#like I'm a 'woman' in a nonbinary way. a womxn if you will.

[sirenium]

I'm a trans woman but in a 'I am so trans that every gender I experience is through a trans lens. Saying I'm just a woman wouldn't be accurate at all; without the trans prefix my womanhood is cancelled out and overshadowed even more by the other parts of my gender' kind of way, ya know?

Edit: this wasn't meant to other trans women and I apologize if it came off that way dkjdbd.

[possession1981fan]

WHAT IS GRUESOME GRRL?

Gruesome grrl is a queering and evolution of Riotgrrrl. Gruesome grrl is for the femmes that aren't usually accepted in femme spaces. This is for the femmes that due to their transness, their brashness, and their inability to compromise, exist on the edges of what 'woman' means. Some reject womanhood outright for an alternative nonbinary trans masculinity. Some see femininity as the absolute trap that it is. These are women who reject conventional femininity for something more butch, more futch and above all else transfeminine. I don't want this to be a binary punk movement. I want this to be something for the nasty nonbinary punks that have had femininity define their identity in some powerful and violent ways. This is for nasty gruesome grrls who have had their femininity denied. For the mascs and femmes who deny feminitiy outright for their own sanity. This isn't a movement just for cis women and they/thems, and womxn. this is a movement for transfems, transmasc, nonbinary freaks, trans androgynous art hoes, messy drag queens, sexy hermaphrodites, hard kink trans sex workers, the absolute nastiest femmes and mascs and enbies with shitty attitudes. This is something for the types of weirdos that are never platformed in cis lesbian spaces let alone trans lesbian spaces. Granted I'm just some angry trans sissy dyke with a chip on her shoulder known for starting shit, and pissing and whining with the best of them. But I want to make something, a movement with actual teeth. 

Alright everyone let's be honest:

RIOTGRRRL ISN’T FUCKING WORKING

Katheleen hanna is a fucking liberal now. She’s not jumping up and down and calling out her rapist live in the middle of the college quad and calling it a song anymore. She's shown her capacity and it isn't really to progress feminism in any way that's radical anymore. Le tigre made a fucking hilary clinton song dude!? LIKE FUCK HILARY CLINTON!

 Silvia Rivera's dead. pose is a great show but I wouldn't say finding a bunch of fishy black dolls to cosplay as the house labeija is a big countercultural shift. Play dress up with the clothes more radical women left in their closets before they were laid to rest. Make all the liberal art you want but that wont stop our genocide.

It's just more of the same when your a black transfem or a gruesome grrl in any regard you see two stories played out constantly:

You either live the beautiful conventional femme. She gets her liberal ideas displayed thanks to a system that wants to affirm all her middle of the road ideas. a patriarchy of creepazoid chasers loves controlling and acquiring there own fishy doll they can use to lash out at other femmes and all the girlies to fall in line.

Or you die the radical transfem. Your name in lights after fighting and screaming and fucking and sucking your way to get the movement to finally accept you, your enemies in the millions. other women who masculinize you and make you the aggressor. patriarchal men who want to acquire you and like it better when they can pay you to be at the height of their menagerie. And of course theres the cops who want you homeless and crazy or begging for freedom till they snuff you out like a light.

SO EITHER YOU LIVE TO BE HUNTER GODDAMN SCHAFER OR YOU DIE MARSHA P FUCKING JOHNSON.

I made my choice. Im dying marsha p but my run is gonna be historic and im gonna make sure every tranny remembers the Gruesome grrls. We’ll have the genderfucks dancing and fighting and moving and writing and drawing and singing and marching till there aint a single cop, or fucked up john or crazed lesbian terfy theyfab on the street. Either learn that the craziest trannies, the ones your afraid of, the one you make rumors about, the ones that are broke and barely surviving; are the ones you need to look out for or get the fuck off my block. The freakiest trannies have always led movements in the right direction and that's always been the case historically. so why in the throws of mass genocide, truscum infighting, theyfab memery, and terf videogame franchises is it impossible for me to find a single tranny that looks looks like me? Another femme or even a transmasc or enby that looks this black this fat this loud this punk this existentially mistreated and maligned? In the streets on twitter on tiktok on facebook on tumblr not a single tranny with the same look or attitude. I refuse to believe that im this isolated. With that being said whether you identify as a girl, a boy, a cat, an eldridge lovecraftian hellbeast, or all those things at the same time (i know i do) you are now officially a Gruesome grrl! A transfem led movement for transwomen, transmascs, cis women, she/theys of any kind really anyone who's been femme  in the past, present or future. I just want to hear your stories of femininity and how it affected you, defined you or even hurt you and how you're using those lessons to fight against a shitty conformist  patriarchal heteronormative society. 

ITS GRRL NOT GRRRL THIS IS FOR THE BITCHES AND TRANNIES THAT DON'T GET THAT THIRD R! WHETHER YOUR BEING TOLD YOU DONT DESERVE THAT THIRD R OR YOU PLAINLY DON'T WANT IT THE GRUESOME GRRL TRANNIES WILL ALWAYS BE HERE FOR YOU! 

how do i join gruesome grrl?

hit me the fuck up its @gruesome_grrl on all platforms

[homosociallyyours]

Hey, megan. Do you know why sometimes it is written womxn or womyn instead of woman ? I'm a bit confused.

Hey nonny! So to the best of my knowledge those two particular variations have different histories and meanings.

'Womyn' (that's plural, womon is the singular; sometimes wemoon or wimmin are variations) cropped up among early lesbian separatists as a rejection of men. Separatists often believed that all men/all things make were agents of patriarchal control and should be disavowed. If you read a lot of 70s/80s lesbian feminist lit (caution: A LOT of it is by terfs, many of whom haven't changed their thoughts on anything) you'll see that spelling frequently.

'Womxn' started getting used much more recently, I think (please don't quote me I could be wrong!) as words like latinx became popular for people who identify as trans or nonbinary because Latino/Latina (to continue the example) are gendered identities.

However, a trans femme friend has pointed out that the way womxn is used now can easily feel just as exclusionary as womyn does, and that there are better ways of saying that your group includes nonbinary identities. I tried to recall a way she phrased it, but my mind is blanking.

tl;dr: while 'womxn' is currently popular to use, there are better ways to identify that your group is inclusive (of not just cis and trans women, but also other people who may experience misogyny or patriarchal violence, for instance).

And many Latine people I follow here use the -e ending as a way to designate Latin heritage without a gendered word, so I'm trying to move to that language as well, but if that's a misstep on my part I hope someone will let me know!

Hope that helps!!

[thoughtathought]

I feel like this is when my grandpa expressed concern about me being unfulfilled in the bedroom because I was engaged to a woman.

Like, it's sweet that he's concerned about me, and he's coming from a place of genuine concern, but... it implies disconcerting things about my grandparent's sex lives (that I didn't want to know) and it's literally not even a thing that I considered might be a problem (cause it's literally not, im ace on a good day, all i need are #cuddles) even after he spoke it into my consciousness.

TL;DR I'm not mad about it, just... unsurprised and neutral about it. They meant to help and accidentally implied gender neutral and nonbinary humans aren't human.

Or, hey! maybe they were being extra feminist about it the way womxn are? You know? A womxn who don't want to be a wo-man?

are we really doing this