#ma se penso alle mie nipoti e al mondo che le circonda oggi sono molto preoccupata ×_×

[nusta]

Yeah, being a teenager should means being an hassole at least 10% of your time, that's a given, and grownups should know and remember that when they work with kids of that age. I hope a psychologist that works at schools has that cristal clear in their head and doesn't get caught in schemes and lies too easily. But on other hand, going to talk to the school's psychologist just for fun coud have helped some other kids (or maybe even some of the pranksters) to open up for real, seeing that the door was open.

What is important, imho, it's the transparency: most kids have no idea why they are treated the way they are treated, why they get asked to be "more" something or "less" something else, and that's frustrating (and rightly so, from their point of view). Sometimes the grownups in their life simply want to protect them from ugly truths, sometimes they don't have that answers either and it's just a matter of annoying traditions that we continue mindlessly. That said, being asked about drugs, or family, or sexuality is not the same as being asked about favourite colours or favourite food. Even in anonymous forms, this kind of stuff is potentially problematic to talk about and it's worth an honest answer only if the questions come from a position of honest interest.

If you're planning to offer some services, like another gym or a cafeteria, and you ask about sports and pastries preference, I bet you have no problem being upfront about your intentions. Why are you asking them about their smoking habits? Their sexual life? What are you doing with this kind of information? Are you planning to help them or are you planning to control them better? If you want (or need, for whatever reason) to keep your secret, you should respect that others do the same. And kids and teens have a right to secrets and mischief as much as adults, if not even more.

Every time I see some moral panic article about how some alarming % of teens admit to vaping or smoking or doing drugs or whatever, I think about that time in 9th grade when school handed us a survey on substance use, told us we had to fill it out, and me and a half dozen friends reported that we’d been habitual users of heroin, cocaine, and acid since the age of 9.