#me ๐Ÿค them: prioritizing the wrong tasks and overexplaining things and struglging to get our points across
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abstractlesbian ยท 1 year ago
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Find someone slightly annoying but in really small harmless ways so I decide none of the behaviours are worth bringing up with them โ†’ realizing: hey, Im also annoying! solidarity! โ†’ realizing we have a lot in common and starting to bond โ†’ finding out other people find this person annoying and are vocal about it behind their back โ†’ finding out this person has ADHD like me that's (at least one reason) why we have all these traits in common โ†’ fear.
#trying to be as vague as possible even tho this is someone I know offline and no one involved follows me online#on one level I get it that relying someone who is forgetful and does things slower/differently than you can be frustrating#but like its a medical condition. and u dont need to know someones medical info to have some empathy instead of assuming malice/incompetence#i just found out they have adhd today but day one i was able to go 'wow i did not like the way they handled that but i dont think they were#being hurtful/careless we just handle this task differently. rhey didnt do anything wrong and i can let this go and adjust my expectations'#not to say im perfect and never ableist towards others. my first reaction to seeing traits i dislike in myself (from my disabilities)#in others is often to get annoyed and needing to adjust my thinking#i get annoyed with myself when I cant focus / cant be coherent or concise / cant finish tasks quickly etc#โ†’ get annoyed sometimes when I see others doing that โ†’ realize thats not fair to them โ†’ realize thats not fair to myself#โ†’ assume good intentions and find ways to communicate/collaborate better with them โ†’ get along better and maybe make a new friend!#sorry i am rambling#idk its scary seeing someone being disliked for adhd symptoms/traits that im mostly doing a good job of managing/hiding in this#social environment so far and knowing that could happen to me in the future#but im also like ready to have this persons back#me ๐Ÿค them: prioritizing the wrong tasks and overexplaining things and struglging to get our points across#and not noticing when we talk too loud and forgetting tasks halfway thru etc#not to be that guy but : without love it canmot be seen!!!!#lifes so much better if u just assume ppl arent doing things a certain way to be annoying + let go of / adapt to the thing that are annoying#but not harmful#thats not exactly what without love it cant be seen means but thats one of the ways i apply it in life#just like dont assume malice. assume u dont have all the info. approach ppl/situations with empathy.#or youll make yourself more miserable needlessly#again like only for shit that's not harmful obv#i need to shut up and go to bed
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