grown up and a better daughter

Or son, and a real good friend

This song is about Kent Parson’s rookie year in my series Sowing Season. Kent Parson is my Patronus, so this song is also about me. 

Past obsessive songs (I’m excluding Bright Eyes, Fall Out Boy, and The Decemberists cause I cannot choose between any of their songs):

2) I am Trying to Break Your Heart by Wilco -- the layers in this song are amazing, as is the wordplay. “I am an American aquarium drinker, I assassin down the avenue.” Like, is there a better way to describe the post-breakup, drink-your-hurt-away sads than that? There is not.

3) Call Your Girlfriend by Robyn -- I watched Season 3 of the original Skam and nothing has ever been ok since. Plus, the video for this song is amazing. 

4) Debaser by The Pixies (video has some graphic surgical like content)-- Don’t you love it when iconic alt-rock bands make a song that heavily incorporates a surrealist film co-created by Luis Buñel and Salvidor Dali? I do. 

5) Anthems for a Seventeen-Year-Old Girl by Broken Social Scene -- Michael Chabon’s ending paragraph in Mysteries of Pittsburgh, a book I reread almost yearly, is about what he calls “ruinous nostalgia.” So is this song, which will make you want to lay on the floor in the summer heat next to an oscillating fan that’s cooling your body in bursts. 

6) Single Ladies (Put a Ring on It) by Beyonce -- I’m not linking to this cause come on. When this dropped I was freshly single. My friends staged an intervention about how often I played this. 

7) Run Dry (X fingers X hands) by Patrick Stump -- to me, this is a song where you see PStump’s unique approach to songs but still see a bit of the influence that the cleverness of Pete Wentz’s language had on him. Maybe? I think so.

8) The Skin of My Yellow Country Teeth by Clap Your Hands Say Yeah -- Look, my family came from Appalachia, and I now live in New York City, and there are two lines that are exactly me: “You look a bit like coffee, and you taste a bit like me” and “But let me tell you I never planned / To let go of the hand that has been / Clinging by its thick country skin.” This song is as autobiographic as anything from a mostly forgotten mid-2000′s band can be. 

9) Boy Problems AND Cut to the Feeling by Carly Rae Jepsen -- Queen Carly Rae writes the best pop music that’s out today. Thank you, LGBT community for recognizing her brilliance. 

10) Nights by Frank Ocean -- I mean, really the entirety of Blond/e. In the intro to Richard Siken’s Crush, it says that it’s a collection of poems about panic. For me, Blond/e is kind of a different side of that, the self-destructiveness of the queer experience tempered by beauty and moments of true clarity. Also, the mid-song shift into the second half of the album is amazing, and he mentions “only going to Shoney’s on occasion” and Shoney’s was my family’s jam in my childhood. 

Gosh, that was fun. 

Tagging @yoursummerfrost, @zombizombi , @muchandquick , @benjji2795 , @bazanite . Maybe you all will be better at not going off on questionable music analysis and autobiographic rants, but I would love it if you did. 

[wordibear]

I play a lot of IDV. Maybe too much. I've started playing around late December around the Christmas event. It's a lot of fun and I like spending time with my friends. But I've avoiding real life responsibilities because of it and that's... bad to say the least. But oh well, I guess. In any case, I'm generally an easy going person but I kinda just don't get those kinds of people who are so rude and mean to the hunters or to other survivors. Fuck it. I'm over 18, I'm just going to currate my own experience and just ignore those people and clown on those who get what they deserve. Half joking.

On the topic of clowning, one time, in duos, a First Officer was emoting in gate and every one had left and then the Game Keeper hooks him and downs him, making us either tie or lose. I think we lost. In any case, immediately in post-match I said that he deserved that. Is that toxic? Maybe. But so is emoting in gate, so tbh, I don't think it was. If you're going to be rude by what the community has generally agreed upon as to what is rude, then be ready to be called out on it and face your consequences which is to say: being clowned on.

I really, REALLY, don't want to be "toxic" (my opinion of the idv community overusing the word is another topic entirely). And I don't think I am. I don't Thank You ping and I don't freak out on my fellow soloqueue teammates if we lose QM or rank. But sometimes they really rub me the wrong way. I'm just playing this game to have fun and have something to do and they choose to be mean? They choose to be salty and let it bother them enough to be rude? In the grand scheme of things, will this matter when they're dead? Maybe. But more likely no. I don't know. Maybe it's because I'm an adult and not some idk... Adolescent. But I'm not even that old. But idk man, paying bills and tuition changes you lmao

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Who is DC’s Hottest Showcasing Startup? [POLL]

Tech Cocktail has traveled the country, from Dallas to DC, Boise to Boston, uncovering the hottest startups in more than 20 cities.  Now, the word is out: winning startups from each city will go onto the next round and get the chance to qualify for

Tech Cocktail Celebrate, our new national startup competition held in Downtown Vegas on October 23 – 25.

DC, here’s your chance to show us what ya got!  Join us at 1776 for an evening of DC’s hottest early-stage startups and cocktails with your neighbors and technophile friends.

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– We’ll have a gaggle of startups on hand showcasing their goods, but before the event kicks off, we want to know what you think: Who is DC’s Hottest Showcasing Startup?  Let us know your thoughts by answering the poll at the end of this post (ends at 6:00pm local time on the day of the event –get the official rules here).

The winner will be announced live at the event and will receive the following: Invitation to

Tech Cocktail Celebrate, additional time on stage to share what’s new with their startup, invitation to an upcoming

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The Startups

Andelion – Andelion is an online shopping community that connects gadget shoppers with shop savvy gadget geeks. It helps people find right product at deal price while buying electronics, computers etc.

Bracketeers – A web platform for connecting businesses to consumers through March Madness style prediction & voting contests.

Fortique – Fortique is an online marketplace to buy and sell local creative services like interior design, event planning, graphic design, and more. By curating and promoting up-and-coming and freelance talent, we present consumers with reliable, affordable options when sourcing creative talent while helping build the businesses of talented entrepreneurs.

Fund the Republic – We operate an investment crowdfunding platform where established Main Street businesses raise capital, gain market insight, and grow their business. Our mission is to empower everyday Americans (the crowd) to support Main Street with capital funding.

GitBadger – GitBadger speeds up development cycles by providing real time information and data visualizations to your entire development team.

ImpactHub – Impact Hub is an online marketplace for socially responsible outsourcing. We connect small and medium enterprises with talented offshore teams that collect and manage digital content. We represent 30+ service providers that are transforming poor and vulnerable communities around the world.

Jhoombox – Jhoombox is a new kind of console that brings the power and openness of Android to your TV. You can browse the Internet, watch movies, perform karaoke, play games, Skype with anyone, and much more.

My Study Rewards – My Study Rewards is a social platform that allows individuals to build and test knowledge, while being rewarded for their effort. Users can watch educational videos to earn points and rewards or purchase and play PopQ, our trivia game, to earn more points and rewards. Rewards are discount offers to national brands and retailers.

NervEight – The NervEight app solves the ‘struggling artist’ problem of spending excessively to increase their market exposure. The app provides free and premium promotional services for all musicians, a unique and direct user base for support and feedback, and analytic’s musicians can utilize to better inform them of how to sell to their music to fans from anywhere.

nvite – Redesigning and reimaging the event experience; focused on events beyond the RSVP, the before, during and after experience … providing social relevancy to content with respect to social content curration.

Recoup.com – Consumers want to purchase products ranging from everyday items to luxury travel deals online and also want to make an impact when making the purchase, however there are not many options in today’s e-commerce space. With Recoup, consumers can make these purchases and also select a non-profit to which they want to make an impact for.

retrievRE – retrievRE is one-stop-shopping for commercial property information, property listings, lease comparables, and tenant requirements – a commercial real estate (CRE) marketplace.

Silith.io – Silith.IO’s first product, AnnoTree, is a tool for collaborative mobile development which brings together designers, developers, managers, and testers onto a single, intuitive platform where they can view and collaborate on the application development process — providing tools that allow everyone in this process to give feedback and collaborate directly from their web or mobile application by leaving a drawing or text annotation directly on top of your application.

TechChange – We provide online learning solutions for international development. This includes government and nonprofits looking to build an online learning network require simple solutions. or tech firms seeking to build a community of practice around their tools.

TourCommand – TourCommand provides all the tools necessary for a musician to develop and market his career from entry level to national touring act . From custom drag and drop websites to marketing campaigns and tools, TourCommand gives a musician the ability to manage themselves and their brand in a simple, efficient, and effective manner. Once the artist is ready to start touring, TourCommand provides innovative software solutions for their touring needs as well from hotel management and booking to team management and collaboration.

TripTuner – TripTuner® is a patent-pending recommendation engine that finds ideal travel experiences based on traveler tastes. An addictive design invites users to fine-tune preference sliders like “beach” vs. “mountain” or “relaxing” vs. “active.” Images of matching options update instantly, with no typing, text links or lists. Over half a million user preferences in 145 countries have been fine-tuned to date. Revenue comes from licensing partners such as national tourism board Brand USA, online travel agency Havas Voyages in France and the luxury Kempinski Hotels brand.

Yopine – Have a question and need answers/ideas? Call a brainstorm. Have ideas and need a decision? Call a poll. Wanna share your opinion? Explore. Yopine is a fun, quick and easy way to gather and share opinions with contacts, friends and the world.

Author Naresh Konda is Research Analyst at Tekslate. A techno freak who likes to explore different technologies. Likes to follow the technology trends in market and write about them.

[isitandwonder]

again from the original anon - english isn't my first language, when i wrote mature i knew you would refer to that because she *is* young. i don't really know the word in english, but i mostly mean long time, serious relationship. also i used the word "fan" and im more of a casual one really. of course i don't know more than you, but to me even if she's young, the change in behaviour is very drastic in a short time. adding that to the other things i see, leads me to belive that this is pr.

Haha, English isn’t my first language either so I understand that some things come over different than we mean them.

Lets see how long this thing with Tim lasts. I mean, at that age, I don’t think you stay together for years. Which is okay. Youth is the time to experiment a little to find out what you like :)

I also do think that what celebrities show on their social media or expose in interviews is always currated content. And as I don’t really know these people I can’t really judge or interpret to what level they are ‘honest’. It also seems quite natural to me that young people change quicker or more obvious than older people. Maybe Lily learned from her last relationship?

But I don’t really follow her, I’m just here for Tim (and skinny boys in general lol) and m/m content. I just don’t like how she’s treated as a fellow woman, being called a psychotic crack whore just because she dates someone. And I also don’t think that someone so generous with fans as Tim deserves to be called a dick and a sell-out. Whatever’s going on - if people don’t like it they are free to move on and stan someone who’s really gay. 

I’m sure there are many lgbtqia artists who could need the support of avid fans.