#once it transfers to my account it is 100% MY money and I honestly don't think that making fun of

[pom-seedss]

We can't expect individual people to have safety nets and contingency plans for everything when as a society we have gutted any safety net we once built.

The way people can get trapped in abusive situations, or be stuck without finances if your spouse dies, is absolutely important to talk about and bring awareness to.... but we can't keep doing it by throwing disabled people under the bus because this happens to us all the time. And unlike someone choosing to be a trad wife we really have no choice in our situation.

We need more robust safety nets, community supports and resources to help people from getting stuck with no way out of abusive relationships and bad situations.

We can't personal responsibility our way out of societal problems.

sometimes, when someone is criticizing the stay-at-home-wife movement being sold to young women by conservatives, it loses focus on the "selling you a repressive and authoritarian worldview" point and slides into... well... implicitly leaving disabled people to die.

and what i mean by that is, it's all well and good to say you should do everything in your power to make sure you're not financially dependent on another person... but what if "everything in your power" is "nothing?"

what if how society is structured means you have absolutely no choice but to be financially dependent on another person? what if it's that, or simply die? this is the choice disabled people are faced with. not even uncommonly... frequently. people who need full-time carers, or who have very expensive medication and assistive tech needs, or people who simply can't work in the current job structure, often have the choice of... well... find someone to be financially dependent on, or face a slow, painful death, usually without housing. even if you're lucky enough to get on a fixed income, it's never enough to even make monthly rent, and that's not counting the extra costs of food, toiletries, medicine...

in fact, a lot of disabled people (certainly notably women, but absolutely not limited to, and in fact i see this happen to trans men over and over again, and i've lost a dear transmasc friend because of this) are funneled into being stay-at-home parents and homemakers, forced to do all of the domestic labor and childcare in exchange for a roof over their head and access to their medications/assistive tech, and isolated in all the same ways tradwives are isolated. in fact, this even happens with leftist partners/parents. all the time, i see disabled people disappear from public life entirely, lose contact with all their friends, and consign themselves to a life of cleaning up after someone while struggling to handle their own health needs, even having their disabilities exacerbated and their lifespans shortened by the amount of domestic labor they're required to do.

but it isn't a choice... it can't be fixed by focusing on academia or work... and it's not due to buying into conservative propaganda. all i ask is, please remember this, and please never leave us out of these discussions.

[lestcat-de-lioncourt]

Hello, I’m Shadi, a father of three from Gaza. During this war, I lost several family members, My wife and children are now my only priority

I humbly ask for your help to provide food, water, clothing, and medical care for my family during these incredibly difficult times.

Every donation, no matter how small, can make a real difference and give us hope until this war ends.

🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉🍉

Each (55 SEK = 5$)

100$ = 1100 kroner

Your generosity can save us

https://gofund.me/9aa3797a

Whilst I'm empathetic and do participate in aiding with fundraising for places such as Gaza and predominantly support charities to source things I own, GoFundMe doesn't operate in Gaza or Egypt or any of the surrounding countries, and Kroner is the currency used in Norway (NOK) and Sweden (Swedish Krona, not kroner, it's spelt, and yes, SEK). Now, I'd find it hard to believe you wouldn't know the accurate name of your own currency.

I'm confused about needing money, only money, but asking for other items, when you can't send the other necessities via GoFundMe, so you aren't asking for those things as there is no way provided to send genuine items for help and there is just money requests.

Overall, this is looking like a scam, and I'm just posting this to make sure others are more aware of these likely scams. Please don't see me as uncaring. This statement has a lot of information that doesn't add up, and there's only like 2 pics that are the same on the profile, looking more like a burner account rather than an active user established already, once again, scam vibes.

I know some people say "send anyway" just in case it isn't a scam, but they are not providing a route to send clothing and food, nor medical items, and only want money transferred and don't appear to be anywhere near gaza.

There's a lot of scams trying to profit off of this awful situation. It's not okay.

Either way, whatever reason you want money, I hope life improves, living over 1000 miles away from gaza, since you apparently are in Sweden or something, but you're essentially as far away from gaza as I live which is over an ocean away.

Honestly, people wouldn't reach out in this particular way, anyway.