#most of my friend groups are queer

[smol-feralgremlin]

I graduated high school in 2015 and spent years being forced to be more feminine by three different sets of foster parents. I wasn't allowed to keep my hair short because "it cost too much money" to go to a salon to keep getting my hair trimmed. My last foster mom kept buying me shirts that were feminine, and hated my "sweatpants phase" in middle school and I suspect it was because it made me less feminine. My foster dad shamed me into shaving my body hair regularly because I was 16 and "nobody wants to the see that hair when you're running around and playing sports"

Rampant acephobia at the time I graduated pushed me back into the closet, facing it irl from someone I once called a friend pushed me so far back i didn't know I was bi until I was 22. At 22 I was also vocal about support for queers and my then boyfriend and now ex(thank FUCK) told me that if I was trans I had to tell him because that meant I was a dude and he needed to break up with me because he didn't like dudes.

In regards to gender, I only realized I was genderqueer...two months ago now. I'm 26. I spent most of my life being told I had to be a girl. No matter how much I flinched at being called a lady or my general dislike of skirts and dresses which were "girl things".

I graduated high school in 99.

There was a student at our school named Wayne.

Wayne was gay. It was obvious. He was unable to stay in the closet even if he wanted to. To make matters worse, he was also Black. From a bullying standpoint, that was not a great combo. Both Black and white students made fun of him relentlessly. He was ostracized from the only community that may have given him protection. Only us theater kids stuck up for him, but not to significant effect.

Wayne was bullied so much that at one point he finally snapped and attacked his bullies with a lunch tray. I was actually seated in perfect line of sight and just sat there chewing my soggy fries in stunned silence. It didn't even seem real as I was witnessing it. The image of him wailing on his main bully as the food on his tray flew off is permanently logged into my long term memory.

The bully he attacked had blood all over his face and went straight to the nurse. Other than superficial cuts, he was not injured.

Before the attack, Wayne went to teachers for help. He went to guidance counselors for help. He went to the principals for help.

He did all of the things you were supposed to do. No one helped him. They wagged a finger at the bullies and warned them to stop.

Wayne's lunch tray melee was the only thing that worked. His bullies stayed far away from him. But a week later Wayne was expelled and the bullies were given no punishment.

So... no.

No one in my school talked about being trans.

Because the only way to survive being openly queer was to bash people with a lunch tray.

[cottoncandysprite]

Y'all ever look back and realize your least fav character in your fav show was actually the one most painfully similar to who you were when you first watched it

[andresmounts2]

You can be queer & transphobic. Full stop. Being a queer person doesn't make you this like superior person or mean that you can't be a bad person.

You are transphobic if you intentionally deadname someone.

You are transphobic if you intentionally misgender someone.

You are transphobic if you fetishize trans people.

You are transphobic if you put down trans people in your jokes.

You are transphobic if you make fun of unproblematic labels/pronouns.

You are transphobic if you have a bias against certain groups of trans people.

You are transphobic (and racist) if you intentionally deadname/misgender POC, but always respect the identity of white/white passing people.

You are transphobic if you misgender someone and instead of apologizing make yourself out to be the victim in the situation.

[gayforcarstairsgirls]

People saying the amount of queer rep in Heartstopper is unrealistic have clearly never been to an all girls school

[unmaskingdisability]

A rock was thrown through the window of our local trans resources office.

My trans and Disability Group was attacked by a dozen troll accounts last week talking about how trans people are into beastiality and child porn.

Troubleshooting, a coworker told me "if these are the worst things that happen this year we'll be getting off lucky"

I know he's right. And the fact that that's true terrifies me.

[7hefear]

ok i gotta do the gunshots thing again just in case. and also bc ive seen some of this on my tumblr friends blogs lately

hi if ur identified endogenic system or pro endo fuck off thanks. i ask you to do research. and if u dont wanna just block me thanks thumbs up.

more shit in tags lol

[thedevotionaltour]

pony is playing on this damn radio sorry that's not the point of this post. but it's kinda crazy to be in a time in my life wherekn real life the majority of my friends are trans. I've always had a lot of trans ppl in my life like online I can't easily off the top of my head name a close online friend who is cis. But it's nice that in my real actual life it's like wow. I have people who share a similar experience to life as I do. And it's very nice.

[mizu-no-doukeshi]

I LOVEBE MY FRIENDS SO MUCH ONG!!! they know im still away BUT THWY STILL INCLUDE ME IN THEIR PLANS KNOWING I CANT COME 😭😭😭 they keep telling me hey we're going to do this but dw we will go again when ur here... ANS IM SO??? AFEWNWVRHWJEH 😭😭

id die b4 i can say this to their face tho </4

[gibbearish]

maybe this was common knowledge and ive been severely out of the loop but the fact that russel t davies is gay is kind of rocking my world rn?

[astriiformes]

Me, gritting my teeth as I do my best to ignore the fact that I have been battling my own brain particularly intensely (a mental health crisis that is ongoing, due to life circumstances that cannot be changed) and the many other responsibilities that have been stressing me out as of late so I can instead throw myself into the middle of a complex, inflammatory conflict between two groups I care about that is threatening to have a horrific amount of emotional collateral in part due to the fact that no one else has been willing to step up as a mediator: Wow, just like in Pentiment

[the-maddened-hatter]

The battle of the constant desire to obtain blatantly queer goodies (clothes, stickers, mugs, ect) vs the need to stay low-key in my deep south state :(

[erophonemic]

vent

[hyunrun]

found out a close friend is actually racist and homophobic that's crazy 😓😓

[pumpkinwastaken]

[izzy-b-hands]

Finally getting to watch Cucumber and I get the hint that Con’s character is probably something of an asshole

So of course he’s immediately my favourite and I’d help him along out of the rain with his crutches any day dlsakjfas

[bitchkay]

"Did you just she/her me?😕" Me asking if someone still perceives me as a woman because I'm offended they misgendered me.

easy to get over

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"... you think I'm lying when I say your attractive..?😕" Me being offended that someone dosen't still perceive me as a woman because I have a crush on them and they imply that their straight and I have mixed feelings because yes you did gender me correctly and I love you for it but that means you're not attracted to me because I'm not straight or a woman.

i'm in shambles