#me when they initially partner up for a good cause and similar beliefs and stick together despite things changing around them

[silverspadesss]

idk if any of my d20 followers also watch arcane but deli and colin are becoming sooooo jayce and viktor coded

[samslosthoe]

j2 compatibility chart expanded part 2.

here’s a continuation of the aspects of the j2 chart. we’ve got a lot more in here to do but i'm gonna edit a little to make it go faster. HERE’S PART 1 if you missed it.

i think by now we all know that the astrology says these two are quite the pair, whether it be in friendship or in something more. under the cut i’m gonna do the challenges/negatives after i finish my positive aspects. 

[ jared mars sextile jensen neptune ] - this one isn’t for the hats of the bunch. the thing that sticks these two together is a focus on a cause, a project, or an idea of how to make the world better. they’re creative together, and if this were the only positive aspect these two had, i would worry that their connection would end after supernatural/any other joint projects. however, we do have many other aspects to support a long lasting union here, so i’m not too worried. this IS a friendship aspect, but the part i find most interesting that it tells us that jared is the leader and jensen is the idea person. i don’t know that many people see them that way, but i think it sounds accurate.

[ jared mars conjunct jensen pluto ] - welp, THIS ONE is for the hats. and i quote: “sexual energy seems to simmer barely under control.” shit, y’all. “THE INITIAL STAGES OF THIS RELATIONSHIP ARE FRAUGHT WITH SEXUAL TENSION, WHETHER OR NOT THIS IS AN INTIMATE UNION.” i, uh. think that’s all that needs to be said. i don’t even need to add anything here. well. maybe this gif.

[ jared jupiter trine jensen jupiter ] - ancient astrologers said that jupiter was really lucky/beneficial in a chart like this, meaning this aspect tells us much of what we already know: any kind of connection between the two of them is going to be good. the attraction between them is like a magnet, but jupiter doesn’t necessarily mean sexual, just that they’re ridiculously drawn together. however, this aspect also comes tacked with it “lucky in love.” so uh. take that as you will.

[ jared jupiter sextile jensen saturn ] - while the bond is strong, they take different approaches. jared is adventurous and jensen is cautious, but it balances out. jared beings jensen to life and jared gets some much needed stability. 

[ jared saturn sextile jensen neptune ] - see, this aspect right here is why i don’t pay much attention to the first one i listed today saying that they could split up after supernatural. saturn speaks to commitment, which i think i talked about a lot in the last post, and neptune is dreams and inspiration and that kind of stuff. so together, this is another one of those “THIS IS FATE” aspects. this one, again, doesn’t mean necessarily a sexual relationship, but in any case, it’s fate to be close. 

SO unlike last time, i’m gonna be skipping the duplicates, which is just the planets swapped. like up there says “jared saturn sextile jensen neptune”, well the next one is “jared neptune trine jensen saturn” so basically, same thing. 

[ jared pluto trine jensen jupiter ] - yet another soulmate-y one. this isn’t just a love-at-first-sight thing, though that is also implied. this is that they really fuckin get each other on a bone-deep level. this is gonna be intense no matter what the nature of the relationship, and they make each other better people. 

skipping more repetitiveness... blah blah blah, soulmates, make each other better, more fate, more creativity, bffl, yadda yadda. YOU GET IT.

OKAY it’s challenge time. what have you got for me, space friends? tiny cheat sheet that you don’t need: a square is a challenge, and an opposition is a bigger challenge. 

[ jared chiron square jensen saturn ] - here we have past hurts getting in the way. this challenge actually has a positive spin in that, if they communicate the past hurt to each other, they’ll bond over it and overcome it together. but if they don’t, they’re just going to compound the pain. this is not one we’d be able to see as they’re hidden hurtful experiences, but as this is already a 15 year partnership of some kind, i would say we’re out of the woods on this one.

[ jared pluto square jensen mars ] - this one is interesting because it shows an explosive nature. here we have the issue of if communication doesn’t happen properly, they will explode. this could actually get physical, which i find really interesting. basically, all that magnetism and passion of the positive aspects can get volatile if they didn’t have a way of understanding each other. from history we’ve been told that jared and jensen don’t really fight, that they did the one time and that they made the decision to never do that again and handle it in a different way. but who knows if that was just a thing they said in public? honestly, though, it doesn’t seem like these two struggle to communicate.

[ jared neptune square jensen venus ] -  this is the romeo and juliet aspect. which, hey, sounds great, but then you remember how that story ended. basically here we have such an intense kind of love that makes you forget perspective. they get lost in each other and forget the rest of the world. this isn’t so much dangerous for them in a relationship, but everything outside of it. this is that friend who forgets you exist once they have a new partner. 

[ jared uranus square jensen saturn ] - the combo here comes up a lot, actually, so i’m interested in this. however, it seems backwards. it says JARED is hard to pin down and jensen wants the commitment, but in other aspects, we have jensen needing to make sure he has freedom and jared to respect it. basically this challenge is finding a balance between ALWAYS BEING TOGETHER and being independent, which is what we’re seeing these days at the end of spn and quarantine keeping people inside and apart. this is an aspect made for this weird time.

[ jared mars square jensen mars] -  mars pitted against each other makes these two have this idea that they’re in competition. i think this one probably worked itself out early on, but i can see how it would flare up again now that they’ll be working on different things. there could be a lot of tension if they both want to pursue more acting and one does better than the other. however, they could skate through this easily if they’re doing different things or if it IS something they addressed when they were younger. 

more squares that talk about tension without communication, i think we kind of covered that, so let’s hit these oppositions before i leave you for the night. 

[ jared jupiter opposition jensen chiron ] -  i’m gonna be honest, i don’t get this one. but this could be because we don’t see these guys talk a lot about this kind of stuff, but anyway. this opposition says they have conflicting ethics? that their challenge is to respect each other and learn from their differences. says that jensen is more sensitive and touchy here but jared is all about learning and talking about it. this is an oppositon meaning it’s more intense than a square, but i...? it says also that if they can work through it they’ll be better and stronger together for it. maybe this already happened. i dunno, they seem to have a similar code to me. 

[ jared neptune opposition jensen jupiter ] -  okay, maybe this one explains the last one. this bad boy says they’ve got differing beliefs in the spiritual and religious sense. apparently jared thinks his way of spirituality is better. and that this aspect could really bring a deterioration to their union if they don’t respect each other’s beliefs. huh. interesting.

that’s all i have for you for now, folks. if you have any questions, comments, suggestions, please let me know! i love talking about this with y’all. seriously, you make my days. hope you enjoyed! 

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My Early Saturn Return

When Saturn entered its home sign of Capricorn in December of 2017 it gave those of us who were ready an opportunity to take an advanced track to growth. As I write this in January of 2019 I am finally realizing exactly what this transit meant. Every 29.5 years Saturn returns to home; if you happen to meet the prerequisites you could’ve taken advantage of this rare transit but along the way you’d definitely have to get out your comfort zone. We all have free will and simply because Saturn returns to challenge us to grow doesn’t mean we have to accept the offer. Many do just that and choose to decline, as a result they also choose to stay in a pseudo-comfort zone, live unfulfilled lives with untapped potential. Before my Soul chose this journey I was much like the masses: living a predictable lifestyle, seemingly comfortable, in a career path I hated, unsatisfied, lonely, etc. Now I’m living within the unknown which has immense creative potential so anything can happen (this isn’t always good but certainly not all bad), I’m learning to become comfortable with being uncomfortable, I’m no longer trapped in an unsatisfying career, I am surrounded by the love of my partner & daughter, and I’m growing into the more evolved version of myself.

My true Saturn return is when he enters Aquarius March 21, 2020. However, because I was so eager for growth I expedited the process and I found myself experiencing the lessons a bit early and I didn’t realize what was happening until the lessons were reaching completion, which is usually the case in any formal institution. Saturn energy can be very strict/confining and it has a way of squeezing you to extract impurities while forcing perfection. This transit will challenge you to push past rigid limitations of your mind and physical reality for a breakthrough that will allow you to experience the ultimate freedom that comes with having gone through the gauntlet of Saturn. The goal of all this testing, pruning, and fine tuning is to become the most High version of yourself, but in order to align with that there’s a series of tests you must go through and pass with little to no error. *Whew* I’m ready to share my story.

My initial inspiration for embracing the Saturn in Capricorn transit and unknowingly initiating an early Return was only because of the rewards. I was young, green, and naïve; very similar to 0. The Fool in the tarot deck, intrigued by the Magik and mystery of it all with little to no concern for the consequences that come with this chosen path. My focus was only on the potential for abundance, stability, and manifestation power which is the end result of having done the work and learned the lessons; essential all the positive attributes this transit had to offer. Nonetheless, that ignorant blissful & light hearted attitude is a necessary component because it prompts the Initiate to select the experience. If the Initiate knew how spooky other aspects of the journey were they’d probably side against it. For me things started off very lovely and light. However, I soon learned many sacrifices and risks were involved and I had to go through the darkness to bring back the light. Moreover, I had to understand that in order to get the rewards Saturn wanted to give me I had to earn it and really work for it because nothing was going to be handed to me willy nilly, that’s simply not how this energy works. Along the journey I had to go through the good, the bad, and the ugly all while trusting I’ll reach the full circle moment of aligning with my initial inspirations once my curriculum is completed.

The curriculum Saturn gives you is centered around you. The course moves at your pace it may or may not take the full 2.5 years, it all depends on how fast/slow you learn and level up, if you have to repeat a lesson, or get stuck. Your lessons will force your to face your fears so that you can become fearless. Saturn is all about limitations; fear is one of the biggest limitations that will inhibit you from harmonizing with your True Higher Self. By dealing with your fears head on through experience you learn that you’re equipped to handle it if you’re willing to go through it. Once that’s done and you get through it you’ll realize there’s nothing to be afraid of. After having faced the fear and overcome it typically you feel a lot better once it’s all said and done. In retrospect, you’ll be able to look at the situation from a higher perspective, this is the vantage point of your True Higher Self. Because Saturn energy has a lot to do with discipline to balance out the strict aspects of the Saturn Return there is a built in reward system of consolation prizes to keep you inspired to finish the journey.

At a mundane level the Saturn Return is about “adulthood/career” so naturally things that traditionally come with the responsibility of being an adult are sure to surface during this transit. Additionally, if you’re in a career path that’s not in alignment with your hearts desire it’s likely it’ll phase out if you’re sticking to the process. If you try to hold on to the things that need to be uprooted for your growth you’ll be playing yourself and adding an extension to your coursework or simply becoming stagnant. We see this all the time with people stuck at dead end jobs because they fear the uncertainty that comes in tandem with following your heart. At a higher level the Saturn Return is about merging with the actualized Most High version of yourself who is a secure, confident, master manifester that trusts in thyself and power because they’re tried and true seasoned with wisdom/understanding. This can only happen if your commit to undergoing the process until its completion.

The bolded words are key because Saturn and this transit are connected to two major arcana cards in the tarot. The first is XV. The Devil, which is synonymous with the goat that is Capricorn, the zodiac under Saturns rulership and its current location during this transit. Moreover, XV. The Devil Tarot card is connected to the UNDERworld, limitations, fear, and will strip you away from your comfort zone. All of this can be very scary and make you want to turn back and abort the mission. In many cases, you’ll reach a point of no return because you’re in so deep and attempting to go back to your old life is a lost cause because the things you once found solace in has become nonexistent. This energy is the most difficult aspect of the journey because it challenges you to keep going so you can eventually breakthrough by digging deep into our underworld which is the subconscious mind. From this you will uncover hidden aspects of yourself, identify your demons which are your limitations and remove the shackles of fear. The goal is to grow through everything you go through. This energy can be hard to deal with because growth is by no means a comfortable process but you have to remind yourself when you’re going through hell you shouldn’t stop in Hell. Ultimately you want to resurrect from “hell” defying limitations with a sense of freedom from old structures and mindframes that once kept you locked into the outdated paradigm of adolescence, this is what Saturn is encouraging you to mature from.

The next tarot card is XXI. The World which is directly connected to the earth element and the planet Saturn; hence the green wreath which is symbolic for Saturn’s ring. This card is the last of the tarot, marking completion and the end of the The Fool’s journey. After having gone through and learned various karmic lessons (which is what you needed all along) and survived The Devil’s gauntlet here comes the easy part, reaping the rewards (which is what you wanted all along) XXI. The World represents having reached the full circle moment of materializing tangible results that drew your Soul to journey with Saturn in the first place. Moreover, this cards energy alludes to a cosmic graduation and advancement to the next level. Congratulations for wherever you are on the journey; even if your commencement is yet to come know it’s on the way. Be proud of yourself for taking on this assignment, as many do not. Life’s hard enough as it is, atleast give yourself credit where it’s due... you deserve it.

Your beliefs/knowing will be tested to determine if you truly are who you believe/think/know you are and what you’re capable of. Throughout the process aspects of your life and world will be broken down especially if they aren’t in alignment with your true self. However in the end you’ll be built up, stronger, and wiser than you were initially. It’s hard and by no means easy but when you reach your darkest hour that’s typically when the miracle appears so never give up. Instead, give in to the process, essentially say “fuck it” while trusting that everything is actually happening for your highest good and not harm. This is the act of letting go and putting yourself in the hands of your Higher Self with confidence because you’ve done your due diligence and there’s nothing more to do or say besides trust/believe/know.

“When you decide to do the assignment of the soul, the heavens will further empower your will and efforts to bring it to completion”

My Saturn Return BLessons:

[hahnralph]

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[andersannabel95]

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Relationships are a beautiful thing, because they have a way of making people develop feelings that words can’t express. People start getting into romantic relationships as soon as adolescence kicks in, and they start developing lovely feelings of infatuation towards the people they admire or those they feel closest to. Although everyone has his or her own experiences when it comes to relationships, we can all agree that the feelings that result, especially in a new relationship are so great that we wish they could last forever. In a bid to explain their conduct or feelings in relationships, people have come up with ways of labeling situations in ways that are not necessarily true. The problem in passing a blanket label over a relationship situation is that every relationship is different, and something that works in one relationship might not necessarily work in another. For example, people have these common beliefs that “all men are dogs,” meaning that they will always cheat on their women at some point, or that women are overly possessive and jealous. Although a number of men, regardless of how big or small, have cheated on their women, and a number of women are overly jealous, it is not fair to assume that all men and women follow suit. These are 15 conclusions that people often make about relationships that are not necessarily true – and believing them can end up driving you insane. In fact, people have no reason to believe in these 15 myths, because they are often misleading and can cause a good relationship to turn into a disaster.

#1 Since Someone Loves You, He Or She Will Never Leave You Do you believe that love conquers all? It is true; love is the solution to all the problems we face in the world. The way of love demands that we love our neighbors as much as we love ourselves, and do the same to those that consider us their enemies. Love is the language that everyone on the planet understands, and when an individual repays hate for love, he or she has already won whatever battle was supposed to ensue. However, when it comes to relationships, it is immoral to carry yourself irresponsibly due to the fact that you know that your partner will bear it because he or she loves you. The truth behind love conquering all lies in accepting the other person for who he or she is, not in expecting the other person to accept you when all you are being is selfish and insensitive. Believing that someone will never leave you just because he or she loves you is a myth, on the contrary, he or she might leave you because he or she loves you too much to begin hating you.

#2 The Best Relationships Are Between Two Opposites Are you one of those people who believes that you can only fall for a man or a woman who is very different from whom you are? Numerous people believe this, which is one of the reasons you will find church girls going out with the most rebellious boys in town. However, this rule might apply to magnets, but it is not a fact when it comes to relationships. The truth is that people who are different from us look attractive and fascinating in a way, but that should not be enough reason to get into a relationship with them. The relationship might be fun and exciting in its initial stages but, as it progresses, the chances that the two will drift apart are high. Being with someone like you will definitely lead to much less friction, your shared core values will make the other person a strong support for you, and the similarities will eventually lead to more positivity in the relationship.

#3 Couples Who Go Through Premarital Counseling Have Better Marriages It is very important for a couple to go through premarital counseling classes before they get married, because these classes prepare them for what to expect and how to conduct themselves in marriage. However, going through premarital counseling classes does not automatically mean that a couple will have a happier and longer marriage compared to one that did not. Premarital counseling, just like any other form of counseling, requires people to make a deliberate effort to solve their problems. Therefore, since a couple does not receive a secret formula to solving problems and avoiding divorce, they are not necessarily better off than those who do not go through it. The important thing is for the two people in a relationship to try to understand each other to the best of their abilities. Holding on to the traditional pillars of marriage, which include love, communication, and understanding, will surely lead to success – whether a couple went through premarital counseling or not.

#4 If He Truly Loves Me, He Should Know How I Feel This often applies to women in relationships, where they suddenly shut down and expect the men in their lives to automatically know what’s going on. In many instances, men are to blame for the cold war, because they keep repeating the same mistakes over and over. However, expecting the men to know what their women need and how they feel might be a tall order. The fact that someone is in love with you does not automatically mean they know how you feel all the time or even have the slightest idea of what you need. In fact, we cannot claim to know that we understand what we feel all the time or even know what we need, so how can we expect someone else to know? The reasonable thing to do here is to share your feelings with the one you love and then hope that they will have the words or actions in their wisdom to help you feel better.

#5 The Romance Never Fades In People Who Are Truly In Love When you fall in love with someone, the excitement that comes with the new relationship is amazing, a feeling that we always hope will last forever. However, this feeling is temporary and is largely due to the release of pleasure chemicals in our brains, which fade as we become more familiar with our partners. People often interpret the end of the excitement and romance as a sign that the relationship should end, which is a terrible way of looking at a relationship. Anyone who is mature enough for a long-term relationship knows that the lovely feelings and romance need rekindling and that both parties have their part to play. If you think that the romance in your relationship will never end, you believe in a myth that will land you in great disappointment. However, you can fan the flame of romance once again by doing the things that the two of you love doing.

#6 Shacking Up Will Help You Prepare For Marriage For people who might not know what “shacking up” is, this term refers to people living together before getting married. The idea behind this “living together” is to determine whether the person you are thinking of getting married to is the right person for you. However, studies show that the couples who live together before marriage are less likely to marry compared to people in a relationship who have never lived together. In addition, the couples who eventually get married tend to be less committed and less satisfied in their marriages compared to those who did not live together. Besides, the period that the couple spends living together is what is supposed to be the honeymoon phase, and they end up starting their marriage from a more difficult phase. Furthermore, couples who eventually get married after living together do so because they already have children or because they are used to sharing rent, as opposed to getting married just because they want to get married.

#7 Fearing That You Might Be With the Wrong Person Is a Sign That You Need To End It Some people end relationships as soon as they start fearing that they might be dating the wrong person. Although it is important to go with our gut feeling, we should know when to follow it and when to ignore it. Whenever you feel uncertain when it comes to the person you love, it is important to investigate and find out if what you are feeling is real or not. It is common for people to feel uncertain when it comes to making the decision of whom to spend the rest of their lives with, but the doubts often have little to do with the other person. If you are one of those people who fear commitment or being vulnerable to someone, then you will feel those feelings regardless of whom you are with. The best course of action here is to deal with your fears or insecurities and then make the right decision about your relationship. If the problem is with the other person, then you might need to end it.

#8 Love-Making, In-Laws And Money Are the Leading Causes Of Fighting Among Couples What would you say is the leading cause of fighting and/or divorce in married couples? Fighting to the extent of considering divorce is serious, and this means that the cause of such fights has to be huge. Although some of the biggest fights that couples go through are linked to sex, in-laws, and money, they might not necessarily be the cause of most of the fights. You will be surprised to find out that couples fight over the smallest of things, resulting from their inability to connect emotionally. One person might be saying something, but his or her loved one might understand those words in a very different way. Although these three are common causes for divorce, a couple needs to learn how to deal with the little fights that usually make no sense. The small senseless fights often push two people in a relationship further from each other, and leave them vulnerable to divorce.

#9 Having A Baby Will Solve All Our Problems When couples are saying their marriage vows, they innocently commit to sticking with each other through sorrows and in good times, with the only thing that can separate them being death. However, since every couple goes through challenges in the relationship that they feel are unique only to them, they tend to forget their vows and choose to let the smallest things come between them. Childless couples who keep fighting might think that the solution to their problems is having a baby – a solution that barely works, if ever. Although a baby is a bundle of joy, it can complicate a relationship even further. Raising a child is a lot of work and, in addition to taking up almost all the time for the relationship, most couples express higher levels of marital dissatisfaction upon the birth of their first child. Therefore, a baby might actually cause more problems as opposed to solving any of them.

#10 People Who Love Each Other Do Not Hurt Each Other We often believe that there is no way that someone can claim to love us and then do anything to hurt us. This belief is usually uninformed, because human beings are not perfect and they will eventually let you down. So when your loved one hurts you, will you leave them? Furthermore, will you expect them to forgive you when you hurt them, or will it be a sign that you do not care for them anymore? Everyone in a relationship needs to understand that, more often than not, the mistakes that people make are about their shortcomings, and are not necessarily a malicious plot to hurt their loved ones. Actually, people usually try to do everything they can to avoid hurting each other, it is just that they eventually fail and end up doing so. It is highly likely that someone who keeps hurting the person they love might be clueless about their actions, and aren’t actually doing so because they are evil.

#11 Good Communication = Happy Relationship You must have heard that good communication is the key to a successful relationship, which is true, most of the time. For a relationship to work out, a couple needs more than just great communication skills, so we can correctly say that good communication is one of the keys to a successful relationship. However, it is important to understand that, in a relationship, over-communicating can strain it to the point of even breaking it. This means that it’s a good idea to shut up at times for the sake of the relationship. If your partner talks in their sleep, leaves the toilet seat up, wears too much makeup, or refuses to cook or clean, it is a good idea to talk about it at first, but let go of the issue as soon as you realize that talking is not helping. It would be easier for you to know that the person you are in love with or building a future with has some weaknesses that you can live with.

#12 Jealousy Is a Sign That You Truly Love Your Partner Many people think that one way of knowing whether they truly love their partners is by developing feelings of jealousy in relation to how their partners act around their friends or strangers. However, jealousy is never a good thing, because it can kill a relationship faster than anything else can. If your man looks at another woman and appreciates how she looks, it is important to see his compliments for what they are, and not to see as if he has an agenda with her. Jealousy makes someone look far less attractive than he or she truly is, and it is a sign of insecurity. A great way of beating jealousy is being confident about who you are and just how valuable you are. The moment you start believing or acting as if other people are more valuable than you are, or that your man or woman values someone else more than he or she values you, you are setting yourself up for failure.

#13 Having More Money Will Make The Relationship Happier A couple can be tempted to think that the reason they are not as happy as they thought they would be is that they do not have enough money in the bank to fund a happy lifestyle. Since a couple doesn’t live in the big house they wanted to live in or drive the cars they wanted to drive, this can be used as an excuse for a failing relationship – an excuse that is as ridiculous as it sounds. Although external factors have some impact on our relationships, they are not the only reasons why a couple is failing. Many couples think that if they had more money, children, or even time, things would be great, but that is not necessarily the case. Often, people need to look into their relationships to find solutions to their problems. External factors, even if they were to turn out as we would want them to, would never resolve the conflicts or result in a drastic improvement in the relationship.

#14 Conflict Will Usually Lead To a Breakup It is a common belief or assumption that, if two people love each other deeply, they will never fight, because disagreements and fights are a sign of incompatibility and a failing relationship. However, the above belief or assumption has very little truth in it (if any). Regardless of how compatible two people are, they will have to go through conflict at some stage in their relationship. The fact that two people in a relationship are unique beings is enough to lead them to some form of conflict, because they have grown up under different influences and gone through different experiences to become who they are. Therefore, since it is not possible to avoid conflict, it is important to realize that it can bring the two people closer if they decide to handle it in a mature and healthy way. Therefore, conflicts are part of relationships, and it is up to a couple to decide whether they want the conflicts to end the relationship or to help build it.

#15 Getting Married Will Solve All Our Problems This is possibly the worst myth anyone can believe, because marriage is not a solution to any problem, but a commitment to sticking together despite the problems. Many people expect that when a person gets married, he or she will stop cheating, stop drinking, or stop doing something else that the other person absolutely hates – expectations that will always fall through. Although people get married for all sorts of reasons, the only reasons that should matter above all others are whether the two are truly in love with each other and whether the two can tolerate each other. If one of the parties in a relationship cannot live with the other person as they are, then there is no reason why they should get married in the first place. People often continue to be exactly the same as they were before getting married, a fact that people with terrible misconceptions need to understand.

Source: TheRichest