#it’s not until you see cancer irl that you realize just how often it appears everywhere

[henry-fox-biggest-stan]

Sending lots of love and hugs your way! I hope your mum will get better soon 🫂

You’re so nice thanks

She’s back from the hospital now, they tried a new thing that’s supposed to make her feel better, so fingers crossed

[sometimesrosy]

I really respect you not wanting to make a public statement. But I really think (not saying we should victim blame, or even come for the abuser), but I don't think we should start a witch-hunt on any side, until we have more information. My best example is during the Metoo movement, Dave Masterson, was accused of sexual assault. He was witch hunted, almost lost his job on Netflix, until he released the fact that he had a restraining order against this girl. So while I always want to believe 1.

2. I always wanna believe the victim! I really do. But I was not there. I have no idea what actually happened. So until I have enough information to form a picture, it is gonna be hard to form an opinion. I will say, even though it may be cynical, this case, makes me a little suspicious. I am always suspicious when public opinion comes before going to the police or other authority. But that might just be my bias. Thoughts on that?

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Thank you. I don’t think we should jump to conclusions either. I think it’s best to wait and see how the situation unfolds, especially when we have VERY little information to go on. We have one person’s word. That’s it. One story. One perspective. Being the first to say something does NOT mean you are telling the truth or without motive. It also doesn’t mean you’re lying or the abuser. In other words. We just don’t know. Being silent about accusations doesn’t mean you’re guilty. It could mean you’re acting on the advice of your lawyers. It could mean you are traumatized and withdrawing. It could mean your mental health is unstable. It could mean you don’t know what to say. It could mean you want to keep things private. I don’t know what it could mean. Another reason to wait and see how it unfolds. Since it ISN’T our business, it ISN’T out lives and we DON’T know what’s happening.

I’ve talked about Depp/Heard, and how Heard accused him of abuse but it seems that in a volatile relationship, she was actually the abuser and accused him to benefit her career, which crazily enough, actually worked. She continued her abuse by making the claims. I want everyone to be aware that although it’s more common for men to be the abusers in PHYSICAL abuse, with emotional and psychological abuse, the abusers are very often women. Women are NOT automatically innocent in this situation. And that includes both wlw and m/f relationships.

But I didn’t know about Danny Masterson, so I looked it up and it seems that he’s been ARRESTED for sexual assault, only a few days ago. So there’s enough evidence to charge him for those things he said he didn’t do. I’m not sure your claim that he was innocent is true at all. 

How do you know when accusations of abuse are true?

Here’s the thing. Abusers and criminals often LIE about what they are doing. And they often shift the blame onto their victims. They consider themselves innocent of wrong doing, the victim deserved it. Abusers often claim that the victim is the aggressor. It’s, like, one of the hallmarks. “I wouldn’t do this if you didn’t make me mad.” Abusers aim to disempower their victims and break them down. And they also are invested in maintaining a good appearance in the eyes of others. They enlist others in the disempowerment of their victims.

That’s why I wait to judge in situations where I don’t know the truth. For sure, you want to believe victims, but with issues as complex as domestic violence, abusers sometimes paint themselves as the victim. In which case, they ARE the abuser, and you are serving to further the abuse of their victim. 

Shoot I just realized how often my ex claimed to be the victim or vulnerable one. He actually pretended to have cancer when i kicked him out so I wouldn’t make him leave. 

You know what? I’ve been telling y’all this forever. Don’t jump to conclusions. Get evidence. In story analysis that’s canon. IRL it’s a lot harder to get evidence, but there’s still more out there than just one person’s word. Especially in a case where your opinion or tweets have NO effect on the real world situation. Being first to judge doesn’t help anyone. It is okay to wait and consider.

I am actually having a hard time with addressing A’s accusations because I have quite a few doubts about what she said and I want to believe victims... so it turns out I have to not say anything because most of what I have to say is not supportive of her statement.

[upsett-spaghett]

Ok here we go. Sorry I haven’t been able to get this done sooner, I’ve been studying my ass off for finals. But, after too long, here is my official bio for Nath. (Plus some extra sketchbook doodles, sorry for the messy writing)

@neko-puff

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@cybertube-sequel

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Name: Nathan Dushlan

Nicknames: Nath, Nate

Gender: Male

Age: 20

Born in: Michigan, USA

Currently lives in: Ohio, USA(he goes to collage at Ohio State)

Height: 5'8"

Weight: 173 lbs

Eye Color: Hazel

Hair Color: Light Brown

Family: Natalie(Mother-51), Evan(Brother-24), Matt(Brother-26)

Power: Can generate electricity from his body and use it in various ways(charge arrows, send power to machinery, this is mainly machinery based, with Nate being able to control the electrical current and therefore a machine, as well as generate sparks from his fingertips or other parts of his body. He could probably do natural electricity(lightning, etc) if he really tried but the effort would probably kill him so he doesn’t. Combined with Jason, they can create an electricity Bomb of sorts, similar to a bolt of lightning striking a tree.) He’s also not sure if he’s found a “glitch” or not, but after battle he’s discovered he can help teammates slowly recover PP by “charging” their weapons with his powers. It does take quite an amount of time and energy though.

 (Fun extra tidbit- when working with others w/ weather/storm powers he can sometimes throw them off a bit by accident. His body naturally conducts electricity and sometimes it can cause lightning to strike him or things near him. Luckily it doesn’t hurt him, he just describes it as a “slightly tinglily and jumpy feeling” and in larger doses “like I just drank 6 monsters in a row”)

Weapon: For ranged, he uses a Bow and arrow, which transfers over well from IRL. The arrows he shoots are automatically generated thanks to being in Cybertube, so he doesn’t carry a quiver. He can charge the arrows he shoots with his electricity power and shoot them while they are still being effected by it. Different types of arrows can be shot(but only two, including the normal ones)Though, he often prefers to just shoot normal arrows and charge them up. For melee/close ranged, he uses his body. Luckily, he knows how to throw a good punch thanks to Matt, and the “punch”(haha no pun intended) of it is amplified by his powers. He fights with his own style, using dodging and snarky remarks often to tire out the enemy/make them mad then take them out. He uses the small things to his advantage, and is very quick on his feet. He uses his wit in every fight, in order to give him a better chance to win/get out of the fight alive. Appearance: (See above. Civilian clothing will be drawn later.)

Accessories: - He wears gloves that cut off at the knuckle closest to the fingernail, and they’d normally go to just below his shoulder but he rolls them down for convince purposes. The gloves are padded on the inside, and act as arm guards, an essential thing for archers to have. - His goggles help him in multiple ways. From protecting his eyes, helping him see(both because he needs glasses and because they give him night vision), to locating targets and pinpointing their weak spots. Personality: Nathan is super competitive, though not always very forward about it. In a fight he can hold well on his own, but would usually prefer to have backup, mainly someone he can trust and knows will be able to take care of themselves. This is useful for the times when he sometimes bites off more than he can chew. In battle he’ll often snack talk to stall for time to come up with a strategy, and often uses the opponents rage against them. He can mask his emotions well, but doesn’t really like to unless it’s to help the team out or something like that(For example- acting confident when he’s scared enough to puke to give his other teammates confidence and hope, cracking a joke to lighten the mood even if he doesn’t wanna say anything, etc). He’s not the most open person out there, but generally if you ask something he’ll tell it if he knows the person well enough. He’s pretty good at coming up with solutions on the spot, but not as good at sticking to a set and timely plan. He values brains over brawn, and that’s how he’s gotten through life. He’s learned to never underestimate anybody and how to use humor as both a coping and defense mechanism. Backstory: Nath grew up with his parents, two older brothers, and his dog, Collie, in Northern Michigan, on a beach town connected to Lake Michigan. He would always roughhouse with his two older brothers, but being the youngest and smallest he was always the wimpiest of the three. So instead of using brute force and power, he was forced to make do with his natural speed and acquired wit to hold his own against them(sometimes he’d get his dog to help him- but that’s totally not cheating ok!!). His life got turned around when his Dad got diagnosed with stage IIB colon cancer in the summer of when Nathan turned 13. The next few months were filled with hospital visits and helping his Dad make paper boats and planes from his bedside table, until finally, his dad’s condition started to get better. He was released with medication and was able to do everything again, which his childish dad took advantage of as soon as he was able to. Everything was going fine until winter Of when Nate was 15, when his dad’s condition suddenly got bad. He was bedridden pretty quickly, and the cycle of hospital visits started once again. But this time, only a month later, his condition greatly dropped and he passed away within a week. After this, Nate had a really rough streak. He stopped caring about school, and got in fights so often that he’s almost daily come home hiding black eyes or a split lip. This lasted for about a year and a half, when Nathan stopped fighting so much and such after a close near death experience. He had the realization that this wasn’t what his dad would want for him after that. Instead, he now threw himself into his schoolwork and the sport he had been playing on and off since he was 11, archery. He brought up his grades and was able to graduate high school with good enough grades to make it into Ohio state. And this is where he is today. 

Extra: - His greatest fear is losing the ones he loves, especially due to some mistake on his part - Dog person - Loves storms, always has - He loves swimming, and knows how to handle jet-skis like another limb - He still has some of the paper airplanes and boats he and his dad made and wrote on from his dad’s first hospital stay - His dad’s death does not haunt him, and he’s come to terms with it. He’s moved past it, but still gets kinda sad and sentimental when talking about him - He’s p strong in his arms, due to archery - He’s more fast than strong