#not like actual girls but TheGirls you know

[luckynumberthreed]

Hi :)

[jimbotnik]

(@levixthxn-thegirl​)

The shopkeeper had given up on trying to get his most annoying customer to quiet down by now. The man was arguing with a teenage girl (his daughter, hopefully) about a baby angel or something like that for nearly a half-hour now. Hopefully they’d actually buy those stacks of books that they were carrying.

Sabrina, fortunately, didn’t speak much louder than a forceful mumble. “You stood outside the fucking circle! That’s literally the opposite of what you’re supposed to do!”

“I was trying to contain her! You contain things by putting them in a confined space, not by putting yourself in the confined space! Hm... do you think I could trap her inside a ring?” 

“This isn’t a video game!”

Robotnik grinned. “I could give it to Liz as a gift, too...”

“Okay, now you’re asking for your bullshit to backfire.”

“It is not bullshit and you know it!” The doctor leaned down until he was an inch from Sabrina’s face. “I know what the stakes are. I know what I’m up against. But he cannot unmake me because he didn’t create me in the first place! I already have the advantage of not being a pawn on his divine chessboard!”

[hausoftswift]

King of my heart is playing. We run to the b stage to see Taylor from a closer view and we start singing and dancing along. In that right moment we see Andrea and a lot of people go to her to take pictures and speak to her, but she keeps staring at us. She comes closer and she says that she has been watching us (fangirling here). And then the magic question. "Have you ever met Taylor, guys?" SCREAMS. ALESSIA GOES ON THE FLOOR. "NO, NEVER" She gives us the little finger and then we got the bracelets and the pink pass. Then Taylor sings FIFTEEN and there I burst into tears. [Fifteen reminds me of the first days of high school, place in which I spent 5 years full of emotions, crushes, love stories and friends. This was the best gift ever.] Later she sings Long Live and again I start crying. [Long Live is the song through which I thanked everyone I got to know in high school, the ones I had the best time ever with.] Then we meet all the guys who were going to meet Taylor with us (there were 3 more Italians, 2 Spanish girls and other awesome people). We enter the Rep Room and it was magical: sofas, pizza and beverage. I actually ate a lot ahahh She comes in and says hi looking cute and beautiful. Then we speak to Andrea, who tells us she saw us dancing and having fun and that she's very happy about that. "Ok guys, your turn". Now teverything just stops. We go through the curtains and we see her. "God guys, you look great! Your outfits are so cool!". SHE TELLS US WE'RE CUTE. She says that she loves Italy and that she'd like to come back some day, and we take the picture together. Later I tell her about the Fifteen/Long Live story and she says "Thank you for saying that, you don't know how much this means for me". She kisses and hugs us and then says "see you soon guys!" This was the best day of my life, starting from Charlie XCX to the nice men who brought us out of the Wembley Stadium after the meet and greet. Thank you Andrea for your nice words and for being the cutest person ever. Thank you @taylornation for helping us with our questions and for being professional and nice. Thank you @thegirl-inthe-dress. You were with me in the best moment of our lives and I'm so grateful I had to spend time with you in London with Taylor. And, last but absolutely not least, thank you @taylorswift for hugging me, you listened to me with your heart open and that was something irreplaceable. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. See you soon.❤  P.S. I actually couldn't speak English yesterday night and I made a lot of errors and I also told her "thank you for singing FEARLESS" when I meant Fifteen but at the same time wanted to show her my Fearless tattoo.

[malika-carnelian]

🔱|| Scrap. He knew something had seemed off receiving such a call at such an hour. He’d deal with the onslaught of frowning faceplates and angered disappointment later. Surely, the head honcho would be thrilled with Wheeljack actually using his initiative for the greater good. He should be thrilled.

“Magnus is gonna’ peel my paint leavin’ duty like this, ya’ know that? Next time ya’ plan on gettin’ sloshed, at least take me to begin with…”

Oh she did listen what Wheeljack said to the comm-link... andeven if he couldn't see her personally, he could easily gueee that the girl was already pouting at the mention of Ultra Magnus.

::And I'm going to peel his paint-aft too if he only try, also because I'm actually mad at him:: ok yes, thegirl was half drunk to the point of having guts with the speech. Malika frowned to the other side of the call, before sighing deeply and add a more conforting sentence, ::But don't worry though... he would feel grateful to you if he know the reason behind your leave.:: afterall, the second in command 'all for laws' but 'less for empathy' does care about her, despite everything.

::... Taking you to begin with?... I didn't know you could... uhhh... drink human alcohol?::

::Heeey, uhh... Wheeljack, do you happen to be, perhaps, nearby the city?:: she asked in a commlink, her voice not clearly... clean? As if she was dizzy.

🔱|| The sound of her voice flooded Wheeljack’s audios suddenly as it swiftly dragged him from his monitor duty daydreaming. An uneasy feeling settled in his tanks at the noticeable wobble in her voice, and his processor immediately began firing several unwelcome thoughts of what this call was really about. Was she in danger? Was she about to be in danger?

Worn digits pressed to the side of his helm in a bid to hear her more clearly, and drown out the semi-loud hum of machinery within the base.

“Where are ya’, ‘Darlin? What’s with the late night confession call?”

[thelucyverse]

WIP! First meeting T.G. & Irene

Featuring: immortality!, disturbed!Assistant(Kate), background Johnlock, ace!Sherlock, bi!Watson, bi!Irene and a-little-terror!theGirl

Part 1

"I'm interested in what you are doing here!" the girl said. She couldn't have been older than twelve.

Irene raised an eyebrow.

"Well, not the sex stuff necessarily- more the blackmail! That sounds like a fun game!"

A game? "So Holmes did send you, then" Irene said, annoyed. "Get out, this isn't a place for a kid. If he wants to talk to me, he can do it himself."

"Holmes? Which Holmes do you mean?" the girl said with a cheeky grin. "And I'm not a normal kid, don't worry."

Hear sherlock in front of door- I nods for A to open- sherlock confused stands up straight from where he was looking at the ??peephole, pastor uniform in place, black eye... - Now, there you are - sherlock confused by chaos in front of him--- John muss auch iwann auftauchen - what's the kid doing here? - talk about not a normal kid, should let me join the operation... What would you say if I told you I've already seen it all? Just that you've shite parents. - Ugh, well, looks like I've got to tell you my real age after all. Real age? What, are you secretly twenty? Naw actually immortals and millenia old. Ok, kid... --Wann?? @ sherlock work with Q sometimes - what? So could ask him to confirm your story? - Uh, not sure exactly who knows the real story and who just thinks I'm a random kid running around mi6... Then again, what must they be thinking at a random kid running around mi6? -... Sherlock: Ok I'm ready to believe you (John looks like he's gone nuts, irene like she doesn't believe that he believes It), yes that's the reaction I like! And can prove it- don't want to do this when Noone believes me at all because they tend to call the cops or something... Irene: What are you going to do? Thought you just (xy, not able to committ suicide, Girl must have explained immortality properly before)? - Well, yes, not able to want to committ suicide and so won't disable the stuff that makes me unable to die, (bc that's how most 'immortals' die in the end), but still have safety mechanisms that make me immortal in the first place! Look- A: she's gonna do something to herself! Girl: oh for godssake-makw sure she doesn't call the cops, yeah?- slits her throat, slowly disappears, five year old girl popsup again, looks at them confused, shakes herself and grows a little, shakes herself again until age she wad before, grinns. Hi! That did happen just now, did it? Assistant faints. Irene groans. You owe me an assistant! She growls, not ready to as much as think about what just happened.

John: did you- did you see that?! Tg: yes do you believe me now- John, ignoring her, accusingly pointing at Irene: is this some kind of haunted house, is this supposed to be a joke?? The girl groans: ugh, the failings of the 21st century! Really! The middle ages are annoying, too, where everyone just shouts with and puts me at the stake to see if I'm gonna burn and of course I do burn, I just pop up again, if I'm lucky a few metres to the left... But now it's all It's not real! I'm on drugs! It's photoshopped! Sherlock: I believe you. John: why are you not freaked out?? Sherlock: I'm just adding it to my [weltbild] as we speak. Irene pinches her nose and toes at her assistant, who groans and sits up, sees the girl and squeaks. Irene gives the girl a Look. You really do owe me a functioning assistant. The girl laughs. Oh, she'll get used to it and be OK again. That is if she wants to get used to it, I'm not going to /force/ anyone to remember what they don't want to remember... Bends down. Do you want to just forget what happened here? Forceful nodding. Oh well... Holds hand up in front of her, pointer, middle and ring finger stretched out, and A gets a blank look and stands up. Irene: fucking hell, what did you do now? John: language! Irene snorts. Girl: just made her forget... Maybe best if she went home for today before I have to do it again. Irene nods. You can go home. Then stares at the girl: not what I meant when I said to give me a functioning assistant! Now I can't even talk about this shitshow with her? Girl shrugs. She didn't want to remember... And hey! If you want a new assistant- my offer still stands!

Irene groans. John: you- you won't let the /kid/ work- /here/? Irene: that's what I said earlier. But she's not a real kid, is she. Gives her a calculating look. John: kid, why do you even want to... Girl: she's great at blackmail, and that sounds like great fun! J: Oh, so you're like, an /evil/ immortal child? G: Evil?? Never! Booores and without an all that fixed moral compass, though...

Irene looks at the scene in front of her. Today had been supposed to go very differently. She had expected chaos, sure, but /definitely/ not that kind.

"I need a fuck".

She surprises herself by saying it out loud, but it's true, and now that she said it, she's looking at the two men in front of her appraisingly.

"I am not interested in that." Sherlock Holmes says coldly, still with that far away look on his face that indicates he's trying to fit the possibility of immortals and magic in with all his other memories in his mind palace.

"No? Not at all? And here I thought you and your pet doctor..." she looks over at John Watson, who huffs.

"Sherlock just isn't interested in sex, that doesn't mean..."

"But you are." she leers at him. She does not often have sex, her job showing her all the things she doesn't like about people in the first place, but sometimes she does grave it, and now that this little terror got rid of Kate for her, she needs someone new.

Meanwhile, the girl has wandered over to her office, uninterested by their discussion. Irene tries not to think about all the things she could do in there. It's not like she has the power to stop her.

John: "I- no! I mean, yes, but I'm with Sherlock, and I don't need- I'm perfectly fine on my own-"

"Oh, I'm sure you /could/ go your entire life without sex if Sherlock didn't like the idea of it... Honestly, though, I don't think he would care." she tilts her head at the detective, and he snaps out of his mind palace.

"If I get to be there, I don't care." he agrees.

She lifts an eyebrow. "I thought you weren't interested?"

"I thought you were a lesbian" he counters.

"bisexual" she corrects him.

John groans. "He'll just try to see it as an- experiment, or something, I promise you that won't be a very nice experience-"

"Oh, I bet I can make you come despite it." she grins, shark-like.

The girl wanders back into the hallway, a list of Irene's clients in her hands. "If I find you two more people you can blackmail, are you going to let me work with you?"

Irene sighs. "Sure, why the fuck not."

"Oh and by the way, the CIA is going to be here in a bit" the girl says. "But I called one of my MI6 friends to help get rid of them, I just need to look a bit different then, she doesn't know that I'm not just an uber-intelligent little girl...

Irene nods. She hasn't felt this exhausted in, ever, really. "If you can make sure we won't be disturbed for the next two hours, you're hired" she says over her shoulder, dragging John upstairs, Sherlock following behind.

The little girl whoops. Irene suddenly realises something and turns back around.

"What's your name, anyway?"

"Oh, I have many" she grins a shit-eating grin. "You can call me The Girl."

"..."

"I'm not calling you that. /I'm/ 'The Woman', and you can still call me Irene, or Miss Adler. I'm not calling you the girl. We'll have to think of something better than that."

The Girl shrugs. "Fine by me" she tilts her head, listening to something outside. "You might wanna disappear now..."

Irene drags the men into one of the bedroom and closes the door, trying not to think about the fact that she is trusting what now looks like a ten-year-old kid to take care of the CIA Agents bursting through the front door.

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Portrait #5

Welcome back to an other episode of Portrait, This time i’m joined by someone i met on Instagram (find her links at the end)

She’s a talented artist from Connecticut, without further ado :

I’m Bryan, i guess i’m Bryan the girl, i’m from New Haven Connecticut and i’m 23 Years old.

When did you start drawing ?

I’ve been drawing on and off my all life but i didn’t really think of my self as an artist until after college when i had to decide on a career. I had tried a lot of different careers and none of them have really felt right. I was bored in them, so i set down and had a good long think about what i could really envisioned myself doing as a career, the only thing i could come up with was art.

The problem was that i wasn’t a very skilled artist at the time. The list of things i was afraid to even attempt to draw was very long and so tackled that list by doing a new year’s resolution to draw every single day for a year. So i did, and i started to share my work and i started forcing myself to post on Instagram twice a day which was a lot, and i would never do that nowadays [sometimes she still does tho] but i didn’t had job at the time so i drew and drew and over time i got good .

Then people started to seeing my started paying me to do art and buying my art. I think i went through and arc of not drawing at all, drawing a little bit, drawing everyday all day and now that it’s my job i don’t draw as much, because i’m doing a lot of business too.

How did you get into drawing ? (tho’)

I’ve done a lot of different types of art, I’ve done traditional figure drawing, some painting… They don’t really teach pen art in school, like in a traditional classroom, it’s not part of the foundations. I was always drawn (ha ha) to it but i didn’t have  chance to learn how to do it, so then i realized i would have to teach myself.

That’s what i worked on, i was figuring out how to make my drawings look like the drawings that i really liked in the old hatching and graving ways that i love in the renaissance…(a cute dog passed by and caught her attention:). So my challenge was to just teach my self over time, and that’s how i grew to love ink drawing : by learning out on my own.

How did you build yourself as an artist? Because there’s some construction going on. You can’t like be like « ok now i’m drawing , now i’m an artist » you know, there’s some kind of transition, like who am i as and artist, in what i do…

That’s a really hard question…

For a long time i felt so uncomfortable, saying that i was an artist. Because i either felt like i wasn’t legitimate , like i didn’t have the right to say that or like people would think that i was really egotistic or something. It feels lie saying you’re an artist carries a lot of weight to it.

And it feels like something you’re not allow to call yourself an artist, like you can’t call yourself a genius only other people can call you that and so i’m like i can’t call myself an artist other people have to decide.

But then at a certain point when it’s your career ad it’s all you do and earn a living you have to identify yourself as that. I will say that often times i will say that i’m an illustrator and not an artist. Because when you say that you’re an artist people think that you’re taking your cloth off on the street and screaming and like smearing chicken blood on your body or something but i’m just drawing so i think people get a clearer idea when i way illustrator.

How did you get your name?

Actually i used to be a musician and i remember i was on Soundcloud, way back this was like 7 years ago. I went by my full name, which is Bryan Schiavone ( Italian name ). It’s a very difficult name, and when people have name like that they somehow try to shorten them and nobody would ever be able to spell it or pronounce it so… One day i was on Soundlcoud i saw this person had a username that was whatever-Thegirl, and was like that’s so interesting i’m gonna do that for my name too. So when i started doing art i just kept the same name that i was using for my music. It’s so much simpler.

As a teacher, because you teach on Patreon and you have a podcast too, how does it feel like to teach ? You did some workshop too.

I’m still not fully comfortable with teaching because a part of me still think that in order to teach you have to be the best

A master ?

You have to be a master, and i’m not…i mean you just saw me struggling with my drawing earlier (she didn’t…she was so quick she was halfway through when i was still sketching….). I’m so afraid that i’m gonna be in this situation where a student turns to me and says how do i draw this tree ? And i go i don’t know that looks like a difficult tree… i can’t help you…. A part of being a good teacher is admitting that you don’t know how to do something and learning it with you students. It’s hard to know when to start teaching when you get to the point where you’re like : I’ve learned enough to share with people. I think it helped me just to have people ask me enough how do i do it and i started telling them and i guess that’s teaching.

And i think as a teacher you’re still learning, if you think that you’ve mastered and you’re not gonna learn from nobody any more then you’re closing yourself to new ideas and techniques.

And you’re a bad teacher and bad artist at that point…

Especially in art, you always have to learn something new, something new will always come to you.

When you began, how hard did you hustle ? How hard was it to get from Bryan to BryanThegirl ?

Oh my god, the hours that i put in , unpaid, over the past few years it’s just like… If i had known how much time it would take i would never have done it. Because i remember two years ago, i started selling my drawings for 15$ each. You know I’ve spent hours on these drawings and i was begging people to buy them every day like « i’m selling them i’m selling them ». I remember i made 100$ and i was like i’m making all this money… and even up after this past year i really couldn’t get any commissions and i kept advertising for them but nobody seemed interested. Even if they were interested they’d be so surprised of the cost which was incredibly low, like 30 dollars for a custom portrait. So they’d freak out and say « omg i don’t have money for that » and i would ask « how much money did you think you were gonna spend.

So there was a lot of just being rejected or not finding customers and then there was a lot of finding a lot of customers that would not pay me enough so i’d spend 10 hours doing something for 15$… Which is horrible and it made me unhappy but i guess i knew it was part of the journey, part of something that i had to do in order to get further along.

And then after working for hours and hours and not making money for years it all started to happen. Every body wanted commissions and i started saying no to people, i started raising the prices because i had to many request…

And you also you could afford to ask more

Because if they’d say «  i’m not gonna give it to you » then i would get more free time anyway. One time i got a commission request for a tattoo and i didn’t really wanna do it, i wasn’t interested in it so i told the guy this crazy price and he was like « OK, if that’s how much it costs » … ugh* so now i have to do this tattoo request, i’m getting a really good price but i don’t really wanna do it, it was so strange, but in the end its fine.

Nowadays after doing all this commission work, pet portrait Christmas gifts and everything i’m starting to focus more on personal projects, book projects which i find more rewarding and exciting.

Did you think that at some point you should have quit ?

I thought that every single day for about a year. It was a combination of « i’m so tired » « my neck hurts » « my hand hurts » and «  i hate this » and then also « this is crazy, i can’t do this i can’t just be an artist ». And everybody was telling me « you gonna have to get a normal job » «  it’s not realistic, you should give up ».

I was going to, but i think what happens is that the craziest people just keeps going,  all the reasonable people stop and then all the work goes to the people that stuck with it. If you can handle it financially and psychologically then you’ll probably be fine but the key is to not give up.

Yeah, i didn’t start any projects after my school so i can’t say I’m gonna quit because i didn’t do shit… you have to do this for like 2 or 3 years, get straight with your partner about it and then depending on how it goes you might wanna quit.

Yeah, you set a time frame and say « i’m gonna do everything i can in this time frame » and if i doesn’t work out then i’ll know I’ve tried everything and i don’t have to have any regrets i never have to have that dream anymore it’s dead so i can’t move on…

Even at a smaller scale when people come drawing with you and they quit after like 1 hour… that’s not it, i didn’t get here in 1 hour. It took me like 5 years and i’m not even good enough yet. So why would you quit (anything) after 1 hour ?

Everything that’s worth doing is difficult. That’s what i try to tell myself when i’m struggling with something. Would i want to do something that’s so easy that anyone could do it ? NO, the whole fun of it is knowing that you pushed through it.

Every great artist, Rembrandt like u mentioned, they did so many paintings you can’t really count the sketches and the little drawings just for fun, for learning and practice. In the end it was worth it.

What i love about these artist is that you can see their old sketches , like you can see Van Gogh, you an see his beginning sketches and say look he made « stupid » mistakes the same way i make mistakes and look at what he created…so it’s encouraging.

What feelings are you going through, right now, as an artist ?

Right now i’m at a transitional point, although i’d probably say that about every point on my career…hum

I got past the point of can i make it as an artist, can i earn a living. I answered it ; The answer is yes. So now that i’m out of that stress zone and i’m more confident on my ability to make money, the question for me is how do i wanna earn money ? What do i wanna do ?

And i’m starting to think about if i have the choice of doing commissions or working for and agency or doing publications or my own teaching/illustration, in a perfect world what does my life look like ? Because you start to be able to ask questions like that if things are going well. I’m starting to think i want to express myself more beyond just images. Like i wanna tell my story more i wanna talk about my life , i wanna talk about my feelings and i’m trying to find a way to do that. Part of it is done through being opened on social media. I also really wanna write more and illustrate things that are more personal to me and aren’t just still life and landscapes…i wanna share more of myself through my art.

Ofc that sounds like some hairy-fairy-lofty artist talk but I’ve been thinking about it a lot. How do i go from drawing apples and bananas to drawing how i feel inside?

Yeah, maybe that’s the goal we should all thrive to : expressing ourselves and tell a story.

Stories are like the heart of the human experience, it’s everything we do, all our relationships our lives…it’s all about communicating and telling stories. And i wanna contribute to that, i want my story to be a part of that because i love hearing other people’s stories.

At the end it’s tradition that i ask : if you could speak to you past-self or future-self which one would you choose and what would you say ?

My past-self. I think about that a lot because i had a really difficult childhood i was unhappy for most of my life until the past few years and….i don’t even think i would have said anything. If i had just seen as a young person that i would grow up and be OK and alive and have a career and be in love…if i just looked up at my adult self and knew that i was gonna be OK  i’d be like « i can get through this ». I don’t think anything that i could say would communicate that. When i was younger i felt so lost and alone i felt like it would never end…if i just knew it would get better then it would have been easier…

It was a very interesting evening with Bryan. I’m really glad she came to Paris, meeting her made me want to hustle more and travel more. Talking with her felt educating and inspiring. I came a stranger, with a camera and recorder, and i left with emotions and stories of an artist i now call friend.

https://linktr.ee/bryanthegirl

Thank you for reading this portrait, it was very dense but i hope you enjoyed getting to know Bryan more, as i did.

[talkaboutit]

Truth Be Told

#TheGirl you DATE vs #TheWoman you MARRY

#Today's TIP

#Dec 6th 2016 First Edition

Woman are like a massive ocean of emotion. They flow and change like the waves and tides. They really have no direction. Whilst they can give to you the calmest and most peaceful experience,

they can also brew the fiercest of storms sinking every man's ship that crosses their path. So if a woman is an ocean, what can a man be to give her what she wants?

A man should be a shoreline and rocks. Steadfast and upholding to his own rules and values. By doing so the ocean will be free and wild, but know its limitations, thus staying bound by the strength of the man. If women are water, then men are (or ought to be the natural counterpart; land. Think about it, what's the best way to care for the environment? You leave it be and you be with it, but there is nothing it needs from you to be beautiful and balanced. The environment and eco-systems balance themselves out.

I know this sounds a little abstract, so, I'll give 5 rules that men should abide by and in doing so, indirectly giving a woman what she wants.

1) Be an individual -

2) Be a assertive - You get what you ask for in life. Have high standards, make them known and them leave it be. If you are fearful or jealous or aggressive or use guilt to try to convince a woman to be in a certain way, she'll do the EXACT opposite. Ever told a child "DON'T YOU DARE DO THIS or THAT?!" What do they do. Exactly what you told them not to. Maybe they will refrain out of fear temporarily, but eventually they will make it their goal to do exactly what you don't want them to. Why? Because freedom is more important than any other thing to the human spirit. God made us have the ability to love by choice not by force.

3) A man with no vices is not a man at all - We all know women love bad boys. Why? Because they want to change them, or at least see if they can be have a man with messed up priorities stay loyal to them. How come supposedly smart women do such stupid things? Because it assures them of their self worth. Remember, woman are SO SELFISH that everything they do is to test their own self worth. That's why the hottest and most admired women usually crave the most attention. They really don't have much of an identity (but their looks) so they look for validation. You want the woman to focus on you more and her less. How do you do this? Easy... you take risks, ignore her plenty and make her feel like your slightly out of reach or disconnected, then you reconnected just before she's ready to have a breakdown. You are her hero. Think about it. If you are starting to date a super hot women, and at a party, she has every male looking at her and hitting on her, and you act like you could care less, sipping your beer, watching a game, talking to men and other women, she'll only be looking at you and only you. Vices that destroy your health are probably not good ones, but if you love a beer and red meat, every now and then, by all means, indulge.

4) Be slightly arrogant and into yourself more than you are into her - Be a little cocky, but in a funny (smirk on your face) kind of way. Girls like to smile and laugh. It makes them feel EXCITED *wink*. She'll go over the top to try to get your attention, so don't crack, be steadfast. A woman's goal is to freely GIVE herself to you, not for you to TAKE her. She's not an item that you "pick up" in an aisle off a grocery store shelf. So don't try to please her by buying her gifts or dinners. She wants to let go around you, and to do that she needs to see that you are confident in yourself.

5) Be single even when your dating - NO, THIS DOES NOT MEAN BE A CHEATER. It means have a shit load or friends and hobbies so you don't start relying on a woman for entertainment. Women's entertainment sucks ass.

#TheGirl you DATE vs #TheWoman you MARRY.

#Anticipation 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏

Enjoying the present moment is a habit that takes practice. If you always look toward tomorrow for happiness, odds are you will do the same when you attain what you’ve been dreaming of. As strange it sounds, the ability to appreciate what’s in front of you has nothing to do with what you actually have. It’s more about how you measure the good things in your life at any given time. Morning& happy weekend

[talkaboutit]

10 Huge Mistakes women make

#TheGirl you DATE vs #TheWoman you MARRY

10 Huge Mistakes women make

#Thanks to everyone who has been following my post lately. Yesterday i based my write 📝 up on #Girls before becoming #Women with broken homes Today ill be blunt as ill be taking a nail on the WOMEN category. Let's not forget that been a GIRL or a WOMAN doesn't mean that the both are not into a relationship. You can be a WOMAN and still be in a relationship. Becoming a wife doesn't mean you have stepped into another stage. You'll still be a WOMAN because its the final stage of every female circle ⭕. So here they are in no particular order, the 10 Biggest Mistakes Women Make In Relationships:

1. You Don’t Know Your Own Value

This might be one of the most common areas where I work with my female clients. Do you chase after the bad boys who treat you poorly and only want them more? Are you attracted to all the unavailable guys? Are you afraid to ask for what you want? Do you put up with nonsense expecting that “one day” it will magically change? If so, welcome to the club — you are far from alone. You, my dear, do not know your value. The truth is that there are only two fears in the human condition: one is that you’re “not enough,” and two is that you won’t be loved. I’m sorry for being so blunt, but the truth will set you free — even if it makes you angry or defensive first. If that’s the case, don’t bother getting mad at me. I cared enough to level with you so you can actually have all the love you truly deserve.

2. You Over-Rely On Your Masculine Energy

Many of my clients are highly successful women and well known in their communities. They’re doctors, lawyers, executives and entrepreneurs, but they can’t attract — or keep — a man. Ironically, their success is oftentimes a result of the fact that deep inside, these women also have huge doubts about their self value. The problem only gets dramatically worse if they’re divorced or are single parents because in order to be the sole provider or protector, too, their entire day is spent living in their masculine, achiever energy. While that may be effective in paying the bills, when you spend too much time there, it’s nearly impossible to transition out of that and re-embrace your feminine energy again. The fact is, if you can do it all by yourself, a man will look at you and see no role for himself; unless, of course, he’s looking for a sugar mama. I definitely don’t recommend that arrangement either. If you think it doesn’t sound so bad, re-read item #1.

3. You Simply Don’t Get Or Understand Men

Women who understand how men work and appreciate them for their masculine gifts have a way of kissing frogs and turning them into princes. Likewise, women who are jaded, frustrated or have been burned too many times can kiss a good man and turn him into a frog. The fact is, women are far more complex and men are fairly simple creatures who actually are pre-wired to want to serve you.

4. You Try To Change Him Or Don’t Accept Him As He Is

There’s nothing that turns off a man like meeting a woman he’s trying to impress and then having her immediately try to turn him into her latest “project” that she’s going to fix. Maybe it’s criticizing the way he dresses, insulting his table manners, or ridiculing his appearance or grooming habits. Women have a way of doing that because they tend to be caretakers by nature but frankly, it usually doesn’t end well for either party, and it just feels bad all the way around. At best, unrequested suggestions are usually unwelcome. At worst, they’re insulting and emasculating. People want to be seen, heard and appreciated for who they are; if you feel the need to change him with your complaints, ridicule, teasing or even unrequested “helpful hints,” let me ask you a question. How would you like it if he did that to you? Enough said.

5. You Don’t Really Appreciate What Men Do For You

On the other extreme of women not knowing their value, are the self-centered women who seemingly believe they are “owed” something. They are not grateful that a man opted to spend his time, talent and treasure with her. In fact, they have an attitude of entitlement. You may be surprised how many women stay in relationships with men — or even multiple men — for the gifts and prizes. It’s also not unheard of for women to accept free dinners, order the most expensive things on the menu and then disappear or be busy when a man tries to ask them out again. If you think the term “gold digger” sounds bad, consider how it feels to be on the receiving end of that kind of behavior.

6. You Don’t Share Your Gifts

The gift of the masculine sex is his ability to protect and provide. In fact, he takes great pride in it and will oftentimes even willingly risk his health or life in order to do that effectively. In fact, elderly men who seemingly “lose their purpose” or ability to provide as effectively after retirement may spiral into depression, suffer anxiety or even die prematurely when they no longer feel “needed.” Those two things are that hard-wired into masculine energy that they are a matter of life and death. So what, you may ask, is the gift of the feminine sex? Funny....

7. You Create Drama Instead Of Memories

As I said earlier, men are relatively simple creatures who navigate the world via logic and reason — it just doesn’t make sense to be all worked up constantly. They love to prove their value by solving problems and making things easy. They tend to be laid back and easy-going when they’re not working, and they also typically hate to waste effort if they can’t see a potential upside. That’s why masculine energy quickly tires of the drama that arises when femininity gets caught up in emotion and upset. Just be aware that if you kind of like the attention you get when you stir things up, it just might turn into a very short-term gain, if you know what I mean.

8. You Either Didn’t Build Trust — Or You Broke It

If a man is going to consider a future with you, he has got to believe that you respect him and have his back while he has yours. Inside every little boy is a desire to grow up and be a hero and a good man who feels connected to you will give his all to be your hero. In fact, he may even give his life to protect you. His commitment is that deep. In return, he must be able to trust that you have his best interests in mind also. Men also tend to strongly resonate with the concept of honor which is the backbone of the military code. Bottom line, a good man has high standards and you’ll have to as well if you’re going to keep him.

9. You Tried To Tie Him Down Too Soon

This may be one of the biggest mistakes women make over and over again. After one date, one kiss, or even one intimate encounter, women often seem to think they’re now magically in a “relationship.” Actually, not so fast. First of all, that’s not the time to negotiate your terms, and masculine energy has a very different criteria for that designation. The truth is men have an almost primitive drive and preference for the concept of freedom that practically lies in their DNA. Add to that it’s basic human nature that as soon as you grab someone quickly, they instinctively and reflexively pull away. While that may sound like men have no interest in monogamy, that’s not exactly true. Masculine energy will absolutely commit and voluntarily give up their freedom, but only after they’re convinced that you offer something better. The key is — timing is everything. Let a man pursue you and never try to take his freedom; it can only be surrendered.

10. You Didn’t Inspire Him Enough To See A Future With You

Here’s the truth: dating is a competitive environment. Every one of us, men and women alike, wants to be with a partner that makes us feel like we definitely got the better part of the deal when it comes to our partner. In fact, it’s ideal when both partners have such a strong appreciation and gratitude for one another that they both feel blessed to have attracted their partner. Basically, it’s about finding someone who just “gets” you and resonates with you. Believe it or not, this isn’t as rare as it seems; you can learn how to get better at attracting this, and I help my clients dramatically increase their odds of finding this kind of partner.

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#TheGirl you DATE vs #TheWoman you MARRY. Today's TIP. 20 Signs He Is Definitely A Player.. 1) He only texts you after 11 p.m. - and it's always for a booty-call. 2) He doesn't actually listen to you when you talk about anything going on in your life. 3) He doesn't care if you're having a bad day. 4) He's not into hanging out with you - unless it's a booty call. 5) He's as smooth as butter - always saying the right thing at the right time. 6) You've never met his friends. 7) He's not interested in meeting yours. There's only a 50-50 chance he'll actually show up for anything you guys have planned to do. 9) He's always got some excuse as to why he can't meet up for dinner or a movie. But if it's a booty-call, he's all over it. Literally. 10) You're not even sure he knows your number - you're the one who has to call and text him. 11) He alludes to wanting a relationship -- at least, he does until he's gotten his rocks off. Then he's out the door. 12) He's overly confident - cocky, even. He knows he's got game and he's not afraid to use it to get what he wants. 13) He divides his time among a lot of chicks, so he'll slip up sometimes and get bits of your life wrong (What do you mean you hate orange? It's your favorite color!). Because he confuses you with other girls. 14) He's never without his phone - even in the bathroom. 15) He has a couple of different phones. 16) He's married but "separated." Whenever you ask him about his divorce, he clams up or makes excuses as to why they're still living together. 17) You've never been to his house: He comes to yours. If you ask about it, he'll make up all kinds of excuses for why your place is better (his house is being fumigated, remodeled - anything). 18) There are no names alongside the numbers on his cell phone. 19) He never calls you by your name - just a pet name like "Baby." This way, he can't get it wrong. 20) All conversations with him have a intimate undertone. #Hope it helps 😘 😘 😘 #GoodMorning 👍 👍 👍 (at Lagos State)

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NOTE 📝 THIS POST IS PUBLIC #TheGirl you DATE vs #TheWoman you MARRY Repost. #What Girls NEED TO KNOW. Welcome back from few days break... Lets get down to the POINT. Even before i get to the list of things girls wish guys knew, I think some guys really need to understand this. Girls almost always take time to fall in love. But when they do fall in love with a great guy, they fall pretty hard. So if a girl you’re pursuing takes her time to start dating you, it doesn’t mean she’s playing hard to get *even if that’s what you believe*. It only means she’s still evaluating you as a dating potential. The playing hard to get part of the dating game isn’t a game at all. Having said this, girls need to understand this about every guy out there..... 1) Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. they prefer neat and presentable girls. 2) Guys hate other flirts. 3) A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards. 4)When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is. 5) Are you doing something?” or “Have you eaten already?” are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering. 6) Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about. 7)When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics. 8)Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile. 9)Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention. 10)Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend. 11)When guys want to meet your parents. Let them dont think so. 12) Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking! but do not generalise 13)Guys cry!!! 14)Don’t provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will. 15)Guys can never dream and hope too much. It’s just the way things work. In other write 📝 ups, ill be taking a close explanation at each point made above... Hope it helps....... 😘 😘 😘 #GoodMorning 👍 👍 👍 Have a Great Sunday

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NOTE 📝 THIS POST IS PUBLIC #TheGirl you DATE vs #TheWoman you MARRY Repost. #What Girls NEED TO KNOW. Welcome back from few days break... Lets get down to the POINT. Even before i get to the list of things girls wish guys knew, I think some guys really need to understand this. Girls almost always take time to fall in love. But when they do fall in love with a great guy, they fall pretty hard. So if a girl you’re pursuing takes her time to start dating you, it doesn’t mean she’s playing hard to get *even if that’s what you believe*. It only means she’s still evaluating you as a dating potential. The playing hard to get part of the dating game isn’t a game at all. Having said this, girls need to understand this about every guy out there..... 1) Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. they prefer neat and presentable girls. 2) Guys hate other flirts. 3) A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards. 4)When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is. 5) Are you doing something?” or “Have you eaten already?” are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering. 6) Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about. 7)When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics. 8)Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile. 9)Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention. 10)Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend. 11)When guys want to meet your parents. Let them dont think so. 12) Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking! but do not generalise 13)Guys cry!!! 14)Don’t provoke the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will. 15)Guys can never dream and hope too much. It’s just the way things work. In other write 📝 ups, ill be taking a close explanation at each point made above... Hope it helps....... 😘 😘 😘 #GoodMorning 👍 👍 👍 Have a Great Sunday (at Lagos State)

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#TheGirl you DATE vs #TheWoman you MARRY #Repost from 2016 10 HUGE MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE #Thanks to everyone who has been following my post lately. Yesterday i based my write 📝 up on #Girls before becoming #Women with broken homes Today ill be blunt as ill be taking a nail on the WOMEN category. Let's not forget that been a GIRL or a WOMAN doesn't mean that the both are not into a relationship. You can be a WOMAN and still be in a relationship. Becoming a wife doesn't mean you have stepped into another stage. You'll still be a WOMAN because its the final stage of every female circle ⭕. So here they are in no particular order, the 10 Biggest Mistakes Women Make In Relationships: 1. You Don’t Know Your Own Value This might be one of the most common areas where I work with my female clients. Do you chase after the bad boys who treat you poorly and only want them more? Are you attracted to all the unavailable guys? Are you afraid to ask for what you want? Do you put up with nonsense expecting that “one day” it will magically change? If so, welcome to the club — you are far from alone. You, my dear, do not know your value. The truth is that there are only two fears in the human condition: one is that you’re “not enough,” and two is that you won’t be loved. I’m sorry for being so blunt, but the truth will set you free — even if it makes you angry or defensive first. If that’s the case, don’t bother getting mad at me. I cared enough to level with you so you can actually have all the love you truly deserve. 2. You Over-Rely On Your Masculine Energy Many of my clients are highly successful women and well known in their communities. They’re doctors, lawyers, executives and entrepreneurs, but they can’t attract — or keep — a man. Ironically, their success is oftentimes a result of the fact that deep inside, these women also have huge doubts about their self value. The problem only gets dramatically worse if they’re divorced or are single parents because in order to be the sole provider or protector, too, their entire day is spent living in their masculine, achiever energy. While that may be effective in paying the bills, when you spend too much time there, it’s nearly impossible to transition out of that and re-embrace your feminine energy again. The fact is, if you can do it all by yourself, a man will look at you and see no role for himself; unless, of course, he’s looking for a sugar mama. I definitely don’t recommend that arrangement either. If you think it doesn’t sound so bad, re-read item #1. 3. You Simply Don’t Get Or Understand Men Women who understand how men work and appreciate them for their masculine gifts have a way of kissing frogs and turning them into princes. Likewise, women who are jaded, frustrated or have been burned too many times can kiss a good man and turn him into a frog. The fact is, women are far more complex and men are fairly simple creatures who actually are pre-wired to want to serve you. 4. You Try To Change Him Or Don’t Accept Him As He Is There’s nothing that turns off a man like meeting a woman he’s trying to impress and then having her immediately try to turn him into her latest “project” that she’s going to fix. Maybe it’s criticizing the way he dresses, insulting his table manners, or ridiculing his appearance or grooming habits. Women have a way of doing that because they tend to be caretakers by nature but frankly, it usually doesn’t end well for either party, and it just feels bad all the way around. At best, unrequested suggestions are usually unwelcome. At worst, they’re insulting and emasculating. People want to be seen, heard and appreciated for who they are; if you feel the need to change him with your complaints, ridicule, teasing or even unrequested “helpful hints,” let me ask you a question. How would you like it if he did that to you? Enough said. 5. You Don’t Really Appreciate What Men Do For You On the other extreme of women not knowing their value, are the self-centered women who seemingly believe they are “owed” something. They are not grateful that a man opted to spend his time, talent and treasure with her. In fact, they have an attitude of entitlement. You may be surprised how many women stay in relationships with men — or even multiple men — for the gifts and prizes. It’s also not unheard of for women to accept free dinners, order the most expensive things on the menu and then disappear or be busy when a man tries to ask them out again. If you think the term “gold digger” sounds bad, consider how it feels to be on the receiving end of that kind of behavior. 6. You Don’t Share Your Gifts The gift of the masculine sex is his ability to protect and provide. In fact, he takes great pride in it and will oftentimes even willingly risk his health or life in order to do that effectively. In fact, elderly men who seemingly “lose their purpose” or ability to provide as effectively after retirement may spiral into depression, suffer anxiety or even die prematurely when they no longer feel “needed.” Those two things are that hard-wired into masculine energy that they are a matter of life and death. So what, you may ask, is the gift of the feminine sex? Funny.... 7. You Create Drama Instead Of Memories As I said earlier, men are relatively simple creatures who navigate the world via logic and reason — it just doesn’t make sense to be all worked up constantly. They love to prove their value by solving problems and making things easy. They tend to be laid back and easy-going when they’re not working, and they also typically hate to waste effort if they can’t see a potential upside. That’s why masculine energy quickly tires of the drama that arises when femininity gets caught up in emotion and upset. Just be aware that if you kind of like the attention you get when you stir things up, it just might turn into a very short-term gain, if you know what I mean. 8. You Either Didn’t Build Trust — Or You Broke It If a man is going to consider a future with you, he has got to believe that you respect him and have his back while he has yours. Inside every little boy is a desire to grow up and be a hero and a good man who feels connected to you will give his all to be your hero. In fact, he may even give his life to protect you. His commitment is that deep. In return, he must be able to trust that you have his best interests in mind also. Men also tend to strongly resonate with the concept of honor which is the backbone of the military code. Bottom line, a good man has high standards and you’ll have to as well if you’re going to keep him. 9. You Tried To Tie Him Down Too Soon This may be one of the biggest mistakes women make over and over again. After one date, one kiss, or even one intimate encounter, women often seem to think they’re now magically in a “relationship.” Actually, not so fast. First of all, that’s not the time to negotiate your terms, and masculine energy has a very different criteria for that designation. The truth is men have an almost primitive drive and preference for the concept of freedom that practically lies in their DNA. Add to that it’s basic human nature that as soon as you grab someone quickly, they instinctively and reflexively pull away. While that may sound like men have no interest in monogamy, that’s not exactly true. Masculine energy will absolutely commit and voluntarily give up their freedom, but only after they’re convinced that you offer something better. The key is — timing is everything. Let a man pursue you and never try to take his freedom; it can only be surrendered. 10. You Didn’t Inspire Him Enough To See A Future With You Here’s the truth: dating is a competitive environment. Every one of us, men and women alike, wants to be with a partner that makes us feel like we definitely got the better part of the deal when it comes to our partner. In fact, it’s ideal when both partners have such a strong appreciation and gratitude for one another that they both feel blessed to have attracted their partner. Basically, it’s about finding someone who just “gets” you and resonates with you. Believe it or not, this isn’t as rare as it seems; you can learn how to get better at attracting this, and I help my clients dramatically increase their odds of finding this kind of partner. #Hope it helps 😘 😘 😘 #GoodMorning 👍 👍 👍 #EnjoyYourWeek

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#TheGirl you DATE vs # TheWoman you MARRY Please NOTE 📝 that this POST is PUBLIC 📢 Younger MEN 🚹 VS Older WOMEN 🚺 Relationships Good afternoon to every lover of every single write 📝 ups posted herein. I love you all. You are the drive behind my thoughts. It's a long write 📝 up so let's get to it before you get bored of reading 📖. Believe me when i say it is not rare to see a younger guy and an older woman date and have a very intense sexual and romantic relationship, which defies the traditional “older man, younger woman” set-up that we are used to seeing. This is not surprising. First, the fact that such a dating situation is still somewhat taboo makes it all the more enticing and exciting to be in. Many younger guys are driven to women who are 10 years older than they are or more, as these women are often more confident and more sexually driven and passionate than the younger women. These younger guys are both curious and excited about dating a woman who, is not ashamed of what she wants sexually, unlike the younger girls of his own age who are often confused about just about everything, including their romantic and sexual desires. You know yourselves. Relationships between a younger guy and an older woman is likely to be supercharged by a combination of the younger man’s peak sex drive and the older woman’s confidence, experience and her own sex drive. There are some other compelling reasons for why older women are more attractive to younger guys . And of course, it’s not a secret that women in their 30's and 40's have a much higher sex drive than the ones in their 20's. Note that the more mature women may be interested in dating a younger guy out of sheer curiosity of what it feels like dating someone younger, and also because usually younger guys are more “agile,” active, energetic. Being around a younger guy makes a woman feel younger as well. No woman is attracted to a guy who is a couch potato or who is unable to climb a set of stairs without being out of breath, especially if the woman herself is very active. Young guys have a stronger sex drive and are naturally hungrier for a woman’s body. Few things are more flattering to an older woman than being with a younger guy who craves her body and who is more eager to be close to her physically than any older guy would. Often, a younger guy and an older woman would “decide” upfront that their relationship will be casual, and that they should not expect any commitment from each other, because they know that the end of that relationship is inevitable because of the seemingly irreconcilable age difference. Ironically however, the very fact that the two people remove the pressure of commitment from their interaction increases their sexual attraction and passion toward each other and their desire to be with each other, as their relationship is not clouded by fears and complications of commitment, long-term relationships and related issues. As a result of that increased romantic passion and sexual connection, the two people are actually more likely to develop strong feelings for each other and to feel very attached to each other with something they never planned for, but also something that happens quite often and is so far beyond their control. The question most women feel very confused about. Should i just throw away my face when i feel like i am already attracted to a younger male species. For me, i don’t think any woman can find an absolute and unequivocal answer to this question, and I frankly don’t believe that such an answer exists, as it would heavily depend on that specific woman’s goals and needs at that specific point in her life. An older woman might have the greatest time of her life dating an energetic, exciting, attractive young man, but she is also likely to feel that she is wasting her time being with a younger guy and knowing that it is not going to turn into a long-term relationship, instead of pursuing a relationship with a man with whom she could establish a family and have children in the nearest future as the biology would dictate to a woman who is aware that her biological clock is ticking. But then again know that not every woman wants family and children. Certainly, commitment, family and children are the last thing on those women’s mind who felt “suffocated” in their prior relationship or marriage, went through a challenging divorce or a painful break-up, and who feel the urge to enjoy and celebrate their newly found freedom. IN CONCLUSION.... Only you know which category you belong to or which category you want to belong to, and once you determine which approach fits your life philosophy, you are likely to make the right choice for yourself given your unique situation, as well as what you need and want at that specific point in your life. #Hope it helps 😘 😘 😘 #ISeeNoCrimeInHavingThisRelationship #TheAdultChooseForThemselves #MyOpinionThough 😉 😉 😉 #GoodAfternoon 👍👍👍

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NOTE 📝 THIS POST IS PUBLIC #TheGirl you DATE vs #TheWoman you MARRY A REAL WOMAN. Hello readers, as promised earlier before the new week, i will be posting few of the things i have been working on so far. One amongst millions of things that needs to be attended to is this very one. “A real WOMAN” Too often times most of us have had difficulties identifying what group we belong to as a female. Are we just a GIRL, gradually becoming a WOMAN or are we already at the stage of tagging ourselves with the title A WOMAN. I’ll help us identify few qualities maybe by then, you can search in between thy inner self to know whom you really are. What does the word REAL mean, according to Wikipedia, Real may refer to: Reality, the state of things as they actually exist, rather than as they may appear or may be thought to be. By now, i believe we all understand who a woman is. So I’ll just go straight to the POINT ☝ A real WOMAN is identified amongst her peers for possessing attributes which others do not seem to have or posses. This is because many of the things she does is as a result of the product of what she was made of. Only a real WOMAN…….. * VALUES A REAL MAN… She appreciates and respects the value and worth of the men in her life. She knows that part of being a great woman is recognizing and embracing the qualities of a great man. * SHE IS CONFIDENT… She is happy with herself and her own abilities. She appreciates who she is as an individual, embraces her femininity and is proud to be a woman. * SHE IS AVAILABLE ALL TIME… She represents a strong link in the chain that holds those close to her together. She embraces the many roles she plays and is actively present as a mother, wife, girlfriend and friend. When she’s needed the most, she is there. * SHE IS HONEST AND UPFRONT… She recognizes the destructiveness behind undisclosed expectations. She’s straight forward and respectful about setting boundaries and the tempo of her relationships early on for herself. * SHE IS STRONG AND SHE IS INDEPENDENT…This seem like a rare quality but one amongst several others needed t be possessed. She is determined, driven and able to accomplish great feats. Her ability to be so strong is derived from her own knowledge, intuition and ambition.

I’ll be placing a pin 📍 point here for this very one. Hopefully someday i can complete the piece. Hope it helps……. 😘 😘 😘 😘 😘 #BeReal #BePatient #ItTakesALot to become a REAL WOMAN. 👌 👌 👌 👌 Thank you for always READING 📖 ☑ 👊 👊 👊 👊 #TheGirl you DATE vs #TheWoman you MARRY