#it's not that big of a deal

[dancing-crystals]

My first name is somewhat old-fashioned. My surname is also a man's first name. Think something like "Edith Thomas". Sometimes even native English speakers see "Thomas" and assume I'm a man, and when I worked at a company that did a lot of business with non-native English speakers, including people from countries where the family name was listed first, it was common for them to assume I was a man. It was also common for them to have names I'd never seen before.

I know people who have a name with two spellings and they were given the spelling more common for the other gender (Erin/Aaron) or who have a unisex name or nickname. And I work with many military people who use a rank instead of Mr/Ms/Mrs, so adding that to the email signature is not helpful.

when people pop off with some ass take like "why should I have to put my pronouns in my profile or signature or whatever, my name is Tom and I have short hair and am wearing an oxford shirt in my profile pic, figure it out" I always think

so do you just not talk to people from other countries for your job, ever?

like, some people don't, and you can follow the flowchart to a different part of the argument about why pushing back about pronouns is stupid, but I e-mail people in Singapore and Dubai and Japan and India every day. A lot of those people have names that are probably their local equivalent of "Tom," but I have never seen them before and I have no idea if that's a girl's name or a boy's name. They usually have profile pics too. I don't know how common short hair is for women or long hair is for men in their country. I don't know if that style of shirt is more common for men or more common for women. I'm not writing this from some homogenous whitebread oasis, either, I live in New York City, it's just simply not possible for me to know the common names in every language of every country where the people I need to work with, live.

just put your stupid pronouns in your signature, some exasperated project manager in Mumbai will one day appreciate it

[midsummermoon20]

I think I might do a sim dump again...but with a little twist 👀

[princess-nobody]

Trying to find fcs for an avatar fic and it's making me lose my mind how many of them on Pinterest are supposed to be fully bred 100% na'vi but have eyebrows and makeup on, like holy fuck is it really that hard for y'all to make na'vi that look like na'vi and not cutesy human girls in cosplay

[amethyst-is-gay]

I just have to reiterate how much I hope Kenny gets well soon.

[lady-phasma]

Aren't tags meant to help us find posts as well as block posts?

[the-insomniac-emporium]

why do so many of the streamer's I've watched recently have such good voices ohmygod. nobody look at me right now my face is probably a tiny bit red.

[set-wingedwarrior]

I wanted to make a big-ass analisys on Tai, but I kinda don't feel like it. Have a summary instead.

In a few words, I think people on both sides are taking a very complex situation and giving it a black or white interpretation, which doesn't sit right with me.

My opinion, explained as simple as possible, is that Tai has been a bad and neglective parent not for lack of love, but for lack of ability in the given circumstances. He was a broken man who did the best he could, and still badly hurt his daughters in the process, sometimes by making terrible mistakes.

Taiyang was absent and Yang took over as the caretaker role for her baby sister, and that's not good for a child. That is indeed a textbook parentification case, which very often do take place when one parent passes away and the other is frozen by grief, but I wouldn't consider this a case of abuse as well.

Abuse to be called that has to be pretty extreme and consistent for a long time (honestly, internet is ruining the word by using it every time someone makes a mistake or when your friend treats you badly once), and let's be honest: we don't know how long Taiyang has been shut down. Yang doesn't specify it in Burning the Candle, nor is it ever mentioned by writers or such (at least to my knowledge). Considering what we saw of the relationship he has with his daughters though, I'd argue that it wasn't for the long time that people believe and that he stepped up at some point (I'm pretty sure their relationship would be much more ostile if he didn't).

"Why does Ruby say that Yang raised her then?" because she already had formed an attachment to Yang as parental figure. You can have multiple attachments as a child of course, but that also means that Yang simply couldn't step down from that role, even with Taiyang being back, because Ruby kept treating her like one (that's not to blame on Ruby of course, it was a natural response from her).

Now, let's not forget about intentions: it is true that abuse isn't always made with conscious ill-intent, but it's also true that not all forms of hurting are abuse. Considering everything from the little we know, I'd say Tai falls more into the neglect category, which can but doesn't always allign to the point of abuse (see again the point about consistency).

That's what I think but, truth to be told, none of us has enough information to make a proper analysis or statement. It is a very complex matter that in real life would require a deep study/analysis and lots of therapy sessions. Meanwhile Tai is a fictional character we barely see in the show he's a part of.

It is fine to speculate and discuss (in a civil manner please) and share our opinions. I'm not expecting everyone to agree with me or text me about how I changed their minds; I just wanted to share my opinion. But let's not pretend that there's some sort of real final answer or interpretation when we get so little to work with. Maybe not even the writers know clearly, and just had his character as a tool, who knows!

Maybe some day we'll get more information that will make me go "damn, I was completely wrong!", o maybe not. Honestly, I don't particularly care. But I'd like for people to chill, stop treating this as a trial, and recognize that different interpretations from different people with different experiences and backgrounds aren't a bad thing.

[erigold13261]

Had my first real interview for a job! Hope I get it! (it's fast food while I work on trying to get an actual art related job, so I'll probably get it)

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

Inktober Day 31. Prompt: Fire

HOLY FUCK I DID IT!!!

[thekidsare-not-alright]

I SWEAR I'll shut up about it after this but I have to say. omg the fob version is cool but haha it'll never beat the original!! WOW NO ONE HAS LIKE, EVER SAID THAT BEFORE OMG TOTALLY?? FOR REAL?? THE ORIGINAL IS BETTER THAN THE COVER?!?! YOU MEAN YOU LIKE THE VERSION PEOPLE HAVE BEEN LOVING FOR OVER THIRTY YEARS MORE THAN THE ONE THAT CAME OUT A FEW WEEKS AGO?!? YOURE SO HIP AND COOL HAHA OMG

[geckogoblin]

hey quick reminder that if you don't like a ship don't go ranting in someone's comments for no reason just filter the ship tag and move on ^^

[taciturnpoet]

when you want to talk to someone but you're too scared to dm them first so you just kind of vibrate with anxious energy

[blueberryrock]

Me: *explains multiple times that I'm in PAIN and it HURTS to walk around and get up or down* i should do the easier thing that doesn't require me moving my legs much

My brother: nah you can just walk all around while i do the easier thing

[rosescries]

I lost one of my keychain charms...😭😭

[girlswhoeatpeople]

we need to talk about adult taylor swift fans the same way we talk about disney adults or ppl who only read fanfic or watch children's cartoons. imho.

[kafus]

it's really unfortunate suddenly seeing this on my dashboard... this is an old version of a GIF i made, ripped out of one of my posts about my work in progress GIF archive, and as you can see there are issues around the eyes of this one and stuff. i'm frustrated this was posted without credit, without telling me, and before the project was even ready for the public.

this is the final gif which i released to the public and can be posted anywhere or used for anything with 0 attribution or credit. that being said, you can find my stadium 2 GIF archive of every single pokemon here

0245. Suicune 3D model from Pokémon Stadium 2.