#joe velasco head canons

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Joe Velasco SFW Alphabet

A = Affection (How affectionate are they? How do they show affection?)

He can be and is incredibly affectionate, especially when it comes to physical touch. When appropriate he’s always got a hand on you or arm around your waist, hand linked in yours. He doesn’t realize it at first but when he’s got an arm around you, his hand gravitates towards your ass instinctively. It’s the hand on the leg while driving, arm around you on the couch, little kisses peppered to your hairline or neck or shoulders, the tight hugs where he buries himself into the crook of your neck as you scratch his head.

B = Best friend (What would they be like as a best friend? How would the friendship start?)

I think he’s a pretty chill friend. He can be kinda introverted and shy, especially at first, he’s quiet, only really speaks when needed or he wants to share kinda thing. But once he’s comfortable with you there’s lots of teasing, jokes, laughter, he’s gonna be an incredibly loyal friend, always have your back and always be there to be a shoulder to cry on when needed.

C = Cuddles (Do they like to cuddle? How would they cuddle?)

He’s the biggest cuddler teddy bear out there. Kinda covered it already, but one of his big love languages, both to show and receive is going to be physical touch. If he’s had a long week of  a rough case he just wants to come home to you, crawl into bed, nestle on your chest between your legs, his arms wrapped tightly around you as you press kisses to his hair and softly play with it.

D = Domestic (Do they want to settle down? How are they at cooking and cleaning?)

I think the idea is in the back of his head currently. He’s kind of a lone wolf, he’s always had to fend for himself a bit and always had some lingering worry. Now that he’s more settled with nypd and svu he sees the rest of his squad and their personal at home lives and thinks about it more. He’s not someone to force it, he’ll know when he meets the right person kinda thing. He knows how to take of himself, he can cook all the basics, and definitely has a few authentic recipes passed down through his family he’s held onto. For cleanliness don’t ask me why, but I see him as someone whose apartment is rather bare, like only the necessities, so that helps with keeping things clean, and at the end of a long day he doesn’t like to come home to mess.

E = Ending (If they had to break up with their partner, how would they do it?)

He’s gonna be soft and gentle about it and probably in person, maybe even bring them a pint of ice cream or their comfort food to help ease the break.

F = Fiance(e) (How do they feel about commitment? How quick would they want to get married?)

He’s a little commitment shy. I know I’ve talked about this with the moots and we all kinda agree that Joe doesn’t have much experience with long term relationships, he’s done more friends with benefits, casual dating, or one night stands. So he can take a little longer to warm up to things in relationships, he’ll show his love before saying it out loud, you might get a key to his place at the average time, but the idea of getting a place together is still gonna take a while, those bigger milestones are important to him and he doesn’t want to fuck it up kinda thing. So esp when it comes to marriage, he’s gonna take his time, also can see him being someone who’s okay with just having a partner and knowing they’re going to be together forever, maybe even referring to each other as “husband” and “wife” despite them not legally being married.

G = Gentle (How gentle are they, both physically and emotionally?)

Extremely. He’s a soft boi and we know this. Obviously he can be rough in the right moments, and he definitely isn’t scared to throw you around a bit or let his dominant side show when we’re talking bedroom stuff.

H = Hugs (Do they like hugs? How often do they do it? What are their hugs like?) I think that once he knows you and is comfortable with you/cares about you he’s a hugger. Like, when he says goodbye/goodnight, its accompanied by a hug. His hugs are tight yet cozy, he buries you into his embrace, tucking your head under his chin, a hand slipping into your hair as he holds you close to him.

I = I love you (How fast do they say the L-word?)

It definitely takes a bit. He’s slower to say it but you can kinda feel it coming because of the way he shows it in other ways, your favourite treat popping up on your desk at work, little massages while you’re watching tv that night, the way he holds you in bed, the little smile on his face while he watches you do something, thinking that you don’t realize

J = Jealousy (How jealous do they get? What do they do when they’re jealous?) I don’t think he’s a very jealous person, and it’s certainly not an angry jealous, he’s more of a “okay, guess they’ve got something that I don’t” sulky kinda jealous, if that makes sense? But if you’re out at the bar and some creep starts hitting on you, he’s gonna slide an arm around your waist, kiss your cheek and get rid of him, that’s for sure.

K = Kisses (What are their kisses like? Where do they like to kiss you? Where do they like to be kissed?)

Joe’s kisses are soft, yet passionate. They’re deep, slow and full of care and emotion and the words that he can’t quite figure out how to say. He can easily spend all night just making out and enjoys that as much, if not more than actual sex. It’s the intimacy of it, the way that he can hold you close while doing so. He loves kissing your lips, your neck and collarbone, and he knows *exactly* where to kiss you to get you riled up. He adores it when you grab his hand and kiss his palm, the cuteness of it, the innocence in it. He also loves when you kiss at his hips before going down on him.

L = Little ones (How are they around children?) (I literally read this one and then had to think if we’ve ever seen him interact with kids on the show and now I’m confused and don’t think we have. Oh well, excuse to go watch all his eps again LOL) Joe’s okay with them. He can be a little bit awkward at times, and he’s better with boys, but he’ll get the job done. He’s definitely the one running around in the back yard with them at Thanksgiving kinda thing, but he’s not sure if he wants his own. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn’t, it doesn’t and he’s perfectly fine being Uncle Jose

M = Morning (How are mornings spent with them?)

Mornings are quiet, they’re his “me time” as he gears up for work and puts on that brave face knowing the shit he’s gonna have to deal with kinda thing. They’re for solo showers, coffee and breakfast, probably watching or reading the news or reading over a case file if he’s in the middle of a tough one. He will always say goodbye before he leaves and make sure to give you a kiss, even if you’re still asleep.

N = Night (How are nights spent with them?)

They’re much more relaxed and about winding down from the day. You might meet up at a bar or restaurant for dinner and drinks or do it at home. Crack a beer, cook some food, an energetic playlist wafting through the air as the two of you joke back and fourth together.

O = Open (When would they start revealing things about themselves? Do they say everything all at once or wait a while to reveal things slowly?)

Our baby boi Joe has a lot of baggage, let’s be honest, so it’s not going to all come out at first, and some of it probably won’t come up at all until it’s mentioned in an offhand comment and you’re all “excuse me *what*?” I think you’re likely to learn that he’s not in contact with his mom/his dad is dead early on cause asking about parents/family is a discussion pretty early on but he’s not going to bring up the abuse right then, ya feel me?

P = Patience (How easily angered are they?)

He’s pretty patient, and when he isn’t, it’s more of simple frustration or annoyed. He doesn’t really get angry with things, especially you. And if he is, he’s going to walk away, he doesn’t like yelling or when things start to escalate, so he’ll walk away to calm down and blow off some steam before coming back to talk things through with you properly. He tries to save the angry for the interrogation room.

 

Q = Quizzes (How much would they remember about you? Do they remember every little detail you mention in passing, or do they kind of forget everything?)

I like to think he’s somewhere in the middle, he might forget a date night or that you wanted to go see a certain movie that weekend, but he’s going to remember that you offhandedly mentioned you love a specific treat mid conversation once and show up with it every time he sees it in a store.

R = Remember (What is their favourite moment in your relationship?)

I think he’s pretty soft about your first kiss. The moment that he’d been waiting for for ages, the feeling of you that close to him, his lips on yours, moving with grace, the way your perfume invaded his senses, how *you* invaded every single one of his senses and the world seemed to stop spinning for a moment.

S = Security (How protective are they? How would they protect you? How would they like to be protected?) okay, so homeboy isn’t *overly* protective, he gives you your own freedom and knows you can take care of yourself, but he is always going to make sure you’re safe. And that’s gonna extend to your friends too, if you’ve had your bestie over, he’s gonna walk her home at the end to make sure she’s safe. He’s not overbearing, but wants to make sure the people and things he cares about are protected, the type to make you agree that you’ll always call him after a night out for a ride/walk home, the one who really means it when he says “text me when you’re home safe”. As for himself, I think it’s more emotional protection that he wants/needs from you. Knowing that you’re going to be careful with his emotions and love, that you’re not going to hold his past over him, that you’ll love him no matter what kinda thing.

T = Try (How much effort would they put into dates, anniversaries, gifts, everyday tasks?)

He’s pretty low maintenance, but he’s also a hopeless romantic at times. So the first couple of dates are going to be pretty standard, drinks, dinner, bowling, coffee and a walk through central park. It’s going to be the anniversaries, the big special important days that get the fancier dates/surprises. The celebrations, your birthday, if you got a promotion at work, finally finished that research paper, graduating, getting the big girl job kinda thing. He’s gonna spoil the shit out of you on those nights, tell you to wear something fancy (and whatever you choose always knocks the breath out of him cause he’s so smitten with you) and whisk you away to a fancy restaurant, a night on Broadway, a river cruise dinner, those are the fancy ones.

U = Ugly (What would be some bad habits of theirs?)

Overworking for sure. He’ll not notice the time until you’re calling or showing up at the precinct all “babe, it’s nearly midnight, c’mon” kinda thing. We’ve also seen that he’s a bit of a “beg for forgiveness rather than ask for permission” when it comes to work so I think that would bleed into the other aspects of his life. He might bring home a foster dog without talking to you first, put a payment down on a house/apartment despite the two of you not talking about moving, but he always does it with a good intention so most of the time you’re not really mad. And because this happens with work stuff, you’re not too surprised when he comes home in the middle of the day because he’s been suspended. It doesn’t last long, and he probably deserved it but he’s definitely not pulling crap like that again.

V = Vanity (How concerned are they with their looks?)

Homeboy works out, clearly, he keeps active and thanks to his disdain for Grace’s hot Cheetos/other processed food, he’s clearly leaning more towards the healthy side/real food, but he’s not obsessive about it. As for wardrobe he just likes to be comfortable, he knows that he can rock a Henley and jeans and that he also looks amazing in a suit.

W = Whole (Would they feel incomplete without you?)

Normally this question annoys the fuck out of me, but with Jose, and the issues/trauma in his past, I do think he’s a little lost and incomplete without you. You complete him, make him known that he’s worthy of love, that he’s loveable and that he himself can love. You help guide him in the right direction, help him make decisions that he wouldn’t really know how to make otherwise.

X = Xtra (A random head canon for them.) I’ve talked about this with the besties already, and we all agree that he’s got a little dependency on alcohol. Not to the point of it being too much of an issue, but it’s a crutch. When Amanda checks in on him in his first ep his response is “could use a beer”, and we’ve seen him out on his own drinking watching the game. He likes to wind down with a beer or two at the end of the day, he also uses it to loosen up cause he’s a bit of a quiet, shy introvert, so it helps him come out of his shell. It’s not to the point that he drinks every day, and he does his best to never get *drunk* drunk, but it’s there. (There’s also a whole other headcanon/story idea where he *does* realize things are going too far and he goes to AA and meets Cragen, who ends up sponsoring him without either of them knowing the connection but that’s  whole other conversation LOL)

Y = Yuck (What are some things they wouldn’t like, either in general or in a partner?)

I mean you’ve got the given in the general category. He’s an immigrant, so your opinions on that kind of stuff are going to matter. I also think he needs someone who’s more chill, relaxed and not nitpicky with stuff, if that makes sense.

Z = Zzz (What is a sleep habits of theirs?)

Man’s a walking, breathing, living furnace, so he’s gonna sleep with a fan on no matter what time of year. It’s also a white noise thing, blocks out some of the sounds of the city that he somehow never got used to.

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Joe Velasco SFW Alphabet

A = Affection (How affectionate are they? How do they show affection?) 

He’s surprisingly soft and affectionate. He’s seen enough of the dark, dreary and dangerous side of life that he doesn’t want his partners to experience that, he’s all about keeping things warm and filled with love. He’s not great with words, but he’s big on physical touch and quality time for love languages. Almost always has a hand on you, on your thigh on the couch, on the small of your back or ass while out in the city, hand tangled with yours, he’s always about it.  

B = Best friend (What would they be like as a best friend? How would the friendship start?) 

Even as a friend, he’s pretty introverted, quiet, takes a bit of time to warm up to new people. He likes to sus people out before he truly trusts them or lets them in, but once he does.... he’s loyal and protective as fuck. While Sonny’s our golden retriever boy, Velasco’s a rottweiler. He’s the one who’ll come pick you up any time of night, walk you home from the bar, or run a potential date’s name through the system.   

C = Cuddles (Do they like to cuddle? How would they cuddle?) 

The biggest cuddler. He adores wrapping you in his arms, tucking your head under his chin, leaving a soft kiss on your hair, legs intertwining. He’s normally the big spoon, linking hands with yours, leaving gentle kisses on the back of your neck/shoulders. Late hours of tv watching are often with you lying on his chest, or your legs across his lap, and Joe isn’t afraid to be the small spoon, lying on your chest while you softly scratch at his head.   

D = Domestic (Do they want to settle down? How are they at cooking and cleaning?)  

Joe really isn’t sure about settling down, he hasn’t had a whole lot of actual relationships. There have been some one-night stands, friends with benefits is more his style, maybe a situationship or two. It’s also just dating in this age that truly sucks, he’s tried some dating apps with not much luck (and even in canon, had a very not great experience) so he doesn’t like those. He’s very much a bachelor and living the single life and is okay with that, but at the end of a long heavy day he does wish he had someone to come home to. While it is an eventually end goal of his, it’s not something he actively pursues every day kinda thing. 

When it comes to cooking and cleaning, he’s decent enough. I’m thinking he lives in a studio apartment, a small one bedroom at *most*. He keeps it tidy, doesn’t have a lot of stuff in the first place to get it cluttered. There’s likely a coffee mug that moves between the coffee table, the sink and the kitchen counter, gets rinsed but never put away, that kinda vibe. He can cook, and enjoys making dinner for a partner but doesn’t really like to do it daily for himself, being single and living alone don’t help that much, so he relies on take out a lot.   

E = Ending (If they had to break up with their partner, how would they do it?) 

He’s not against ghosting in this day and age, especially if it was just something casual or a one night thing. You’ll just never hear from him again. If it was a long term relationship, he’s gonna do it privately and as gentle as he can, he’s not going to put you down, he’s going to do his best to not hurt you more than a break up already does, and he’s definitely gonna slam a few beers after leaving.   

F = Fiance(e) (How do they feel about commitment? How quick would they want to get married?) 

Joe does ideally want commitment, he wants someone who is loyal to him, who loves him, who he trusts and loves with his whole heart and wants to spend the rest of his life with. He’s not specifically looking for marriage, but it’s not something he’s against. When he does find the right person, he’ll know he wants to spend forever with them, but he’s not going to jump into it until things are settled, one step at a time, make sure things actually fit into all the right slots, that he and you want the same things from life, have similar goals, etc. He’s only going to do it once and he doesn’t want to fuck it up. You can expect a long dating period and a long engagement. As for the wedding itself, it’s a more casual affair, nothing too crazy and perhaps even an elopement.      

G = Gentle (How gentle are they, both physically and emotionally?) 

Extremely gentle. Physically his touches are always soft, light, caressing across your body, hand trailing down your arm before he links his fingers with yours. He only gets rough when you ask for it, after you’d have the conversation about rough sex and that you do like it will he initiate one of those kind of nights. When it comes to emotionally, he can definitely come off cooler. He keeps his walls up, might not want to talk about certain things, emotions and the like, he just shoves them deep down or tries to forget about it. This can lead to some arguments/little fights until he realizes that he can open up to you and trust you with this kind of thing.  

H = Hugs (Do they like hugs? How often do they do it? What are their hugs like?) 

Not the biggest hugger when it comes to friends, only if he hasn’t seen you in a while. But with a partner, and touch being a big thing for him, he will hug you every time he greets you, wrapping his arms around you tightly, holding you into the crook of his neck and squeezing softly for a minute while he breathes you in. His hugs are warm, tender, full of affection.   

I = I love you (How fast do they say the L-word?) 

He’s not quick about it. He’s slightly unsure of what romantic love actually even feels like, he knows he likes you, knows he wants to spend time with you, having you around feels good, feels right, but he’s not saying it anytime soon. And even when he does realize it, he’s going to show you rather than tell you, you’re probably going to be the one to say it first, accompanied by a “you don’t have to say it back yet, i just thought you should know” and if he doesn’t say it back that night, he’s definitely going to make it known another way, even if he’s scared to say it. 

J = Jealousy (How jealous do they get? What do they do when they’re jealous?) 

You know what, I’m gonna lean on the fact that he *does* get jealous. Joe doesn’t have a big circle of friends, he’s very much on his own, lone wolf, kinda always has been in NYC. Each of his friendships/relationships holds a lot of weight cause he hates being the new kid/meeting new people. Sometimes it’s more of a feeling left out kinda thing, but he also really doesn’t like seeing you get hit on by other people. He doesn’t worry about you cheating, he knows you would never, but it still makes him feel crappy, ya know? He’ll usually down an extra drink, try not to wallow so much before eventually interrupting the situation to wind an arm around your waist. If it was some kind of function of yours or an event that he doesn’t want to make a scene at, he might just leave, thinking you’re better off without him kinda vibe.     

K = Kisses (What are their kisses like? Where do they like to kiss you? Where do they like to be kissed?) 

This man *knows* how to kiss and you cannot tell me otherwise. While there is a time and a place for a quick peck, cheek kiss or the like he puts everything into those deep kisses. Soft lips, his hand cupping your cheek, the back of neck, cradling you into the kiss. Your first kiss is enough to make you weak in the knees and that’s every longer kiss with Joe.  

He adores kissing your neck, seeing the reaction he gets from you, kissing your thighs before going down on you, this is a man who will absolutely kiss every inch of your skin. 

When it comes to you kissing him, he absolutely melts at the way you’ll grab his hand and leave a kiss on the palm of it.  

L = Little ones (How are they around children?) 

He’s good with kids, a little awkward sometimes, but he thrives with younger ones. He’d be a total girl dad and you cannot fight me on that lol.    

M = Morning (How are mornings spent with them?)  

Doesn’t strike me as a morning person. Mornings are quiet, reserved for coffee and gearing up for the day. Weekends are for sleeping in, lazy morning sex and a late brunch, probably ordered in and eaten in bed.    

N = Night (How are nights spent with them?) 

Evenings are more fun. He likes to wind down with a few drinks, whether out at a pub or cracking a couple of beers at home. He’s got more energy, is ready to let loose and relax from the day. He likes to meet you for dinner/drinks, sometimes it’s a calmer, more fancier place, but most of the time it’s somewhere sports is on the television where the crowd is a bit louder and you can blend into the crowd a bit more. 

O = Open (When would they start revealing things about themselves? Do they say everything all at once or wait a while to reveal things slowly?) 

He definitely keeps things hidden and there would likely be some things that he would plan on never telling you. He’s got a dark past, he doesn’t want to be judged for it, doesn’t want you to hate him or think differently of him for something that happened 20+ years ago, he’s grown up, he’s not a kid anymore, ya know? He would let things come up naturally, slide little bits here and there into conversation. I can high key see things coming up late at night, when the lights are off and you’re curled up naked in bed after a few rounds, feeling more intimate and vulnerable. You’re lying on his chest, his hand cascading up and down your bare bake while you ask about his past/his time in Mexico, etc. You can’t see his face, esp if he holds you tighter to him and that mask helps the vulnerability come through.     

P = Patience (How easily angered are they?) 

I like to think he’s pretty patient and in times that he isn’t , he walks away. He wants to regain his composure before sitting down to have a conversation. He’s seen what a bad temper can do to people and he doesn’t want to be like that around you. 

Q = Quizzes (How much would they remember about you? Do they remember every little detail you mention in passing, or do they kind of forget everything?) 

He’s got a decent memory, and because of the way he shows his love, he’s going to remember as much as he can. You mention a favourite candy once in passing, he’ll pick some up for you every time he picks up a loaf of bread. He makes sure to write down your birthday, assign a date to be your specific anniversary and always makes sure to have flowers and something planned.    

R = Remember (What is their favourite moment in your relationship?) 

I think it’s gotta be the first I love you. It’s the moment that bursts in his chest, fills him with warmth and just a feeling he hasn’t felt in a very long time. 

S = Security (How protective are they? How would they protect you? How would they like to be protected?) 

While Joe understands independence, he is also fiercly protective of you. He’s never afraid to step in when someone is making you uncomfortable and he’s not against flexing that he’s a cop to get them to back off. He’ll also read the room and if a cop isn’t a big enough of a threat, he’ll drop a couple of lies to have them running.  

The longer he’s with SVU the more protective he’s going to be of you being out in the city alone, especially at night. He will *always* pick you up, telling you to wait inside until he gets there, he’ll arrange an entire fleet of cabs/ubers to make sure that all your friends get home safe too. He’s the perfect guy to watch your drink in a crowded bar and is likely the one who sees a creep being a creep to a woman in public and will automatically be all “hey baby, sorry I'm late” and loosely put an arm around their shoulders to get the guy to fuck off. 

In terms of him being protected (and this gonna sound hella sappy lol) he just wants to know that his heart is protected with you. He’s got walls up for ages and to let them down, let you in and be one with you means he really trusts you. He wants to know that you’re not going to hurt him, that he’s safe with you. 

T = Try (How much effort would they put into dates, anniversaries, gifts, everyday tasks?) 

It’s mainly in the every day tasks, making coffee for you, picking you up a danish on the way to work, stopping by with lunch, making dinner. He’s about being thoughtful when you need it the most. He’s not a fancy date kinda guy and not because of the cost, but because he doesn’t feel he fits that vibe. 

  U = Ugly (What would be some bad habits of theirs?)  

Hear me out, but Joe definitely does have a dependency on alcohol. As I’ve said, he’s pretty introverted, relatively shy, he needs a little boost to help him be more outgoing and talkative. We’ve seen in canon that he’ll go out by himself for a few beers, during one of their first cases Amanda asks if he’s alright and he replies “could use a drink”. It’s not a problem yet, but could easily slip into being one. 

V = Vanity (How concerned are they with their looks?) 

He’s not obsessive but likes to look good. He works out, keeps it fresh, styles his hair when it’s longer. 

W = Whole (Would they feel incomplete without you?)  

I’m ngl... Joe is one of the few characters I write for who I’m gonna say *would* feel incomplete. He’s got a rough history, not a lot of people in his corner, so when you come along and show him your heart and love, he blooms into who he really wants to be. With you around and your support, he finally feels like a whole person again.   

X = Xtra (A random head canon for them.)  Isn’t big on breakfast. He’s not ready to eat when he wakes up in the morning, and likely doesn’t consume anything but coffee until he’s been at work for an hour or two. And while he does consume a lot of take out/food on the go, he’s still more about the healthier options and doesn’t dig the super processed foods. 

Y = Yuck (What are some things they wouldn’t like, either in general or in a partner?)  He’s not into hard drugs, he’s done enough and seen enough of what they can do that he doesn’t want anything to do with someone who parties like that. He also doesn’t have the patience for someone who picks fights for no reason/their own entertainment. 

Z = Zzz (What is a sleep habit of theirs?)  He almost always has a drink or two before bed, again, to help him wind down. And he struggles to sleep, laying awake a lot at night. It's when he gets his thinking done and why he’s not a morning person. He’s a late night owl and would rather be awake when the city sleeps. He doesn't like to bring it up, but there’s honestly a pretty high chance that he has some kind of journal beside the bed, some nights it’s filled with nonsense, other nights its the weight of life that’s dragging him down, others its random thoughts he has about cases/work that he’ll revisit in the morning. I also wouldn’t be surprised if there were pages with poetry attempts and other pages with drawings scrawled across them. 

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This was wonderful, I loved seeing your insight into Joe and I agree with so much of it.

Joe Velasco SFW Alphabet

A = Affection (How affectionate are they? How do they show affection?)

He can be and is incredibly affectionate, especially when it comes to physical touch. When appropriate he’s always got a hand on you or arm around your waist, hand linked in yours. He doesn’t realize it at first but when he’s got an arm around you, his hand gravitates towards your ass instinctively. It’s the hand on the leg while driving, arm around you on the couch, little kisses peppered to your hairline or neck or shoulders, the tight hugs where he buries himself into the crook of your neck as you scratch his head.

B = Best friend (What would they be like as a best friend? How would the friendship start?)

I think he’s a pretty chill friend. He can be kinda introverted and shy, especially at first, he’s quiet, only really speaks when needed or he wants to share kinda thing. But once he’s comfortable with you there’s lots of teasing, jokes, laughter, he’s gonna be an incredibly loyal friend, always have your back and always be there to be a shoulder to cry on when needed.

C = Cuddles (Do they like to cuddle? How would they cuddle?)

He’s the biggest cuddler teddy bear out there. Kinda covered it already, but one of his big love languages, both to show and receive is going to be physical touch. If he’s had a long week of  a rough case he just wants to come home to you, crawl into bed, nestle on your chest between your legs, his arms wrapped tightly around you as you press kisses to his hair and softly play with it.

D = Domestic (Do they want to settle down? How are they at cooking and cleaning?)

I think the idea is in the back of his head currently. He’s kind of a lone wolf, he’s always had to fend for himself a bit and always had some lingering worry. Now that he’s more settled with nypd and svu he sees the rest of his squad and their personal at home lives and thinks about it more. He’s not someone to force it, he’ll know when he meets the right person kinda thing. He knows how to take of himself, he can cook all the basics, and definitely has a few authentic recipes passed down through his family he’s held onto. For cleanliness don’t ask me why, but I see him as someone whose apartment is rather bare, like only the necessities, so that helps with keeping things clean, and at the end of a long day he doesn’t like to come home to mess.

E = Ending (If they had to break up with their partner, how would they do it?)

He’s gonna be soft and gentle about it and probably in person, maybe even bring them a pint of ice cream or their comfort food to help ease the break.

F = Fiance(e) (How do they feel about commitment? How quick would they want to get married?)

He’s a little commitment shy. I know I’ve talked about this with the moots and we all kinda agree that Joe doesn’t have much experience with long term relationships, he’s done more friends with benefits, casual dating, or one night stands. So he can take a little longer to warm up to things in relationships, he’ll show his love before saying it out loud, you might get a key to his place at the average time, but the idea of getting a place together is still gonna take a while, those bigger milestones are important to him and he doesn’t want to fuck it up kinda thing. So esp when it comes to marriage, he’s gonna take his time, also can see him being someone who’s okay with just having a partner and knowing they’re going to be together forever, maybe even referring to each other as “husband” and “wife” despite them not legally being married.

G = Gentle (How gentle are they, both physically and emotionally?)

Extremely. He’s a soft boi and we know this. Obviously he can be rough in the right moments, and he definitely isn’t scared to throw you around a bit or let his dominant side show when we’re talking bedroom stuff.

H = Hugs (Do they like hugs? How often do they do it? What are their hugs like?) I think that once he knows you and is comfortable with you/cares about you he’s a hugger. Like, when he says goodbye/goodnight, its accompanied by a hug. His hugs are tight yet cozy, he buries you into his embrace, tucking your head under his chin, a hand slipping into your hair as he holds you close to him.

I = I love you (How fast do they say the L-word?)

It definitely takes a bit. He’s slower to say it but you can kinda feel it coming because of the way he shows it in other ways, your favourite treat popping up on your desk at work, little massages while you’re watching tv that night, the way he holds you in bed, the little smile on his face while he watches you do something, thinking that you don’t realize

J = Jealousy (How jealous do they get? What do they do when they’re jealous?) I don’t think he’s a very jealous person, and it’s certainly not an angry jealous, he’s more of a “okay, guess they’ve got something that I don’t” sulky kinda jealous, if that makes sense? But if you’re out at the bar and some creep starts hitting on you, he’s gonna slide an arm around your waist, kiss your cheek and get rid of him, that’s for sure.

K = Kisses (What are their kisses like? Where do they like to kiss you? Where do they like to be kissed?)

Joe’s kisses are soft, yet passionate. They’re deep, slow and full of care and emotion and the words that he can’t quite figure out how to say. He can easily spend all night just making out and enjoys that as much, if not more than actual sex. It’s the intimacy of it, the way that he can hold you close while doing so. He loves kissing your lips, your neck and collarbone, and he knows *exactly* where to kiss you to get you riled up. He adores it when you grab his hand and kiss his palm, the cuteness of it, the innocence in it. He also loves when you kiss at his hips before going down on him.

L = Little ones (How are they around children?) (I literally read this one and then had to think if we’ve ever seen him interact with kids on the show and now I’m confused and don’t think we have. Oh well, excuse to go watch all his eps again LOL) Joe’s okay with them. He can be a little bit awkward at times, and he’s better with boys, but he’ll get the job done. He’s definitely the one running around in the back yard with them at Thanksgiving kinda thing, but he’s not sure if he wants his own. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn’t, it doesn’t and he’s perfectly fine being Uncle Jose

M = Morning (How are mornings spent with them?)

Mornings are quiet, they’re his “me time” as he gears up for work and puts on that brave face knowing the shit he’s gonna have to deal with kinda thing. They’re for solo showers, coffee and breakfast, probably watching or reading the news or reading over a case file if he’s in the middle of a tough one. He will always say goodbye before he leaves and make sure to give you a kiss, even if you’re still asleep.

N = Night (How are nights spent with them?)

They’re much more relaxed and about winding down from the day. You might meet up at a bar or restaurant for dinner and drinks or do it at home. Crack a beer, cook some food, an energetic playlist wafting through the air as the two of you joke back and fourth together.

O = Open (When would they start revealing things about themselves? Do they say everything all at once or wait a while to reveal things slowly?)

Our baby boi Joe has a lot of baggage, let’s be honest, so it’s not going to all come out at first, and some of it probably won’t come up at all until it’s mentioned in an offhand comment and you’re all “excuse me *what*?” I think you’re likely to learn that he’s not in contact with his mom/his dad is dead early on cause asking about parents/family is a discussion pretty early on but he’s not going to bring up the abuse right then, ya feel me?

P = Patience (How easily angered are they?)

He’s pretty patient, and when he isn’t, it’s more of simple frustration or annoyed. He doesn’t really get angry with things, especially you. And if he is, he’s going to walk away, he doesn’t like yelling or when things start to escalate, so he’ll walk away to calm down and blow off some steam before coming back to talk things through with you properly. He tries to save the angry for the interrogation room.

 

Q = Quizzes (How much would they remember about you? Do they remember every little detail you mention in passing, or do they kind of forget everything?)

I like to think he’s somewhere in the middle, he might forget a date night or that you wanted to go see a certain movie that weekend, but he’s going to remember that you offhandedly mentioned you love a specific treat mid conversation once and show up with it every time he sees it in a store.

R = Remember (What is their favourite moment in your relationship?)

I think he’s pretty soft about your first kiss. The moment that he’d been waiting for for ages, the feeling of you that close to him, his lips on yours, moving with grace, the way your perfume invaded his senses, how *you* invaded every single one of his senses and the world seemed to stop spinning for a moment.

S = Security (How protective are they? How would they protect you? How would they like to be protected?) okay, so homeboy isn’t *overly* protective, he gives you your own freedom and knows you can take care of yourself, but he is always going to make sure you’re safe. And that’s gonna extend to your friends too, if you’ve had your bestie over, he’s gonna walk her home at the end to make sure she’s safe. He’s not overbearing, but wants to make sure the people and things he cares about are protected, the type to make you agree that you’ll always call him after a night out for a ride/walk home, the one who really means it when he says “text me when you’re home safe”. As for himself, I think it’s more emotional protection that he wants/needs from you. Knowing that you’re going to be careful with his emotions and love, that you’re not going to hold his past over him, that you’ll love him no matter what kinda thing.

T = Try (How much effort would they put into dates, anniversaries, gifts, everyday tasks?)

He’s pretty low maintenance, but he’s also a hopeless romantic at times. So the first couple of dates are going to be pretty standard, drinks, dinner, bowling, coffee and a walk through central park. It’s going to be the anniversaries, the big special important days that get the fancier dates/surprises. The celebrations, your birthday, if you got a promotion at work, finally finished that research paper, graduating, getting the big girl job kinda thing. He’s gonna spoil the shit out of you on those nights, tell you to wear something fancy (and whatever you choose always knocks the breath out of him cause he’s so smitten with you) and whisk you away to a fancy restaurant, a night on Broadway, a river cruise dinner, those are the fancy ones.

U = Ugly (What would be some bad habits of theirs?)

Overworking for sure. He’ll not notice the time until you’re calling or showing up at the precinct all “babe, it’s nearly midnight, c’mon” kinda thing. We’ve also seen that he’s a bit of a “beg for forgiveness rather than ask for permission” when it comes to work so I think that would bleed into the other aspects of his life. He might bring home a foster dog without talking to you first, put a payment down on a house/apartment despite the two of you not talking about moving, but he always does it with a good intention so most of the time you’re not really mad. And because this happens with work stuff, you’re not too surprised when he comes home in the middle of the day because he’s been suspended. It doesn’t last long, and he probably deserved it but he’s definitely not pulling crap like that again.

V = Vanity (How concerned are they with their looks?)

Homeboy works out, clearly, he keeps active and thanks to his disdain for Grace’s hot Cheetos/other processed food, he’s clearly leaning more towards the healthy side/real food, but he’s not obsessive about it. As for wardrobe he just likes to be comfortable, he knows that he can rock a Henley and jeans and that he also looks amazing in a suit.

W = Whole (Would they feel incomplete without you?)

Normally this question annoys the fuck out of me, but with Jose, and the issues/trauma in his past, I do think he’s a little lost and incomplete without you. You complete him, make him known that he’s worthy of love, that he’s loveable and that he himself can love. You help guide him in the right direction, help him make decisions that he wouldn’t really know how to make otherwise.

X = Xtra (A random head canon for them.) I’ve talked about this with the besties already, and we all agree that he’s got a little dependency on alcohol. Not to the point of it being too much of an issue, but it’s a crutch. When Amanda checks in on him in his first ep his response is “could use a beer”, and we’ve seen him out on his own drinking watching the game. He likes to wind down with a beer or two at the end of the day, he also uses it to loosen up cause he’s a bit of a quiet, shy introvert, so it helps him come out of his shell. It’s not to the point that he drinks every day, and he does his best to never get *drunk* drunk, but it’s there. (There’s also a whole other headcanon/story idea where he *does* realize things are going too far and he goes to AA and meets Cragen, who ends up sponsoring him without either of them knowing the connection but that’s  whole other conversation LOL)

Y = Yuck (What are some things they wouldn’t like, either in general or in a partner?)

I mean you’ve got the given in the general category. He’s an immigrant, so your opinions on that kind of stuff are going to matter. I also think he needs someone who’s more chill, relaxed and not nitpicky with stuff, if that makes sense.

Z = Zzz (What is a sleep habits of theirs?)

Man’s a walking, breathing, living furnace, so he’s gonna sleep with a fan on no matter what time of year. It’s also a white noise thing, blocks out some of the sounds of the city that he somehow never got used to.

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