an actual conversation i once had (paraphrased for consumption)
(an ad for Queer Eye plays on the TV)
me: I love that Johnny Van Ness so so much.
mom: I think he's weird.
me: That's half of why I love him. He's just out there being himself. Cute.
mom: Cute? I just thought you found him funny.
me: No...IN love with him. I'm attracted to him. He's fierce. He makes my heart happy.
mom: But you wouldn't sleep with him.
me: I'm not going to get that chance.
mom: But if he wasn't famous...
me: I bet he's a ton of fun in the sack.
mom: Really....but he's gay.
me: He very much is. And married.
mom: Like...he's really really gay.
me: You saying it does not make it more true.
mom: I just mean that he doesn't like women.
me: That's what that means.
mom: I just mean...isn't that a waste of your efforts?
me: What effort. It's not like I'm pursuing him. I'm not chasing him around and trying to convince him. Loving someone isn't an effort. It just is.
mom: You're attracted to someone who would never find you attractive.
me: You're in love with Robert Redford. What's the difference.
mom: *gets angry and doesn't talk to me for the rest of the day*
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I have had pretty much this conversation with several people in my life about a many different celebrities. Sometimes about folks who have never announced their orientation or marital status. And if there is any inkling at all that the man isn't straight or the woman isn't gay, this is usually what happens.
And yet, I stand by it. I am in love with / attracted to the people who I am attracted to. Idgaf about what they do with their own hearts and genitals. I love them for who they are, not how they can serve me.
marry someone who will do stupid shit with you like take a red eye on a work day just so you can eat boysenberry cinnamon rolls and wear face paint to a coffee shop to drink a peach bellini in a bathtub
There were so many things I wanted to tell you right away... but you weren't waiting for me at the door. I wanted to go in, to see you, and tell you in person everything that happened in the back hill. But... I can't open this door anymore.
My Journey To You (2023)
I like feyre, even though sjm kinda killed her character i stand with my girl for the most part. emphasis on the most part because i will never recover from her manipulating tamlin to lash out in acomaf/acowar (sorry they all bleed together)🧍🏻
And people will say she was justified in what she did and that its tamlins fault that he lashed out. like it wasnt great on his part but it is a type of emotional manipulation from feyre to get him to do that. she had to push him to get that reaction, it wasnt a natural reaction and man. Sjm accidentally wrote 90% of my childhood experiences with shitty boys LIKE how did she do that ⁉️
My job has been sucking the little remaining energy out of me that isn't going towards being sick/recovering. And man I miss doing hobby things (crafting, writing-- ESPECIALLY In The Dirt-- drawing, etc) so much. My free time has mainly been spent recovering from work, resting and doing nothing, falling asleep, or zoning out watching tv or scrolling. which is like. not very creatively stimulating lol. I'm applying for new jobs right now and I really hope and pray to all the benevolent forces in the universe that I land one, because my current job a) doesn't feel very sustainable with how sick I am post-mold, and b) told me they can't give me half of the ADA accommodations I requested.
however. I still get to live with my best friend, and if I get a new job, I should be able to go visit my girlfriend for several *weeks*. And I have appointments w/a bunch of specialists next week who can hopefully at least help with my pain management...
i do think i may need to move eventually to have an actually relevant to my education career and it most likely will not be anywhere my gf is possibly going to med school 💔
it's just that sometimes you're so... impossibly happy and full of so much incredible joy that you gotta post about it on the internet otherwise you may get on the roof with a bullhorn yknow.
My FL main went through some really weird, organic development over the...oh god, I think it's been five years since I started playing now.
So my main is named Skadi Larkin. They are a little bastard. They started out extremely 2D; I named them after my favorite Norse goddess and the protagonist of the book I was reading at the time. I originally wanted to make them female like both of their namesakes, but the second I saw the third-gender option, I thought it was too good to pass up. This is where they got their primary base characterization as a mad scientist who wanted to Cause Problems.
Then I started the Nemesis ambition and forgot which option I'd chosen for who I was trying to avenge, so they lost both their lover and their older brother under tragic circumstances (only the lover was killed by Nemesis's antagonist, though).
Then I got an Exceptional Friendship and had to give my tragic backstory in order to gain entry to the House of Chimes. Skadi pulled said tragic backstory (orphaned in a hansom accident) more or less out of their ass, but it did establish that their parents are dead.
Somewhere down the line, I realized that technically Skadi is a linguist, since the Correspondence is a language, and I made that their profession on the Surface as well.
Around this time, I started working on character designs for my fan comic. I got really into messing around with skin tone, and somewhere along the line thought it would be fun to draw Skadi (who was originally white) with darker skin, and it stuck.
Then I abruptly realized I was taking a lot of options that increased my Melancholy, and almost all of them were based on the Surface. So now Skadi has a longing for the Surface.
I left the game for a few years, but somewhere during this stretch of time, and I don't know how this happened, but I decided Skadi was now Native American; specifically, Metis. I changed their design to incorporate a sash woven in a style characteristic of the Metis, which also added a bit of color to their design (which was mostly black or grey at this point).
During this time, I started incorporating Skadi into my fan comic. This would eventually lead me to actually flesh out their backstory in greater detail. When I started playing the game again, I also created my first alt by total accident (long story), and I decided to weave her backstory with Skadi's.
So Skadi is in the interesting position of being an Indigenous person who is what we'd probably consider Two-Spirit today but they'd just call "Bollocks to that gender crap". They never belonged on the Surface, since the Metis are in a bit of a liminal space compared to other tribes due to their interesting background (the Metis are the descendants of French settlers and Indigenous inhabitants, mostly Cree), and Skadi exists in a liminal space within that liminal space due to only being half-Metis and raised primarily in white culture, although they still maintained a connection to it through their late mother. They also never belonged because no one else on the Surface outside of the communities they already felt isolated from would ever accept them for their gender. London gave them a chance to express one of those, but not both, and despite knowing that the Surface hates them just for existing, they still long to return.