#it's late here

[expatesque]

Hi S, I’m in a bit of a pickle atm. I’ve found what I would deem to be my dream man, confident and capable and intelligent. Only problem is that he just doesn’t have the career ambition I’d want in a partner (earns around 55k, in software development). Is this a dealbreaker? How do I approach talking about this?

Ooh interesting. I guess I would encourage you to interrogate why that's important to you. Is it something practical, like you want to have kids and only work part time? Or is it the outward manifestation of something else, i.e. do you actually care what your partner earns or do you really care that they have goals and ambitions they're working towards?

For the former, I'd encourage you to talk out your lifestyle with your partner once you guys are in the right place to do that. Does he want kids? How many? Does he anticipate continuing to work full time? What if you didn't want to, how would that impact the family? This feels to me like a solvable situation, but not without some very serious discussion and some thinking on your part: if you're asking him to be more ambitious to fund the life you want, what would you be willing to compromise? Would you be okay adjusting your lifestyle? Or delaying having kids? Maybe leaning into your career really hard for a few years to save up to fund this? These are the kinds of things you should be thinking about and discussing with him. And if the answer is no, you won't compromise, you need a partner who's going to be earning X to make your life work, then share that with him and let him make his own choices (although I personally think that's too far and not fair, but you have to be honest with yourself about what you can put up with).

If it's the latter, that's a completely fair concern, I would just encourage you to look deeply into (1) how much you care, and (2) is he getting that ambition/personal growth elsewhere, outside his career? As an example, I have a friend who is engaged to a former Olympic-level fencer. After the (Japan) Olympics, his career ended and he spent a few years lost - he didn't really care about his career and lacked another passion, and this made my friend quite worried. It's a few years on now and he's found new stuff to be passionate about (still not work though) and that's absolutely fine with her. So maybe your guy isn't a career guy, oh well. Maybe his passion is to be the greatest stay at home dad ever or learn several languages or take up woodworking and make bespoke furniture for your home. Whatever! As long as he's passionate and strives to improve!

I guess my overarching point here is: we as women are really socialized to want men to 'provide for us' but in an era where a lot of us are making plenty of money to provide for ourselves, we need to be careful about whether those things are actually important to us or whether we've just been taught that we should want them.

[thankyouforthememoriesworld]

Azzi is looking good. Of course that shooting form never lets us down. I’m curious to know what comes after in her recovery like shes shooting, running and jumping. If she’s at her 9th month mark I wonder what’s next.

She should be able to do it all right now so either she's waiting for the all clear or she already had it and is keeping it from us (cause she hates us 👍🏻). The next step should be to take part in scrimmages.

[eruisapenguin]

I’m pretty sure all death will make a note to watch MC just in case

-⚠︎ anon

MC: are u guys looking at me cuz I'm pretty 🥺

All-Death: "wtf."

[spookiifi]

A Quick Preview for an Alt Gabriel/Reader fic

I don’t want to rush the next fic, so I’ll give you guys a sneak peek

Slightly/Intended smut

“Gabe, wait I-“ You placed a hand on his chest. “I’ve never done this before…with anyone, really.”

His eyes widened. “Really? But you seem so self-assured! With someone as beautiful as you I never would’ve thought…”

You blushed. “You flatter me, Gabriel.”

“Oh, my dear. We don’t have to do this if you’re uncomfortable.”

“No! I’m okay, really! Just…can you be gentle with me?”

Gabriel’s eyes softened. “Of course, lamb. I’ll do my best, but I promise to make it memorable.”

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[xlntwtch2]

[ra3kiv]

[puncertainty]

you know that one team member who takes all the credit but does none of the work

[chloesimaginationthings]

Happy 10th anniversary to FNAF!!

[batgirlteeth]

hey, trans girl whos looking to be more social! self-deprecation wont make u more relatable and funny i assure you! if you want people to like you, theyll be drawn to the qualities you like about urself! and you dont have to apologise for you presence anymore babe, youre allowed to be here. people will want you around if you want to be around yourself. youve gotta be your own best friend

[stargirl230]

you’re my hero!

bnha doomed yuri was not on my 2024 bingo card

(no reposts; reblogs appreciated)

[canisalbus]

✦ Freshly ordained ✦

[carry-on-my-wayward-butt]

having a child has taught me that every toddler is completely justified in their frustrations and tantrums because learning how to do something you have literally never encountered or heard of before is insane. and being expected to be completely calm in the face of this constant barrage of overwhelming information is doubly insane.

i got charlie a sticker activity book and it occurred to me i have to TEACH someone how to unpeel stickers. it's SKILL that requires DEXTERITY and FINE MOTOR ABILITY. i thought it was obvious that you have to curl the page a little bit to create a break in the cut so the sticker comes up.

obviously a fucking BABY wouldn't know that because they have no background experience to inform their thought process. OBVIOUSLY. and OBVIOUSLY the LITERAL BABY wouldn't get it right the first few times. it would OBVIOUSLY take practice. lots of it.

i hate this feeling. it's so obvious. why are children treated so badly when they're learning everything for the first fucking time. why do people treat children so horribly and expect so much. they're brand new. why didn't i get the same grace i give to my child? why did no one have patience for me? why, when it's this easy?

it's so easy. it's so fucking easy.

[transbeeduo]

IN THE CLUB STRAIGHT UP FORGETTING 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[catskullery]

[bonezoid]

makeshit halloween at the tulpar

and the polaroid pic vers

[lovetositinsilence]

a moment for themselves