#not because im trying to be rude or picky

[yingren]

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[vulturesrottencorpse]

Is this part of my autism or am I just an asshole

ok so basically, there's this really nice girl in my class, she keeps trying to talk me me (guess she wants to be my friend) but I don't like her. I go to a school that isn't mainstream so we get a lot of people with autism, ADHD, ect. You'd think this would make this easier to make friends, right? No. For some reason I'm a very picky person with who I talk to, I need someone who's smarter than me or gets my humour or something. This girl, she just talks, and talks and doesn't get the hint when I try to politely shoo her away. I'll be drawing, she will comment on it and if I respond even with a thanks, she takes it as an invitation to pull her chair over and sit and draw with me. Constantly asking "should I do this?" "How do I draw this part" " what do you think" every 2 minutes. It annoys me because 1, I don't want to be rude, I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings so I can't just tell her to go away, and 2 , I HATE socialising, even with my friends I find talking hard (irl, at least)

Getting too long but, is this normal? Am I a bad person for not liking this person who wants to be my friend, who's really nice and shares all my interests? Aren't you supposed to like people who are just like you? We are almost exactly the same yet I can't stand her. Maybe this is what it's like for other people who talk to me. I don't know.

Edit: a part I forgot to mention was that she has anger issues and gets annoyed pretty easily. When she's mad she just starts yelling and stuff, if I accidentally offend her by telling her I don't want to be her friend I'd be the centre of attention as the person she'd yelling at, which would probably give me a panic attack.

Since the start of this year I've become a very VERY shy person. If you were to ask anyone in my class or any teachers (from my class only) about me theyed probably shrug and say "who?" Or, "oh. The one that draws all the time" which is super odd because basically my whole life I've been bullied and to combat that I became a very loud and outspoken perdon. I still had social anxiety but with my friends I was pretty much obnoxiously confident. I've gone from being told to "shut up!" And "stop talking to loud" to "speak up" and "talk a bit louder nobody can hear you." So the switch is pretty sudden, and attention, ANY attention, a teacher saying hi to me in class, someone walking past and even glancing at me, sets me into panic.

So I can't tell this girl to simply go away, even if I wasn't scared of being mean.

Also, rereading this post I'd like to clarify that I asked if this was autism because of my extremely low social battery, people pleasing behaviour, ect. And I asked if im an asshole because you're SUPPOSED to get along with people who are the same as you. With people who have similar interests or struggles but I HATE being around those people. I hate being around people who remind me of myself. My whole life I've been friends with the confident, loud and unapologetic people. But the more I think, the more my brain tells me "you just don't like them because they have autism, and that annoys you" (IM LITERALLY AUTISTIC)

This is quickly turning into a long ramble session rather than an explanation. So, feel free to just ignore this wall of text lmao.

[pyonzzz]

ooooh my gods okay look i have nothing against the old dollieguts art style but recently the dollkin angelkin yamikawaii etc tags have been flooded with people who are just using that art style and its just ...

as an artist ? inspiration is okay but please make it your own , its so obvious that youre trying to perfectly recreate the old look and i dont even think that artist would want that from what i know

and as a nonhuman ? STAY OUT OF THE TAGS ? PLEASE ?? i know thats the feel you want for your art but thats not how its being seen . ive seen a few posts about this too so i know im not the only one whos upset by this ..... the " creepy cute " tags and things similar to that are more your thing with this kind of art if thats really what you want . angelkin and dollkin etc have very specific vibes and its largely not anything similar to the art youre posting , and its only starting to bother us ..... for your sake and ours , please leave the tags

and just as someone being picky and a bit rude ? tagspamming is against tos . you really need to look into the tags and the culture around them before using them because if you use them wrong people arent gonna be happy . and i know tumblr has a really pessimistic userbase and i dont want anyone getting bullied or harrassed for trying to show their art

find or make your own tags and let us have ours .

[honeyviscera]

oh my god okay. so im like very picky about the things i buy for myself so like. even if someone knows what im interested in, they wont necessarily be able to get a gift for me that i will actually like because i have such specific standards.

so whenever my birthday or a holiday rolls around im always in mental turmoil bc i feel like its rude to tell people the exact items that i want bc i feel like. entitled or whatever. but then if i dont say anything, chances are people are going to buy me something i wont actually like. and when i receive a gift i dont want i acc feel sick to my stomach bc i dont want to be "ungrateful" so i just say i like the gift, but then im stuck with something i dont want. if they give me the gift receipt then its all good bc then i can return it and put the money towards something i actually want but most ppl dont do that so then im stuck with something i dont want and i always feel super bad about it bc ik that person was trying really hard AND when i dont like a gift i feel like a spoiled brat and i feel bad about THAT, too. so i dont want to get rid of a gift i dont like because i feel like if i do im an ungrateful piece of shit.

ocean, you might say, why not save yourself the trouble and just send ppl a wishlist? it might look a bit rude but then you wont be in this position, right? and to that i say. ive tried that too. and yet people still deviate from it and get me things i dont want. i have so much junk that every time i look at it i feel sick because i DONT like it but i feel bad about not liking it and idk what to do.

sorry for the rant idk what to do. like im actually crying irl right now bc i got another gift i dont like and i dont know what to do about it.

[hyugaruma]

hi!! can i please get a matchup (original series if that’s okay)

personality wise, id say im pretty bubbly and excitable. i’m an isfj & cancer, & i try to look on the bright side and try to listen to/help when they’re sad. im very affectionate with the people im close to, and i tend to cling onto my friends arms and hug them a lot. i love anything soft or cute, especially animals!! im kinda scared of bugs though, but i still always try to take them outside. i get distracted pretty easily, and have a hard time dealing with change. i tend to be a bit bossy and unreasonable when it comes to something i’m interested in. i also really like going for walks, shopping, yoga, baking (even though i’m dreadfully awful at it), and reading. i like complimenting strangers, and i try to see the best in everything & everyone! though i can’t really tolerate it if somebody is overly cruel or rude to the people i care about. i have a very “do no harm, take no shit” mentality :)

Thanks for the req :-))

I match you with… Seki Kotaro!

Seki would like a partner who sees the joys in life and who tries to brighten the world around them. He would appreciate someone who is willing to show affection openly, especially any form of physical affection, and would absolutely melt at you holding his arm or embracing him. He’s the type who would love to show off his partner, because man he feels like the luckiest guy in the world. He likes to act tough so he’d be willing to dispose of any bugs (live, if you insist) for you, but lowkey he is actually kind of jeebed by them too. He’d take you on lots of cute dates and would try any and all of your baking, no matter how “awful” you may be at it (he isn’t picky, either, so he’ll eat anything you make and love it).

Alternate Matches: Pho, Li

[weezeryuri]

not arfid but ive got just general food sensory issues so im picky, but Also food and cooking r like some of my biggest and favorite interests, so theres sooo many foods i wanna try but i always have to explain to people like “it looks super good and i want to eat it but i simply cant bc of the texture/smell/flavor i swear im not just being picky and rude on purpose”

FOR REAL!! on top of arfid i also have ocd food contamination obsessions which means there’s a lot of stuff i just can’t eat and people always take it as a personal attack on them. or see me as snobby or stuck up or rude. even in neurodivergent communities ‘picky eaters’ get so much shit

my big foods i wish i could eat but can’t because of the texture: baby back ribs, chunky soups, onion rings or cooked onions of any kind, most fruits because they’re pulpy and slimey and stringy. gaahhh it’s maddening

[the-s1lly-corner]

two things

actually, three

i think i might do some requests early after i do some prepping for dinner tonight; just need to mince n dice some veggies so! shouldnt take too terribly long!

depending on how im feeling after the above i think im going to try to get on my computer and tackle the paused character based readers! i still feel bad for having them paused for so long but still answering peoples non-character ones

this seems to be an issue thats becoming more... prevalent but i think it should be known that i can deny your request for any reason; namely i will deny it due to any discomforts because i generally dont like being picky; requesting can be nerve wracking and i dont want anyone to feel like theyre being weird or demanding or what have you. however, if you are rude to me be it in my inbox or dms regarding your request, you will receive a warning. failure to control yourself (cough cough as in stop being an asshole) then your request will be denied. AGAIN i want to stress simply asking if your request sent through or even asking for statue is FINE!(/gen) but i have had people be down right atrocious entitled to me and i am not about that

that said, i hope you are all having a lovely day/night, stay hydrated!

[agent-aromantic]

talk about el gato (langur de chat!!!) anf uhhhgmf. cappuccino vs langues parents I just lovb seeing ur ramble posts ok .

Hi i love you so much ok im finally getting to this ask im sooo eepy but oh well my rambles are the best when im exhausted . I think that cappuccino isnt usually intimidated by people ,,, if anything shes the one who usually is intimidating others but for some reason langues parents Actually scare the living shit oit of her like he does NOT want to talk to them ever.

Langues parents dont rlly like her (disorganized, constantly grumpy, messy appearence, smoker, coffee addict, etc. just a bad influence for their perfect precious angel child) but like They arent MEAN about it they just. Respectfully dislike her. they arent even mean or rude to cap in any way but once shes around them she starts acting really awkward and unlike himself like. Trying to stand straighter and sound more professional. they ask her if she likes burgers and shes like "oh great heavens no!! theyre far too greasy for my tastes" and langue is like ??? Are you ok do i need to rush you to a hospital are you havinf a stroke rn

like. its ooc but thats the point and its very funny to me HZBDKFB cappu can ridicule people in court all the time, she doesnt neccesarily care what people think of him and doesnt put much effort in his appearence because of that (unless its something that will actually affect her reputation and interfere with his job), but when langue is like Oh my parents will be there then suddenly for some reason cappuccino is desperately trying to get all the tangles out of her hair with his fingers. Do you see my vision

possibly its because of cappuccinos past experiences with her parents (she had Awful biological parents and equally as bad adoptive ones) but idk . havent thought much about that.

Anyways i do think that cappu grows on langues parents . Langue would hide their relationship for as long as they can (they know that their parebts already dont like cap very much and they are Very overprotective and picky about partners) and while their parents would probably give cap some looks at the start i think . they would grow to like her and probably spoil him just as much as langue . Which she is not used to ! Cappu is not used to supportive and affectoionate parents

ok im gonna eep . thank you for this /gen tbis was so fun to type :3

[endersmile]

are you a c!dream apologist? and if so why?/genq

I'm not trying to ask this to be rude, but for most c!dream apologists I see I'm scared that they'll attack me for asking this question, but you seem like you wont do that so I'm just curious

hi anon!

I struggle to word really how I feel about it, but I think my pinned post explains it pretty well

>im simply an enjoyer of dsmp i enjoy so many dynamics and characters and different takes and aus. i just enjoy things that make me happy :)

I enjoy the takes of c!dream apologists just as much as I enjoy something like dark c!Discduo or c!SBI family dynamics. I just enjoy the Dream SMP and the characters, a lot. I'm not really picky when it comes to storyline as long as it's engaging and fun/entertaining, because it's a fictional story.

There's so many perspectives and so many AU possibilities, that honestly whats "RIGHT" doesn't really matter to me. So yes, I'm a c!Dream apologist. I LOVE the storyline perspective of c!Dream being not in control of everything and how that affects him. I ALSO love the dark c!Discduo takes where c!Dream is obsessed with only c!Tommy.

tldr; its a fictional story about fictional characters, i technically consider myself an apologist but it aint that deep. im a dsmp enthusiast at heart and c!dream is my blorbo

[wilted]

idk the situation obvi but i ate small burger w only ketchup for yearssss and enjoyed it greatly it was my autism comfort food... i can stomach toppings now but the idea of ingredients touching used to gross me out so bad i couldnt. idk. food can be enjoyed even if it doesnt sound good to u like even in the years i only ate plain burgers i still loved them👍 but i guess like i said idk the situation maybe i misread ur post and his mom is forcing him to eat like that out of malice

this anon pisses me off a little bit like how did i know i would get someone saying this to me. “food can be enjoyed even if it doesn’t sound good to you” THATS WHAT IM SAYING!!!!!!! why are you flipping my OWN point back at me 😭😭😭 i was also saying jsut because you’re picky doesn’t mean there’s not gonna be more than one food available to you like shit i have autism too and i still believe in the “don’t knock it till you try it” saying because i’m not trying to be rude! like my wonderful mutual said, if you get food that someone has made for you and don’t even bother to try it because it “grosses you out” how are you ever going to truly know that you like it, how are you going to explain to the person who spent time making your food that you’re not even gonna eat it because it’s not a plain tiny burger with only fucking ketchup on it. just have a little adventure i’m begging

[nyctophiliq]

Heyyy! If matchups are still open can I get one for arcane or overwatch!

20 nb lesbian ESFP. artist, entertainer, artist, musician. I'm pretty butch, goth, I use they/them, I'm short and have dark short black hair, gauges and multiple tattoos, people compare me to Wednesday, Sevika, Ruby (Steven universe) and Toph. I tend to dress in all black, purple or red. When I'm not working Im drawing writing or playing guitar. I'm a chill person, who prefers to listen to people talk, or just being able to relax around people. However with specific subjects I can get more talkative. I have a small friend group cuz I'm really picky, people say I am friendly and inviting, but I look intimidating or unapproachable due to my rbf and alt style. They also describe me as easy to talk to, chill, nonjudgmental, protective and a bitch to people when I need to be. I'm not easily angered, but I used to get into fights, and I'm very protective of the people I choose to be around. I exercise every night, I love interacting with new people, listening to hard rock or metal, partying, drinking smoking, or spending the night inside. It honestly depends on my mood, I like cooking, long car rides and adventures. Honestly kinda just a stoner in scary clothes. Scary and cool till I open my mouth then I'm more of a lovable idiot.

your match-up and star messenger is . . .

JUNKER QUEEN ! ODESSA "DEZ" STONE (estp) !

you are the "annoyingly loud, tall and their scary sweetheart short s/o" couple

maybe it was your similar style that convinced odessa there was no better person for her, or that she had to think twice to talk to you when first meeting you because you looked like you were about to murder someone. either way, she was attracted to you the second she had laid eyes on you.

odessa has much to say and even more wild stories to tell you and that requires a pair of patient ears. she is glad you like listening to her tales, that no matter how horrible it may sound you answer to her without poison on your tongue. the two of you would have only small kinks when communicating, phrasing your sentences too emotionally or overly poetic would confuse odessa, setting up an awkward silence session between the two of you.

the two of you are rarely resting, odessa always has a new adventure for you two to go on. both of you have the type of personality that doesn't like to sit around, do pointless routines or tasks, and rather be creating new things, building new connections, and going to concerts, parties, or hang with your friends.

junker queen will try to learn at least one of you hobbies, most likely playing the guitar. she never really had the opportunity to learn an instrument and would like to expand her skills and open herself up to new possibilities in smaller ways. to think she would make a bad student is completely wrong, odessa can be patient she just needs a bit more encouragement to handle such things as music. in fighting you need to throw big punches, and the guitar needs a delicate touch.

some aspects of your relationship would be:

her constantly teasing you about the height difference, she is 7ft tall, and nobody tops that

drive-in cinema dates! there is a place that still does this thing, a little far away but neither of you is complaining about the long road ahead

talking shit about those rude people for no reason is one of your ways to connect and suddenly start a deep talk

odessa can't help but find it adorable how you stand up for her or yourself if somebody is bothering either of you

MEETING EACH OTHER !

version 1

the night was still young but you were just getting started with your laps around the abandoned block in the town. if there was any reason why you took your exercises in the night remained unanswered, you didn't remember, it has been going on for so long. so wrapped in your own thoughts, trying to figure out why was it so relishing to work out in the night you missed the person coming towards you and the two of you bumped into each other. falling ass first on the ground, a groan left your throat. it took you a second to regain control over your shaken body, that's when you first saw her, offering you a hand with a troubled look on her face.

"are you alright there? i didn't expect anyone else around this turn of time, this place in town. i'm odessa."

version 2

you were part of junkertown's enforcers, serving directly under the queen herself which was a surprise for you too since you haven't been in the line of duty for too long. you have never seen the queen personally, only on the papers that were put up around the town and her commands came through your squad leader. on the night junkrat, a former resident of the town claimed that he found a 'treasure' and you along with your comrades were sent out to take a look at said 'treasure' only for it to turn out to be a trap set up by him and his partner in crime, roadhog. in the fight, you were incapacitated, and by the time you woke up your queen's face was the first thing to greet you.

"i'm sure the two of us can talk about compensation privately... a queen cares for every one of their enforcers."

YOUR SONG IS . . .

can't feel my face by the weeknd !

[not-so-local-lesbian]

Im not a picky eater; I’m a picky clothes person.

I hate trying on clothes. Don't get me wrong, l'm endlessly grateful for this kind of gift! I'm very lucky. I already said I didn't need more clothes, and I know clothes are the thing relatives will get when they go out and find something. However, I'm so endlessly picky when it comes to texture and fit.

I know these aren't the right textures or fits or something I would wear. I buy my clothes for that reason. I feel so bad because these will probably have to be returned, and it feels like they wasted time and money on me. I promise I am not worth it.

I know they'll be frustrated, but I promise I am too. I hate that I'm like this. I hate that I'm the worst too. I just can't do so many textures and fits and things.

I have cried trying on a shirt. I knew immediately as I put my arm through the sleeve it would be a no, but I had to “model it”. If they didn’t see it on me, then they wouldn’t believe me. I would have been rude without at least trying it on.

I have bad sensory days. When that happens, my skin feels like it's on fire, like there are bugs crawling inside my skin, I'm itchy all over, and nothing helps. Trying on new, most often icky, textures and fits will be painful.

I promise I'm more upset than you when it comes to how I feel about textures.

I promise I’m not faking this.

I promise I know right away if it will work or not.

I promise I’m not being rude.

Please believe me.

[eyedrateanatomy]

wait i wanna explain all the seat numbers because me n my partner made this together and we had So many ideas during. like. a Lot

ignacio is easy to sit with at first but it is Tense. he doesnt tell you to move out of the way when he needs to get up to use the restroom so god forbid you have a tray down lest he just knocks everything on your lap. roy bugs him a bit with his incessant talking so he leans over doing that whisper yelling thing going "if you dont shut your mouth right now i Will shoot you. im not fucking around. i have a gun." and roy almost pesters him again until he sees a bump in his pocket and decides to shut up for the rest of the trip. ignacios already picky with the treatment he gets on the plane but everyone just assumes flights make him cranky. about two hours later though when everyones getting their food ignacios order is wrong, so naturally he crawls over your lap to make a scene in front of god and everyone about how inconsiderate and rude the flight attendants are and pulls out his gun. ignacio has to be strapped to a safety seat for the rest of the flight.

ross is chill and easy to sit with. the two guys in the back, not so much, neither are the guys in the front. roy keeps trying to annoy susie. hes bored, hes tired, he doesnt know how long the trip will take, he wants to know what shes listening to, etc. after like an hour and a threat from an old man does she finally decide to give him a part of her earbud. they listen to dark edgy vocaloid music on her ipod for the rest of the trip and roy wont admit that he likes it. susies in her own little world imagining her ocs in animated music videos to the songs shes listening to. jaune and radford in the front? god awful and annoying. just the worst. they have energy for days and they Can and Will talk for 8 hours straight. ignacio got up at one point to yell at them about it. like "you know the whole plane can hear you right? THE WHOLE DAMN PLANE?" and skiddad, whos Piloting The Plane, pulls out the radio to go "yep i heard the whole thing +:)" so jaune and rad decide to shut up out of fear... but they only last five minutes. jaunes always reaching behind her to ask if ross needs anything, and checks on the other kids and lila every so often. its only when the plane lands do jaune and rad finally ask for each others names.

patty is actually chill. if youre able to ignore the yappers behind you, you wont die around her. she does smell funny and watches weird opera movies on her screen, but at least shes not radford who decided to pull out his massive computer to watch the most shocking, fear inducing, gorey horror film on the planet. good luck trying to talk to patty though shes really got nothing to say.

lila is fast asleep for the whole 8 hour trip. she was awake for the first 30 minutes giving skid and pump some food and candy and setting up a cartoon for them to watch before putting on the noise canceling headphones + neck pillow and conking the fuck OUT. skid and pump are Naturally little hooligans, theyre rummaging through lilas purse trying to find more candy (that woman has a Lot in her purse. its like its bigger on the inside) and they accidentally get their wrappers everywhere. pump is reaching over to the seat in front of him to get it and it interrupts dexter n gregors little argument for a second before pump goes back to his seat. he then runs over to susie to give her some candy, and of Course he prepared for roy to ask as well so he got him some too before blowing a raspberry at him and walking away. at some point skiddad walks over to wrap lila in a blanket. bundling her like a spiders prey in its web... and pump keeps trying to get skid to turn around going "isnt that your dad??? skid turn around isnt that your dad. SKID. THATS YOUR DAD. SKID HES THE PILOT" and skids like "nahh my dad wouldnt wear the pilot hat, he always said hats mess up his hair" and this keeps going until skiddad leaves and skid only then turns around and goes See.

dexter and gregor are having the worst argument of their life, and its not Yelling (at first), but its really easy to eavesdrop on their bickering. dexter cannot stop going "i bet you like my mom. everyones waiting for you to admit it." every five minutes, and gregor has to keep putting down the bible hes reading (for fun) going "Listen. we just see each other every sunday and thats it. theres nothing more to it" and theres probably more to it but he is a Righteous Priest and hes literally in the clouds right now like. what if god hears. so dexters just really pissy the whole flight until he gets distracted by the chips given to him by the flight attendant. good luck being between all this. gregor and dexter also Constantly yell at skid and pump for being rowdy and loud. the whole plane is yelling at them, ESPECIALLY roy and ignacio. lila sleeps through all of it.

kevin is in his own personal hell right now. hes scooted all the way to the window trying desperately to avoid frank and it is Not Working. frank is too big. he laughs too loud, hes always moving in his seat and bumping into everyone elses, he eats like a pig, and when kevin Finally thinks he gets a break once franks tired, he finds out frank snores so loud it shakes the plane. kevin cant even leave hes literally trapped. if you wanna sit near kevin, you gotta get past the giant immovable object first. frank isnt the chattiest though so youll have some peace.

roberts stupid ass brother accidentally got him a seat away from his friends, and even though radford got them all wifi to text each other, rob still has to put up with Child Murderer Bob right next to him who keeps trying to ask Questions that robert keeps trying to Ignore and its not Working. at some point robert tried sneaking over to where ross is until skiddad showed up out of nowhere to go "nonono, you cant do that +:)" the plane started tilting a bit cause skiddad forgot he was piloting it so he had to speed up the process by picking rob up by the back of his shirt and placing him back to the proper seat. youre his only hope. please entertain him. at some point, robert asks streber to let him sit at the front with him, so strebers trying to ask the uncle if its fine if rob sits with them. the uncle isnt responding. streber just turns back and is like "uh sorry thats all i can do. haha" which is probably for the best.

this is the worst seat at first and its Not because of the uncle, but because streber is such a godawful annoying little shit. if you sit next to him, you Need to be prepared to put up with him rambling incessantly for hours on end about his inventions and books he read and friends and accomplishments and his entire life story. he doesnt listen when you tell him to stop Multiple Times, because everytime he tries to be quiet its like theres an itch inside him begging him to just keep telling you Everything. you cant ask the uncle for help if you tried, hed just chuckle and keep watching his telenovelas. even if he did tell streb to stop, it wouldnt work for long. but there is One thing that stops him, and that is the hungry motherfucker right behind him. bob just drools on him at first which definitely snaps him out of it. so its like... ok he'll be less distracting. he'll just doodle on his napkins. Now hes just hearing bob breathing heavily. so hes up going "i gotta take a whiz" and he hears footsteps behind him AND ITS BOB. hes not walking. streb turns back around after walking a bit more and bobs still standing there, but just a Little bit closer this time. and this keeps going till theyre up to the door, strebers like "ehm. can i help you." bob just says he needs to use the bathroom next and doesnt wanna wait for someone else to take it first. bob basically shuts streber up for the rest of the trip, and hes way too fixated on him to prey on you. the other guy? busy watching tv. congratulations! you now have the best seat on the flight.

Rick- hes the flight attendant. just before this he worked as a security guard in the airport and was fired for letting ignacio bring a gun on the plane because he didnt care. he was then hired as a flight attendant twelve minutes later.

Skiddad- hes the only pilot and only god knows why hes doing this or where hes taking everyone.

Evermore + Garcia + John + Jack- theyre on a private jet, evermore and garcia are lounging it up while john and jack are trying to ignore captain and shotgun man bothering them and keeping them from working. this was deliberate on evermores part.

choose wisely

[hitsdifferents]

was eating in a group so i didn't take much food because arfid equals anxiety to eat with others around. then someone started screaming at me for not taking that much food, causing me to shut down and not want to eat even more. then when someone else asked if i was offended and i said i was a little frustrated by her comment he got angry and said "its not a big deal. you shouldn't be so offended. you really need to do some self-reflection on what you get offended by. She was just concerned. are we not allowed to be concerned anymore?"

i tried to explain that his comments were manipulative and not helpful esp since i hadn't even said anything in the first place and he just kept going at me until i cried.

i dont even know why i fucking talk sometimes.

i’m so sorry that arfid makes it hard for you to eat around others. i find it the same way because there is so much pressure to not be rude and eat every bite but sometimes a texture or flavor can one bite in stop me from eating even my safe foods and explaining that to someone is always a challenge. i think you need to surround yourself with more understanding people which i know is easier said than done. try to always have your few safe foods with you and if anyone questions the amount, type or “health” of the food you’re consuming you have every right to tell them it isn’t any of your business. im so sorry that people can’t understand and don’t even seem to want to understand - that arfid is so far beyond just picky eating.

i wish people wouldn’t ever comment on anything anyone is eating ever with the exception of “i hope you’re enjoying your food because you deserve to be satiated” <3

ily anon and im always here for you if you need to talk to someone who understands.

[devil-changmin]

Food/eating disorder tw

[alabastermask]

im already vegetarian for a couple of reasons, and here’s my two cents. you’re 100% right. i am not vegetarian for health reasons or for animal rights reasons (thats a whole conversation for another time). i am vegetarian because a) i don’t like the texture of most meats/poultries/fish (i consider all to be meat) due to sensory issues and b) i have ocd and constantly worry that my meat is raw or contaminated in some way (the recent recalls have been great for that :))) /s). i am a very picky eater, to the point where i would definitely consider it disordered eating, if not any one specific eating disorder. i also hate the smell of cooking food and find it difficult to consistently prepare food. i have a very limited diet, and i rely heavily on prepackaged and processed foods. when i decided to stop eating meat (and poultry, fish, etc.) the number of meals i could rely on shrank from relatively few to very few. (i am aware that this is a problem. i do not have any interest in resuming eating meat and am not looking for advice on the subject). so yes, you are correct. no longer eating precooked meat would take away a lot of your food options.

my unsolicited advice on this is to not give up on precooked meat entirely. you will most likely have to reduce the amount of precooked meat products you eat, but that doesn’t mean you need to get rid of them entirely. keep an eye on recall lists, know how to spot potential contamination, and prepare food in a way that reduces risk (ie cook meat thoroughly). additionally, try to work out a system to prepare meals when you do have energy in order to save them for when you don’t. if you’re living with some who enjoys cooking or has more energy for it, see if you can swap with them. my friend has been making herself a week’s worth of breakfast burritos and then freezing them, and that seems to work for her. if you can find someone to support you with meal prep, even better.

and my other bit of advice is to not stress the healthy label too much (easier said than done, i know). culturally, we have such a skewed idea of what eating healthy looks like. if you are eating food that nourishes your body and makes you feel good, i say that’s healthy. for me, simply eating food at all is a win, and so therefore food— any food— is healthy. i don’t know what healthy will look like for you. i don’t know what you like to eat enough to recommend recipes. but what i will say is this: your mental health is just as much a part of health as your body. prepackaged meats that save you energy ARE healthy for you, and giving them up entirely may not be the best option for you. if you decide to do that, i do have other suggestions. but given what you are saying, i think the best course of action is to reduce but not eliminate precooked and prepackaged meat.

i hope this was helpful and not just the useless tired ramblings of a deranged food consumer. i also hope my unsolicited advice is not rude, if this was just a vent post and you weren’t actually looking for a response i can take this down. anyway good luck on the food front; i should probably go to sleep

genuinely the idea that I will just have to give up precooked meat forever is terrifying. I rely on precooked stuff with meat for dinner most of the time. going vegetarian would make getting protein and eating dinners that are filling so much harder, especially with the fucking nut allergies. like sure a veggie based dinner is healthy but I just know I'm gonna end up snacking on a bunch of junk food afterwards bc I'll still be hungry :/ figuring out what to eat for dinner is already hard enough. having outside pressure to restrict what I'm eating is just gonna make it harder.