#kadan.txt

[kadandrawsrwby]

Sup dudes so I'm still alive, my life just kinda went to shit for a while

But I've been drawing again and starting to rewatch RWBY so hopefully I'll be posting again soon

[kadesdb]

Going in for another kidney surgery today

Wish me luck amigos

[angrygingerandfriends]

//I know it’s Monday, but i’m extending Sinday because why the hell not

[ask-chronicle]

I thought I was ready to be back, but my health had other ideas. Long story short, I’ve been in and out of the hospital a lot and really not doing well physically, so I haven’t had it in me to draw.  I will come back to this blog eventually, I hope, but for now, it’s back on an indefinite hiatus while I get my body to stop being so dramatic and function the way it’s supposed to

Or... as close to that as possible.

Cheers*

[a-dusty-old-crow]

//Ay, I just hit 100 followers.  Neat.  Thanks friends

[kadandrawsrwby]

Welcome back, brah! Missed ya around here

Sorry guys for being absent for about a year, but my life is getting a bit more settled and I’ll be back here this week with plenty of art and maybe even some twitch streams.

I’ll be working on comics, get back into writing, and all and all I’ll be back to my old self!

As soon as this cold releases my soul

Didn’t get the job but what I have now should be good. I don’t want to get too comfortable with it, but it should be enough for right now for me to get back on here and focus on things beyond bills. (Don’t become adults, kids. It’s a trap.)

Anyway, I’ll see you all tomorrow. I’ll be drawing pretty much all day so I may boot up twitch and everyone can join and hang with me like the good old days <:D

[hope-and-dreams]

Good News, Everyone!

Today is a special day, my friends! 

Today, December 1st, 2016, marks exactly one year since my first time roleplaying, and the anniversary of my first RP thread with @mrfunnybone!

I could write out a big, long, cheesy speech for this and trust me I was tempted, but in the end, I think I can summarize it much quicker with a simple:

Thank you.

Thank you to all of the fellow Undertale fans who were willing to give this little OC blog a chance, the fellow roleplayers who have stuck around for the shenanigans, participated in threads or events with me, or who even just sent a message saying they enjoyed the little featherbutt.

But most of all, thank you, Caitie.

If it hadn’t been for you, I never would have gained any sort of confidence in roleplaying, would have likely given up and just let this blog gather dust.  If you hadn’t given my silly little pup a shot, I never would have made so many great new friends, participated in our events, joined Discord, expanded my muse arsenal, improved my writing or simply had this much fun.

It’s been a fantastic year, even with all the crap 2016 has thrown at us, and I’m so infinitely grateful that a year ago you decided to reply to the shenanigans I started on a silly post you made.

Here’s to another great one!

Cheers*

[the-traitor-to-heaven-blog]

Is this an ask blog too or just rp?

((While this blog is mainly RP, I’ll still also answer any asks sent in as in-character as possible so long as I don’t get spammed with too many silly ones.  They’ll be a mix of art or text or both, depending on how motivated I’m feeling.))

[kadandrawsrwby]

Me: make a self serving self ship au because cringe is dead no one will read it and it's just for fun

Also me: how can I make this angsty

[kadesdb]

My child's gonna break me one of these days, I swear.  He's too good.  And I know I might be biased because he's mine, but he's just.. he's such a sweet and pure kid and I can't help that he makes my heart hurt

Today at the service, despite his ADHD and struggles with staying still/quiet, he didn't say a word during the entire funeral service and didn't fidget whatsoever, then quietly bent down and picked the prettiest dandelions he could find (he still thinks they're flowers) 

And when we go up to say our final goodbyes to the casket, he gently places them on top and says quietly "There you go, Grandpa.  You can go now." And I won't lie you guys, I just about burst into tears right there despite not even tearing up previously.  

And before the service while we looked at graves, he found an unnamed baby's grave, then spent 15 minutes meticulously cleaning moss and dirt off of it, asked me for a wet wipe to make it shiny like the others, took a lone flower he'd found that had blown away from a grave, and placed it.

Because he thought a little baby that died in 1980 deserved even a single flower. I don't know what I did to deserve this kid, but dammit, he reminds me that people can still be good and I hope he never, ever loses that.

And you can be damned sure I'm gonna do my best to make sure he never has to

[kadesdb]

There's a mentality in general society that if you don't love being a parent all day, every day, 100% of the time, or if you don't put your child over your own needs 100% of the time, that you're a bad parent, and this needs to stop. Parenting is hard. It's the most thankless thing you'll ever do, and sometimes, it's fucking miserable.  Some days, you wish you had a way out.  Some days you hate it and don't want to be around your kids.  And THAT'S OKAY.

Because at the end of the day, you're still a flawed human being, and as a human being, you have feelings and needs, and sometimes you need to put your own feelings and needs first, because if you're not taking care of yourself, you can't take care of your kids.

My mom once said something to me when I was little that she probably doesn't remember, but it stuck with me for my entire life.  I was being a little asshole and she said "I love you.  I have to love you, but I don't always have to like you, and I don't like you right now."

And honestly I think being able to look at it like that is so god damn important.  Because even if you love your child, you DON'T have to like them all the time. It's okay to not like them if they're being a little asshole.  IT'S OKAY. You're not a monster for having normal human feelings and reactions to things, even if they're done by someone who doesn't know better. You're allowed to not like your kids sometimes.  As long as you still LOVE them and do your best to care for them.

We need to end this idea that parents have to stop being people once they have someone depending on them, and that their feelings and needs are now the lowest priority.  They don’t just magically lose their humanity once they reproduce.

Because when you bottle up your frustrations with your kids or how you feel like you have to live when you have them, it's only going to fester and turn into resentment, which is bad for everyone. And it’s not fair to anyone.  Even if your kid is around due to circumstances outside your control, they never asked to exist.  It’s unhealthy for you to resent them because it will only further spiral your life, and it’s bad for them because they’ll spend their entire life feeling like you hate them and never knowing why.

You don't have to be perfect to be a parent.  You just need to do your best, and that's all anyone can ask of you. It's okay. 

[kadesdb]

Hey friends, I’m still alive and stuff, I’ve just been dealing with a lot of life garbage so I haven’t been around much.

Can’t say much about most of it, but I do have my grandpa’s funeral today so that’s gonna be pretty draining.  I’m perfectly fine, we’ve kinda been waiting for this for about two years since he was refusing treatment for his lung disease and his health was really bad before they even found that, so by this point I’ve already made peace with everything but it also means that I’m gonna be stuck surrounded by the one part of my family that treats me like garbage pretty much all day.

I would say I’m gonna need a drink afterward but I think if I did drink my kidney might sue me for divorce so I guess it’s a good thing pot is legal here now because boy howdy am I gonna need it once they’re done with me

[angrygingerandfriends]

//As you nerds have probably noticed, I’m sooorta back?  only sorta though.  i’m actually moving today, so I’ll be busy.  Still alive though

[kadandrawsrwby]

Hey friends, sorry for the silence. I'm in the hospital again with a bad kidney infection following a huge stone. I'm doing okay for now but they won't let me leave until the infection has mostly cleared up since kidney infections can be fatal if not treated properly so I'm probably gonna be here for a few days.

I'll keep you all updated.

Cheers*

[kadandrawsrwby]

To anyone going out and/or drinking tonight, please be safe and for the love of everything, do not drink and drive.

Let’s all stay alive for 2019.  Love you all.

Happy new year <3

[kadandrawsrwby]

I’m honestly a little baffled as to how anyone ever thought letting Qrow be a teacher was a good idea. "Let's put a bitter alcoholic who brings misfortune and disaster wherever he goes in charge of thirty odd defenseless children and let him teach them how to build and use deadly weapons, what's the worst that could happen?"