#like not that she makes excuses for their shitty behavior but that it genuinely doesn't ping as shitty until they get much worse

[flimsy-roost]

my sister also recently conceded that she "might be a little bit autistic" because she realized that the main reason she keeps accidentally dating shitty guys is that she can't clock that they're being mean to her as it's happening

[musical-chick-13]

I hate Raúl/Sofía :)

[ccaramel-llow]

Can I request tadc reader where they're very sweet and nonchalant with people even when they're mean to them?

TADC! Cast x reader

Warnings ; Cussing, Bullying, Jax, Not proof read, Obsessive behavior, Death threats, Holding hands before marriage? smh.

Genre ; Fluff + Romance

Pairings ; Queenie/Reader, Kinger/Reader, Kaufmo/reader, Pomni/Reader, Ragatha/Reader, Zooble/Reader, Caine/Reader, Jax/Reader

Queenie

, The competitive x The sweetheart.

, She's overprotective of you and cusses out anyone who's rude to you.

, Beautiful scary guard dog x The kind sweetheart, Literally punches anyone if they made you cry

, She never does it in front of others although, She makes sure your distracted because she doesn't wanna lose you.

, Gets flustered as you boost up her ego if you complimented her when she finished one of caine's bullshitty challenges

, Always gives you a kiss on the forehead and tells you how proud she is of you and how much she loves you after finishing a challenge.

, She likes to hear you rant about stuff you like and nods her head whenever you make a statement

, She adores hugs, Hug her pretty pretty please :3

, Tries to teach you how to defend yourself but fails, And when she does that literally just makes her pull out a resting bitch face.

, She know's when something's up with you. So if your showing any signs of negative behavior, She tries to comfort you by telling you how strong you are.

" You're trying Lovely, But I'm afraid you're also failing. But that's okay, You're perfect to me in all ways possible. Now may i please have a hug from you my dearest? "

Kinger

, He literally glares at anyone who makes fun of you, He feel's bad for your well being and tries to defend you but fails.

, Drags you to his impenetrable fortress just for him to distract you from negative thoughts when your sad, He distracts you by playing with your hair as he asks you what kind of stuff you like while cuddling

, Hold's your hand when Jax bullies you and when Jax is gone he attempts to try and comfort you.

, He doesn't understand why you're so nice. He always thinks you would get mad and start lashing out but you never do. You just reply with a soft, Kind compliment.

, Stares at you with lovey dovey eyes every time you're near him. He compliments you when you're next to him. He fiddles with his hands while looking at you too.

, Shy loser x Over sweet loser

, Death glare's at anyone who attempts to make fun of you until they go off, He's always pissed when someones mean to you and starts ranting on how you dont deserve such bull shitty treatment.

" (Name), You gotta learn how to fend for yourself!- Yeah you're right actually i suck at fending for myself too. BUT STILL!- You need to actually fight for yourself!... I give up never mind lets just go." drags you to his impenetrable fortress

Kaufmo

, Literally says an offensive joke about anyone who bullies you and then it starts a cat fight.

, He asks if your alright all the time after being yelled at, Bullied, Etc.

, Smooches your hand while cuddling in his room to comfort you if you say no.

, He paints you!! He gets flustered when you ask why he drew you. He uses "B-because you're super kind!" As an excuse with a wobbly smile because he knows he sucks shit at lying.

, When he found an exit, He got so excited because he could show you and you'd be so proud of him!! And you were. And you didn't even take it as a joke.

, He loves how you genuinely love his humor, Even if it's dark.

, Definitely doesn't dream about you both getting married.

, Whenever you laugh he starts to get sweaty and nervous, Because your laugh sounds so genuine that it truly makes him happy, It makes him even more in-love with you.

" Wait.... You... Love my humor? R-really? Uhm.... Of course i'll say more jokes!! F-for you!!"

Pomni

, She's so confused. But she finds you so beautiful.

, Why are you so kind? Are you even real? Are you perhaps an angel sent from heaven to guide her?

, She always freaks out around you and blushes a shit ton.

, Glares at anyone who disrespects you and harsh-fully insults them to the point where the bully bawls their eyes out.

, Asks if you're okay after being insulted and holds your hands as she tells you how great and sweet you are if you say you aren't to reassure you that you're an amazing person.

, She likes to bring you with her while she tries to find a way out the circus, You being her all-time favorite person.

, She drop kicks jax and runs away with you if jax tries to bully you.

, She nods at every statement you say, Not really caring about how stupid your idea is but following it anyways because she's so happy that she gets to be near you.

" (Name), (name)!! Would you like to uh.. Uh!-... COMPLete-! this challenge with me?"

Ragatha

, She's just like you! You're just like her!! You two are basically soulmates sent from heaven.

, Though, She gets mad often and you genuinely are a nonchalant person who's usually calm all the time.

, She defends you from jax and glares at anyone who dares to harshly pick on you.

, Drags you away from the toxic person and asks you whats on you're mind today to distract you from negative thoughts.

, Likes to smooch your cheek after you finish a challenge, Ranting about how proud she is of you.

, Ragatha tends to be passive aggressive when people are being rude to you, For example she says a comment that sounds nice but is extremely offensive to the victims ears.

, Likes to take you to her room so she can braid your hair.

Zooble

, This Ambiguous fuck attacks ANYBODY who messes wit you.

, They comfort you by ranting angrily at you by saying how pretty, Handsome, Sweet and cool you are.

, Will try to teach you how to fend for yourself. But then fails.

, They like to receive attention from you, For example compliments, Praise, Or hugs.

, Cheer's you on when you do something not giving a dog's ass about what others think of it.

, Shit talks the person who talked smack about you.

, Get's in trouble daily for you.

, They like to drag you to their room so they can rant about stuff as they slowly get flustered on how you look and listen to them so intently.

, They also get nervous around you, Pretending that you dont exist and usually pretends to cough to cover up a compliment, When you ask what they said they just said they coughed.

, Likes to rant about you while your listening.

" (Name), You let that little- you know what...? Come on sweetie were gonna do some defensive training. "

Jax

, He literally teases you alot.

, Bullies you but he knows when he goes too far so he stops.

, Bullies the person who talked bullshit about you as if he wanted them dead, because he does.

, Will say death threats to the person who bullied you. Not including himself.

. Can And will throw a fight just because someone criticized you.

, Calls you "Sugar" because of how sweet you are. And also calls you his saint for personal reasons.

, he likes to ask you for a lot of stuff, But plot twist, He asks for kisses, Praise, Etc.

"Hey toots, Mind kissing me right here?~"

Caine

, Bitch was confused on why you were so calmed when you first arrived, But soon later developed feelings for you after the first 2 year's you stayed.

, He honestly was surprised you lasted this long but then remembers he shouldn't because Hoo Hah exists.

, Is VERY chatty when your around him. He likes to rant about stuff while you're just there listening to him speak gibberish.

, Glares at anybody who shit talks you and sends them to the cellar with a sheer look of dissapointment.

, SPIN HUGS WHEN YOU FINISH A CHALLENGE AND YOU WERENT FEELING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF. HE PRAISES YOU SO MUCH. RAHH.

, When your sad he takes you to your room and your both just cuddling while your sleeping and under big fat soft blankets and he plays with your hair.

" How dare you criticize my dearest you li-"

Likes + Reblogs are appreciated.

i spent 2 hours on this bitch smh

[landoposition]

Since you blocked me even though I already sent this once clearly you don’t actually want to confront anything real - here it is again. Plenty of videos of Lando being sexist including him describing girls he’s been with as ‘it’ ‘the old’ one?’ “the top golf one?’ ‘the nationality one’ 

Saying ‘if a girl asks about star signs, you get up and leave’

And more, also suggesting ‘you sometimes have to listen to a girl to get a reward (sex)https://www.tumblr.com/fastcarsgovroom/646471312353705984/dont-really-know-what-to-make-of-still-it-but

And it genuinely hurt people as seen here - https://www.reddit.com/r/formula1/comments/ma6iff/i_love_a_sport_that_doesnt_love_me_back/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Let’s not forget him calling the Horner situation ‘off track noise’ and we shouldn’t focus on it 

This one where he disagreed with Vettel and the rest of the paddock and said the fans who harassed girls at the grand price shouldn’t be banned - https://ef-1.tumblr.com/post/689751344232464384/this-aint-it-chief-there-was-racial-and-sexual/amp

https://www.essentiallysports.com/f1-news-as-f1-stands-against-inappropriate-behavior-by-fans-lando-norris-faces-immense-backlash-for-problematic-take?utm_source=navbar&utm_campaign=article_share

Ironic you bring you piquet up since Norris also defended him 😂 - https://www.total-motorsport.com/f1-norris-piquet-racial-slur-people-make-mistakes/amp/

There’s literally so much more racist Halloween costumes, weird dms, I could go on and on but I’m sure you’ll weasel your way around it - don’t act high and mighty when none of these drivers are saints Lando is just a horrible as you want to make everyone else out to be 

okay, let's go through parts here

1. the misogynistic comments —

i'm still failing to see a concrete video proof, but okay. i don't agree with what he said, and i would definitely feel offended if i got told that. liking a driver ≠ agreeing with everything they say.

seeing as it happened in 2021, almost four years ago, i'd definitely say that lando has grown and matured. it's not an excuse for what he said, keep that in mind. lando has done a lot more that highlights the fact he isn't misogynistic than not.

take it as an example: an interview with brazilian journalist mariana becker. she asked him a question, he said “you're definitely the one who asks the better questions here”, and another journalist from the crowd said he was a liar. lando went on to promptly defend mariana.

2. horner comments —

literally every driver did it lol. doesn't make it any better, but they all did it. plus, it wouldn't be smart — pr wise — to say shit about the rival team's tp, would it?

3. vettel disagreement —

people grow, change and mature. people can change a lot from a year to the other. he wasn't saying he didn't want them banned; he was saying it just shouldn't be for life because people can regret what they did. shocking, right?

again, i would've been slightly more upset at the time, but seeing as he has done a lot more to talk about abuse in the sport with fans amongst themselves and fans with drivers, as well as always broaching the topic of mental health, i'd say he has done more to prove he's not approving of abuse in the sport.

4. piquet comment —

cannot and will not defend him on that one. he was wrong, period.

still doesn't erase the fact he chose to participate in the blm movement when lewis brought it up. cl16 refused to do so, if i'm not mistaken.

but then again, max verstappen and red bull were the ones to take piquet to the paddock in são paulo and break his permanent ban.

5. final thoughts —

all of them are going to do controversial shit. they're rich fucks who don't have much grasp of the real life. that's shitty.

what stands out is the fact he changed. grew. matured. he has done a lot more over the years to prove he's not any of those things than to prove he is.

6. extra bits about lando —

auctioned off his hungary helmet and the money was destined to two charities. auctioned off his pole position award in singapore, which was signed by sir jackie stewart. gives concert tickets to his garage crew. is defined as "humble" by his engineer.

[batboys-cumdumpster]

Actually I'm not done ranting yet bc now I'm gunna beef with SJM for fumbling Nesta's arc.

The whole book was hollow and empty for a character who had so much potential to actually be a strong badass. SJM reduced her entire book to shitty sex scenes and three different random plot points that were poorly address and poorly wrapped up (with some very unrealistic events, too, ranging from Feyre's 'she can't have a c-section' to the merry band of ribbon cutters 'winning' the blood rite).

In ACOWAR, I wanted to see Nesta step into her womanhood with power and she didn't. I was rooting for her and I was rooting for Nessian. There was SO much potential there. But it all fell apart. Horribly.

The cheap way Nesta "redeemed" herself by "saving" Feyre and Nyx without actually having a conversation with Feyre and apologizing makes me upset. I wanted two sisters to talk, I wanted them to face their past together and address it and have something real there. And any time Nesta and Feyre could have had a conversation, SJM ruined it by having it interrupted.

Nesta's friendships also feel empty and hollow to me. The friendships felt forced in the beginning to get to the closeness it ended at. And SJM writing Emerie and Gwyn telling Nesta she has nothing to apologize for (especially not knowing what she's even done) makes Nesta stans' behavior of excusing Nesta's behavior and blaming others for her behavior even worse.

It's okay to admit your fave has been abusive. It's okay to admit they have been shitty, and are still exhibiting that shitty behavior (ie Nesta making that shot at Azriel's mom in CC3). It's okay for a character to own that and apologize for it but it should only be accepted if that character actually changes. It is just like real life. I know these are fictional characters but if SJM wants to use these characters to reflect real life then she needs to be more responsible when writing them.

Give us real, changed behavior. Please, I am begging you. Give Nesta some fucking dignity and stop making her lash out at people like some child with a temper tantrum when she's angry. Let her actually fucking grow and show people that someone with such horrible tendencies can become a better person while owning up to what they've done and apologizing. It is hard work not to revert back to our trauma headspace and act the way we do when dealing with mental health so yeah, Nesta is gunna fuck up. But give her room to fuck up, she can't get there when she has no changed behavior.

I am so very much hoping that Nesta has changed in Elain's book because I want to like her. Even if her stans piss me off and dismiss her behavior, I genuinely do want to like Nesta. I was starting to like her and then, again, SJM completely fucked her character and her stans excuse it left and right and blame everyone except Nesta.

Nesta is responsible for her own actions, reactions, emotions, and health. No one owes her anything just because she is suffering because everyone has trauma they are dealing with. She cannot continue to make her trauma everyone else's problem. It doesn't make sense for being upset that IC/Rhysand tell her to mind herself when she gets abusive or when they give her back the energy she gives them.

No matter who you are, actions have consequences and most of the time no one cares about what you're going through in your personal life, they only care how you're treating others while you're going through it.

[nurselynn]

I love that you like Pran, he is so cool!!!!!

Also would Lynn be considered part of the jerks?

SEE OKAY THE THING IS i was actually thinking about this after my last post!! too much, probably, haha. so there are basically 2 ways i've realized i can think about it.

one is that you can separate lynn into two distinct characters: jerklynn and nurse lynn. obviously, jerklynn would be considered a jerk and nurse lynn wouldn't, because he's grown up and changed, and definitely wouldn't be considered anywhere near hopeless enough to be hypothetically put into the jerks' group. in this case, i still would not consider jerklynn my favorite jerk, if only because we haven't actually seen him in the canon universe. so nurse lynn > pran > jerklynn. if that makes sense. haha

the other way that i'm starting to think about it is that, despite becoming a better person, lynn is actually still kind of a jerk.

which is why i love him so much of course! we love nuance!

it's just not obvious like it is with the other guys. like, yes lynn has had 6 to 8 years to grow out of his shitty behavior, and for the most part he has. but being a bad person was so core to who he was as a human being, and you can't just completely erase such big facets of your personality on a whim. the pettiness, the gossiping, the emotional distance, the almost patronizing way he views others - it's all very much still there. it's just hidden behind a pretty veneer of professionalism and politeness. he is nice, and he does care about his students, but a lot of that is just him doing his job as someone who works in education. he doesn't actually want to be their friend or let them know him personally. when jb tries to get to know him better, it's like pulling teeth - he reveals so little and insists that she get to know others her age better instead. which is understandable at first, but when you think about it, it's really just him wanting his alone time and genuinely pushing her away with a solid excuse. (in the end, he does say he wants to be better, because he knows he's not being very nice about it)

also directly from the horse's mouth haha

so... in that way, i suppose lynn definitely could be a jerk! my beautiful beautiful angelic jerk 😌🤍🤍🤍

[weirdestcornelius]

Starting this sparklecrit blog out with a bang of course. Hello fellow critics and those that will send me slurs /hj

Sparklecare and Cometcare their fandoms have a blatant ableism problem. The fandom consistently makes fun of characters that are seen as having "gross" disabilities or disorders.

Take Sly, for example. She doesn't take care of herself because of depression, something that is shown in comic and stated directly on her toyhouse profile. Fen is one of the MOST relatable characters I have ever come across. The moment I saw her in comic my first thoughts were "that's me. That's literally me in this comic, I've never felt so close to a character before." Untillll I saw how god awful the fandom and even Kittycorn treats fen.

Sly is so consistently made fun of for fens hygiene, it's disgusting. Sure, maybe one or two jokes would be fine. Hell, even a joke every arc would be fine, but it's something she's constantly made fun of for. The way the fandom and Kittycorn squeakself calls fen "stinky" and "gross" is TERRIBLE. There is no excuse to act like this. Yes, fen is a character and therefore not a real person, but it's really shitty behavior to make fun of a character for their legitimate illness. Jeez, I figured I wouldn't have to worry about this in a fandom supposedly made out of mentally and physically disabled/ill people.

Moving onto Sparklecare instead of a side comic, Polly. Poor, poor Polly has been done so nasty. It has a genuine illness, made up or not, that has terrible symptoms that cannot be cured on spinch. He can't remember their own friends, she can hardly feel emotions towards others, but all of that is tossed aside to make another "lmao being around Polly makes everyone else horny" joke. I guess it makes sense for them to act like that around Polly (sort of?) considering the whole heat retainment lore and the cold, but Polly is literally shown to be uncomfortable with this. They don't seem to be interested in Barry or anyone around them at all. She doesn't get any personality other than "numb fox dude that steals from people and can't feel emotions that well". You can write emotionally numb characters without giving them zero personality. Not to mention how Polly just doesn't use his cane despite it being specified that it needs it otherwise they're at fall risk. It seems like that issue is being fixed, but here's hoping it actually stays fixed.

I want more disabilities to be shown so badly, but at the same time, I'm scared for them to be. I just know that the disabilities I struggle with, if they were represented in this comic, they'd be made fun of. For example, my really bad skin picking disorder causes me to leave flakes of skin and nail clippings wherever I go. I just know that this fandom would make fun of a character for that by saying shit like "they can't even clean up after themselves lmao. #lazy" or something along those lines.

I've been so consistently triggered by people making fun of Sly that it's not even funny. For a fandom that's supposed to be understanding, everyone sure does love to make fun of peoples illnesses the moment they're not played off as cutesy or a gateway into ship material. It's disgusting.

[tamsiblings]

re: simon's rant, lmao, the creators are really not afraid of making the audience uncomfortable just by nature of how LONG an awkward/uncomfortable moment goes on. it's hard to watch!

now, we all know i am a simon supporter (and maybe perhaps a little bit simon apologist lmao, if it helps i am aware of my biases) but to be fair, i am going FUCK YEAH GET HIS ASS during this whole exchange (even if i do have some sympathetic things to say about him after)

kaylee is, ofc, 100% right to call him out here. he was being mean about things that matter to her, judgmental, and inconsiderate of her feelings. he wasn't outright trying to hurt her - he was ranting, and, rather than cruelty, his real crime here was inconsideration. it's not that he was trying to hurt her feelings, it's that he didn't think about her feelings at all while he was saying it. which is shitty!

as uncomfortable and sad as it is to watch, though, i do kind of think it was necessary for it to happen, both because kaylee had him up on a little bit of a pedestal that he needed to get knocked down from if they're ever going to have a real shot at a relationship, and because it forces simon to grow and reflect. (they do have other simon-puts-his-foot-in-his-mouth related conflicts, but in fairness, there are 3 of those throughout a 14 episode run, and they're all about/caused by at least somewhat different things, and i think they're honestly the very realistic kind of blunders that happen as you're getting to know someone. this is the worst one by a mile, imo.)

also, i think what bothers me about his behavior here more than what he was actually saying is when he tries to backtrack and be like "no no i was being ironic" simon! just say you were having a bad day and what you said was shitty and you're sorry! it's not that hard hshshshshs

on to a tiny bit of simon-leaning sympathy: to his credit, when she walks away, he looks genuinely upset to have hurt her feelings. and also, again, while this doesn't excuse anything, he is having a bad day, and it's actually very telling to me that he rants to kaylee, specifically, i think because he feels the most comfortable around her (and maybe inara, she is there too) out of anyone else on the crew. (i honestly don't think he would have said, any of this, to, say, wash or zoe.) that doesn't make it right, but it does make me think he genuinely didn't want to hurt her feelings.

[lovinglin]

Last rb reminded me of a one-off(?) au with P1colara that I made that's based off of the whole "you were a wonderful experience" "you were... everything" line

It's pretty bittersweet but also... sad(?) in a way. Lots of stuff that's kinda different but still the same, so I'll just ramble it below the cut 🫶 (it might get lengthy)

This is a very simple AU that I didn't think too much details for (considering the main point is inspired by the line I said prior), but basically it's abt how Lara has to go back to her home country and leave Pico behind.

Some stuff to note for this AU:

They never actually dated/aren't together in this AU, and strictly stay as only friends. Still... it doesn't stop one of them from catching feelings for the other.

Their first meeting is very different, as Pico & co. aren't actually after her anymore in this (as that's how the trio become aware of Lara's existence in my canon). Additionally, Lara isn't an angel.

With that out of the way, here's the actual plot:

I'm not sure where they first meet, but it's a key detail that they constantly bump into each other, as this'll how they'll get closer.

Coincidental meet ups of "oh, it's you again" turn into "it's nice to see you again" where they're already expecting the next time they'll see the other.

Until one day, they invite each other to join them in whatever activity they have planned for that day (if plausible of course). Maybe even just inviting them to get food, sit down and have a chat. Get to know each other more.

It's a nice change of pace, especially for Pico. Something different from his usual (shitty) everyday life. His best friends probably even notice how cheerful he looks lately.

They don't question it much at first, since it's quite a sight to see Pico smile this often, let alone genuinely. And they'd rather not ruin it.

But they soon ask about her (Lara), and their questions sorta tease him regarding his "friendship" with her ("how was your date?" "busy daydreaming about your 'friend'?" "when's your next date?")

Pico insists they were just friends, as he explains that Lara was just being friendly with him. But... there's this small feeling that tugs at his heart strings and- no, he's just happy to have a new friend. That's really it.

It's nice. It really is nice. To see someone's smile and have it be enough to brighten your day.

That feeling is soon shortly outlived once he hears the next few words that came out of Lara's mouth during their hangout.

"I think I'll be going back to my home country soon."

After that, the rest of what she said was kind of a blur to him. Something about family, something about missing something, something about moving on, something about-

"Pico? Hey? You alright?"

And he just... nods. Excusing his behavior with just being tired. But the moment he's in bed that night, he can't even bring himself to sleep.

He thinks about it- about the time she'll finally leave and how things will go back to the way things used to be (before she entered his life).

And there's a part of him that wants to cling onto her. To make her stay. And he knows it's selfish but she's really is the one good thing that has ever happened to him thus far in his life.

He should've at least treasured the last few moments he still had with her before she needed to leave.

But how can he when every time he sees her now, he feels dread and can't stop the lump in his throat from forming and the words "can't you stay?" Repeating in his mind.

He wants her to stay yet doesn't want to hold her down. So he says nothing, and does himself the favor of pushing himself away from her (from those he's closest to) early on.

(He has always done this, especially with his own best friends. Because the idea of being vulnerable hurts him more than hiding it.)

It's a miracle though, when he agrees to a text she sent him that went along the lines of "I'm not leaving until you accompany to the airport" or something like that.

It was the least he could do, especially after distancing himself from her after she told him she was gonna leave soon (when was that again? Weeks? Maybe a month ago? He can't remember).

The car ride was... a bit awkward to say the least. Even more so once they arrived at the airport, and she told him that her flight wasn't until a few hours later.

They were sitting together, alone (not literally, but it's the first time in a while again where they're 'alone' together again).

And she's the one to speak up first, to ask about the elephant in the room on why he was distancing himself from her these past weeks.

"I didn't wanna bother ya" "a simple meet up isn't a bother, especially with the time we still had before... this"

And she was right. And he couldn't lie on how idiotic he was for doing what he did.

He's not sure if he should come clean at this point. To tell her that he liked her, and maybe wanted something more than just being friends.

But before he speaks up again-

"Can I tell you something?"

"Sure"

"I really like you"

And he's stunned when she says that, because he wants to say "me too," but she seems to continue speaking and he lets her.

"It's kinda funny to say that now, especially since... y'know, I'm leaving. But I do. But... I don't know if I can settle down here, especially since- there's a lot going on and- what I'm trying to say is that I'm just not ready yet."

She explains to him on how she broke up with someone before meeting him. How it was still a fresh wound that still needed time to heal. How she realized that she never really 'loved' the person she dated. She did care for them, but only stayed because she was desperate to feel validated. To feel the high of being loved and happy.

And this makes Pico (internally) question if he really did love her or he just wanted to cling to the feeling of being happy too (since it's been so long since he genuinely felt it).

When he admits the same thing to her, she smiles, albeit a bit sadly.

They both truthfully had a lot going on, and she didn't want him to wait for her to be 'ready' since that'd be selfish too. She wasn't sure when she really will be.

When he tells her he'd be willing to wait, she tells him not to, as there was still so much more good for him to discover that wasn't just her. He only needed to look closely.

Things have been rather heavy up to this point, so she invites him to go get some food to lighten up the mood.

And soon enough, they're both laughing and joking around with each other like before. Chatting about whatever came on their mind.

It's easy to feel like everything was alright again in those moments, like there was nothing wrong (there really wasn't, but...)

The time of when Lara has to leave finally comes, and perhaps Pico was holding onto her hand a little more tightly than he intended.

So she turns to him, and speaks.

"You know, with all things considered, I'd rather have you been this small part of my life rather than not."

And she squeezes his hand back, before loosening her hold as he does so too.

"You were a wonderful experience."

"You were... everything."

[oplishin]

sorry i had more punk discourse thoughts. this will sway no one's mind about anything, i just had thoughts and this is my blog dammit

IMPORTANT tws for violence and general shitty behavior towards women

there's two main arguments/excuses for his behavior (which, let's be clear, is bragging on a podcast about manipulating, objectifying and purposefully injuring a female wrestler to "keep her in check")

the first is that it was a long time ago which. this is factually true, but i really really hate this as an argument. i have spent uhhh a lot of words trying to articulate my very angry feelings about this but. in a nutshell, the women who were hurt by the general misogyny of 2000s wrestling Do Not get to move on from their trauma, and i am personally uninterested in forgiving him. not that it really matters, lol.

the second is that this was just the culture of 2000s independents. which is also true, and existentially HORRIFYING to me. like honestly, that doesn't make me think punk's stuff is Fine, it makes me question why i even bother liking this sport. i am waiting for the next scandal to drop, for the next man to be outed as a predator. this isn't just a wrestling thing, neil gaiman just got outed as a groomer, cody ko slept with tana mongeau when she was 17, etc etc it never fucking ends, and i'm so sad and angry and miserable about it. there's not even allegations here, it's punk bragging about the things he's done.

i re-read the transcription of punk's words, and it's genuinely sickening. he calls her "the bikini girl." he doesn't know her fucking name. he made her drive him fucking everywhere so he wouldn't have to use his own car. fuck, man. what am I doing here.

[abandonedaccount1234]

I am sure people are gonna attack me for this but it needs to be said.

NOTE: I am in no way, shape, or form trying to cancel Tommy Kinnard or Lou.

I like Tommy. He's a good character.

He HOWEVER is a very flawed character. A character who has yet to have any real reckoning for what he did. Helping the crew to save the ship doesn't mean we get to just forget he was racist and misogynistic.

You don't get to just be racist, misogynistic, and honestly even homophobic, come out later in life, and use that as free pass to get away with with you did. That's not on Tommy or Lou (though he really downplayed that to a point of ICK in that cameo imo), it's on the writers. I do acknowledge this is a fictional character.

Even more of a reason as to why IT'S OKAY TO ADMIT HE'S NOT PERFECT. I want characters to be truly human. To make mistakes. To learn from their mistakes. And to say, hey, that was really shitty and I'm sorry.

I am not okay with the show just writing off the discrimination he caused because some years have passed and he's now Buck's boyfriend.

Hurt people hurt people. Yes. That does NOT excuse the behavior. Only explains it.

Past Tommy was the epitome of male white privilege and never being held accountable. Like everyone else in that station. They quite literally fostered an environment of white supremacy and I don't feel like we talk about this enough.

Present Tommy is....? Who the fuck knows because the writers haven't really let us know? They haven't let us see any real growth besides being out and being okay with woman of color now..?

This feels all to similar to growing up in a predominantly white area where people try to act progressive and like they were never once racist in their lives so no one 'cancels' them.

To never acknowledge it and to write it off like it was nothing frankly pisses me off.

Tommy has the potential to be great representation for people who have truly educated themselves and become genuine good people by learning from their mistakes and the discrimination they caused.

There is nothing wrong with saying, hey, I messed up, I made choices that directly hurt you. I will educate myself moving forward and I will be better. All I want is acknowledgement that he knows what he did was wrong.

I say all of this a woman of color myself who very much has faced similar microaggressions (and major) like Hen has.

You don't ever forget what those people said or did. Whether they've grown or changed and become a better person. That shit sticks with you for life. Every. Single. One.

I wanna like Tommy so bad but I just...can't get past this and I refuse to.

You don't get a free pass because you were in the closet or because that was what the times were like or because everyone else was doing it. There's no excuse.

Sorry not sorry 🤷🏽‍♀️

It's 2024. We can own up to our mistakes and be okay.

I think Tommy is great for Buck. I just wish people would stop acting like he's a saint who has never done anything wrong because they're in a relationship. The relationship is a historical moment for television. I don't want them to ruin it by doing what most casually racist people do, and act like it never happened.

It's okay for someone to not be perfect. It's a fictional show, you'll be okay.

There are some people genuinely attacking other people online for holding any criticism against Tommy and it's giving very-no offense-Swiftie energy. You can like Taylor as an artist and acknowledge she made a whole ass documentary about wanting to be on the right side of history and then fails to speak up for any issues that didn't directly affect her or her image or her profits. It's white feminism.

I don't know if there's a word for white feminism like behavior for white queer characters...? But that is frankly what's happening and needs to stop because it's already gone too far.

***Please be kind in any replies or you will be blocked. I have no energy to deal with people who have the emotional capacity of an almond. <3

[majormeilani]

riding off the emotions of last night,

i did actually end up confronting my grandmother and my uncle about their shitty behavior and i got the absolutely most deranged response i've EVER heard from them and not a single thing they said to me felt like a genuine apology.

the first thing i said to my grandmother was expressing that i don't feel respected by her and how she always makes excuses for my uncle making shitty comments and being an asshole and i asked her 'why do you always stick up for him when he says shitty things about me or my siblings' and her first response to me was '... because he's my son.'

and i was like ......... WHAT?!!!??!!

and i exploded from anger at that statement and barked back at her 'but i am your granddaughter. do my feelings not matter???' and then she fussed at me for yelling like 'you don't have to yell..' and i was like NO bitch i do need to yell and this coaxed my coward ass whiny bitch of an uncle out of his room because i was 'yelling at his mommy' cry me a fucking river

and then my brother stepped in on my behalf and lit them both the fuck up and called my grandmother something insulting but true and said she's only cared about herself, which is true, and then shit escalated to the point where my uncle threatened to call the cops on my brother and then kept telling him to leave and apologize to our grandmother, because they're both kiss ass bitches to each other and enable their bullshit. and then things escalated further to the point where my uncle ended up trying to remove my brother physically from the house, essentially assaulting him. and after that my brother just ended up waiting out in the car.

and after all that my uncle starts preaching to me about how he's 'always cared about us and loved us with his whole heart' and starts talking about how he 'doesn't understand how things ended up like this with our relationship' and sheds some crocodile tears about how he's so heartbroken that we don't love him back and whatever, when he's the one who literally made my brother suicidal since he was 6 years old with how shitty things he'd always treated us. and he has the audacity to try and appeal to me by bringing up the fact that my parents had a divorce and it's what 'ruined everything we had as a family' when motherfucker it was you acting like a piece of shit that ruined things between us, constantly bullying us and putting us down and saying hurtful things that my grandmother just excused as 'teasing' motherfucker. dunking my brother's head underwater when he was like ten years old and you're a grown ass man isn't fucking teasing. i would strangle you with my bare hands if i could, motherfucker.

and then he repeatedly brings up how i we were his 'first little nieces and nephew' and gets all weepy and pathetic again expressing how it breaks his heart and blah blah blah as if WE are hurting HIM for being affected by his shitty behavior?????? and then he mentions his own hardships and how he's not the type to hold grudges he just lets things go and leaves the past behind him and blah blah blah like wowww so hard for you to say your shit behavior wasn't that bad and express how we're somehow bad people for 'holding grudges' like dude.

also him mentioning how we're his first nieces and nephews was something he tried to use as leverage to the fact that 'his relationship with his other nieces and nephews aren't as bad as ours with him' yet they didn't live with him constantly growing up? and be tormented by him day by day? they didn't live with them. they're also children too, who don't know better yet and i'm honestly hoping they realize the true colors of that side of the family when they do grow up because my heart breaks for them being caught up with this shit too. i still can't believe he blamed it all on the divorce tearing shit apart when he's the one who acted that way with us before it happened.

and my grandmother also tried appealing to me too, getting in my face, touching me, and trying to wipe my tears and nose, like i'm a fucking child. and she proceeds to infantilize me by constantly bringing up child me and how she was so excited i was her first granddaughter and how she cried and blah blah blah. she kept bringing up how i was when i was a child and trying to use that to show me that she's always loved me no matter what I thought of her and ect. and then she goes on to try and commend me for my accomplishments and when i step to kinda move away from her, she steps in my way, essentially making a barrier to keep me from leaving while she's speaking. and she asks me if there's a way we can fix things between us and it's like???? that's not for me to figure out. that's her and my uncle's responsibility. they're the one who ruined things, not me. they just kept trying to ask essentially for another chance but that was not going to happen and kept trying to guilt trip me essentially by claiming that it's my choice of what happens, but heavily implying that we should just let it go and give them another chance. but like, it's clear to me these people won't change and it's why they've meant nothing to me. they played no part into shaping the person i am today so what makes them think i'm going to forgive them? they're as good as dead to me.

and guess what? after all of this bullshit they both had the audacity to ask for a hug. like i want your disgusting bodies against mine. fuck. off.

[sweaterkittensahoy]

An interesting bit of my relationship with Sean:

Until I was 14, all my primary caretakers were--at minimum--narcissist to a point. My stepfather was definitely an abuser and a drunk, but I honestly don't recall enough of the man (he died when I was 12) to guess at the narcissism level, but looking back with the knowledge I have, definitely some traits. My mom, bio-dad, and stepmom? Narcissists. All of them. And that's based on my therapist recommending books about dealing with narcissists when I described them.

Sean's parents were married until he was 19 (fun fact: his mom told him she was going to divorce his dad the same weekend we had our first date). Sean's mom taught him that a couple arguing/fighting is healthy ("Sometimes you have to yell to get to a good conclusion."). Sean's mom taught him that going to couples's therapy is healthy.

Sean's dad, unfortunately, grew up the son of an intense alcoholic mother (gee, that's familiar) and has, at least, narcissistic tendencies. He does not go to therapy. He goes to group "therapy" at his church (not run by a professional).

Sean and I have very different experiences with our narcissistic parents. First, I've had more of them. Second, all of mine have been very, very loud.

Sean's dad's narcissism is much quieter. He doesn't shame Sean or rewrite history. Instead, he does things like call Sean when there MIGHT be a tsunami on the Oregon Coast so that SEAN will look up the information and report it to him rather than just look it up himself.

No joke: Sean's dad recently saw one of Sean's cousins on his mother's side talking about a health issue in the family. Was Sean's dad response to message the cousin (an adult) and get clarification?

No.

Sean's dad called Sean, explained he'd seen a facebook post, and asked what was happening.

Short answer: Someone in Sean's mom's family known to Sean's dad is having severe health issues.

Two days later, Sean got a sudden flurry of texts from his dad. It was all contact info for family on his side. Sean's aunt, the two uncles, and a few cousins. Sean stared at it and said, "Why is he sending me this?"

Here's the thing: My narcissism experience is much crazier. I've had my mom lie to my face about things that have happened. My bio-dad made me apologize to my stepmother literally directly after she'd hit me. More than once. My mom can give me an excuse to never visit me in my city and then turn around and talk about how many vacations she takes.

Sean's experience with his dad's narcissism is very funny to me because I truly believe his dad does not mean to do it. He simply has no idea how to communicate well.

I cannot stress enough, intent does not matter with a narcissist. It's not about whether they INTEND to hurt you or not. It's about if you feel shitty after. Because narcissists are particularly good at making you feel shitty while sounding nice. Sean's most common response to his dad's behavior is confusion.

Anyway, Sean's wondering what the fuck his dad is doing, and my brain clicks a few things together, and I said, "OH! He wants you to know who to contact if he drops dead!"

And Sean just stares at his phone for a moment, then sighs and go, "Yeah. Yeah, that's what that is."

Not gonna lie: I started giggling because my experience sees an amateur effort at getting Sean to ask a question.

Sean: "Really?"

Me: "Sorry. It's just...sorry."

Sean: "I'm just gonna say thanks."

Me: "An excellent decision."

It absolutely is. It acknowledges the effort and does not open the room to conversation.

It's an odd place to be, coming from several professional-level narcissists, to getting a genuine giggle out of Sean's dad's amateur efforts. I think part of what makes it funny instead of angering is that Sean is an only child, so his dad can't aim any secret shittiness in another direction.

I won't lie: It feels good that my shitty upbringing can be used towards giving guidance to someone I love who knows shit isn't perfect and that imperfect relationships have meaning and worth.

[bluejayblueskies]

In ascending order

1. Tim. Was taking out anger better directed at Elias on Jon because he didn’t, you know, psychologically torture subordinates who got too uppity but ultimately had a very valid point about how Jon’s inhumanity made it difficult to trust him and his very continued existence causes other people to suffer also not obligated to forgive Jon for his shitty behavior in S2

2. Basira. Martin from someone else’s perspective, aggressively overlooking and excusing her partner’s crimes (despite said partner themselves not agreeing with that) to try and have their cake and eat it to.

3. Georgie. Establishes she is smart, levelheaded, and emotionally intelligent enough to deal with supernatural bullshit but then pulls a complete 180 in S4 and also has a massive double standard where she gives Melanie credit and support for wanting to get better but also punishes Jon by cutting him out of her life for *checks notes* being alive. She’s very frustrating but she does also own up to that and apologize and I will give her credit for that.

4. Melanie. Literally just wants to be mad at anyone but herself and refuses to acknowledge how her own choices got her into the mess she was in. She admits to Jon’s face that the bullet stayed in her because she wanted it and still continues to treat him like crap.

(i'm assuming this is in response to my 'i'm still mad about how people treated jon' post)

i do agree that tim doesn't owe jon forgiveness for the stalking, but i don't agree with the 'jon's continued existence causes people to suffer' part of this. i'll always be a believer in 'jon is allowed to be alive without being punished for it.' (i won't get into the inhumanity bit since i find that i define 'humanity' differently than other people, and i think what you're trying to say is that jon becoming spookier makes it hard for tim to trust him, which is something i would agree with.) i think a lot of tim's anger at jon comes from fear and feeling trapped rather than actual hatred towards jon, actually, but i don't feel much up to crafting an actual meta for that at the moment, sorry!

aside from the fact that i don't think daisy's crimes (hunting down and killing people for years as part of the police and engaging in police brutality) and jon's crimes (forcing people to relive their trauma against their will, but ultimately not killing them) are equitable, i don't think that martin actually excuses jon's actions. he's the one who gives the s4 archives crew the tape with jon's victim and thus makes jon stop taking live statements. martin supports jon in seasons 2 and 3 when he's being hurt and tortured and has few people in his corner, but he's also very ready to call jon out on his actions if need be. i don't think basira and martin are very similar at all.

i agree with most of this point! georgie's double standard in s4 is very frustrating, and she does recognize at least a bit in s5 that she wasn't the better person for just running away from it all.

any time i think about melanie, i just remember how everyone (including jon himself!) told her not to get involved with the institute but she did it anyway (very watcher-aligned of her). her arc is actually one of the most interesting to me bc of how much anger and the need to claw her way to the top motivates her, and i genuinely think that under different circumstances, she and jon might have been the kind of friends who rib each other constantly but would fight god for each other.

[arcane-ish]

One of the weirdest instincts of fandom to me is when people go on crusades that seem like they are about getting people to not ship what they don't ship. Rather than you, know, trying to convince people to ship what you ship.

Like, there a ships I don't like. I have major issues with JayVik conceptually and their affect on the show (and I think they give asshole techbro vibes rather than sweet academic vibes) and I dislike Lightcannon because I don't like Lux (because I think she gives off obnoxious cheerleader vibes and I want to punch her every time she says the "By the Light" line), I don't ship Vi/Jinx and Silco/Jinx because I think they pull off the familial relationship and interactions well.

But I make like some comment about them when it comes up and maybe one post where I explain that I don't like them.

And then I spent my time squeeing and fawning over the ships I actually like. (also: I'm aware that my ship preferences are purely personal preference based aren't some sign of moral superiority)

I thought this attitude about trashtalking a ship and pretending it is the worst thing was already really very fake and questionable in ongoing shows where there's actual ship competition. Where there seem to be actual fans who believe "If I just keep screaming about how Lana is evil and gross then maybe they'll reveal Chloe is Lois Lane and her and Clark will get together", if we just scream loud enough, they will write off the other couple and make my couple canon.

IMO doing that is already pretty shit both personally/morally towards your fellow fans, societally morally questionable when people use real big concepts like misgyny/pedophilia/racism/homophobia just because they are searching for the best "stick" to beat their opponent with and practically questionable (how often is the result really good? Also plenty of examples where pivots were made by the creators but to something very different than what the haters wanted), but I can at least understand the mindset of competition and fighting dirty even when I don't approve of it.

But ARCANE IS A CLOSED CANON (heck it's been a closed canon since before the show aired to the general public)

IMO there's a space for discussing problematic elements and trends. Whether in fan behavior (ie black characters getting ignored and unjustly shit on by fandom a lot, male characters and ships being valued and fawned over disproportionally over female characters) or canon/media portrayals (ie how do we portray mental illness and fetishize violence).

However to me none of these discussions make sense if focused on a single ship. Any of these discussions are only meaningful as part of a larger trend (ie is there too much media that excuses some sort of partner violence and how has that developed historically, how does media on the large portray systems of power, what are fascisty elements, where do they exist, why did they end up there and do we recognize them anf fall for them). Never on a shitty "Your ship is immoral, therefore you are immoral and should go away/stop shipping it" level.

Like I said, to me very few of those discussions feel genuine. Too much feels like either a very creepy wanting to enforce your will and wanting to enforce 100% of your opinions on others, forcing people to not just like what you like, believe what you believe, value what you value and hate what you hate, as good little robots who follow the perfect being. Or "I saw people have actual debates over meaningful concepts and I just want to steal this as a stick to beat my opponents with".

(and now that doesn't mean that you can never have genuine issues with canons or ships or fan behavior, I'm just saying the vast majority of "this ship is gross because" discourse feels extremely fake. If you dislike something, start by looking at yourself and being honest with yourself and examining why disliking a ship or disliking that a ship is liked by others might just be petty or highly subjective. If you see concrete individual behavior that bothers you, consider addressing that person directly in a non shitty manner, see if the conflict could be resolved, otherwise block, if you see some problematic behavior as part of a larger trend, make the effort to prove/show that trend but also examine how bad that trend really is larger context, what concrete real world ill do you see an what are the actual real world measures to address it)

Some of you need to hear this, but the fact that there is a parallel between Vander and Silco’s conflict and Vi and Jinx’s still doesn’t make Vander x Silco an incestuous pairing. When people corrected you by saying they’re not biologically related nor adopted brothers, you switched up to “the parallels to this actual sibling relationship make it incest” which is honestly one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard against a romantic pairing within the tar pit that is shipping discourse.

Vander and Silco represent parental figures to Vi and Jinx respectfully. Of course their “children” will mirror themselves in some ways, but saying that makes Vander x Silco incestuous just because Vi and Jinx are siblings would be like calling the relationship between two parents incestuous just because one of their children turned out like one parent while the other turned out like the other parent. That is madness. Absolute madness to LEAP to that accusation for this pairing.

Some of you are suffering from such seriously high levels of shipping discourse brainrot to the point where you’ve moved the goalposts of “morally okay to ship” so far up you might as well be Evangelical Christians running a conversion therapy camp. You really need to learn to stop justifying your dislike for ships in the context of morality and admit to yourself that you can dislike things without needing a moral justification, otherwise your self righteousness makes you no different from the conservative bigots I grew up around.

[nekropsii]

I think you misunderstood why I dislike Tavros and how he's seen, which I will preface you are absolutely right to misunderstand, upon rereading I didn't actually make my point, which is 100% on me. And you are definitely allowed to disagree with me however I do want to make sure that my point isn't misread.

My dislike of Tavros isn't from a place of being annoyed at him or thinking that he's not a victim, he absolutely is. It's that his victimhood is used by fans and by him as an excuse for his behavior which is often really damaging and kinda shitty.

This is the troll that found out that he seriously hurt Jade and basically responded with "I had good intentions and that absolves me of fault and anger, and I'm hurt that you're still upset at me! But it's okay I forgive you, and I forgive myself for hurting you" which is such a cruel response!

In every instance he "gains confidence" he almost immediately starts uncomfortably flirting with whoever has shown him any kindness. You see it with him flirting with Jade after the aforementioned interaction as soon as she showed any sense that she might not treat him like trolls treat her, or flirting with Kanaya (who is a lesbian) when she helps him in Pesterquest.

After dying and the Tavrissprite debaucle he again starts acting like an absolute tool, getting in everyone's face and acting like a spoiled child.

And the worst part is on the rare occasion that someone calls out his behavior he starts to claim victimhood and claims that that absolves him of his actions, like because he was hurt he now has a license to act however he wants and people have to give him pity.

Again you're allowed to disagree, and he is absolutely a victim, but that doesn't give him a license to act how he does

I’m glad you’re taking the blame on the fact that you did not, in fact, make any point in your original ask outside of insult. I’m also glad that you’re open to disagreement, because I’m gonna take you up on that. So, yeah, if you don’t mind, I’ve got a few counterpoints for this:

This level of shitty behavior is typical for… Just about every single Homestuck character. Sure, you can dislike Tavros for his specific brand of shitty behavior, but he’s absolutely not special, nor is he an isolated case in this regard. He’s not even the only character to behave in this exact manner- I get that he’s the focal point here, but I still need to point that out. He isn’t special. Hell, some fan favorites are known for doing worse things than this.

Pesterquest is not canon, and therefore is not a valid example of his character within canon. Yes, it is official content, but it is quite literally not canon. These two labels can coexist.

Tavros is a socially inept 13 year old boy. He’s 13 years old. 13. He is a middle schooler. He is an awkward 13 year old boy who has been put through the fucking wringer, the fact that he’s doing shitty things makes complete and utter sense. Genuinely, he could be so much worse. Yes, the things he did were shitty, but he’s a kid. They do that. Kids are shitty sometimes. They don’t fuckin’ know any better, dude. I guarantee you that you were kind of a bastard when you were 13.

When you are abused, you do not become a good person. Abuse almost never makes someone a good person, especially not immediately. It makes you an asshole. That’s why Vriska is like that. That’s also why Tavros is like that. In fact, Tavros is like that… Probably largely because of Vriska. Tavros kinda just… Acts like your average 13 year old abuse victim.

Our collective understanding of Tavros as a person- as well as Equius and Eridan, since we’re discussing problem children now- is based on a very troubled literal child with zero sense of self worth. We can’t really judge his morality when his sense of morality/reasonability genuinely is not fully formed yet, and is honestly being actively impeded upon. This is just speculation, but I’m betting that if he’d been given the room to actually grow and mature as a person- you know, past the age of 13- he wouldn’t be nearly as bad.

I’m willing to bet his, yes, highly awkward flirtations were just what he thought you were supposed to do when you were confident. Does that make it ok? No. It’s still weird! I’m not enacting apologetics for that. But as I’ve stated previously… Socially inept 13 year old with no sense of self worth + there’s characters that are worse off than him. Again… 13 year olds are just… Like that, sometimes.

I understand that this could have just been poor wording on your own part, but in your original ask, you literally said that Vriska was “keeping Tavros in check”, so I’m not exactly willing to trust that you have an objective view on the actions of either of these characters. Say that you’re aware he’s a victim all you want, that line just personally raises a lot of red flags for me, and I don’t think you understand the implications of calling abuse someone being “kept in check”. Was Vriska really “keeping him in check” by purposefully physically disabling him, and then constantly ridiculing him for the disability she caused? Was she really in the right for that? Was that something he deserved?

I don’t know, dude. He’s a fictional character, yeah, but it feels kind of weird to be weighing a 13 year old boy’s morality on a scale like this. He hasn’t really done anything warranting much heavy insults, or a callout post, or anything- he’s just a kid who was kind of a social fuck-up. If you’re so heated about Tavros’s level of shitty, I kinda have to wonder if there’s any Homestuck characters you even can tolerate. They’re all kind of assholes. You know… Because they’re children.