#ok thats probably enough tags to warrant me getting death threats (:

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‘misandry exists’ not as in ‘men as a social class are systematically opressed and underprivledged by virtue of being men’ and not ‘misandry exists’ in the ‘the libs dont want men to be masculine anymore!!’ way and not ‘misandry exists as in ‘uh not ALL men yknow?? its pretty bigoted that women feel unsafe around men if you stop and think about it’ way and definitely not ‘misandry exists’ in old white guy who’s mad that his grankids tell him that his having a job doesnt excuse him treating his wife like a maid kind of way 

but rather, ‘misandry exists’ in the ‘so many so called ‘progressives’ learnt that feminism and equality, are like, good things, but never bothered to actually learn any theory or even more importantly unlearn the gender essentialism taught to them by a society that has never recovered from christian fundamentalism so instead of learning that masculinity and femininity are arbitrary social constructs that are neither inherently good nor bad and that have no ontological reality, they just took ‘masculinity = domininant, logical, superior and feminity = subservient, irrational, inferior’ and rebranded it as ‘masculinity = toxic opressors and feminity = innocent victims’ without any critical throught and now we’re unable to talk about gender or sex or feminism or equality or literally anything else properly because so many people have drank the far righr kool-aid and are applying this incredibly reductive black and morality to what are nuanced and ultimately morally neutral socially constructed roles and are only really doing more damage to men who are already penalised by the patriarchy for not ‘being masculine in the right way’ (trans men, gay men, men of colour, etc) instead of actually doing literally anything to progress the struggle for actual gender equality’ 

but yeah saying ‘misandry exists’ makes me sound like a fucking chud and automatically has these people, who make up most of the so called ‘progressive’ and ‘leftist’ spaces these days, tuning me out and writing me off as some reddit dudebro who’ll try to convince them of ‘the matriarchy’, so i hope the conservatives and terfs are enjoying their 2-in-1 gender essentialism and anti-intellectualism combo i guess, we’re all gonna go down in flames because you dumb sacks of shit cant be bothered to learn basic social anthropology, let alone read some non-radfem feminist theory