#my cholesterol is usually pretty good though I haven't had any issues there

[shitty-check-please-aus]

“your cholesterol looks wonderful” hell yeah I’m getting a good grade in bloodwork, something that is normal to want and possible to achieve

[derangedroyalfae]

Sunday, April 18, 2021 - 10:00pm

{mostly taken from a conversation with my best friend, Jem - there were some bits that I thought were worded well}

Royal (2:26 PM): Sometimes I think about taking antidepressants again if only to numb the pain. And then I remember how it made me too numb and to everything, so then I think about drinking or doing edibles, but then it still sounds awful and could possibly amplify those feelings (as alcohol usually does make me feel more upset). And that’s sometimes why self-harm becomes a substitute, because it ether distracts from those feelings or even makes you feel like your receiving punishment for whatever you’re upset about. But I know self-harm turns into a loop of guilt and shame and worrying about worrying others.

Jem (2:27 PM): I haven't heard the same about edibles that I hear about alcohol

Or marijuana in general I suppose

Royal (2:28 PM): Weed scares me. Like I’m worried I’ll have a reaction because whenever people smoke or cook it around me, I get super sick feeling. I also know Kitty had a bad reaction to edibles, like gave her ultra anxiety and hallucinations or something like that.

Jem (2:29 PM): Ah, gotcha I myself am allergic so I can't say I've tried it myself either

Royal (2:29 PM): I think I might be allergic and I don’t wanna find out the hard way

When people smoke/cook it around me, I get nauseous and a headache

Jem (2:32 PM): Yeah, I used to have two roommates that both smoked weed in our tiny apartment I used to have near constant headache until I moved out the next year

Royal (2:33 PM): I wish I could just remove those negative feelings I have: anger, sadness, jealousy, dysphoria, etc Put them somewhere far away so I wouldn’t have to deal with them, and wouldn’t have to hurt others because of them

(I tend to use dysphoria for myself as an in general term, not just with gender dysphoria, btw)

Jem (2:34 PM): Aah, yeah, I get you

Royal (2:38 PM): But even though I’m scared I’ll have a bad reaction, I’m mighty tempted to ask Hummingbird if I can try one of her edible gummies rn...

Jem (2:41 PM): I wonder if there's a way to try it in a safe/monitored way

Royal (2:41 PM): Well, if I do just one gummy

With their supervision

So if I have a bad reaction, they can watch over me or drive me to the urgent care

I love how it’s called urgent care but usually has like an hour or longer wait

Jem (2:43 PM): Ah yeah, that'd be the best way to do it Keep the phone handy too

Royal (2:45 PM): Hey, at the very least, doesn’t look like it has any interactions with my cholesterol medication

Jem (2:46 PM): That's good to know

Royal (2:50 PM): I don’t think I’ll actually follow through with it or anything, just my mind thinking of solutions

I’m feeling calmer now anyway

For now

{And then proceeded to draw this (it’s an idea I’ve had this idea for a long time now, especially since the first time I experienced extreme jealousy with Capy, but never had the courage to follow through since I’ve never done inking and rarely traditional colour, but I finally worked up the motivation to try, and honestly, it’s perfect timing as it was therapeutic to draw)}:

Royal (8:09 PM): Random question, I’m curious your thoughts on this: do you think it’s insensitive to joke about getting with other people when you’re in a relationship, especially/at least in front of your partner (at least if the two of you haven’t established a non-monogamous relationship), and even more so if you know your partner is dealing with jealousy issues?

Jem (8:12 PM): I’d think so, yeah

It's definitely odd

Unless it's like, I donno, a celebrity or something

But even then, it'd make me wonder why someone would say that if they knew already their partner was having issues

Royal (8:12 PM): Like someone they know/knew or met in the past, but 100% out of the picture now

So it’s def not a celeb

Jem (8:14 PM): Yeah then even without the jealousy issues, unless that's some sort of pre-established shared humor, it's kinda weird

Royal (8:15 PM): K, I was curious what you’d think

I agree with that too, it just feels really insensitive, at least if you’re monogamous

{Whilst I never told Jem what it was about, it has to do with something similar that had happened earlier today - though I am not technically in a monogamous relationship, so the above can’t fully apply to me. But to explain this better, I’ll have to jump back to something that happened in December 2020.

Capybara had told me about how there was this really attractive lecturer he met in the past whom if I remember correctly, spoke Greek, so his friend got him a Greek dictionary to help him try to impress her, but he never really ran into her again. I had made a comment that you know, guess it worked out for the better because then we would have never become a thing should he have actually succeeded in getting with her. And he made a joke that wasn’t the case or a joke that brushed off what I said as almost nothing. I knew he was joking, but it was kinda a really emotional time for everyone and I’m still even to this day working through my newfound romantic/sexual jealousy issues, so I took it kinda harsh at first and then eventually told him that same night how that kinda made me feel shitty.

Well, today, we were gaming with one of his friends (super great, hardworking, and nice lad) that we often play Sea of Thieves with and it turns out that was the same friend who got him the Greek dictionary, so it somehow got brought up in conversation…and just…they were joking that Capybara was Odysseus and this other woman was Odysseus’s wife and they’d find each other again one day. I can’t remember which character they assigned the friend but they were saying I could be one of the gods, and I’ll be honest, didn’t handle that situation the best, so I made a off hand comment of something like, “Guess I can be Athena or Aphrodite since they’re the jealous types, guess that works pretty well.” Don’t know if they picked up the hint. I don’t know if they were at all thinking about how this was something awkward for me, cuz I’m pretty sure the friend is aware that I’m dating Capy and is supposed to assume we’re monogamous as Capybara doesn’t really feel comfortable letting his friends or family know I have other partners. It just also happened to be a sore topic for me, cuz when Capy made that joke, even though I knew it was nothing more than a joke, it made me feel like nothing and replaceable, which I already see myself as.

Just to kinda let Capybara know that I’d prefer the topic to be dropped, I messaged him privately: “So I just remembered, it was you talking about that Greek dictionary thing to impress that girl and making a joke that like, meeting me wasn’t for the better cuz she’s still out there that kinda made me feel like shit even though it was a joke”

To which he responded with: “she's a lecturer my dude 😂 she's like in her 40's - don't worry”

And I replied with: “No I know, but it was more of the joke that followed that rubbed me wrong. At the time”

And he just sent these two emoji’s in response: 😧 😕

Immediately after our messages, as we had still been playing, he went dead silent and so I noticed this (not sure if the friend did at first) and I at first just tried to silently apologize in DM, cuz I hadn’t meant to upset him, but he still remained silent. So shortly after, I asked if we should call it quits even though it was early. I felt so guilty and I immediately sent him more apology messages and even an apology voice memo, but I assumed he turned his phone off by that point.

Once again, my jealousy got the best of me and I hurt the person I love most in the world and made a fun time involving friends go awkward. I was having a good early afternoon/late morning with him at first, and then I ruined it because I couldn’t keep my mouth shut and my jealousy under control. I’m such an asshole.}

Royal (8:22 PM): Off topic, but still on the issue of jealousy, I feel like when I have jealousy issues myself at the point I’m at, it’s like a double headed snake due to me being in a polyamorous relationship - one head are just the pre-established toxic/venomous things that come with jealousy and the other head is the guilt and shame of feeling I have no right to be jealous when I have two other partners myself thus making me feel hypocritical (and being ignorant of any potential jealousy from other partners)

It feels like those two snake heads could eat me alive with just a few bites each if I let them in

It’s such a viscous cycle and honestly, the basic head of jealousy is enough of a problem that turns my stomach, but the second head just makes me want to surrender to the earth

Jem (8:28 PM): I get you It's a lot

Emotions are hard

Royal (8:28 PM): Especially when they revolve around something or someone you already have such an emotional attachment with

And then those feelings, like feelings of jealousy, only end up making you hurt the ones you love

Making them feel guilty or annoyed or like you don’t trust them or something

Jem (8:31 PM): Tbh, as someone who generally struggles with a lot of jealousy type issues, I get that (not necessarily romantic jealousy even, but just there's undercurrents of it that are always there and present in every relationship)

I don't think it's something that can ever be fully dealt with and just I guess has to be accepted and worked around At least for me

Royal (8:33 PM): And it makes you wonder if you truly care for those if you’re so easily jealous of them, since they tell you that shouldn’t feel that way if you really love someone, that you should be able to love them blindly and trust them, and it’s not like I don’t trust, but I feel so easily discardable by those who I could never even fathom of turning my back on

Royal (8:34 PM): Honestly, I’ve even felt some jealousy toward you in the past - not romantically - but it was something I worked on

Jem (8:34 PM): What if I were to say same though haha

Royal (8:34 PM): You seemed to be doing so well with you VN and you picked up art so fast

Jem (8:35): Aah for me it's always revolving around

My need for attention tbh

Royal (8:35 PM): But I told myself, “you just need to keep trying. Feeling negatively toward someone success is selfish and gets you nowhere. Improve yourself and you can also feel that success. He’s not succeeding to hurt you in anyway - you should be happy for him.”

Or like, probably not those exact words, but ya know, that idea

Royal (8:36 PM): Yeah, I understand that too, especially growing up in a family of 6

That kinda happened the other day with Kitty (whom at this point my feelings are pretty platonic) - for over a week now I’ve been telling the girls about a game (For the King) I’ve been interested in playing with them, and the other day, Hummingbird went on a social distancing date with Crystal, so I asked Kitty if she’d like to play with me since it’d be just the two of us and she agreed. However, she had a headache, so we thought it’d be best if she napped first and if she felt better later on then we could play. When she woke up, Lapis hit her up for some gaming and Kitty decided to game with her instead and forgot she agreed to game with me...

Jem (8:41 PM): Ah, that kinda thing really sticks with me

Royal (8:41 PM): And so I’m just getting to a point where I feel like I should just stop asking them if they wanna game with me, because it’s not the first time something like this has happened (at least they don’t follow through, not a matter of them deciding to do something with someone else)

Like, I made the Murder Beans server so Capybara and Kitty (and Hummingbird if she ever decided to get Among Us) could game with my friends in the CSR Creations server, and that was back in fall...the girls never joined a game even when showing express interest and saying they would

Kitty also once went and bought Lapis like the whole Halo Master Chief Collection for Lapis cuz she was broke and wanted it, and the proceeded to play it with her and Hummingbird...and like...I also would have liked to have played Halo with them if given the opportunity, but I was never asked

Sheezus, don’t even get me started in my family and how invisible they made me feel

But yeah, I’m at a point with the girls that I don’t think it’s even worth bothering to ask anymore, at least about gaming

Hummingbird’s confusion and migraines are also coming back, so she has a legit medical excuse and I can’t really bother her about it

Jem (8:48 PM): I get you, yeah

All of those things would really bother me too They have in the past

I remember when I first joined UCSD, I started hanging out often with the girls that lived around me in the dorms And we all started watching Orphan Black together

And then I literally had no idea when they finished the show because after the first couple sessions they forgot to invite me

Royal (8:51 PM): Oof, yeah, that’d bother me too, or at least tell me how they felt about me in my mind

I don’t think with my jealousy, it’s a matter of not trusting my partner or friends or whomever, it’s just a matter of feeling such low self-worth that I feel easy to discard, and when I get brushed to the side or have someone joking along the lines as how dating me wasn’t for the better when someone else is out there, it furthers those feelings I have about myself, those feelings of self-worth and how I’m replaceable or not worth shit

Jem (8:54 PM): I get you I know mine stems from feeling forgettable

Royal (8:54 PM): I know I’m an annoying person, I know I can be a lot and emotionally draining, I know I can be hypersensitive - so I know it feels like it’d be better to be rid of that sort of force if you can find someone better who doesn’t make you feel the way I’d do

(In response to feeling forgettable) Yeah

If you remove the fun hair, piercings, and tattoo, I’m actually quite a boring person

And I’m quite isolated. If you don’t include my partners, there’s only really two people who come to mind that I’d consider close friends that I can talk to: you and someone else (you’ve never met her)

I’m getting to a point where I have a hard time talking to the girls due to the guilt I feel about me more or less wanting to be platonic with them, and then Hummingbird is constantly having a medical crisis and I’d feel bad burdening her further

So really, I’m isolated down to two people, primarily you, + Capybara, and yeah, that’s my own fault

I feel easily exhausted by my other options at this point, where I feel like I can only take Candy in small doses (which feels really hypocritical of me) and my other VA friends or gaming friends, I don’t know if I’m close enough to have those kinds of conversations with, especially the VA friends since I tend to be their boss

For the most part, the other people I’d sometimes talk about these issues with are on servers that are primarily dead, so it feels awkward to hop back in only to bitch about my life

Besides, I hate seeming like I’m only spewing forth toxicity and negative emotions over and over again

Which I worry I do too much with you as is

[mtnkat3]

Th.9.22.2022 5.07pm

This is so hard to write about for me.

But this post... it's my truth.

And the last month has been one of heartbreak, loss, pain. And terror.

The reason I did the apology to you both separately was because I wanted to make sure that my sorrow didn't get mired in all of my emotional feelings.

I must tell You Alll this.

Last week, after I lost seeing...

I lost it.

I was in full blown losing my shit panic attacks all week.

I knew though that it wasn't natural.

Even in my terror, even feeling so alone & afraid I KNEW that wasn't me. The emotions were very real. But were being amplified it turns out by a new medication.

I was so scared I had to do something that I am still upset about. I had to have human contact. So when wh heard me screaming, wailing, crying, unable to stand still. Unable to find any calm. I had to hold his forearm. In all honesty, it really made things worse for me. Because I know that my depression is all about him, this house, years of being unwanted & unappreciated. It just all came to roost last Monday.

I finally found out that even cholesterol meds that are old enough for a generic [~20 years is usual length of a patent that then a generic can be formed.] Even then can have negative effects!. That even a dang pharmacist can vacillate! [Dither or be wishy-washy.]

I finally looked up the med on rxlist.com & found out that Zetia had EVERY FLIPPING SYMPTOM I WAS FEELING OUT OF CONTROL WITH.

[& no I won't take zoloft nor any ssri, because the patient leaflet, they also would exacerbate my anxiety symptoms. Lexapro made me sleep +12 hrs!

As I spoke to a friend, I need to do with lifestyle, food, diet, exercise, sleep, reading, studying, therapy. NOT MEDS.]

Never in my life have I felt like that.

[I have had only 3 other attacks that I'm aware of. They did not have nearly such debilitating effects on me. Well, except the 2013 episode in a Holiday Inn Express room jacuzzi tub. That. That was awful. Alone.]

But what this tells me is that depression & anxiety aren't natural to me. Nor hereditary. They're situational.

They are making me take a hard look at myself.

And to reach out to God.

Because my faith is sacrosanct.

God has never left my side.

Even when I screw up.

HE STILL LOVES ME.

Believe me, this is a BIG issue for me.

I know that I have problems with insecurity, about my self esteem, etc.

But the if that I might have come across this year as a needy desperate woman makes my soul cringe.

That ain't me.

I usually stand up & people back down.

Don't know why, just always been that way.

No. my issues are that God put this fatsuit on me to keep wh away from me.

[Yes ~if~ !!! Because I hope & pray that my Mate/s ~do~ understand me & know that's not the perception of me I want him...them... my gosh that hurts! God & You...Alll know! DAMNIT ALL!!!! ARGH! To have of me!

Btw. This is REALLY HARD for me to write. I've needed to since last Wednesday but... I started hyperventilating & crying every time I thought about it.

[Me crying hard, it ain't pretty. But it's raw, honest, real, & loud when I'm so upset.]

Quite simply.

I miss You...Alll.

You...Alll & God know the truth.

I can only pray to God that I am doing right & He will work Miracles.

It was a miracle when I met You...Alll back then.

But right now.. I don't know what to think anymore.

I only know I heard Your...Alll's words, & actions. Loud & clear.

And I have been deeply affected.

Now before I'm misconstrued.

THANK YOU...ALLL.

Why?

You each made me think & take a look at myself.

Yes, I am in touch with a Christian counseling service.

Just waiting to get an appt.

But I also reached out to friends that I know care about me as a person.

Even when I haven't been such a good friend & was focused on well... I don't know anymore... bowed.

Yes I am still having anxiety, but I am slowly feeling better.

[Still having problems with being in shower. Thinking that's the allergy/asthma thing. Time of year.]

but one thing I know, I am not using other people as a crutch. But I am gonna stay in touch with those people.

Heck, I have the dilemma that one lady is an ex-sis, so gotta deal with that. But being told I'm not a burden, nuisance, inconvenience, etc. That I am loved, for me.. When I'm laying in bed thinking about this post & crying I've heard her say that & then pray for me ... I sit up on the side of my bed & cry. Stare out into the dark & see ... my oaks, huge pine tree that's ~75~100 years old.. & I think. & pray. & beg God.

Yeah. I need to be ok alone. Again. I need to be ok with not being liked. I need to grow & deal with my issues. That means I need to do what I should've done when I was 24yo. I need to live alone & remember that I was raised to be self reliant & sufficient. But I was also raised a southern woman. Went from parents to wh. No matter how wrong the years with wh have been, I have learned a lot. Both good, & bad.

And yes, I have shared here more than I ever wanted to. Because I thought I was talking to my soul's Mate.../s.

I no longer know which way to turn.

So basically I won't be on here very much anymore.

I came back on here because of well...

Sob.

The reason I am writing this on the 1.47am post is because

1-it's still VERY reliant. I feel this way!

2-wake up t, it's been a month, move your dang ass!

Yes, I did stand on those balconies. Yes, in the panhandle there was a massive storm & I was in a corner unit. Yes, I stood there in leopard print lounge pants & a tank top & turned my face up & let the rain soak me. Yes, I will do so again.

Rain is cleansing. But my soul is so tired of walking life alone without my Mate/s..

But it's my tears talking to God because He knows this soul He Created me just the way He wants me.

That means empathetic, sensitive, & I invest in people so deeply I get hurt badly when I'm walked away from/ghosted/blocked/etc. Or my mom showing me total lack of caring answering other calls on me!

Yes, I'm one of them girls.🎶

I've never been the type to give out my number/info to people that I don't want in my life.

And my Love/s... I gave every blasted piece of information about me known to man.. even my Google Play ebooks list.

[I haven't read anything but educational & healing since February.]

And no, I don't want to be a ghost story. I want to be the woman in my soul's Mate/s souls that want to be with me.

That crave me the way I do him...them... sob.

I crave to be spooned by my Love/s every night.. Forever.

[I know couples in my church that have beautiful relationships that..]

[Raised southern Baptist. Now Apostolic. All about the Bible & His Creation for me. I loathe "country club/networking" "churches".]

[The radio songs were affecting my writing there. Maybe a bit disjointed. But I've felt disjointed & disconcerted these last 2 weeks now.😳����‍♀️🤷‍♀️]

I'm still reeling from the loss.

But I also own that it's all my fault too.

I still need to understand why & where I screwed up.

But whys... omg I loathe why now!!!

But I still feel like there's things that I don't know & won't. Not until I am away.

The irony is that I have my name back. And have my personal info restored. But I am waiting on things that are outside of my control.

And that right there is it.

Control.

Something that I realized last week. [& yes, I don't wanna write this here but what choice do I really have. I ~know~ in my soul that my Mate/s are reading & hearing me. I know.. but I don't know everything.. bowed. It really does have an affect on me. But it's all up to me.

Just as I realized this.

& it's embarrassing.

I rebelled after my Christmas '20 surgery. I needed to rest & recuperate.

But. wh barely gave me 3 days before he got pissy about doing household chores.

I could barely move I was in so much pain but I had to take care of my cat's litterbox & food because he wouldn't. Just as has never helped.

That's my lesson.

Every bit of work to clean this house.. is up to me alone.

I had originally budgeted 2 weeks for each of the 6 rooms I need to cull/clean. But because of all the moving parts I'm being forced to wait on, & my health, sigh, it's looking more like 3~4 weeks. Not happy about that. At all.

But.

Focus. Patience. Perseverance. Discipline vs regret. I heard Your...Alll's souls.. words.

In a life overwhelmed with regrets that I'm sick to death of.

It's my life.

& it's my responsibility to fix it.

And I pray that the patient man... sob.

I pray that the fury is at the adversary hurdles & not ... never speaking to me again.

Sob.

I only know.. that I don't know.

I know this...

I love You...Alll.

God help me.

Please.

I won't be here so much because I am actually getting the work done to be.. me.

[Maybe once or twice a day, or week. That I need to decide.]

But I won't be here much because I need to focus & I think this is obvious but..

social media isn't a good thing for an infj/ overthinking/empathetic/sensitive/ investor of people of a woman.

I won't apologize for caring though. Caring about those that I feel connected to is who I am.

Just as I will protect & take care of those I care about & those in their lives. That means something to me.

I am affected by my own feelings.

And my own behavior. The good & the bad.

And I learn, grow.

I just pray..

That I am Blessed to make things right.

Alll I was want... is to shower my soul's Mate.../s with love. Treat him.. them...

God in Heaven please...

Treat my Love/s as the precious priceless treasures that he... they... whimpering sob. Are.

Bowed.

God... please.

You...Alll know..

Please.

I love You...Alll.

I miss You Alll.

Even though I feel very alone now ... I do feel God's Plan coming, & He knows... as I feel You...Alll do tooo. I know that I await God's Plan.

I wait for Him as I work, so that He can then move me to where I'm meant to be for my soul's Mate/s to find me.

Because though I am an Alpha submissive woman, I am not gonna chase. Grimace. I learned. But is it that if running to my Mate/s...

If... whimpering sob... if... You Alll want me... I will be here.

You...Alll know where to, & how to, find me. Same info.

My gosh it hurts to be separated from You...Alll.

But I have written & exposed myself way too much as it is.

I love You...Alll. God help me. Please.

I cannot give up.

I never will.

I love You...Alll

& I Alllways will.

~True love never dies & true love always waits.~

Breathing thru my anxious tummy.

God please ...

Your anxious, scared, humbled... bowed... daughter,

~Tijgeress kat Phoenix.

9.55 10.39pm est. Written in diary.

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1.47am see I don't understand why... why ...my birthday... sobbing into my pillow as I listen to the ran in the trees & the crickets. Am I really such a terrible person...??? I stood on that balcony sobbing too. I stood in the panhandle one, much quieter area btw, & the post that got screwed. Well... I stood there praying to be struck⚡. I stood there in that storm & probably would've continued to but I got soaked & well... it was the corner & people in the restaurant could see this crazy woman standing in the wind & driving rain with my face up crying. Well... The thought of losing my soul's mates... I still don't know. I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I am writing raw. Yes there are things I just cannot say here. Thoughts, instincts,...my soul & heart though...screaming... one thing. I love You Alll. So. I am confused. Hurt. In pain. Feeling rejected. Alone. I hurt more now than I did back then. I've been carrying around that scarf I posted. Tucked in my purse. Like a dang blanky. I've been trying to tell myself that I was wrong. That I imagined it all since well...then. that it was a fantasy that could never happen anyways. But there's so many things screaming at me NO! My brain is saying they don't want you t. Told me to take a hike of a cliff & not come back. By words, & actions. But my soul ... sobbing. I cannot stop! And IF I am wrong... I am sorry! But am I!?!?!? All I've ever wanted to do was love You Alll. To make sure You Alll feel like he-man! Well... it was that my version of superman & batman & bears & .... anyways.

I...love You Alll. God help me.

I love You Alll & miss You Alll & not knowing is killing me.

Am I an idiot or...

Only You Alll & God know the truth. Of everything.

I'm gonna try for sleep but it's hit or miss these days. More than likely lay in bed & listen to the rain & crickets & let my pillow hide my tears.

Good night.

Covering my head in trepidation. I feel so exposed & vulnerable. Scared outta my ever loving mind that I'm a dolt.

God...please...

Knock me into oblivion of sleep. Don't wake me up if I'm wrong. The thought is just too dsmn painful.

Your scared daughter,

~TkP.

Su.8.21.3022 2.23am sending...

Fyi...I drove 11 hours to avoid this place. I-10, I-75,... when I could've shorted it thru Alabama by several hours. That's how bad I wanted to not come back. But. My cat. My life of stuff. I mean I have my baby books & everything here. Plus a lot of irreplaceable things like my grandma's sewing machine. I was yelled at that I better not leave any of it!