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Marry and Love or Love and Marry. What do you think? - GossipDiaries

Many of us, I think all of us, might have to face the situation where some of our relatives try to poke in our personal life. They intentionally or unintentionally bring some or the other marriage proposal in front of our parents. Even if your parents are not looking for the one. The situation is really frustrating.

Imagine, our parents influenced by their proposal asked us to meet them at least once before we say NO. Through the passing years, the concept of arranged marriage is being declined especially in the urban areas. But, then also 88% of the marriages in India are arranged. It all comes down to the matter of personal choice. Our ancestor believes that arrange marriage are successful while we believe that love marriages are successful. We are left with the persistent thought of whether one should love and then marry or marry and then hope to love.

Let’s see the pros and cons of “Marry and Love or Love and Marry” both of them below:

1. Marry and Love

Arrange marriage is considered as the union of not only two individuals but also of two families. More precedence is given to status, values, education, culture over the personal choices of their sons and daughters. Instead of checking the compatibility of the two individuals, they focus on the compatibility of the two families.

Here, the bride has no option, she has to accept the choice of her family in order to be respectful. Lack of physical and emotional understanding is the primary issue in arrange marriage. As couples are not given enough time to understand each other views, beliefs, and feelings. As a result, a lot of adjustments are required to be made. We all struggle just to satisfy our parents wishes.

However, it is possible to fall in love after marriage when you understand each other and start feeling for each other. We learn to accommodate each other’s strengths and flaws, spend more time with each other, do things to make their life interesting. In the end, love only grows with a mutual sense of respect and care.

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