#just let people enjoy things

[sword-and-stars]

If I’ve learned anything from about 25 years of actively being engaged in fandom, it’s this: fuck everybody else.

Your favorite character ain’t the fandom’s favorite character? Fuck ‘em.

Your ship is the rarepair or the one people think is icky? Fuck ‘em.

You like the tropes and meta and character analysis that make other people roll their eyes? Fuck ‘em.

Engage with fandom in the ways that make you happy and comfortable and fulfilled and fuck everybody else. Like the things you like because you like them, because not everybody else is gonna love them the way you do.

Be cringe and be free, hallowed be thy name, goddamn.

[cat-cosplay]

*taps the meme*

[frownyalfred]

ugh thanks for being so against canon purism I just saw a post that was like “have people who are still into snyderverse superbat considered exploring their extensive canon” like bitch I STARTED OFF in comics superbat give me a breakkkk good lord. they are so fucking annoying

Have canon purists realized they’re not fun at parties yet? Oops I said that out loud 😅

[alltoounwellll]

guys plz stop with the “I hate feminine sirius” I’m tired

[pls-explodingstars-pls]

Hankcon antis stop attacking shippers challenge go

Hankcon shippers stop attacking antis challenge go

So serious. It would make things so much better if certain people just ignored each other

[cheryyy-valancce]

Ooc, Little rant:

I dont normally do rants on this blog unless its something that Really bothers me, or that i need some opinions about. I wanna talk about the shipping in this fandom, Or, mostly the people involved in conversatioms involving that topic.

I don't really ship stuff, don't get me wrong, and im not really defending anyone. However, People in this fandom are NASTY when it comes to hating ships. People try their hardest to find bad things about this and then rant on ship posts like "No, you cant do that! They aren't Gay-" Knowing DAMN well, that HEADCANONS EXIST.

Thats why their called headcanons! Its not canon, its what WE personally believe! We all KNOW they all are Straight cis men who see eachother in the gang as family. But Everyones allowed to have their own headcanons and opinions, if they wish to! Yes, we all know we wouldn't date our family, But heres the thing.. only the Curtis Brothers are actually family. Nobody else in the gang is family. Yes, they act like it, but there isnt anything wrong with shipping in this damn fandom unless its a proship or Inc3st!

Let people live their lives. Hate all you want, argue with the wall, but just know that there isnt anything wrong with ships unless its a proship/huge age gap! Get a grip. If you HATE or Dislike any ships you can..—you'll never believe this..— JUST SCROLL. SKIP IT. LEAVE. Stop hating on people and just let them ship, or make headcanons. Im not even gonna be nice anymore when i say that if you hate on any ship or headcanon, the world KEEPS SPINNING!! 🤑🤑🤑🎰🎰🎰🎰

[indiestsnake]

if you harass people or spread hate over someone being a proshipper I don’t like you nor do I want you on my blog. it is your job to control your experience on the internet. learn where the block button is

post over

[kazbrekkerfast]

A Big Ramble About Tiktok

right. as much as i think there are a lot of issues with tiktok, the US ban is genuinely terrifying in terms of how much content will be lost once the servers go down. there are so many phenomenal creators and videos on that platform who have come from the US, and it is heartbreaking to see them go. i know there are more platforms, but there is so much content that is only found in tiktok, and a distinct genre and culture of videos tog you can find there and like that will be gone for millions of people

obviously the world isn’t only the US and there will still be people posting but the chance of the US starting a chain reaction is quite high which is kinda terrifying

the communities, especially queer spaces and fandom spaces on tiktok are a safe haven for so many people i know from the US, and there are so many amazing advocates for queer rights who post there and it feels a lot like censorship that they can’t post there anymore, especially with the state of reels/youtube shorts (both places make me sick when i open comments sections)

idk i’m pretty much just rambling here but i always get sad when i see servers being shut in places and millions of videos being wiped from the internet (obviously never fully because it’s the internet but my point still stands). it’s so scary to think about what direction this could take the world, and whether more social media apps will be banned in a similar fashion but hopefully it gets overturned or somewhere new comes around but ye

social media is so important in the modern world and like as much as older people like to say how much it is ruining the world it is such an important aspect of so many things like activism and spreading awareness, as well as creating so many amazing communities and connecting people from all over the world and when governments see this as a negative thing is kind of just makes you question why they want to stop that

[goldenhand9107]

logged onto tiktok, first video on my fyp was someone trying to spin that, if you like/ship bucktommy, you're a misogynist.

promptly closed the app and came here instead

[aceofspades42]

Seeing people hate on other ships and fandoms for no reason except that they dont think its plausible is so stupid

Like why not just let people be silly and have fun online

[bumpingbees]

What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

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I'm probably too tired/stoned for this and I have absolutely no idea why you sent me this anon.

But first of all, I personally believe that 90% of the population is bi/pan/poly/omni etc. Because almost all of us have an exception if we say we're only straight or gay. And the fact is, nonbinary and trans people exist. It's very hard to say "I am not attracted to any person outside of one specific gender" when you might be a straight woman say and see a masc presenting person who identifies as nonbinary. Well, congrats, you're not just attracted to cis men anymore. There are so many people we just haven't seen that we could be attracted to or not.

But also this goes for allo people. There are, of course, asexual/aromantic people who just don't experience attraction at all. I'm one of those people. I'm not sex repulsed, but honestly, I don't understand primary attraction to begin with. I've never looked at someone and immediately found them sexually appealing (though I can appreciate aesthetic from a back burner view if that makes sense.)

Seriously, anon, why did you pick an autistic agender asexual guy to make this question out to? Also I think the best way to answer your original question, some people just prefer dicks or vaginas or butts or mouths or nothing (etc.)

As Princess Bubblegum once said:

[sorcerersandskillusers]

I hate it when people say "Just Friends" as if friendship is somehow a lower level then a romantic relationship.

The same goes for ideas like "The friend zone" or "Taking things to the next level".

All of these contribute to the idea that friendship is a sort of shallow, first step into caring about someone, and that friends can't care about each other as much as partners or spouses.

Which is completely stupid! There are infinite ways to care about someone, and all of them are equally meaningful in there own ways. You don't need to seek out your 'Other half' or 'Soulmate' as if that's the only meaningful relationship you'll have that's not with your family.

Friendship can define a persons very being, dedicated friends can and have travelled through hell to help out their friends.

This is almost always worst with friendships between women and men, which are almost always treated as a prelude to a romantic relationship. But its also a problem generally when there are two people who care about eachother and people just can't fathom the idea that they don't want to fuck, because why else would you try to help and support someone?

To be clear, I'm not saying romantic relationships are bad, or in anyway less then friendships, both have a beauty that comes from human support and affection. But I just think (especially in the Christian world) that we have made having a partner a requirement for a meaningful life, and think that you can't find fulfilment without it.

We have ironically, 'over romanticised' romantic relationships. and while that's pretty harmless in things like shipping and fandom, it becomes extremely harmful if taken into real life and used against real people.

[nyarlathotep-thecrawlingchaos]

I hate gatekeepers so much.

I apply this most heavily to Rings of Power and Fallout (Amazon series); and I saw similar responses from a lot of elder-metalheads when Stranger Things S4 garnered a newfound interest in classic metal/rock among a younger generation, and from longtime fans of One Piece when the live-action adaptation came out.

I got into Lord of the Rings through my parents. I saw the films before I read the books, as a child.

My older brother got me into both Fallout and metal/rock music in general before I was a teenager.

I started reading manga around the time that One Piece started being realeased in monthly Shonen Jump and have been in love with my happy little pirate world since day one.

And I fucking LOVE seeing new fans being interested in these things that I've loved for my entire life. Seeing people who have never gamed before trying out the Fallout games. People who never bothered with Lord of the Rings watching the films and reading the books. Kids who dismissed bands like Iron Maiden and Metallica as "dad rock" suddenly broadening their musical horizons. People who never gave anime/manga a chance taking on the major commitment of watching a show as long-running as One Piece. What does it matter HOW they discovered this new interest of theirs? Why should anything matter but the fact that they love it, too?

I want to vomit when I see so-called "die-hard fans" of anything belittling new fans, especially fans who are JUST entering the fandoms via new material.

The correct response is to welcome them warmly, offer any insight they might be curious about regarding the source material that you're so familiar with, and enjoy the fact that the thing you love so much is gathering new fans who also love it, and will continue to love it for years to come. I Even if they don't love it in exactly the same way that you do, love is still love.

WHY IS THAT SO FUCKING HARD FOR SOME PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND?

No one is "ruining" your fandom. If you don't like the new material yourself, simply don't engage with it.

If you stomp on other people for enjoying it, you were never a real fan to begin with.

You're just a gatekeeping fuckwad and you should be ashamed of yourself for potentially chasing away new fans.

[alltoounwellll]

guys what the fuck is up with all the jegulus hate today ????? I saw like 15 asks on the dash about it help

*spray bottle* get away from us

[humblefryingpan]

I hate being in "cringey" fandoms because they're always so interesting, and always have so much lore

But you can't talk about them without some dick going "you like that? It's so cringey" like I'm sorry you aren't interesting can you stfu

[dazedconfuzed]

Seeing some of those mk fans on social media getting mad at people shipping Johnny and Kenshi reminds me of when mw2 came out last year and fanboys got upset that the girls & gays began thirsting over Ghost. To be honest I find it pretty hilarious because I saw this coming a mile away.