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Dilation Experiences From a Trans Man with MRKH
content warning: anatomical terminology, non-sexually transmitted gynecological illnesses, self pleasure + sex
Iām going to get extremely honest with stuff in this post, so thereās your second warning.
In May 2022, I decided to try dilating. I didnāt have any assistance in setting this up because back in 2018, I had seen a specialist to learn how to dilate and remembered enough + googled tips on how to do it correctly.
Something that I did to make it more interesting was using a vibrator for clitoral stimulation while dilating. It vastly seems to ease the muscle tightness that youāre trying to improve with dilation in the first place, and I think it also made the process much quicker toward reaching a typical depth. I was able to dilate almost every day because of it.
But after two months, when I was starting to use sex toys instead of dilators because I didnāt feel like buying bigger ones, I had my first UTI.
Then I had my second, then my third, and when I finally went to Planned Parenthood last October for help with my fourth UTI in less than 3 months, as I had been seeing MinuteClinics or my PCP until that point, I apparently had a yeast infection and bacterial vaginosis too.
I remember before that appointment, worrying and worrying that I had messed up dilating, or that something else was horribly wrong, but when I met who would become My Favorite Medical Professional Ever, she assured me that I looked very average, despite the caveat of the trio of illnesses.
But after getting treatment, I still kept having those infections come back, especially when UTI antibiotics and BV pills can cause yeast infections and create a never ending circle, so we tried brainstorming different ideas with each visit.
Some trans men on testosterone use vaginal estrogen cream to maintain the necessary balances because HRT can disrupt itā¦ but for someone with MRKH, who has a āschrodingerās vaginaā as I like to call it, the opening doesnāt stay open unless something is inside it, so any kind of topical medicine wonāt stay in. It wouldnāt be effective as a preventative measure.
It wasnāt my underwear, it wasnāt my shower hygiene, I wasnāt having copious amounts of sex, my sex toys were being cleaned properly and the materials were safe, I wasnāt incorrectly wiping after I peeāwe just couldnāt figure out what was wrong. The UTIs kept coming back and then the other two would usually follow after the antibiotics would wipe out the good bacteria. She only knew how to treat non-intersex trans menāshe had never treated an intersex trans man before.
So, I finally went ahead and scheduled with the top MRKH specialist in the United States up in Boston, because I had seen this very same man back in 2018. He and his clinic are incredibly trans friendly, too, now and even back then.
When I got there, I got a very good grade in pussy, which is a very normal thing to want and achieve. I had indeed dilated correctly, but I finally figured out that my angle was slightly off and was causing friction against my urethra. That had been the mysterious cause of the UTIs.
I havenāt had a UTI since correcting for that, but since July 2022, Iāve had:
6 UTIs
7 yeast infections
4 instances of bacterial vaginosis
I was also told by this specialist that my vagina is trying to ācreate a biomeā and that could explain the yeast infections being so recurrent. My vagina wasnāt even a year old, so it was trying to play catchup. With that in mind, I take a probiotic every day or at least every other day, and I havenāt had an infection in several months since starting that routine.
However, he never really told me any other good preventative measures beyond ākegelsā, which would not solve the infection issues whatsoever. It was good to figure out the friction issue, and he suggested I see a urologist if the UTIs continued (they havenāt), but that was about it. I didnāt really get a confirmation if this hell would actually stop or not.
Maybe in time my vagina will become less sensitive to minute disruptions, and I think it already has since I first began dilating, but it still feels like I have to be hyper-vigilant of anything that would cause an infection again. BV pills are the nastiest, bitterest things Iāve ever taken, and they make me constantly nauseous during the length of the prescription, so I donāt exactly like getting sick all the time.
Regardless, I did all of this just so I can have vaginal sex. Despite the dozens of antibiotic and antifungal and antibacterial pills Iāve had to take, itās worth it in my opinion. This is where Iāll definitely get more honest, so third warning.
Even though a sexual partner wouldnāt be able to feel a difference, Iāve noticed that something might be different with the vaginas of people who have MRKH because, well, we (generally) donāt have cervixes or uteruses. The tissue feels a ton more malleable, in my experience (Iāve had larger partners with no pain issues beyond initial insertion), but it could also be that my muscles are incredibly relaxed. I could continue with further thoughts on the topic, but Iām unsure if those are unique experiences to me or if theyāre actually common, so I might just save them for another post if Iām feeling up for it.
In conclusion, I hope that talking about my experiences helps anyone, and Iām also willing to discuss anything further in depth if needed! I donāt want anyone to feel as alone and nervous as I did for so many months because of how little information there is for dilating/gynecological health when youāre intersex.
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