#look after yourslves

[deluweil]

Advice? 👀

My bestie and I let someone back in our lives last month we stopped talking to after high school (we graduated in 2012) when my bestie ghosted her (for a good reason) the girl messaged me last week me asking me to unlike every picture I liked of hers because she was going to deactivate her Facebook because of drama when I did that (she didn't have many pics she recently made a fb) she unfriended me when went to add her back she didn't accepted it so I asked her about she told me not to take it personally because no one will have her on her friend list so I gave her 3 days when she didn't deactivate her Facebook I blocked her do you think that was a good choice? (I won't see her in person again she lives in Colorado now)

I know I shouldn't let this bother me when she was toxic in high school but my bestie and I thought she changed because it was high school and we're adults now but I guess I'm letting it bother me because she could have told me she didn't want to be friends anymore when my bestie ghosted her I just know I won't give her another chance if she wants to be friends again

Hi there,

This isn't usually an ask I take, but I feel like people should be made aware, that toxic people do not belong in you lives.

Anyone who disturbs your energy, that would ask you ridiculous requests like unlike every photo, I would have just blocked her on the spot, kudos for even giving her a chance.

In my experience, very few are the people who change after high school, I mean, no one is the same person, but once a toxic person always a toxic person.

Mainly because they don't think they are, and no one tells them so, and if they do the narcissist inside them just deflects the blame and make the other party feel guilty for ever bringing up those issues to begin with.

So, yes, you did right by blocking her, keep your peace. It is alright to want to give people a second chance, but do it with both eyes open, and if something doesn't feel right or you feel like you are just compromising your own comfort, peace of mind and well being, cut them loose.

I had my own toxic best friend in high school, she was a libra with bad narcissistic traits, that I only now know to recognize those after I studied it in Uni and got my degree.

She always put her friends down, always created drama, always made me feel like everything was my fault and eventually I realized that I was always the one ending up apologizing for her transgressions against me. So I told her to fuck off and cut her from my life, It hurt like hell, but in the long run, it was the best decision I ever made.

Hope that helps,

D.

[ahatfullofskys]

My BTS experience so far:

Warning: it’s a wee bit long.

Randomly DNA plays on the radio: ?!?????? What the hell, is this kpop?!?!?1 oN the radio?!?!?!? hOW?!? ... Actually this sounds pretty cool *makes mental note to check it later* .. *forgets*

BTS and AMAs fuss: *Facebook blowing up with the news* wHAT iS hAppenING, what is everyone so hyped for???? *watches the AMAs when BTS comes up* ... oh. OH. That’s the song!! Wooow they look so cool.

After watching the AMAs performance: Okay, just let me check the video for this dope song, I’m just curios. *plays video* ... Wait...why are they so pretty??? HOW?!?! Look at this guy’s skin (I later found out it was JK), how is it so flawless and smooth??? Why are you smiling?!?! TELLME YOUR SECRET!! ... *Jin comes on the screen to sing his part* *gulps* Why is he looking into my soul with this gorgeous eyes of his?  I’m so confused yet aroused right now... Those dance moves are lit... *the part where they do the hand holding thing with Kookie in the middle comes up* hOLD UP SLDKASDJAS this is SO COOL, I haven’t been this hyped about a dance move since Kinjas....  *song ends* ... I am so angry of how all of them are so fucking gorgeous. 

*trying to contemplate feelings* .. what is happening... 

After watching the DNA video a few times: Well... it’s only fair if I check some of their other stuff... I mean what could possibly go wrong. It’s not like I’m going to listen to them, it’s just for science.

Plays Not Today: lOOK aT tHOSE dANcE mOOvEs... *RM comes in with the second verse* what is your voice and how is it making my ovaries nervous?... seriously though their sync is cRAZY.  *watches in awe*.

Plays BS&T: .. *Jimin starts singing* why does your voice sound like it was send from the heavens? *start dancing after the intro* nO dONT touch yoursLVES LIKe THaT.. shit that’s actually pretty hot.. damn. *RM touching his lips during his part* why are you doing this to me? WHY?! *V’s part comes up* wow boi your eyebrows are angry and all over the place.. I love it.... That’s a lot of weird shit going on in this video tho... I understand nothing... BUT HOW CAN I WHEN EVERYTHING IS SO SEDUCTIVE??!?!? LOOK AT THIS GUY AND HIS FUCKING SHOULDER (Jimin)... I.AM.DEAD.... Also Angry eyebrows’s voice is killing me softly.... YO! HoW are they hitting thOSE NOTES. oooH give it to Me *music stops* ... wtf? ... yES of CouRsE you can play the piano... is there anything they cant do... Yo, pink hair, stop looking at my soul dude... *statue scene* what iS hAPPeNiNG?!?? I have no idea what this is and how I should feel. *video ends* ... I’m 100% aroused after this, I ain’t gonna lie.

Plays Save Me:��*immerse in the video and song* I can’t decide what is the best part: the song, the choreography and sync or the camera work. I won’t even comment on their looks.. I ain’t going there after the previous one. Their stylist needs to call me and help me with my style. ‘Fall’ you SAY?!?! I’m FALLING DOWN A RABBIT WHOLE... okay one more...

Plays Fire: *guy catches on fire* ah this gonna be lit. Yaaas iron the shit out of him.... La lalala *car falls* DAAMN sON! ... This song is making me want to break things. *RM and JH part* oooh that’s liiiiit... *Jin touching his lips in front of that burning car* that car is an accurate representation of what your move is doing to my ovaries... *that music stop when Suga speaks* thIS IS FUCKING AWESOME... I cant handle it... *hot hot hot hotter* fucking lit... Okay wait let’s fucking Google search them and learn more.

Google search: *reads their names* lel Rap Monster, okay I’ll be honest that’s hilarious (later on I decided this name is accurate considering his rapping skills).. Okay I can remember those names but... who’s who? *searches them name by name* nah I can’t remember and distinct them c’mon... I will listen with color coded lyrics later, let’s find out their ages... JK is 20.. okay who was JK *searches* THIS ONE?!?!? THIS ONE IS THE YOUNGESt?!?!? That doesn’t sound right.. look at him.. I’m confused.. I GIVE UP. 

Okay, okay, let’s try to learn who’s who and start telling them apart, why is it so hard to tell them apart, why am I like that, I don’t wanna be racist I realize they are different *starts hating myself* *watches the videos with color coded lyrics* *a few hours later* oh okay so in conclusion: the one that starts a fire in my ovaries is Jin, angry eyebrows and deep voice is V, broody-Derek-Hale is Suga, the rap god is RM, the dance animal is J-Hope, the angelic voice and face is Jimin and the no-way-he’s-20 is Jungkook.

Watching other videos: *randomly clicks on video called “best moments”* oooh they are actually really cute, wtf how are those puppies the sex gods from BT&S??? My mind cant comprehend... *watches dance practice videos* Oooooh look at them move.. I mean how do they rearrange their composition so fast without falling or stepping on one another. This is illegal...  Wait what do you mean Jin and RM are the worst dancers, they look like they are doing fine *watches dance practices specifically to check RM and Jin* ... they dance 100000000 times better than me and I went to fucking hip hop and modern dance lessons for 2 years... I UNDERSTAND NOTHING

Watching American interviews: Their English is killing me. *interviewer asks about “crazy fans”* BITCH DONt, why are you trying to disrespect their fans like that... are you fucking kidding me??? Look at RM’s irritation.. SAME *interviewer asks about dropping English album* *feeling offended on behalf of the band* hOW aBOUT fUCKinG NO????!!!? How about that, huh?!?! I’m so sick of English speakers that think their language is the only language and we are OBLIGATED to know it. Bitch I ain’t and BTS sure aren’t. You like their music? You wanna sing along? THEN LEARN.FUCKING.KOREAN!!! Motherfucking arrogant entitled bastard I’m gonna slap you with a corn-dog. THIS MAKES ME MAD *keeps watching interviews* This is making me cringe so bad. I should stop.

*looks at clock* 4AM/!??? WHEN?!/!?

Okay I’ll just make this Spotify list real quick. For science purposes. *jamming to playlist in the car during 1+ hour traffic jams*

*decides to change tumblr theme* but what should I put for icon and banner.... what if... *spends 2 hours editing pictures and icons* ends up with Jin on both of them. 

let me just follow a few blogs so I can keep up with the news. 

*trying to stay away from fics* *fails*

*trying to post as little as possible so it doesn’t bother my followers*

opens tumblr today: 

dash: 90% BTS Mic Drop. 

me: ...

dash: ...

me: ....

icon: ...

me: well.. fuck.. 

I realize I am too far gone and idk what to do for my other followers and my urge to reblog everything on my dash. 

[embellishserenity]

i have a boyfriend we've been together for 2 and a half years now and it's serious we really wanna get married but we're 18 so not yet. we kind of wanna get married at a young age but my parents wouldn't agree i'm sure. with young i mean 23-24 ish. but every married woman i meet tells me that i should wait with marriage as long as possible bc apparently it's 'hell'. seriously, every married woman tells me this. they say it's too much responsibility and that it's very hard to look after the -

Ok it will be stressful and there will be extra responsibilities that come with marriage, but I don’t know about it being absolute ‘hell’. You support each other the and become the best version of yourslves for one another. Effort isn’t always 50/50, sometimes he may give 40 and you’ll have to give 60, but other times, you may give 30 and he gives 70. The women that you’ve spoken to are probably very unhappy with their marriage and their life to be describing it with a word like that. Cleaning his mess/cleaning up after him.. ? Why should that become your responsibility as a wife? You’re not his mother. The only men that expect that sort of treatment from their wives are mummy’s boys so make sure your boyfriend is no man-child, otherwise that’s exactly what you’ll be dealing with. Hearing things like that annoy me so much, you don’t become his personal slave when you’re married, if he wants a cleaner tell him to hire one, or learn to clean up after himself like every grown man should. Working and looking after the children is a big enough responsibility on it’s own, if anything, your husband should be helping in making your tasks easier.