#like y’all will say ‘yeah I’m normal about feminine men’ but won’t believe that a feminine man is cishetallo

[thebestusernamepossible]

Listen, I love the LGBTQ+ community as much as any other queer person. But we have got to stop ostracizing people in our community to fit in with cishetallo people.

Some of y’all really do go ‘these are the acceptable boxes for queer people and their definitions, anyone outside of these is actually not queer and making us look bad’ and act like that’s ok. Now that being queer is generally acceptable in online/progressive areas (as long as you are one of the ‘well known’ orientations), a big part of the community has started regulating what’s ‘acceptable’ of a queer person and how we should fit into society.

I’ll see people hating on trans people who don’t fit into the ‘normal’ expectation of ‘Trans girl, Trans boy, or Non-binary’ or use Neo pronouns because that’s how they feel the most comfortable. I’ll see people hating on queer people who don’t like labels ( or try to assign people one even if they don’t want it). Or people who use a label in a way they don’t like (bi people who mostly date the opposite sex, lesbians who use pronouns other than just she/her, gender non-conforming people who don’t identify as trans, obscure micro-labels, etc.)

And it’s so frustrating because we as LGBTQ+ are supposed to be better!!! We are supposed to empathize with the feeling of not fitting in with regular society and help others like us! But the community has become part of the oppressive ‘societal standard’ for some people.

Some people just can’t be put into a perfect little label box and a lot of y’all aren’t cool about that. And I can’t believe I have to tell my fellow queers this, but there is nothing wrong with denying societal standards in order to live in the way that is genuine to you and makes you happy. End of story. If you disagree with that, look inward at your internal biases and try and fix that. Get rid of the cop in your brain telling you that you have to police others self-expression.

[guesswhatdaniel]

Hypocrisy in KPOP - Sexualities

Since I see a lot of people complaining about this I decided to just write it out. I’m always complaining about it in my head but never actually say it...

People are always saying not to assume someone is a homosexual/bisexual/etc.. without them straight up saying it.. So I just wanted to tell y’all..

Of course we shouldn’t assume someone’s sexuality based on what they say or do, or the way they act, etc... So please stop assuming all the idol’s are straight! ;) (that is simply not possible.. sorry to disappoint!)

Y’all are going around saying that fans are delusional for thinking/saying X person is gay/bi/whatever but most fans are going around very convinced that 99% of the idol’s are straight and saying we shouldn’t be forcing the sexuality on them? (this are the same fans that assume the ‘gay idols’ are basically and ONLY people such as Jo Kwon, NU’EST’s Ren, INFINITE’s Sungjong, SHINee’s Key, UKISS’ Kevin........ please grow up... Sexuality is not that basic) 

What if I told you all of the ones I mentioned before are actually straight, and PLOT TWIST, the one’s you thought were super manly are actually the one’s who are gay? THAT MIGHT ACTUALLY HAPPEN Y’KNOW? xD  And it probably does with a lot of idols! Take MRSHLL for example, looks physically super manly and what you’d call ‘straight’ right? He’s actually gay! Anyone knows rapper i11evn who was supposed to be a BTS member? Looks super “normal” you wouldn’t even consider his sexuality twice cuz he ‘looks so straight’ so he gotta be straight right? Check again.. He’s bisexual!

Know the biggest proof of this?? I know most of you won’t know him because damn who even knows TOPPDOGG? (you probably dont know MRSHLL or i11vn either so that’s okay xD) But Hansol from TOPPDOGG everyone was SO DAMN SURE he was gay just because he is a bit feminine and likes cute things! Loves cuddling and skinship! Just because he likes dancing to girl groups and because of his dancing style which again is nothing more than a dancing style! A straight guy could do that! (take Bongyoung for example! He dances in heels and very sexy stuff and he’s straight -and yes im not assuming! he has cleared that out himself on an interview-) But yeah, people assumed Hansol was gay just because of such simple stuff.... Turns out he’s actually ASEXUAL! DUMDUM! *some of you might not even know what this means so it means he doesnt like neither men nor women* So again, being feminine or dancing to girls songs does not make you Gay :D He just really is a caring and loving person who treasures friendship over relationships! That’s why he’s that affectionate with his members! So one more time for the people in the back ACTS/VOICE/LIKES/WAYS =/= SEXUALITY

Guys.... South Korea, and that industry is the one forcing HETEROSEXUALITY on them! I do believe a lot of them are straight, yes I do! OBVIOUSLY! Just like not everyone’s straight, not everyone is non-straight either! But let me tell you.... There are quite a lot who aren’t straight! That’s just how it is! (fun fact: did you know that quite a big portion of the lgbt people can be found in the entertainment industry?) So wrap your head around it! That is okay! We won’t assume that they’re gay/bi/etc, and you guys won’t assume they’re straight? That okay?

The fact that fans keep saying such stuff, and ‘my oppa/eonnie isn’t gay’ and etc... added to the fact that Korea is just not ready to accept it, makes companies force non-straight idols to pretend to be straight for your/their sake! So get this through your head... If you are one of this fans saying they can’t be gay you are forcing them into a very awkward and uncomfortable position.... You are forcing them to pretend to be someone they’re not, you’re forcing them ‘to be’ heterosexual... and if they ever were to come out, you’d probably be one of those who’d get mad and say ‘Then why did they lie for so long?’ Well... that’s maybe because people kept saying ‘they cant be gay’ so of course they wanted to please their fans!? Get it? If you write this type of stuff you are forcing heterosexuality on them! So don’t...

Cuz also.... what does it really matter to us? We support them because of their music and the shows/etc they do! We like them because of THEM and their music! Who cares who they go to bed with at night or who they kiss behind closed doors? That has literally nothing to do with us, so why should we even bother worrying over this?

We have every right to wonder and have our own opinions on stuff just don’t go around writing ‘(s)he cant be gay’ or something, because that’s first of all, very homophobic even if to you it doesn’t seem so. And second very disrespectful.. because if they were to read it, and they actually are gay/bi/etc, that’ll hurt them... They’ll think the company is right and they should never come out because their fans won’t like them anymore... That’s what would happen if they read such comments... So instead of writing stuff like that why don’t you go and reply with something like ‘who cares? i’ll like them either way..’ i mean that’s their personal life and we don’t get a say in it, so if you really are their fan, you’ll just want them to be happy! So support them no matter what and don’t dwell over such small things!

I personally do think about it a lot to myself! I talk about it with my sister and some friends like ‘I get this vibe from him/her!’ and ‘I think there’s something going on there’ or even ‘I’m pretty sure this person is ...’ But I don’t go around saying ‘HE/SHE IS THIS FOR SURE! CONFIRMED BECAUSE THEY NEVER SAID THEY’RE STRAIGHT’ I don’t go and post it online either, because we have no right to be saying what they are/aren’t based on our own opinions! I just like doing this bc it’s fun to me, but I don’t actually force it on them, because I’m not sending it to them or asking or actually posting it anywhere! So people shouldn’t do it about heterosexuality either.

It is okay to have your own assumptions and speculations! As long as you don’t claim them as official just bc ‘they never denied it/never said otherwise’! So that’s it!

AND TO FINALIZE DO NOT ASSUME A GUY’S GAY BC THEY ARE FEMININE OR STRAIGHT BC THEY’RE MANLY! OR THAT A GIRL’S A LESBIAN BC THEY’RE ‘MANLY’ OR STRAIGHT BC THEY’RE VERY FEMININE! That’s really no tell tale! :) *besides they could still be bisexual and then you’d get confused ;) so yeah don’t think you know based on appearances go further than that XD*