#its always a surprise to see trans ppl defending something created to erase us from the narrative

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First, mpreg was literally created as a trope for cis people that couldn't imagine a world were men naturally could get pregnant, because they couldn't consider that trans men existed. For them it was easier creating the "what if men gave birth through their ass" than "men can have uteruses and vaginas and still be men". So they stole a reality that has trans protagonism to put cis in replacement. Sure, you can enjoy it, whatever, but know what you're defending.

Second, particularly, I understand not wanting to read something because of trauma, it's totally ok. But saying that a story with trans men getting pregnant is because they're replacements for women and about their reproductive organs alone was terrible harmful (and potentially transphobic). Trans stories can also talk about pregnancy, they're not less important or less "trans stories" because of it. There's a lot of trans men and transmasc nonbinary getting pregnant because they want to, and this doesn't make them less trans men and transmasc. (And yes, you being genderqueer doesn't change the fact that saying trans fics with pregnancy are somehow replacements for women fics and that they weren't part of "trans stories" was messed up, and I say that also as a transmasc genderqueer person. Being honest, even if you wanted to say just "mpreg is a replacement for women" wouldn't be truly ok and kinda misogynistic).

I would say I'm sorry that my joke belittling mpreg was offensive to you (again: you can like whatever you want), but at same time I never expected a trans person to defend something that steals from our voice. Genderqueer is an identity of protest, activism fight and for political means. This means in all instances of your life, even something like this minor thing (thats not really minor if you think it through about the importance of making sure people remember we exist instead of getting our narratives and making it theirs). I hope you haven't forgotten it.

Adar: Do you know what he offered me? Children.

half the fandom at that phraseology:

the other half: