#mbti relationship analysis

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wriothesley 3, 16, 17 :3 -- @milkstore

[Character Analysis Ask Meme]

What is Wriothesley’s mbti/enneagram?

Wriothesley is a 9w8 ESTP sp/so.

What is the best way to win Wriothesley’s heart?

Wriothesley is a simple man, and simple men require simple methods. Simply put, the best way to win Wriothesley’s heart is to flirt with him. He doesn’t need much more than that. Challenge him, tease him, take him by surprise. Play hot and cold. Accept his invitations for tea, then spurn his advancements the next. Present yourself as a catch, dance right out of his reach, and let his instincts kick in. But make sure you’re having fun too. It’s not a game if both people aren’t having fun.

What are Wriothesley’s strengths in a relationship?

Of the many traits Wriothesley was blessed with, two that stand out are his level-headedness and his tendency toward action. No matter what you may go through as a couple, he will not be overcome by stress or fear. You can always trust him to be solid no matter the storm. Not to mention you can trust he will not take the backseat in your relationship. If there is anything wrong, he will address it. But more than that, if he sees the chance to make you happy, he will take it, whether it’d be bringing home flowers or taking you on a date to something you want to see. In a relationship, he won’t let you feel alone.

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Tropical/Western Astrology Masterlist:

My first astro related post ever<3

Observations about Moon in 1h, debilitated and exalted planets

8h & sex, attraction, cottagecore and 3rd house vibes

sex, 12th house, mars aspects in synastry etc

8h, 12h, cancer moons and pluto influence

8th house placements and venus in 7h

degrees in astrology and celebrity deaths

mbti, venus in 12h, pisces moons etc

pisces, taurus, air signs, kibbe

tiny little observations

astro transits, lunar men, moon in 8h

voice, 12h vibes, synastry

sex, fame and freaky behaviour

astrology of sex

the astrology of voice 🎶🎧

relationship astrology

Random Astrology Observations

Houses in Astrology

The 12h & Its Vibes: A Detailed Analysis 🦋🧚🏼‍♀️

The 8h Saga 🌹✨🦇🌌

ya'll compiling this made me so nostalgic 😭😩🥺most of these posts are from 2022, when i was a wee young lad in the fields of astrology and while i hope you enjoy going thru these (if you haven't already),,, keep in mind that these are from a looong time ago and thus the basic nature of many of these takes ://

fetus heaven writing mostly about sex, relationships, 12h and 8h is sooo funny 🤣🤭🫢i really was just a girl ✨

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CB typology

I haven’t ever done this type of thing before so I’m not sure how accurate this really is but it was fun to do. To simplify what I’ll be doing, typology is a way of classifying things into groups to gain a better understanding. I will select a character at a time and analyze them to the best of my ability.

I will be going over MBTI, and enneagrams. I’m no expert when it comes to these so just remember I’m not sure how accurate everything will be. I want to do alignment at some point but I think it may be hard to assign. I’ll focus on one character at a time.

Chase:

ESFP: The Entertainer.

ESFPs are part of the “explorer” group within MBTI. They are often described as spontaneous, lively, and adventurous. ESFPs are always looking for new things to try and they like to entertain others.

Out of all the personality types ESFP-A suits Chase the best. Chase is constantly looking for ways to change the stories and goes into things without a plan. He finds the unknown exciting. Throughout CB he pursues to develop a relationship with Buddy despite knowing nothing about him. Chase even accepted the keys before fully understanding the magic behind them and didn’t hesitate to help Silver find her family. He is constantly looking for different ways to solve problems and is very generous.

Chase, like ESFPs, is energized by people. We don’t get to see Chase interact with many people aside from Deacon and Buddy, but we do know he has plenty of friends and loves to socialize . ESFPs typically are good at reading their environment. Chase has shown throughout CB that he has high emotional intelligence which goes in hand with being able to read people and the environment around him. ESFPs extroverted sensing usually helps them pick up on social cues to give them a better understanding of those around them.

I could go deeper into this at another time and focus on strengths and weaknesses and how they align with Chase's personality type.

When it comes to enneagrams there are many that fit Chase but to really find one that fit him I read into which enneagrams were common within ENFPs and studies the strengths and weaknesses alongside goals to find which one better describes Chase. But to really find which enneagram best suits him we would have to dive deeper into his character. (Just remember I have no idea what I’m doing lol, if you find an enneagram that better suits him please let me know.)

2w3: “The Host”

This type desires to be loved and accepted. They express this by building attachments and seeking different types of relationships. They fear being worthless and often work hard to meet others' needs to mask their own insecurities.

Within CB Chase's main goal is to help his Mother. He daydreams about being a pop star and gaining enough money to help her financially but when he meets Silver and learns about narratonin his approach in helping his mother changes. We as the reader are familiar with Chase's goal to help others but we rarely see him work through his own problems since he is too busy trying to help others. (Ex: His mom and Buddy). Chase didn’t hesitate to offer Buddy a place to stay when he found out they were potentially starving him and is always looking for a way to assist and help others. (Including book characters.) It's quite ironic that Chase does not possess the helper key role as helping is in his nature.

Shout out to prior character analyses that I read (which inspired me to dive deeper into the characters). I don’t remember who made them otherwise I would tag them. If anyone is interested in temperaments you can find an analysis in the fan discord by IzNome. I will eventually be making one of these for both Buddy and Deacon but I’m not sure when I will get to it.

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Monster Next Door EP. 9: The Power of Expression - A Double Edge Sword

So it's been awhile since I posted any content of my own for MND, but this episode genuinely got me in the feels. I am curious whether or not there are lots of people tuning into the series because I feel like its promotion leans very playful and I'm sure for some, leaving very little room for there to break the confines of stereotypes surrounding MBTI and introversion/extroversion. However, like how I personally feel about We Are, both series have more underlying themes for those who can recognize its significant beneath the surface.

Disclaimer: this analysis will lean into my own personal connection with the character Diew, and I'll be highlighting themes such as loss of a loved one, neurodivergence, and other underlying themes of mental health and trauma. If that's something that could possibly be triggering/sensitive for some, I would just like to preface before y'all begin reading and be bombarded with some deep topics. Alright, everything is under the cut (extremely lengthy read)!

Diew's Childhood: Reverting Back into His Shell

For those who have tuned into the series, we understand that Diew has a hyperfixation of turtles, and we're sent back to a flashback montage to reveal more about his upbringing and family dynamic during childhood. We're also revealed more about Diew's connection with his father before he passed away, which low and behold: me and Diew share very similar stories as I've also lost my dad during childhood, which caused a lot of strain between me and my own mother just the same as Diew (for similar and different reasons in comparison). I might have not caught it trying to go back to find out the exact age Diew's father passed away, but the flashback gives us a rough estimation between his preteen-teenage years where a proper social relationship is established between the two.

When someone experiences traumatic events during critical developing years such as childhood and adolescence, many will remain rooted in those existing emotions and outsiders may view them for the "mental age" as our emotional growth becomes stunted. Because Diew had a close relationship between him and his father for all sorts of reasons that many people can relate to: having someone be your cheerleader, someone to introduce you to the world around us, someone to understand your own individualism and cater to it accordingly. However, I believe one of the biggest reasons for such a strong connection between Diew and his father is fairly simple: existing as the closest form of unconditional love.

Although the series hasn't stated it like The Rebound has, I personally believe Diew to be autistic, if not autistic, definitely someone of the neurodivergent experience. Even though the series revolves around the concept of MBTI, specifically categorizing Diew as your average introverted person navigating the world around him, I wholeheartedly believe his character is deeper than such a superficial label (which I believe is the main reason for why many might stray away from giving this series a chance). Even though I haven't been formally diagnosed with autism, I am diagnosed with ADHD as an adult while relating to various characteristics that are innate in autism, but many of these traits and experiences fall under the neurodivergent umbrella. I also think that the usage of the turtle archetype is incredibly powerful for the characterization of Diew: turtles are known by social norms as "slow," physically or mentally, "in their shell" aka shy/kept to themselves, and can be irritating to others because they're unaware of most "normal" social cues and are considerably lacking "common sense", etc.

In the opening sequence of the episode: we see the dynamic between Diew and his father, which as the episode progressed, we witness a conversation between the father and son about how books become doors to our own worlds that as I summarize: books become portals to our own worlds that make our ordinary lives extraordinary. Since the theme of the series is about next door neighbors meeting and falling in love with one another, I believe the relevance of Diew's love for books to be more significant than that: neurodivergent people tend to live in our own worlds.

In my experience which has developed into my own artistic branding: many of us live in a neurotypical world where we feel like an alien walking amongst other human beings, but we weren't given the travel guide or manual in understanding how to interact with them. Despite knowing that we're also living out the same human experience: nuance comes into play and for many, can hijack our lives for the worst. In Diew's circumstance as well as the average child: we are clean slates that deal with the concept of nature vs. nurture early on, as well as our environments playing critical roles in our personal development and how that development will in turn, affect how we interpret the world and engage with it.

Because Diew is a child who's quieter (in this case, not shy to interacting with others), this becomes a disruption in societal norms (which of course vary between culture to culture and other underlying intersectionalities based in race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc). For many neurodivergents, our engagement with the world around us breaks the pattern and mold of what society expects from each and every individual to maintain order. During childhood, most of us are our authentic versions of ourselves but hand ourselves over to the norms of society and its binaries. For many who learn from observation that their own silence and solitude is weaponized by those who adhere to the social norms, many teach themselves learned helplessness: what difference does it make if I were to speak up? It's not like anything would change because they still won't accept me for who I am.

I tend to speak in metaphors, but specific to my art background: while neurotypical society tends to interpret the world in grayscale, we tend to interpret the world in full color, as majority of us excel in pattern recognition and memory, are detail oriented, hypervigilant, and so much more. However, this experience can be overwhelming for many, which contributes to one's baseline in areas such as faulty social communication/interaction, sensory overload, mental dissonance, etc. We see this with Diew having a single close friend, wearing noise cancelling headphones to cut through sensory overload, having social anxiety during moments of being the center of attention or being asked to do things against his will and being reprimanded for honesty over "politeness."

Due to Diew's socialization and innate personality traits, his support system can act in one of two ways: acceptance or rejection/denial. Unfortunately, this is where the crossroad between his central support system begins: the desire to appease the social hierarchy of life and to come out on top, the selfishness of living life thorough the self interest of yourself or your family. To be the most recognized, the most well off, the most luxurious, the most successful, etc. For many parents that navigate the world with emotional immaturity, their priority lies in conformity over authenticity, their acceptance in changing themselves for the sake of appeasing the group. For them, nothing is more detrimental than being singled out and ridiculed/mocked: this insecurity becomes generational, this insecurity evolves into life-changing consequences such as hereditary mental health disabilities or the nurturing of one in a "normal" family. The toss up between acceptance versus denial sets itself in stone the moment moral value is assigned to one's character, when someone becomes of value based on the origin's value system.

This exchange between Diew's mother and father highlighted the moment Diew adheres to this moral belief: Diew is not like other kids. Well, what about me makes me not like other kids? In comes comparison, in comes self doubt, in comes perfectionism, in comes abnormality, in comes conflict, in comes all sorts of insecurities that take over the vulnerable: children who simply don't know any better because if mom and dad said so, it must be true, right? My parents can't be wrong about anything if it has to do with me? I am their child after all, I'm their blood, I'm the whole of two existing halves.

We have not received this context in the series, I could only put two and two together through my own lenses and what I know and experienced: the various trauma responses and coping mechanisms from each affected family member. Diew and social communication, Diew's mother and obsession with control, Diew's grandfather and undermining his physical health to maintain peace within their household. What becomes a reality check for most of us growing up as neurodivergent people: the moment we step outside of what we have been taught to believe, and finding out that we might have been wrong for most of our lives, that we've been living for all the wrong reasons. That we were living for others and not ourselves. That we cannot survive without the "care" of our loved ones: the same people who expect appraisal and worship while oppressing and undermining others in the same breath.

Intention vs. Principle: The Flaws of a Mind Reader

Although there were other moments in the previous episodes to strengthen the themes of this episode, I felt like the Phrae trip highlighted these reality checks once Diew has difficulty adjusting to God's boyfriend treatment, which is primarily acts of service. This also becomes a game of mind reading and taking away Diew's autonomy, another version of his mother and her severe control issues. The trip is another home away from home, where this behavior evolves into babying and coddling, but because the intent is out of their best wishes for Diew: damned if you do, damned if you don't becomes Diew's life motto which he slowly breaking away from after being introduced to new people in his life that showed him different experiences outside of his family and his ex boyfriend. That there are people who exist and accept him for him, that there's no reason to hide anymore.

What I appreciate throughout the scenes leading up to Diew's confrontation with God is how well Park portrays these moments of frustration and questioning God's integrity when it comes to verbal communication (his microexpressions are everything to me, saying so much with such subtlety). This is something that I have issues with as someone who describes herself as "open book," and find myself irritated whenever people are not straight forward about their intentions, or set expectations in one moment and abandon them at the drop of the hat. For us, because we tend to navigate the world with so much nuance, direct and clear communication is nonnegotiable, and if you have various mental health disabilities (I've checked into the game), the mental race to make connections and recognize the established pattern based on the evidence of prior engagements and experiences becomes instantaneous but also exhausting. But P'God had always known how to respect my boundaries...why is it changing? What made it change?

The café scene also highlighted Diew's hypervigilance, isolating the conversation between God and his friends. Because all of them tend to joke and speak with humorous undertones, social cues become incredibly difficult to decipher at times, especially with people who you haven't established expectations for communication with. Because God know his own friends but Diew does not at the same level of depth and experience, statements like these only invite more intrusive thoughts that continue to spiral as more stimuli piles on: God's friends and their lack of indoor voice in a quiet establishment, social cues pointing towards God botching the group's plans for "Diew's sake," inconsideration towards those occupying the same space and carrying themselves with entitlement, this scene stressed me out and I would have done the same as Diew in that moment. Because I'm being catered towards and everyone else is miserable because of it: I'm probably the problem then...because I'm not like other people and I'm difficult to understand and accompany. Honestly: this is why I shouldn't have come with them. I'm just burdening them.

Power of Communication: It Takes Two

This exchange not only went in the direction I was expecting it to go, but the resolve was incredibly sweet and heartwarming to me. Going back to the "damned if you do, damned if you don't" motto: what I find so special about Diew despite his superficial characteristics appearing "ungrateful" or "undeserving" to some is that his growth completely transforms the motto. Damned if you do, damned if you don't, but I'd be damned if I let this misunderstanding separate me from the person I love. What I appreciate about God on the receiving end was the navigation of this conversation and how both parties confront their innate ideologies and understanding. Diew prefaces the difficult conversation with praising God, not starting off the exchange with immediate criticism that would drive most insecure people away and tune out any revealing information afterwards. However, God allows Diew to finish his entire thought before proceeding with his response. which I anticipated as such: "I'm doing all of this for you and now you're saying you don't like any of it, so that makes me the bad guy then."

The beautiful moment that had me rooting for Diew was the confidence in standing his ground, something that we've seen develop in him as the story progresses during exchanges with people such as Jane and his mother. That he has autonomy, that he has a voice that is heard and accepted for what it is and not what it's "supposed" to be, that he can be understood because he may not be like other people, that was never the problem, which actually lies with everyone unwilling to become the person they need to be for him: that his boundaries may force you to reevaluate the way you carry yourself in this dynamic and no longer hold the power within your hands. The moment of recognizing that we become victims to the world by choice and the confinements of our own body and mind, and that the world may never truly reveal itself to those who deliberately choose ignorance over awareness: the choice of empowerment over oppression.

On the opposite side of this exchange, God goes through a revelation: the misstep in passive listening. Many people, especially those with faulty communication and emotionally perplexed, only engage in communication to hear what they want to hear. To identify within the confines of the binary: good vs. bad, like vs. dislike, yes vs. no. During the first half of the conversation of reassuring God with positive reinforcement, Diew softens the blow that will most likely arise: the potential of punishing someone else for doing a "good" thing. Insecurity feeds off of self identification, rooting itself as a core belief once someone turns that delusion into a false reality: the moment Diew says "I really don't like it" becomes that signal for confirmation bias to rush in. Win's prior qualms against him despite being in the same band, Jane antagonizing Diew while also putting God down in the process, and I'm sure so much more. If not properly dealt with and nipped at the bud: these intrusive thoughts become a breeding ground for toxicity to occur and cause a rift in the dynamic from an exchange of false words. But through his own personal development and growth: God was able to turn a not so pleasant moment into another piece of evidence that he is a safe space for Diew to unmask and keep the conversation true to himself. Rather than chasing Diew back inside his shell, he only invites Diew to continue remaining in his authentic self.

Emotional Dumping: The Arrival of Guilt and Shame

This part of the episode almost ran me over ten different times: it made me feel seen, it made me feel heard, it made me feel represented. All because I've literally had this exact same thing happen to me (and more) with my own mother, so this moment felt incredibly personal to me and understood Diew on a deeper level than most viewers might have not even considered when watching this series. When your family goes through a grief as difficult as the death of a parent, the drastic switch from a two parent household to a one parent household is absolutely devastating, especially when your children are young. Single parents if they choose to remain single stretch themselves thin, they are constantly overwhelmed with doing all they could and still unable to scratch the surface with many things, and unfortunately most of them trap themselves with egocentrism by comparing themselves to an alternative life unlived if their partner were still present. Most of them subscribe to a life filled with "debt" that requires repayment: this repayment is their kids believing in the narrative of being a burden, of being owed to repay back every little piece of ourselves to our parents, of being told that we cannot survive without their involvement (some even going as far as using the existence of their own children to support their entitlement for reparations), of simply existing to uplift their parent at the cost of their own autonomy and self worth.

"And I a bad son?" I don't think I could really describe the emotions I was experiencing when I witnessed this exchange of words, because I've had this conversation in my own life on multiple occasions verbatim. The headspace Diew occupies when it comes battling this internal struggle between being a "good" son while also expecting his mother to be a "good" mother, and the devastation that comes along with realizing that those two conditions may not actually exist. The progress Diew achieves from being someone who was intimidated by person to person interactions, someone who people benefited from his own silence and inability to confront others, someone who deep down deals with a battle of justifying his own value due to inconsistent value judgments from his core support system, brings me to tears because for many of us, myself included, deal with this level of trauma to the point where therapeutic intervention and personal accountability for debunking and redefining our core beliefs that have deeply planted themselves inside of us may be the only solution to properly negating all that we've known. That no matter what I do, I'll never be good enough, not even for my own mother.

God's response to this moment of being told such a personal matter (even if it was only the surface) honestly continues to heal parts of me little by little and living through Diew vicariously. The development of their relationship and taking the appropriate time to address various areas in their dynamic: some days will be baby steps, other days will be strides, on occasion full speed, every now and then there will be rain checks. But the one thing that will remain a constant: I'm willing to embark on this journey with you by my side.

Honorable Mention: There's No Place Like Home

Ok time to ACTUALLY go to bed at a reasonable hour tonight: thank you for those who made it down here, I bring cookies! 🍪 But on a more serious note: my ears are always open to feedback or any thoughts others might have. I appreciate MND for having this level of characterization for these two and I can't wait to see what else they'll get thrown into even better if Pee gets socked in the face by God but of course on Diew's terms. Alright good night <3

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Ponyboy & Darry Curtis: The Exploration of a Relationship Between an ESTJ & INFP.

I feel like if there’s two types I see the unhealthiest relationship between, it’s INFP & ESTJ, and honestly there are so many characters I could have used for this analysis, but I feel like this one is the most classic examples.

Also, this isn’t to say that an ESTJ & INFP couldn’t get along, but given their contrasting personalities, it would take a lot of effort and may be difficult to do in a traumatic environment, especially the one the Outsiders sets up.

Note: To be honest, I was kind of surprised this won the polls until I remembered the musical came out recently.

Fi-Te vs. Te-Fi

Essentially, ESTJ and INFP, have the same traits, just a different order. So each of their dominant traits is the other’s inferior traits.

In the case of Ponyboy and Darry, their personalities clash because of their inability to develop the lower traits in their stack, as well as the way they react to traumatic events. In the death of Johnny and Dallas, Ponyboy begins to dwell on his feelings a lot, and pretty much shuts down, while Darry’s default is to push his emotions to the side, and he kind of expects Ponyboy to do the same.

Darry has a very logical approach to life, and gets frustrated at Ponyboy’s inability to think things through, a criticism Ponyboy eventually does choose to accept about himself. On the same hand, Darry’s insensitivity, and need to push his own emotions aside does create a rift between himself and Ponyboy.

Ne-Si vs. Si-Ne

As the “middle traits”, these usually are the traits that would help the two find middle ground, however, it seems to create a bigger rift. Ponyboy is constantly criticized for being trapped in his own world, so much so that he ignores the world around him, and ends up getting hurt.

His Ne, on the other hand, can be his greatest strength. He is the narrator, so we see the world from his lens, where he is critical of the society around him, and thinks of alot of “what if” scenarios, and is able to connect alot of things to what he’s read.

Darry often gets confused when he is able to do well in school, but not apply that to real life. He uses his Si, and his Ne to fuel his ideas, and to help him do well in school, but he is unable to use it in his real life. Ponyboy gets so distracted by his dominant functions, that he sometimes ignores his lower functions completely.

But when Darry uses his dominant functions, or pushes his emotions aside, Ponyboy sees Darry as being harsh, when really, he just wants what’s best for him, and to him, that is taking a logical approach to things. Being more firm, understanding his surroundings so he can protect his family.

The ENFJ Mediator

A huge part of the book, is the fact that the middle brother, Sodapop, is the mediator towards the brothers. As far as MBTI goes, he has none of the same cognitive functions as the brothers, but his stack shadows Ponyboys.

Still, Sodapop wants nothing more than group harmony, and usually takes in the emotions of everyone else before his own- which ends up being to his own detriment. Both brothers have trauma, and struggle with acknowledging their lower traits.

Darry has trauma from having to give up everything to raise his younger brothers at a fairly young age. Ponyboy has trauma from also losing his parents, and then… pretty much everything that happened in the book, from almost being killed to having to be on the run to the fire, and then watching two of his closest friends die right in front of him.

Because of this, Sodapop never gets a chance to process his trauma. He also lost his parents and had to drop out of school to help Darry. He watched his brother run away, and the next time he heard from him, he was in the hospital after being inside a burning building. At the end, he is the one who tells them what they need to here, and this also allows him to open up about his own feelings.

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ATEEZ Wooyoung MBTI Analysis

- ESFP -

An in-depth analysis of an idol's MBTI type. Based on my opinion and observations, may change later. Not an expert.

ESFP (Se - Fi - Te - Ni)

Dom: Se (Extroverted Sensing)

A perceiving function that uses our 5 senses to process the external world.

Wooyoung is always aware of the present moment, quick to react and to take action. He also pays attention to physical things such as aesthetics, the visuals of the performance, the way he looks, etc physical appearances matter a lot to him.

He enjoys photography and videography, which are pretty good activities for Se - it allows him to use his senses to make visually stimulating images and videos. Physically engaging activities seem like the best way to energize him e.g cooking and riding a bike. Cooking is great for his Se as it engages with all his senses - all the movement in cooking, tasting the foods, the aromas, watching the food cook, plating, maybe he enjoys hearing the sounds of food cooking as well and/or the way kitchen tools slightly hit each other (e.g knife on a cutting board).

This moment especially was an incredibly Se dom moment. Comparing it to Si user Jongho (Si has to step back and assess first), being the Se dom he is, Woo just went for it.

Aux: Fi (Introverted Feeling)

A judging function that uses one's own values and belief to compare and make choices

As Fi wants to be authentic, that is what Wooyoung always strives for - he always wants to express himself well, to be real. He wants people to like him for him. He returns the same gesture with others - he wants to know the real version of others. Wooyoung tries not to make assumptions at first meet since he knows he will not learn everything just from one encounter. He seems very empathetic.

Tert: Te (Extroverted Thinking)

A judging function that uses established facts and systems to make objective, working decisions.

He's quite goal oriented and takes time to plan to achieve these goals, even if it's not the most detailed. Either way, he knows how to get what he wants and works hard to reach his achievements.

Wooyoung lays down the rules as well - Te can be by the book, which Wooyoung can be sometimes. E.g when he was explaining how he found it rude when juniors would not put in the effort to correctly bow down to him and other senior artists. Wooyoung has a strong belief in being humble and kind (Fi) and wants to implement this in everyone.

Inf: Ni (Introverted Intuition)

A perceiving function that uses one's own personal insights and ideas

In his episode of "Fill in the Blank" series, Wooyoung said he wanted to use dance to convey deeper messages and emotions for others. He wants to be a sense of comfort, the light in other's darkness. He has always wanted to make an impact on others from a young age, especially considering how much he values relationships.

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Why is he not an xSFJ or ISTJ

Both types use Si - Ne, which I do not see in Wooyoung at all...xSFJ's Fe is understandable, but Wooyoung is sometimes a bit too straightforward and honest to be using Fe in his main stack though lol.

And ISTJ just does not make sense in general for him.

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Other analysis:

Enneagram | Birth Chart

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Howdy howdy! First I just wanted to say; Congrats on 10,000 followers! You deserve it!! Your hard work, creativity and dedication are so present in everything you do, and it's so inspiring. I wish you lots of luck in your future projects ☺️☺️

May I please ask for a romantic ship for The Boys?

I'm 22, non-binary (AFAB, if that matters) pansexual/romantic, and polyamorous (no preference for gender)

General personality stuff:

MBTI is INFP

Ennegram types 2, 4 and 8

Zodiac: Taurus sun, pieces moon and rising

Hogwarts house- Hufflepuff

I'm in college- Women and Gender Studies major with a Queer Studies minor

My goal is to go into harm reduction/community + advocacy work : )

Dreams for the future; ideally a semi-active lifestyle where I can pursue my interests- I'd like to have a home gym, a gaming set up and a crafting room one day. The work I'm going into will likely be very emotionally draining so ideally I'd have the free time to relax/recharge by playing games, doing art, and hanging out with my partner. Something I'd really love to do one day is get really high and go into an aquarium or planetarium

Favorite places I've been; Costa Rica, Italy, Santa Cruz/Monterey (specifically the boardwalk and aquarium)- I'd love to visit France and Japan someday

Pet peeves; I strongly dislike when people have an inflated ego and genuinely don't care about/respect others. Hate capitalism/pro-capitalist arguments and People who don't recognize larger underlying issues or who choose to ignore key information when looking at an issue

I hate when people are condescending and cruel. I get super annoyed with people who don't follow road safety or who are just rude drivers

Appearance: I'm 5'3, chubby, and kinda muscular. I have lots of scars on arms, chest, and legs. I have mid-length brown hair that I usually wear in a half-up style. I like dying it but bc I'm working right now, the ends are just bleached. I have dark brown eyes, some freckles/moles/scars littered across my face, and round cheeks. Fashion consists of graphic tees (with puns, memes, and trippy art) and jeans or shorts/cargo pants. I'll wear lots of different kinds of jewelry, including fun earrings, chains, and chokers. My style is casual/comfortable. I put effort in, but prioritize comfort lol

Hobbies/likes- theatre/acting, going to the gym, roller skating, playing video games, listening to music (and singing along.. Badly), smoking weed, watching TV shows and movies, drawing/coloring hanging out with friends, Writing, reading, going to museums/amusement parks, taking care of/watching animals, making bracelets/jewelry, surfing/swimming

intellectual interests; extistentialism, law/politics, current event/media analysis, anything to do with space or the ocean, animals/environmentalism, studying languages

Positive traits: my friends have told me that I'm smart, funny/goofy, sarcastic, polite, thoughtful, strong, patient, trusting/trustworthy, empathetic and compassionate. My friends generally come to me for advice and I've been told I'm a good listener. I also like make myself useful (doing dishes, wiping down counters, laundry, etc) I'm passionate and very excitable and it makes me pretty talkative (when I want to be). Sociability depends on my mood. Sometimes I sit back and enjoy group dynamics, other times I participate more in conversation

Negative traits: I'm pretty self conscious/ insecure, and indecisive because of it. I definitely have a tendency to be envious. Bad habit of taking stuff personally and dwelling on issues that I should let go. can get annoyed/frustrated easily, especially if I'm overstimulated. I'm also jumpy and gullible. Communication is very important to me in all my relationships, but when I get depressed, I tend to isolate.

I show my love through acts of service and prefer words of affirmation. I enjoy doing things for my loved ones and making sure they can relax, feel safe, and be happy. I'm not exactly sure how to describe my type so I'll list a couple characters I simp for lol- Wolfwood (trigun), Aki (chainsaw man), Percy (Vox Machina), Levi (attack on Titan); I guess how I'd describe them is- sarcastic, closed off but vulnerable, funny, brooding, obsessive, sensitive

Misc stuff

- Right now, some of my favorite media includes The Boys, Trigun, The Office, Gravity Falls, Rick and Morty, Adventure Time, Breaking Bad, Hollow Knight and Arcane.

- Games I usually play include Overwatch, League (I'm ashamed), Hollow Knight, Pokemon and Harvest Moon

- Currently Attempting to get through a book called The God Problem. Super interesting but goddamm it's thick

- I collect a lot of stuff. I have a Ton of comfort items- my posters, stuffed animals, collectible figures, etc.

- When I first meet people, I'm overly formal and will crack a few jokes, but once I'm familiar with someone, I cuss a lot and enjoy playful teasing, but I always encourage to set boundaries if they need to.

- I'm a big over thinker. I can be pretty independent and self sufficient (sometimes) but I'm also very very insecure and doubt myself a lot. I've got lots of vocal stims and am pretty fidgety.

- I listen to a lot of different kinds of music but I think the main genres I listen to are indie and alt rock

- some of my favorite artists include khai dreams, Hozier, Mitski, Maneskin, Queen, and The Weekend, and I really enjoy musical/cartoon scores and soundtracks (especially Adventure Time and Steven Universe)

- Fave songs right now are Stress Relief (late night drive home), Good Luck Babe (chappel roan), Don't Look Back (kotomi, Ryan elder), First Time (Hozier), and Die For You (the weekend)

I did my best to flow along with the rules you laid out- hopefully I didn't miss anything- I apologize if I did. I know this is really long, so I apologize if it's overwhelming. Please don't feel pressured to answer. Take care! 💛

-thatstonedwriter

Marvin loves your intelligence. Whether you're talking about politics and law or the best way to undermine Vought, he's absolutely blown away by your thought process. He's always bragging about how smart you are to anyone who'd listen

Everyone else you work with (maybe there are one or two exceptions) tends to think about what they want and act on it compulsively. You're level headed, thoughtful, something he wasn't used to at first, but instantly fell for

You and Marvin are constantly doing things to make each others lives easier. You might wash the dishes one night while he folds the laundry. Showing up at the office with coffee and something sweet when he pulls an all-nighter. Small gestures that mean so much and that show your love

Dealing with Butcher means being told hurtful things and being expected to brush it off like it's nothing. Knowing it'll hurt you deeply, Marvin makes it clear to him (in private of course) that you're off limits. He can be an a--hole to him all he wants, but he draws the line when it comes to you, no exceptions

Marvin definitely takes inventory of all the things you collect (posters, trinkets, etc.) and, no matter what, finds something to add to it. He finds tons of small, cute things that remind him of you. They're left on your desk or on the counter in the kitchen where he knows you'll see. Usually there's a little note attached in his pristine handwriting, always with a heart by his name as if you didn't know it was him who'd left it there

I hope you like it my love!!!! :D Xoxoxo💜💜💜💜

Want to request a ship?

[mistype360]

enneagram/mbti typing for @bumblingbush

enneagram: 5w4 so/sp OR 7w8

imo you actually have a pretty strong case for being a 7 (although I can't type you as a 7 and a 5 simultaneously - even in the same tritype). I know that you yourself relate or type a lot more often as a 5 - so if anything you should trust yourself more than this typing. I just hope this gives some input rather than confusion.

consider if you actually relate to any enneagram 5 trait structures. I'll link one here if you want to check it out. many entp's or intp's will see themselves as being an enneagram 5, since it's associated with logic or ration, when being an enneagram 7 is still in the head tritype. (figuring out mistypes is in the name 😎)

for one, you often repeat that your desire is to live a life of happiness. you fear not having a fulfilling life, and ending up on the deathbed regretting what you had done. while you do express some 5 traits (wanting to be seen as capable, processing emotions alone), your 7 traits stand out much more.

even outside of the 7 archetype of wanting a fun life, you describe rationalizing your emotions, which is essentially the way a 7 deals with their internal process. when it comes to anger, you "question things more" and "try to come to a sort of conclusion." when you don't, it makes you further frustrated (7 working with 8). the 8 wing is even more present, with the questions about dealing with anger pretty outwardly and quickly.

honestly, I think this quote from yourself describes it pretty well

"I make sense of emotions when alone (why I feel this way, when did I start feeling this way, and that’s how I get to the root of them)"

alternatively, I can see where you might be a 5. however, if you are, then you must be a social 5, which could explain some of the mixed traits you have in your questionnaire (and some of your 7 traits).

I ended up settling on the social 5 subtype, as they somewhat also tend to rationalize emotions. the only real difference I see between a social 5 and yourself is that you don't seem to distance yourself as much from others. in the trait structure of social 5's, they have a sense of "restrained greed."

here's a description by beatrice chestnut I thought you should look at if you wanted to figure out a social 5 within yourself:

"If this is your subtype, you always try to be and look smart and knowledgeable, but that doesn’t bring you true wisdom or joy. Nor is it a humble way of life. You may treat some people differently from others, according to whether or not you view them as members of your “special group.” Notice if you tend to be warmer and more available to people who have the same level of interest and expertise in your preferred subject or cause—and colder and less attentive to people who don’t. You may prioritize causes and the search for knowledge and meaning above individuals out of an unconscious fear of meaninglessness, but this keeps you disconnected from people and unable to truly care about them. Your tendency to bypass emotional development in favor of purely intellectual engagement may mean you think you are more conscious than you actually are."

mbti: entp

finding yourself stuck in decision or analysis paralysis often is likely some extroverted function in your stack that you are avoiding, or not developing as much as your other functions. while many intp's experience analysis paralysis, what made me type you as an entp over an intp was mostly your intentions.

to me, this not as much "analysis paralysis" as it is considering all the outcomes. I think you also said it somewhere yourself in your post that you often find it hard to make decisions, as there are "many options to consider."

the idea that ne doms are crazy over change and are completely open to it is just another stereotype. you pretty much seem to have a healthy relationship with it. maybe you aren't as "impulsive" as many entp's would be, but you use your ne to a reasonable extent - which is really just your ti doing it's auxiliary job.

also, you are pretty open to changing your mind (again, to reasonable extent). it's both an intp and entp trait due to their ti, but from what you explain, it seems that you take information in before you let it affect your framework of thought.

you don't seem to approach situations directly with this framework (ti). instead, it seems that you are intially receptive (extroverted function), and then that filters into your structure of thought (introverted function) - rather than the other way around.

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: Hi MBTI-notes. INFJ here. Many thanks for your tremendous insights. Your analysis of unhealthy INFJ’s has been absolutely spot on for me. I can see that I can be incredibly, sometimes laughably, unrealistic, have great difficulty being present, and alternate between too cynical and too trusting.

However, despite knowing about the INFJ weaknesses for several years now thanks to your blog, I keep making these mistakes. Some feel harder to change than others - like the difficulty focusing that, in my case, seems similar to ADHD.

I am trying a variety of things including finding the right mentors to bring me back to reality and hold me accountable, DBT, and improvements to basic physical self-care like sleep. I might also consider getting on medications for bipolar I (a diagnosis I have received due to two manic episodes, although they’re not sure if I need to be on meds) or ADHD.

In your experience, what is necessary to successfully close the gap between simply knowing about my problematic patterns and actually changing them? I am really hoping that improvements in emotional intelligence via DBT will close the gap, and also am trying to be more systematic about maintaining and improving my interpersonal relationships. Maybe it will be a combination of many small things like mastering physical health and routines, realistic goals, the right mentors, discipline, etc.

(From the INFJ who mentioned bipolar I). As an addendum, I just wanted to mention that the two episodes definitely involved some psychotic thoughts and behavior, but it's unclear if they fit a traditional manic episode, as I've not experienced periods of little sleep but high energy. It’s quite possible that BPD is a better explanation due to a connection in both cases with a romantic interest. I just wanted to mention this in case it impacted your response at all.

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"Knowing" about problems means being in possession of the facts, so it comes mainly through observation and gathering information. A lot of people go through life not knowing how problematic their thinking/behavior really is until they get critical feedback or generate very negative consequences. Even then, perhaps they still can't admit to having a problem and they use defense mechanisms such as denial to avoid confronting the truth. Getting through these defenses can be an arduous process. Even though knowing is really only the first step, it can already be quite a difficult step.

If knowing is only the first step, it means it's not enough. More is required. Knowing is not the same as "understanding". Understanding comes mainly through developing self-awareness, which involves the capacity to perceive and evaluate oneself accurately and objectively. Self-awareness can be described as low/high or shallow/deep. To improve self-awareness usually involves going inward, through reflection and introspection, to discover the roots and mechanisms behind psychological issues.

If knowing is about grasping the facts, understanding is about being able to provide a proper explanation of the facts. For example, a lot of people feel low self-confidence very acutely but they have no idea about how it came to pass or why they suffer. When you don't understand your thinking/behavior, it means you don't know the causes of it, the motivations behind it, or the factors that contributed to its manifestation.

That said, when people know but don't understand their problem, they are still capable of some small self-improvement. Generally speaking, they'll seek out advice from those in the know and try to discover some common rules, methods, or procedures for dealing with the problem, which allows them to become more functional in daily life. However, while they can improve a bit, their growth tends to be limited because it remains unclear whether the solution they've found is the correct one. Perhaps they feel some relief or progress, but it doesn't really seem long-lasting. Why? Knowing without understanding means every "fix" you try is basically blind and random experimentation. If something works for awhile, you don't understand why. If something doesn't work, you don't understand what went wrong. This is one reason why self-help methods have a high rate of failure; they simply don't get deep enough into the problem, so self-awareness remains too low.

Using the example of low self-confidence to illustrate, different people suffer for different reasons. For Person A, perhaps it's because of fear of failure that creates too much anxiety to feel confident. For Person B, perhaps it's because they lack knowledge and skill, so they feel too incompetent to approach tasks confidently. Person B needs to improve their knowledge and skill through learning and practice in order to feel more confident. But this remedy isn't going to work for Person A. Regardless of how knowledgeable or skilled Person A is, they will continue to fear failure, because it is an entirely separate issue that remains unaddressed by Person B's remedy. If you were looking to the above two cases for inspiration, you wouldn't get very far without knowing YOUR individual reasons for suffering low self-confidence.

It sounds like you are still in the stage of knowing - gathering the facts about your issues in order to name/label them correctly. It's good you've gotten some practical advice for managing your issues. Using the INFJ functional stack to frame the issues also seems to have been helpful for improving your self-awareness. However, what I'm still not seeing is true understanding. You haven't yet discovered the underlying causes/mechanisms and aren't able to provide an accurate and objective explanation of why you suffer from these issues. In short, it's just harder to solve a problem when you don't know the cause or how it arose.

This is probably one reason why you're running into difficulty with getting clear official diagnoses. People often view an official diagnosis as "the answer", but oftentimes the label is just a way to describe a particular set of symptoms. It doesn't reveal enough about what's really going on underneath the surface. The process of talk therapy ought to be aimed at making better sense of the symptoms, so it's important to pair any pharmaceutical interventions with talk therapy.

I never want to discourage people from self-improvement. I appreciate your willingness to seek out answers. You asked me what might be lacking in your approach and I've given you my best guess. You've focused a lot on "doing" and "following", implementing some commonsense strategies like physical self-care and learning from good mentors. This is certainly a step in the right direction. But from the perspective of analytical psychology, you haven't done enough to go within to understand your own individual psyche. It is likely that working on your emotional intelligence through DBT will deepen your self-awareness. But, at this early stage, there is no way for me to predict if it will "close the gap". If you care about understanding yourself better, be willing to take your therapist's reflections and inquiries as deep as you can go with them.

[galaxyzone]

Dark Pictures MBTI types

I'm bored, so let's type the Dark Pictures characters as their possible Myers–Briggs types! For those who are unfamiliar with MBTI, here's a link to a website that explains them:

For now, I'm just going to type them, but if anyone is interested in my analysis behind any of the types, just let me know! Also just a disclaimer that I am in no way an expert on MBTI, I just think it's interesting and I thought this would be fun! Ok now on with the types:

Man of Medan

Alex: ENTP or possibly ENTJ, leaning more towards ENTP

Brad: INFP or possibly INTP, but tbh I think Brad is a feeling type so I'll say INFP

Julia: ESFJ

Conrad: ESFP

Fliss: ISTP

Little Hope

Andrew: INFJ

Taylor: ENFP

Daniel: ENFP or ESFP, I think I'm leaning towards ESFP but I also thought it would be kinda cute if he & Taylor were the same type

Angela: ISTJ

John: INTP or possibly ENTP, leaning more towards INTP

House of Ashes

Rachel: ENTJ

Eric: ENFJ or possibly ESFJ

Salim: ISFJ? Possibly INFJ? This was a hard one, let me know what you guys think

Nick: ESFP? Another hard one rip

Jason: ESTP

The Devil in Me

Kate: ISFP

Mark: INFJ or INFP, leaning more towards INFJ

Jamie: ENFP

Erin: INFP

Charlie: ESTJ

And that's all the main characters! Let me know what you guys think, I'd be interested to hear your input, especially on the ones I wasn't 100% sure about lol

[paimonial-rage]

Character Analysis Ask Meme

Feel free to send in an ask with a character and a number! If there is a question you are curious about that isn't listed, feel free to send that in too.

How did they become how they are like today?

What were they like as a child?

What is their mbti/enneagram?

What are their strengths?

What are their flaws?

What is their biggest insecurity?

What is their moral compass/alignment like?

What are their pet peeves?

What can't you trust them with?

Will they try to fix you?

Will they let you fix them?

What is their love language?

What are they like in a relationship?

Would they be honest with you?

Do they prefer to pursue or be pursued?

What's the best way to win their heart?

What are their strengths in a relationship?

What are their weaknesses in a relationship?

Are they prone to jealousy?

What irritates them in a relationship?

What is their breaking point in a relationship?

Why do they __?

Do you have any headcanons about them?

[literatureloverx]

Greetings, dear audience,

As I reflect on the intriguing details of my observations, I invite you to explore this analysis with me, and I hope it sparks deeper insight into not only her world but perhaps yours as well.

1 December, 2024 at 23:40 AEDT

DISCLAIMER: There is no intent to offend, criticize, or harm anyone through this analysis. The purpose is to offer a deeper understanding of an individual's behaviors, attachments, and preferences, with the goal of fostering understanding and connection. Furthermore, the analyst does not hold official qualifications in psychology. Any disrespectful behavior or comments will not be tolerated.

[ INTRODUCTION ]

Through the information you’ve shared, this analysis explores how these elements intertwine to form a unique tapestry of your personality, motivations, and coping mechanisms.

[ ATTACHMENT STYLE ]

At the core of your emotional world lies an anxious attachment style. This likely stems from an early environment where your emotional needs may not have been consistently met, making you hyper-aware of the nuances in relationships and attuned to potential disconnection. This attachment style drives your desire for deep emotional bonds and your fear of losing them.

You often gravitate toward parasocial relationships or idealized connections with fictional characters. These connections feel safer because they allow you to explore intimacy without the risk of rejection or abandonment. Characters like Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Lelouch Lamperouge, or Dabi reflect aspects of yourself and your desires: intelligence, complexity, tragedy, and the potential for redemption. While you consciously know these relationships are one-sided, they provide comfort and a sense of stability.

Your attachment style may also explain the intensity of your emotional investment in these characters. For example, when you express how devastated you would be if a favorite character dies, it mirrors the fear of abandonment or loss that comes with anxious attachment. These fictional bonds allow you to process those feelings in a controlled and less risky environment, even though the emotions they evoke are very real.

Interestingly, this attachment style also influences your real-life relationships. You’ve expressed a desire to help or save others, often drawn to people with inner struggles or potential for growth. However, as you’ve wisely noted, you can’t save people who don’t want to be saved—a realization that reflects your growing self-awareness and emotional maturity.

[ THE SAVIOR COMPLEX ]

Your admiration for fictional characters reveals a duality in your psyche: the nurturer and the dreamer.

You are drawn to two main archetypes:

1. The Tragic Yet Redeemable Figures:

Characters like Isaac Foster, Dabi, and Fyodor Dostoyevsky resonate with your savior complex. You see their flaws and pain but believe in their potential for redemption, reflecting your deep empathy and desire to help others become the best versions of themselves. This mirrors your inner narrative of seeking to heal and understand your own emotional wounds.

2. The Mastermind Visionaries:

Characters like Lelouch and William James Moriarty embody intelligence, strategy, and a vision for a better world. They reflect your admiration for strength, purpose, and a sense of control in the chaos of life. These characters may also symbolize your idealized self—a version of you that is emotionally composed and in command of their circumstances.

Despite their fictional nature, these characters allow you to process your emotions, explore your values, and even project your own desires and fears. This is the essence of the “fictophilia paradox”—you know they aren’t real, yet they evoke genuine emotions, serving as mirrors for your internal world.

[ FRAMEWORK FOR UNDERSTANDING ]

Your frequent references to MBTI reveal it as a tool for self-reflection and understanding others. As an INFJ, you likely turn to MBTI as a way to structure the complexities of human behavior, providing clarity in your relationships. It offers you a sense of predictability and control in a world that can often feel overwhelming.

For you, MBTI isn’t just a personality framework; it’s a means of connection. By analyzing the MBTI types of fictional characters, you create a structured narrative that aligns with your emotional needs and desires. While this is insightful, it may also reveal a tendency to idealize relationships or project your hopes onto others.

MBTI also serves as a bridge for understanding your role in relationships. As someone who struggles to connect with your own emotions, the framework provides a roadmap for navigating the complexities of interpersonal dynamics. However, to truly connect with others, you must first connect with yourself—exploring and embracing your own emotions, even when they feel challenging or unclear.

[ PERSONA ]

Your choice of “Snow White” as a persona is both symbolic and personal. It reflects an idealized image of yourself that resonates with your aesthetics, values, and inner narrative. Snow White embodies innocence, gentleness, and a longing for love and connection—all qualities you admire and strive to embody.

This persona also ties back to your childhood fascination with fairy tales. Growing up, these stories offered you lessons about life and a way to escape into a world of wonder and imagination. Snow White, in particular, represents your softer, dreamier side—someone who navigates life’s challenges with grace and resilience.

At the same time, adopting this persona may also reflect a subconscious desire to craft an identity that feels safe and consistent. In a way, “Snow White” allows you to present a curated version of yourself to the world, one that aligns with your ideal self-image while protecting your more vulnerable inner self.

[ CONCLUSION ]

In essence, all these elements—your attachment style, connection with fictional characters, fascination with MBTI, and “Snow White” persona—are pieces of a larger puzzle. They reveal a person who is deeply introspective, empathetic, and imaginative.

However, they also point to a need for balance. While fictional characters and frameworks like MBTI offer insight and comfort, true growth lies in embracing the messiness of real-life relationships and emotions. By continuing to explore and understand yourself, you’ll be able to foster deeper, more authentic connections—not just with others, but with your own emotions and desires.

You have a unique ability to analyze, empathize, and dream, but remember to direct some of that insight inward. The more you connect with your authentic self, the more fulfilling your relationships—both real and fictional—will become.

First of all, thank you very much, darling, for taking on this challenge—it’s not something I take for granted, and I deeply appreciate it. The reason it took me some time to respond is that I wanted my reply to be as thoughtful as possible. I know you don’t mind the wait, so… ♥️ Also, I found the disclaimer very helpful—especially in case anyone identifies with the content you wrote. And I must say, I love how much effort you put into each section. It’s truly beautiful. ♥️

Attachment Style

Now, this is the first and only aspect I don’t wholeheartedly agree with, because—I know it will shock many of you—but I actually think I have a secure attachment style. At least, I think so.

I suspect what made you think my attachment style might be anxious is my tendency to worry easily and be clingy, right? That might definitely come across as an anxious attachment style, even from my early childhood, because I was simply obsessed with my attachment person—my mother. I was born this way, you see? I constantly wanted to be near her, but I was independent as long as she was somewhere I could see her.

Why do I think my attachment style is secure? My emotional needs were always met. My mother was always at my side. Believe it or not, I was a hell of a child. If I ever got in trouble, my mindset was, “When will you stop menacing so I can go play with my dolls again?” I wasn’t bratty; I was simply living in my own world and I was still affectionate (a weird mix, I know).

Anyway, being possessive of those I cherish is an established trait of mine since birth. It doesn’t stem from anxiety. If anything, it’s the other way around—my anxiety stems from not being in control.

However, you’re absolutely right that fictional relationships feel like a safer option for me. But perhaps it’s not because of a fear of rejection or abandonment. If someone wants to abandon me, they’re free to do so lmao. And if they ever come back, I’ll make sure to let them know I forgive them, but I won’t ever wish to see them again. I might forgive, but I have high standards for who I allow into my life.

You say that certain characters reflect aspects of myself and my desires: intelligence, complexity, tragedy, and the potential for redemption. When it comes to intelligence, I think it’s less about intelligence itself and more about having a vision for the future—specifically with a future spouse. This person needs to be better than me in some way so I can relax and let loose. I’m always forced to take the lead, even though I’m not someone who particularly enjoys doing so. But what can a girl do? If no one else is competent enough, I simply need to act—some things just have to be done.

I might lack personal romantic experience, but I’ve seen plenty of relationships and know what mistakes I want to avoid. Remember those stupid boyfriend problems? I believe we talked about them at the beginning, when you first approached me anonymously. I told you how much trouble I had tolerating those situations—haha.

As for whether I have a fear of abandonment or loss…I don’t think I do. I’ve never been abandoned. What I loathe is the idea of a life that’s unstable or chaotic, which could definitely tie back to childhood experiences. And in the end, it’s probably the daddy issues, right? An insight you shared very early on, my gifted wife. ♥️

The Savior Complex

Now, this is an aspect I wholeheartedly agree with. The only thing I would add is that I don’t believe I’m trying to heal myself by wanting to heal fictional characters. However, you might still be right—who knows?

Framework for Understanding

Another aspect I fully agree with. Your insights are very helpful. You’re right: my main struggle lies in mistaking others’ emotions for my own, and that makes the boundary a bit blurred. I’ve never had trouble understanding others’ emotions, but I’m terrible at understanding my own. (By the way, that statement you made there? Exactly how I imagine a Fi user would describe this haha.)

Persona

Me, while reading every single sentence of this section:

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

I have nothing to add here. ♥️

I loved your analysis of me, and it genuinely helped me understand myself better. Even though I didn’t agree with a few aspects regarding my attachment style, discussing it helped me understand other things—or even why I don’t agree. The why question always leads to clarity haha. Connecting with my authentic self will definitely be a challenge, but…I’ll do my best! Thank you, darling. ♥️

[moondustinfj]

(I might also include relationship study between them based on their types, how they interact with each other and all)

[tigreblvnc]

Correlations between MBTI axes and a birth chart.

Dominant elements:

11x Fire (Sagittarius, Aries, Leo): Extraversion (E), Intuition (N) → expansive energy, search for meaning.

8x Air (Libra, Aquarius, Gemini): Intuition (N), Thinking (T) → intellect, communication.

6x Earth (Virgo, Taurus, Capricorn): Sensing (S), Judging (J) → pragmatism, organization.

2x Water (Scorpio, Pisces, Cancer): Feeling (F), Introversion (I) → sensitivity, emotional intuition.

Key placements analysis:

Sun in Sagittarius (Fire): Extraversion (E), Intuition (N) -> idea explorer, free-spirited.

Moon in Virgo (Earth): Judging (J), Sensing (S) -> emotional structure and order.

Mercury in Sagittarius (Fire, Retrograde): Intuition (N) -> unconventional communication and deep reflection.

Venus in Sagittarius (Fire): Extraversion (E) -> freedom in relationships.

Mars in Libra (Air): Thinking (T) -> balance with consensus.

Jupiter in Pisces (Water): Feeling (F) -> empathy and faith in ideals.

Saturn in Aries (Fire, Retrograde): Judging (J) -> inner discipline, independence.

Key axes:

AC Taurus / DC Scorpio: Possibly indicating a TJ or FJ profile.

MC Capricorn / IC Cancer: Professional structure (J) and emotional security (F).

Conclusion:

The dominant Fire (Sagittarius, Aries) and Air (Libra) elements -> Intuition (N) and Extraversion (E). The organization brought by the Moon in Virgo and the MC in Capricorn -> Judging (J). The emotional depth of Jupiter in Pisces and the 4th house in Cancer -> Feeling (F).

Potential types: ENFJ, ENTJ, INFJ.

© TIGREBLVNC 2024 | MBTI AXES AND BIRTH CHART ANALYSIS.

[iliveforyouilongforyouvesuvia]

Hello! A fellow arcana writer here - ( this is from my main account, the account where I post my arcana content is @thefishermansharbor ) just wondering, do you have an tips or tricks with writing for Lucio? I feel like I always make him too agitating, and I want to make him seem a little more human. Anyways, great work so far and answer this whenever! <3

Yes, I've read your stuff! I've really enjoyed it too!

I can't tell you how honored I am to be asked for tips like this, so there will a whole (very long and detailed) Lucio character analysis under the cut if you desire to read it ^.^ (spoiler warning, of course)

There's two things I like to keep in mind when I'm writing Lucio: who and what he is, and where he is on what he does with that. Lucio as a human being, for example, is an extrovert who loves parties and attention. What he used to do with that, on the other hand, was focus all of his attention on throwing lavish parties when there were more pressing matters that he chose not to address (pre-prologue).

So who or what is Lucio? You could start with his MBTI personality type (ESTP), or his sign (Capricorn), or how he presents himself. This is the person the reader gets to know in his route, and when I write headcanons, this is the person I pay more attention to. He's extroverted, he loves attention and excitement, he likes to act first and think later, he's an adventure seeker, he's loud and expressive and an open book, he likes to be happy, and he likes people to be happy with him. As person, that's who Lucio is, and that's who MC falls in love with in his route.

But that's not who we see in the rest of the story, whether it be the prologue, the "Dawn of the Grub" tale, or the other character's routes. That's because in those stories, we're meeting Lucio through the eyes of the characters we're with, and they see him for what he's done and continues to do. Julian's route shows us a self-centered tyrant, Nadia's shows a petulant teenager playing at royalty, Asra's shows him as useless scum, Muriel's as a terrifying demon turned clown, and Portia's doesn't even address him at all. This is all in line with the things those characters experienced (or didn't experience) because of him. Asra lost his parents and MC, Julian was locked in a dungeon and force-fed a plague beetle, Nadia was married to someone out of desperation who dimmed her spark, Muriel was enslaved and coerced into murdering hundreds of innocents, and Portia didn't even know who he was until she showed up in Vesuvia.

So how does all of this play into MC and Lucio's relationship? Assuming that we're working with the upright ending, most of this depends on how much time has passed since defeating the Devil. The game leaves off with MC and Lucio becoming journeymen, or traveling adventurers, deciding their future one new commission at a time. Because Lucio's relationship with MC is what transforms him from being himself with only himself in mind to being himself with the wellbeing of others in mind, the longer he's had the chance to practice that, the more of a good person he has practice being.

If it's been a few months, he is probably still rude to strangers out of habit and regularly puts himself before other people (including MC half the time) because he's still learning how to think of others when he makes decisions and how to say "I was wrong" after making a big mistake. He's probably still settling into the fact that someone loves him for him, and that if he asks for forgiveness there's a chance he'll receive it.

~ from here on out is much more speculative. some fans like Lucio for his more "villainous" traits, like his tendency to prioritize himself or his willingness to forget about people in the pursuit of his own pleasure. what I'm about to describe is a continued trajectory from his route and upright ending, where Lucio is committed to continuing to better himself and build a healthy future, and MC is playing an active role in reconciling and connecting him to the people around him ~

If it's been closer to a year, he's more likely to have learned how to make friends with new people out of his extroversion instead of trying to dominate them out of his need for attention. He's still working on his manners, but he's better at acknowledging his oopsies. This is most likely the point where he gets into the deeper work - his own trauma from growing up in a "hunt or be hunted" family, his addiction to deal making, his time on the battlefield, dying of the plague, spending three years as a tortured, incorporeal form while the world continues without him, etc.

This is also when the weight of all the things he's done wrong really starts to sink in. He'll likely go from "yeah, that was a thing I did and it was bad," to "oh, I'm directly responsible for thousands of deaths and immeasurable suffering, and nothing I do can change that." He'll be more love-hungry than he's ever been, and every day will be a struggle of living with the nuances of trauma and forgiveness and generational cycles of violence and death, all with a brain that doesn't like nuance or deep thinking at all.

Several years down the line, he has the potential to be one of the most intentionally healthy characters after the astronomical amount of work he'll need to do to build and maintain a good life with MC. While nobody becomes perfect, we'd see him fully become the person that MC fell in love with (an energetic, excited, creative adventurer who loves people and animals and who loves to be loved). At this point, he's also started to make his own reputation as the fighter who travels with a magician and takes odd jobs for a decent commission, and not the ex-count of Vesuvia. The people who meet him now will see the same person MC saw all along, and they'll most likely find him endearing and want to be friends with him. He'll have good connections that he's made on his own merit.

It's unlikely that he'll ever be fully welcome in Vesuvia. While he's changed and grown and likely addressed what he's done to the best of his ability, he can't undo the past. For the rest of his lifetime, memories of the plague will be fresh in that city's memory, with not a single citizen who hasn't suffered from it. It's very likely that he'll still stop by with MC a few times to catch up, but that's it. The city won't want him back after knowing the truth. And Lucio doesn't like living with his mistakes - he'd much prefer to move on and do better. As much as he's learned to apologize and do better, he'll do anything to avoid wallowing in his own suffering.

To write him, then, I like to start with who MC knows he is, figure out how long he's had to grow, and work from there. If I'm working with an MC-related prompt (an MC who likes to draw, or who uses a cane, for example), then Lucio will first encounter that quality as the person he is when he first meets MC in his route (ghostly mr goatman). It's also fun to track how his behavior is likely to change over time as he grows as a person.

If it's a future situation for an established relationship, like getting married, or having kids, or daily routines and domestic habits, then I write for the Lucio we see developing at the end of the Upright ending.

The two often play into each other, of course. If MC has PTSD, and Lucio's come far enough to help them with that, it also means that he's drawing from all of his own trauma. If we see him being petty about something, we have examples of how he would have reacted, and how he reacts instead.

That's the fun of being human, after all. We are the amalgamation of all the versions of ourselves we've ever been, and growth is the product of acknowledging every one of those and aiming for goodness in whoever we become next.

Hope that helped, @thefishermansharbor! Happy writing, and cheers!

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