#just let people enjoy things

[sword-and-stars]

If I’ve learned anything from about 25 years of actively being engaged in fandom, it’s this: fuck everybody else.

Your favorite character ain’t the fandom’s favorite character? Fuck ‘em.

Your ship is the rarepair or the one people think is icky? Fuck ‘em.

You like the tropes and meta and character analysis that make other people roll their eyes? Fuck ‘em.

Engage with fandom in the ways that make you happy and comfortable and fulfilled and fuck everybody else. Like the things you like because you like them, because not everybody else is gonna love them the way you do.

Be cringe and be free, hallowed be thy name, goddamn.

[cat-cosplay]

*taps the meme*

[alltoounwellll]

guys plz stop with the “I hate feminine sirius” I’m tired

[pls-explodingstars-pls]

Hankcon antis stop attacking shippers challenge go

Hankcon shippers stop attacking antis challenge go

So serious. It would make things so much better if certain people just ignored each other

[cheryyy-valancce]

Ooc, Little rant:

I dont normally do rants on this blog unless its something that Really bothers me, or that i need some opinions about. I wanna talk about the shipping in this fandom, Or, mostly the people involved in conversatioms involving that topic.

I don't really ship stuff, don't get me wrong, and im not really defending anyone. However, People in this fandom are NASTY when it comes to hating ships. People try their hardest to find bad things about this and then rant on ship posts like "No, you cant do that! They aren't Gay-" Knowing DAMN well, that HEADCANONS EXIST.

Thats why their called headcanons! Its not canon, its what WE personally believe! We all KNOW they all are Straight cis men who see eachother in the gang as family. But Everyones allowed to have their own headcanons and opinions, if they wish to! Yes, we all know we wouldn't date our family, But heres the thing.. only the Curtis Brothers are actually family. Nobody else in the gang is family. Yes, they act like it, but there isnt anything wrong with shipping in this damn fandom unless its a proship or Inc3st!

Let people live their lives. Hate all you want, argue with the wall, but just know that there isnt anything wrong with ships unless its a proship/huge age gap! Get a grip. If you HATE or Dislike any ships you can..—you'll never believe this..— JUST SCROLL. SKIP IT. LEAVE. Stop hating on people and just let them ship, or make headcanons. Im not even gonna be nice anymore when i say that if you hate on any ship or headcanon, the world KEEPS SPINNING!! 🤑🤑🤑🎰🎰🎰🎰

[goldenhand9107]

logged onto tiktok, first video on my fyp was someone trying to spin that, if you like/ship bucktommy, you're a misogynist.

promptly closed the app and came here instead

[bumpingbees]

What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

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I'm probably too tired/stoned for this and I have absolutely no idea why you sent me this anon.

But first of all, I personally believe that 90% of the population is bi/pan/poly/omni etc. Because almost all of us have an exception if we say we're only straight or gay. And the fact is, nonbinary and trans people exist. It's very hard to say "I am not attracted to any person outside of one specific gender" when you might be a straight woman say and see a masc presenting person who identifies as nonbinary. Well, congrats, you're not just attracted to cis men anymore. There are so many people we just haven't seen that we could be attracted to or not.

But also this goes for allo people. There are, of course, asexual/aromantic people who just don't experience attraction at all. I'm one of those people. I'm not sex repulsed, but honestly, I don't understand primary attraction to begin with. I've never looked at someone and immediately found them sexually appealing (though I can appreciate aesthetic from a back burner view if that makes sense.)

Seriously, anon, why did you pick an autistic agender asexual guy to make this question out to? Also I think the best way to answer your original question, some people just prefer dicks or vaginas or butts or mouths or nothing (etc.)

As Princess Bubblegum once said:

[sorcerersandskillusers]

I hate it when people say "Just Friends" as if friendship is somehow a lower level then a romantic relationship.

The same goes for ideas like "The friend zone" or "Taking things to the next level".

All of these contribute to the idea that friendship is a sort of shallow, first step into caring about someone, and that friends can't care about each other as much as partners or spouses.

Which is completely stupid! There are infinite ways to care about someone, and all of them are equally meaningful in there own ways. You don't need to seek out your 'Other half' or 'Soulmate' as if that's the only meaningful relationship you'll have that's not with your family.

Friendship can define a persons very being, dedicated friends can and have travelled through hell to help out their friends.

This is almost always worst with friendships between women and men, which are almost always treated as a prelude to a romantic relationship. But its also a problem generally when there are two people who care about eachother and people just can't fathom the idea that they don't want to fuck, because why else would you try to help and support someone?

To be clear, I'm not saying romantic relationships are bad, or in anyway less then friendships, both have a beauty that comes from human support and affection. But I just think (especially in the Christian world) that we have made having a partner a requirement for a meaningful life, and think that you can't find fulfilment without it.

We have ironically, 'over romanticised' romantic relationships. and while that's pretty harmless in things like shipping and fandom, it becomes extremely harmful if taken into real life and used against real people.

[nyarlathotep-thecrawlingchaos]

I hate gatekeepers so much.

I apply this most heavily to Rings of Power and Fallout (Amazon series); and I saw similar responses from a lot of elder-metalheads when Stranger Things S4 garnered a newfound interest in classic metal/rock among a younger generation, and from longtime fans of One Piece when the live-action adaptation came out.

I got into Lord of the Rings through my parents. I saw the films before I read the books, as a child.

My older brother got me into both Fallout and metal/rock music in general before I was a teenager.

I started reading manga around the time that One Piece started being realeased in monthly Shonen Jump and have been in love with my happy little pirate world since day one.

And I fucking LOVE seeing new fans being interested in these things that I've loved for my entire life. Seeing people who have never gamed before trying out the Fallout games. People who never bothered with Lord of the Rings watching the films and reading the books. Kids who dismissed bands like Iron Maiden and Metallica as "dad rock" suddenly broadening their musical horizons. People who never gave anime/manga a chance taking on the major commitment of watching a show as long-running as One Piece. What does it matter HOW they discovered this new interest of theirs? Why should anything matter but the fact that they love it, too?

I want to vomit when I see so-called "die-hard fans" of anything belittling new fans, especially fans who are JUST entering the fandoms via new material.

The correct response is to welcome them warmly, offer any insight they might be curious about regarding the source material that you're so familiar with, and enjoy the fact that the thing you love so much is gathering new fans who also love it, and will continue to love it for years to come. I Even if they don't love it in exactly the same way that you do, love is still love.

WHY IS THAT SO FUCKING HARD FOR SOME PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND?

No one is "ruining" your fandom. If you don't like the new material yourself, simply don't engage with it.

If you stomp on other people for enjoying it, you were never a real fan to begin with.

You're just a gatekeeping fuckwad and you should be ashamed of yourself for potentially chasing away new fans.

[humblefryingpan]

I hate being in "cringey" fandoms because they're always so interesting, and always have so much lore

But you can't talk about them without some dick going "you like that? It's so cringey" like I'm sorry you aren't interesting can you stfu

[dazedconfuzed]

Seeing some of those mk fans on social media getting mad at people shipping Johnny and Kenshi reminds me of when mw2 came out last year and fanboys got upset that the girls & gays began thirsting over Ghost. To be honest I find it pretty hilarious because I saw this coming a mile away.

[eyeball-freak]

Imagine being a monsterfucker and judging what type of monsters people simp for

“Ugh these guys only like twinky monsters instead of “ACTUAL” monsters like big hairy werewolf beasts”

Like, ok? People are allowed to have their preferences?? Thought this community was all about being weird and accepting each other’s tastes

[alltoounwellll]

guys what the fuck is up with all the jegulus hate today ????? I saw like 15 asks on the dash about it help

*spray bottle* get away from us

[wyn-n-tonic]

there does not need to be discourse over every little blessed thing, besties. go outside, do something nice for yourself. turn off the phone, go to the nail salon and read an actual book while somebody else paints your toes. i promise you will feel better after.

[archangeltwins]

hot take:

throwing your concern ( hate ) at fic-writers who write fictional ships ( that you don't like & can easily ignore / block / filter THROUGH THE TAGS ) and going on a digital "censorship" hunt, is absolutely disgusting behavior

i did not live through the livejournaling move + the anne rice debacles + ffnet purge just to circle back to religious conservatism dressed up like woke fan activism / witch-hunty virtue signalling

lemme say it again -

i did not live through The Livejournaling(tm) + the anne rice debacles + ffnet purge just to circle back to religious conservatism dressed up like woke fan activism / witch-hunty virtue signalling

learn to live and let live, let people do what they want on the internet, block and move the fuck on,

care about irl issues instead of pixels on a screen,

quit watering down REAL WORDS for REAL SERIOUS CRIMES,

and unstick your head from your asses, bc hoo boy, all this makes you ( antis, specifically ) look like ASSHOLES

[choshasan]

I feel like a lot of (toxic) anime fans need to hear this...

Liking Hisoka Morrow doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Illumi Zoldyck doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking All For One doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Kai Chisaki doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Shou Tucker doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Griffith doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Johan Liebert doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking Minoru Mineta doesn't make you a bad person.

Liking bad characters doesn't make you a bad person.

They're fictional characters. Liking them doesn't mean you are like them or support their actions. It's a piece of fiction. All it shows is that you like well written characters and that you're capable of differenciating between fiction and reality.

To those who insult or even harm people who like bad characters;

You are a bad person.