#and honestly im tired of pretending that disabled peoples problems dont matter because it hurt able bodied bitches feelings
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Actually y’know what I’m back bitches cause I just remembered something else that pissed me off again and I think I need to explain it even further, especially because this directly affects both real life and online and clearly, fuckers gotta listen more clearly because whether you’re abled or not, some people are just fucking dumb and need it spoon fed to them.
Y’wanna know why ‘Writing out a writing disability’ that you don’t fucking have is wrong and offensive? Here’s another reference that happened very recently.
Said person I mentioned earlier, friend from high school who i’ve known most of my life, also autistic, tried to ruin my birthday last year, yeah. He was a big believer in the ‘joke’ of ‘just don’t do that’. Aka, I mentioned my blood disorder, his response? ‘Just don’t bleed’. I explained that was wrong, he got into a fit, shit happened, I said things I shouldn’t have, he escalated further and further and then took what I said out of context, made it all about him, got all my friends on his side, claimed I use mental illness as an excuse to treat him like shit and that i needed to apologize to him if i were to earn an apology, and its bullshit, and heres where thats fucked up and where it relates to this shit.
The whole aspect of ‘just turn it off’ ‘just don’t’ and all that, I realize it’s a fucking meme. It’s a fucking shitty meme, but it’s a fucking meme. It’s an ableist as all fuck meme. And you know why? Because all every single disabled persons life, they’re told to just stop being disabled. Ever since I was younger, I was told to just ‘be better at math’, ‘be better at reading’, ‘be better at communicating’. No aide, no help, just ‘don’t do what your brain literally cannot stop doing.’ That is purely ableist rhetoric, and it’s so ingrained in our society that even other non-abled people (though, I will point out as autism is a brain functionality, and despite what fuckheads like to try and make you believe, is not necessarily a disability, it can cause other disabilities, but depending on the section of the spectrum you’re on at any given day it’s not necessarily a disability and is kind of offensive to be referred to as such, and as an autistic i will punch you if you fucking say nothing i say matters because of my autism just saying, technically he wasn’t even fucking disabled anyways and was being an ableist piece of shit too. Which as an autistic he should be fucking ashamed of but that’s besides the point it’s just his fucking personality.)
Why is it offensive to write out a writing disability, you might ask? For the simple reason of, you can fucking turn it off. You can, literally, turn it off at will. Which encourages ableist fuckfaces like my ex friends, my abusers, basically everyone i’ve ever known, probably just about everyone abi’s ever known, it basically tells them ‘this is not an issue! It can just be turned off! Just for shits and giggles haha!’ and that’s fucking offensive as all fuck.
Which, again, ties directly into the ‘just don’t’ meme. Which, going back to the situation a few months ago, said friend not only said to just not bleed from my fucking blood disorder/cycle problems, but also to ‘just not have a cycle.’ and when i said i wasn’t okay with that, kept escalating it because he thought it was funny. When I reacted to the escalation, I reacted badly, yes, and who got called an asshole out of it? Not the person who started it, the one being insulted repeatedly and not being taken seriously when she asked repeatedly for them to stop. Which is always the fucking case with ableism. People. Never. Listen.
Someone can literally tell us, to our faces, to go stab ourselves in the eyeball because we’re worthless for not being able to fucking read a page, and what does the rest of the world tell us? To just ‘turn off’ our disability, and apologize to the ableists who are violently mistreating us. It’s not okay. You don’t have a right to be upset for being called out when your behavior puts the rest of us at constant risk. That’s the basic context that is trying to be pushed out, that seemingly nobody wants to understand.
The reality is: DONT FUCKING BE ABLEIST. LISTEN TO THE DISABLED WHEN WE TELL YOU WHAT YOURE DOING IS WRONG. YOU CAN ‘TURN IT OFF’. WE CANT. WE WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO ‘TURN IT OFF’ BECAUSE IT IS A PERMANANT PART OF WHO WE ARE. WE’VE BEEN ABUSED ALL OUR LIVES BECAUSE OF IT, YOU HAVENT. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE ANGRY AT THE DISABLED FOR CALLING OUT YOUR BEHAVIOR WHEN YOU ACTIVELY HARM THE DISABLED WITH YOUR BEHAVIOR. AND ANYONE WHO THINKS OTHERWISE. IS. A. CUNT.
#out.#language cw#i guess#ableism cw#now i'm leaving again#i was trying to calm down and i got messages and it reminded me of a point i forgot to make earlier because i triggered myself but now that#ive mostly calmed down i can make it again#again abi and jessie can reblog this#anyone else has to ask#this isn't as personal as the last one was this is more peolpe are fucking shitty but snice said ex friend stalks my accounts and still talk#to my friends and literally screencaps half the shit i write for whatever reason to 'prove his points' and usually posts them out of context#i dont care anymore they wanna leave me thats on them im tired of ableism im tired of walking on eggshells#and honestly im tired of pretending that disabled peoples problems dont matter because it hurt able bodied bitches feelings#i showed max the shit my 'friends' sent me after that argument and it was so fucking guilt trippy and offensive#literally like 'your disabilities are offensive to ME and I dont see your abuse so its probably not real' thats what they said#theyre still my friends yes but i know where i stand now#and i know people are full of fucking shit when they say they're there for you half the time#so when ppl actually stand up for you like jessie does for abi you just gotta stick by them bc they the real deal folks#edit: nvm i edited it lmao as an autistic i dont want my words being taken around the bend by ableist fuckheads yknow
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