#literally like 'your disabilities are offensive to ME and I dont see your abuse so its probably not real' thats what they said

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Actually y’know what I’m back bitches cause I just remembered something else that pissed me off again and I think I need to explain it even further, especially because this directly affects both real life and online and clearly, fuckers gotta listen more clearly because whether you’re abled or not, some people are just fucking dumb and need it spoon fed to them.

Y’wanna know why ‘Writing out a writing disability’ that you don’t fucking have is wrong and offensive? Here’s another reference that happened very recently.

Said person I mentioned earlier, friend from high school who i’ve known most of my life, also autistic, tried to ruin my birthday last year, yeah. He was a big believer in the ‘joke’ of ‘just don’t do that’. Aka, I mentioned my blood disorder, his response? ‘Just don’t bleed’. I explained that was wrong, he got into a fit, shit happened, I said things I shouldn’t have, he escalated further and further and then took what I said out of context, made it all about him, got all my friends on his side, claimed I use mental illness as an excuse to treat him like shit and that i needed to apologize to him if i were to earn an apology, and its bullshit, and heres where thats fucked up and where it relates to this shit.

The whole aspect of ‘just turn it off’ ‘just don’t’ and all that, I realize it’s a fucking meme. It’s a fucking shitty meme, but it’s a fucking meme. It’s an ableist as all fuck meme. And you know why? Because all every single disabled persons life, they’re told to just stop being disabled. Ever since I was younger, I was told to just ‘be better at math’, ‘be better at reading’, ‘be better at communicating’. No aide, no help, just ‘don’t do what your brain literally cannot stop doing.’ That is purely ableist rhetoric, and it’s so ingrained in our society that even other non-abled people (though, I will point out as autism is a brain functionality, and despite what fuckheads like to try and make you believe, is not necessarily a disability, it can cause other disabilities, but depending on the section of the spectrum you’re on at any given day it’s not necessarily a disability and is kind of offensive to be referred to as such, and as an autistic i will punch you if you fucking say nothing i say matters because of my autism just saying, technically he wasn’t even fucking disabled anyways and was being an ableist piece of shit too. Which as an autistic he should be fucking ashamed of but that’s besides the point it’s just his fucking personality.) 

Why is it offensive to write out a writing disability, you might ask? For the simple reason of, you can fucking turn it off. You can, literally, turn it off at will. Which encourages ableist fuckfaces like my ex friends, my abusers, basically everyone i’ve ever known, probably just about everyone abi’s ever known, it basically tells them ‘this is not an issue! It can just be turned off! Just for shits and giggles haha!’ and that’s fucking offensive as all fuck. 

Which, again, ties directly into the ‘just don’t’ meme. Which, going back to the situation a few months ago, said friend not only said to just not bleed from my fucking blood disorder/cycle problems, but also to ‘just not have a cycle.’ and when i said i wasn’t okay with that, kept escalating it because he thought it was funny. When I reacted to the escalation, I reacted badly, yes, and who got called an asshole out of it? Not the person who started it, the one being insulted repeatedly and not being taken seriously when she asked repeatedly for them to stop. Which is always the fucking case with ableism. People. Never. Listen. 

Someone can literally tell us, to our faces, to go stab ourselves in the eyeball because we’re worthless for not being able to fucking read a page, and what does the rest of the world tell us? To just ‘turn off’ our disability, and apologize to the ableists who are violently mistreating us. It’s not okay. You don’t have a right to be upset for being called out when your behavior puts the rest of us at constant risk. That’s the basic context that is trying to be pushed out, that seemingly nobody wants to understand. 

The reality is: DONT FUCKING BE ABLEIST. LISTEN TO THE DISABLED WHEN WE TELL YOU WHAT YOURE DOING IS WRONG. YOU CAN ‘TURN IT OFF’. WE CANT. WE WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO ‘TURN IT OFF’ BECAUSE IT IS A PERMANANT PART OF WHO WE ARE. WE’VE BEEN ABUSED ALL OUR LIVES BECAUSE OF IT, YOU HAVENT. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANGRY AT THE DISABLED FOR CALLING OUT YOUR BEHAVIOR WHEN YOU ACTIVELY HARM THE DISABLED WITH YOUR BEHAVIOR. AND ANYONE WHO THINKS OTHERWISE. IS. A. CUNT.

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Krampusable offenses

As some of you know I play the role of “Krampus” for my work’s Christmas event. I very much enjoy this role since I am a huge mythology nut and I love being able to unleash my inner gremlin. But with this role I have noticed many parents who interact with me do not seem to understand why Krampus exists, and what exactly counts as “Naughty”. It often gets to the point where I feel many of the parents who interact with me want to simply psychologically torture their children rather than teach them an actual lesson. So with that said: What is a Krampusable offense? 

Bad grades

This is one of the most common reasons I hear for parents wanting to “feed their naughty children to the Krampus”. And no, this is not a Krampusable offense. 

The reason I say this is because not every child is just disobedient and lazy when it comes to school. Many of the kids I see who often get dragged by their parents for this reason are kids who likely have learning disabilities like Dyslexia, ADHD (and other executive dysfunction issues), dyscalculia, among other things. Kids who have these issues do not learn the same as neurotypical kids and often have a hard time in a traditional school setting. Its not a matter of being lazy or just not wanting to learn, there is a literal disconnect in the brain that makes learning in that specific way 10x harder. 

And even when taking neurodiveristy and disability out of the equasion: school can just be difficult in general and many factors can effect your childs preformence. 

For example if your child is bullied, has a hard home life, difficult teacher, or is overworked this can cause preformence to tank. And sometimes the workload is just unreasonable. Seriously, 2nd graders are given standardized tests and sometimes 10+ hours of homework per week. Stress can be a huge issue and will tank your childs grades. If your kiddo is having school preformence issues dont jump straight to punishing them. Try to find out what is causing those issues and work with them to resolve said issue or change up what is being done. Just yelling at them that they are lazy and that youll literally feed them to a goat demon will not improve those issues. It’ll just cause resentment for you, school in general, and further problems in the future. 

Toddlers doing toddler things

The second most common reason I get for parents wanting to sacrafice their children to me is apparently their toddler/baby is naughty because they: throw tantrums, cry, and dont understand complex concepts like right and wrong. No, this also is not a Krampusable offense. 

Babies and toddlers generally do not really have the mental faclties to comprehend why throwing a tantrum over a mint (or something else equally as stupid) is wrong. They just know that they want/need something but they do not really know how to convey that to you. I am aware screaming children can be annoying (especally when the reason for their screaming may be because they cannot stick a fork into an eletrical socket) but its part of growing up. Seriously they will grow out of it eventually. Its part of the process. I get you want me to scare your children into not doing whatever it is that is annoying you, but I gurentee me scaring your child will simply make them cry harder. This is often why I tell parents Krampus does not eat children under a certain age. There is no real point in punishing somebody who cannot mentally grasp why their actions might be considered wrong or annoying. 

So TLDR: Please do not treaten to punish your child because they do child things. They will understand eventually, you just gotta help em get there (and not do that via fear and psycological abuse). 

 You Just dont like your kids

This is bizzarly another common reason parents want me (Krampus) to eat their kids. This usually comes in the form of a parent (sometimes a step parent) coming up to me and telling me in great how evil/terrible their kid is, and the kids looking extremely confused/hurt by the fact their parent is saying all these things. 

Even if this is all in good fun (it is sometimes) it still gives me the impression you hate/resent your children and that you would actually feed them to Krampus if you could. At that point it does not even matter why you dislike your kids: you create a self fufilling prophesy by repeatidly telling everybody (inluding said kids) how terrible your kids are. They are going to act out because you tell them they are worthless and terrible. They are going to become a bully because they live with one, you. It always makes me deeply uncomfortable when this kinda stuff happens because its like hearing somebody talk extensivly about all of their terrible exes when they themselves are the problem. Its even worse when the children are only toddlers or have very visible (or apparent) disabilities. And 99% of the time its never justified. 

The following advice applies to when you talk to any holiday character, go to any event, talk to your kids teachers, and or just talk about your kids in general: the more you perverbially shit on them the more likley it is they will turn into how you portray them to others. 

Stop it. Please. Nobody should ever have to hear FROM THEIR PARENT how horrible they are. 

So what IS a Krampusable offense? 

With all of the above said, what is a Krampusable offense? 

In my time playing this character I have compiled a mini list of things where using the Krampus story (or me) to scare the daylights out of their kids is justifiable.  

THE KRAMPUSABLE OFFENSE LIST:

Regularly demands things or acts entitled (think r/entitledparents type behavior, not your child simply wanting something)

Hurts others emotionally or physically (bullying)

Regularly insults others (bullying)

Steals from others

Throws tantrums when they do not get their way (keep in mind meltdowns and tantrums are not the same thing)

Breaks toys, furnature, or other things when they do not get their way

Regularly disrespects authority figures and rules/bounderies set by them or others 

General crappy/abusive behavior

I do not mind putting a bratty child in their place every now and then. Ive done it before and I will probably do it again in the future. The story of Krampus in general is a pretty good modivator. But I will only do it if certain conditions are met (the things listed above). And unless those conditions are met, I will be on the side of the child every time. 

Kids can suck sometimes, but I am not going to scare the shit out of them if its not reasonable.