#just let people enjoy things

[sword-and-stars]

If I’ve learned anything from about 25 years of actively being engaged in fandom, it’s this: fuck everybody else.

Your favorite character ain’t the fandom’s favorite character? Fuck ‘em.

Your ship is the rarepair or the one people think is icky? Fuck ‘em.

You like the tropes and meta and character analysis that make other people roll their eyes? Fuck ‘em.

Engage with fandom in the ways that make you happy and comfortable and fulfilled and fuck everybody else. Like the things you like because you like them, because not everybody else is gonna love them the way you do.

Be cringe and be free, hallowed be thy name, goddamn.

[cat-cosplay]

*taps the meme*

[squish--squash]

Friendly reminder that people can do whatever the fuck they want with fictional characters because they are, in fact, fictional, which means they are not real.

We're all basically playing with dolls. And if someone's playing with them in a way you don't like? You can this simple and easy thing called blocking them. Or blocking a tag. There is no need to whine and cry about how xyz people are "ruining" a fandom for a ship or how a fandom has a "problem" of having xyz. Like. C'mon now.

I think in recent years there's been a big issue arising in fandoms since corporations started sanitizing the internet for more ad revenue: instead of letting people have harmless fun playing with dolls, people are now instead choosing to try and oust those people from playing entirely due to it not being "morally correct".

And that is, quite frankly, stupid. Imagine going up to a horror novelist and saying they shouldn't write their novels bc it contains morally dark/gray/bad things.

Imagine saying someone shouldn't play a video game and should feel gross playing it bc it has a bunch of dark/taboo topics.

Imagine going up to someone exploring dark/taboo materials in safe, creative ways and saying they should feel disgusted for that.

That sounds dumb, yeah? That sound ludicrous, yeah?

Then why are we attacking other people for morally dark/taboo ships, hcs, and content in their own works? Why are we calling it a "waste of potential"? Why are we calling it gross and bad when it isn't hurting anyone?

Listen to me. We have GOT to relearn to be harmlessly uncomfortable. We have GOT to relearn tolerance for things we do not like. People shipping or having hcs of xyz is not ruining fandoms. The purity culture of not letting people have fun in their own corners is.

[alltoounwellll]

guys plz stop with the “I hate feminine sirius” I’m tired

[pls-explodingstars-pls]

Hankcon antis stop attacking shippers challenge go

Hankcon shippers stop attacking antis challenge go

So serious. It would make things so much better if certain people just ignored each other

[goldenhand9107]

logged onto tiktok, first video on my fyp was someone trying to spin that, if you like/ship bucktommy, you're a misogynist.

promptly closed the app and came here instead

[bumpingbees]

What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

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I'm probably too tired/stoned for this and I have absolutely no idea why you sent me this anon.

But first of all, I personally believe that 90% of the population is bi/pan/poly/omni etc. Because almost all of us have an exception if we say we're only straight or gay. And the fact is, nonbinary and trans people exist. It's very hard to say "I am not attracted to any person outside of one specific gender" when you might be a straight woman say and see a masc presenting person who identifies as nonbinary. Well, congrats, you're not just attracted to cis men anymore. There are so many people we just haven't seen that we could be attracted to or not.

But also this goes for allo people. There are, of course, asexual/aromantic people who just don't experience attraction at all. I'm one of those people. I'm not sex repulsed, but honestly, I don't understand primary attraction to begin with. I've never looked at someone and immediately found them sexually appealing (though I can appreciate aesthetic from a back burner view if that makes sense.)

Seriously, anon, why did you pick an autistic agender asexual guy to make this question out to? Also I think the best way to answer your original question, some people just prefer dicks or vaginas or butts or mouths or nothing (etc.)

As Princess Bubblegum once said:

[sorcerersandskillusers]

I hate it when people say "Just Friends" as if friendship is somehow a lower level then a romantic relationship.

The same goes for ideas like "The friend zone" or "Taking things to the next level".

All of these contribute to the idea that friendship is a sort of shallow, first step into caring about someone, and that friends can't care about each other as much as partners or spouses.

Which is completely stupid! There are infinite ways to care about someone, and all of them are equally meaningful in there own ways. You don't need to seek out your 'Other half' or 'Soulmate' as if that's the only meaningful relationship you'll have that's not with your family.

Friendship can define a persons very being, dedicated friends can and have travelled through hell to help out their friends.

This is almost always worst with friendships between women and men, which are almost always treated as a prelude to a romantic relationship. But its also a problem generally when there are two people who care about eachother and people just can't fathom the idea that they don't want to fuck, because why else would you try to help and support someone?

To be clear, I'm not saying romantic relationships are bad, or in anyway less then friendships, both have a beauty that comes from human support and affection. But I just think (especially in the Christian world) that we have made having a partner a requirement for a meaningful life, and think that you can't find fulfilment without it.

We have ironically, 'over romanticised' romantic relationships. and while that's pretty harmless in things like shipping and fandom, it becomes extremely harmful if taken into real life and used against real people.

[dazedconfuzed]

Seeing some of those mk fans on social media getting mad at people shipping Johnny and Kenshi reminds me of when mw2 came out last year and fanboys got upset that the girls & gays began thirsting over Ghost. To be honest I find it pretty hilarious because I saw this coming a mile away.

[wyn-n-tonic]

there does not need to be discourse over every little blessed thing, besties. go outside, do something nice for yourself. turn off the phone, go to the nail salon and read an actual book while somebody else paints your toes. i promise you will feel better after.

[alltoounwellll]

guys what the fuck is up with all the jegulus hate today ????? I saw like 15 asks on the dash about it help

*spray bottle* get away from us

[archangeltwins]

hot take:

throwing your concern ( hate ) at fic-writers who write fictional ships ( that you don't like & can easily ignore / block / filter THROUGH THE TAGS ) and going on a digital "censorship" hunt, is absolutely disgusting behavior

i did not live through the livejournaling move + the anne rice debacles + ffnet purge just to circle back to religious conservatism dressed up like woke fan activism / witch-hunty virtue signalling

lemme say it again -

i did not live through The Livejournaling(tm) + the anne rice debacles + ffnet purge just to circle back to religious conservatism dressed up like woke fan activism / witch-hunty virtue signalling

learn to live and let live, let people do what they want on the internet, block and move the fuck on,

care about irl issues instead of pixels on a screen,

quit watering down REAL WORDS for REAL SERIOUS CRIMES,

and unstick your head from your asses, bc hoo boy, all this makes you ( antis, specifically ) look like ASSHOLES

[choshasan]

I feel like a lot of (toxic) anime fans need to hear this...

Liking Hisoka Morrow doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Illumi Zoldyck doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking All For One doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Kai Chisaki doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Shou Tucker doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Griffith doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Johan Liebert doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Minoru Mineta doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking bad characters doesn't make you a bad person.

They're fictional characters. Liking them doesn't mean you are like them or support their actions. It's a piece of fiction. All it shows is that you like well written characters and that you're capable of differenciating between fiction and reality.

To those who insult or even harm people who like bad characters;

You are a bad person.

[thecsquirrel]

The things I want to keep from 2022 are the current trends in Fantasy TV:

1. Keep all the D&D, fellowship, ragtag band of misfits stuff.

It just works. Whether it's Lord of the Rings, Stranger Things, Critical Role, etc, it just works.

2. Keep populating these worlds with diverse characters.

Black and Brown and Asian and Indigenous people exist! We can be elves and mages and dwarves and witches and shape-shifters and vampires and werewolves and etcetera and etcetera.

2a. People be gay. (We also like to be gay in good lighting, so let's get on that.)

See #2

3. Keep telling stories that aren't solely focused on white cis-men.

(See #2)

4. Keep the camp. Keep the fun.

Everything does not have to be high stakes high-fantasy. Side quests are love.

Anyway, go watch Willow, Blood Origin, Rings of Power, Wheel of Time, all of it.

(And remember to ignore the racist and misogynistic review-bombing trolls that come out of the woodwork every time a new fantasy show doesn't center them.)

[patchworkfox01]

I really don't use Twitter a lot aside from keeping up with some youtubers I watch but

Shit like this is the reason I'm very closed off about my interests normally.

Just about everywhere I've been on the internet minus Tumblr, people are way too comfortable with being assholes to other people just because they like something that they don't.

"Oh but it sounds bad"

That's cool and all but who tf asked.

[everythingismadeof-cardboard]

Korra gets so much unnecessary hate it's almost humorous to watch her antis trip over themselves just to downplay all of her accomplishments