#lol blaine

[69-toojay]

The character Blaine and my reading of him has always been very personal, when I first finished glee and compared him to the Blaine in my life I understood him very well. He was a textbook narcissist. The behaviour lined up like word for word. And through out the series if he's looked at through this lense he's one of the only consistently written characters.

A lot of us, myself included have trouble believing Kurt was so attached to this piece of shit. But after experiencing some things with my real life Blaines I began to have some empathy for how difficult it can be to let go of some people, no matter how much they hurt you. So I feel the need to try explain Kurts attachment to Blaine, not romanticize but explain why it exists.

Childhood attachment/First love: Kurt meets him relatively young, he looks up to Blaine, grows up with him, Blaine is the first person he dates and they get through some very dark times in Kurts life together, no matter how much growth occurs in Kurts life he can't shake off the initial gratitude, hero worship

Sunk cost fallacy: The strange feeling of not wanting to feel like an idiot or a loser for having a made a bad decision that has already taken too much of your time, so you rationalize that if you see it through it will be worth it because you've put too much of yourself in it, it being a relationship or a person. It's feels like too much effort to start over anew. To learn a new person or to heal when you've learned the motions of the status quo. So maybe it hurts when Blaine yells about unreasonable things but he's learned to yell back and hold his ground.

Trauma bonding : Feeling connected to an abuser because of various manipulation tactics they use to control you like love bombing, withholding affection( fratboiphysicals), guilt tripping ( I needed you and you weren't there), gaslighting etc. It's very hard to cope with the knowledge that someone you love is just using you for their ego so we don't. We pretend we are loved, that what we have is unconventional but special. When someone is constantly being hostile the bar lowers itself and we live on the crumbs of their affection, it feels special, and because the abuser never reassures you you have a definite place in their world you have to fight for their attention and fight you will.

External pressure : Narcissists have a way of perfecting surface level charm to get everyone in their pocket until you no longer have anyone in their corner and they have everyone telling you how great they are. Eg: the proposal scene, santana sabotaging kadam and the rant, Sue(?)

Isolation : They find whatever way to make sure you have less and less friends to make it easier for them to gaslight you, so only their opinion matters and you can't fact check with a sane person. Eg: the Elliot incident, the Chandler incident.

Gaslighting : Abusers change the narrative to fit their needs with such blinding confidence that you think you're the problem eg: late s6 Kurt.

[sscrambledmeggss]

DO NOT BRING BACK VICTIMBLAINING IN MY 2024

[dearmykalias]

As a Warbler cosplayer, I dye my head blond so I can be HIM

Whenever I see the warbler blazer online I get all excited because instantly I think it’s going to be him:

And then sometimes it’s him and the smile visibly vanishes from my face:

[thnxforknowingme]

Blaine having Realizations™ while watching Kurt sing

[blaintism]

get to know me -> 1/9 tv shows: Glee (2009-2015)

[cryscendo]

Wipe off that angel face and go back to high school.

@giftober 2024 | day 5: angelic

[hevanderson]

[klainegifs]

[69-toojay]

Thank you Sebastian Smythe for almost blinding Blaine Anderson, I owe you one. ♥️

[sscrambledmeggss]

Finn is so real for being the first Blaine anti

[nicoise]

i actually blame blaine's parents for why he's Like That

i bet blaine's parents were decently loving (were genuinely concerned and spent time with him after the school shooting episode) but incapable of understanding him. and even though their view of him is incorrect, they still don't really like what they see (see: getting hands dirty to restore masculinity). blaine grows up being made to feel like there's something wrong with him which is why he tries so hard to sham normal. because he tries so hard, he's also afraid of messing up (silly love songs: "i don't wanna screw this up.")

because he doesn't trust his parents to not be judgmental of him, he stops confiding in them at a young age. this is consistent with how he ends up planning to transfer back to dalton in s4 without telling anyone, how he's so stubborn not to admit his guilty pleasure, and how he picks a fight with kurt about texting chandler rather than admit his worries about kurt going to NYC.

i feel like a major breakdown in his relationship with kurt was that bit in the s6 breakup: "i feel like you're just silently judging me." guess why he's sensitive about that

because blaine thinks that just being himself isn't enough to get people to like him, he goes out of his way to do things for people. he takes on the role of kurt's protector which lasts into s3 (michael slushie incident) and becomes insecure when he can't hold onto it (tested). he sang at the s2 prom even though it's not his prom or his glee club. he helped tina with her diva week thing even though he was sick. you get the sense that in some way helping people helps him feel secure in his self worth.

the distant-but-loving thing with his parents probably also explains why he's terrible at long distance relationships. it's easy for him to assume kurt forgot about him because he's already inclined not to fully trust people's affection for him

[slothydaydreamer]

I love that Blaine has the range from "petty bourgeois kid who is too blunt and brutal with his devious political schemes to fit in with his peers" to "petty street rat that deals drugs, spreads plagues and does semi secret murder...who still doesn't really quite fit in because he clearly still got his elite peacock attitude and tries to pretend he's running some kind of noble establishment"

It's the worst of both worlds (cutthroat arrogant businessman & ruthless violent druglord) combined in one man. <3

And it shows in all his little murdery business endeavours

[porcelainvino]

happy 6x7 anniversary 🫶 (dedicated to @kurtsascot , #1 somebody loves you gcv fan)

[gleefulpoppet]

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[kriskubed]

[daltonblaine]

kurt & blaine's dynamic in a nutshell