#it’s dumb bc obviously ppl grow and make changes but like. it really felt like burnie left rt & Ashley just kind of vanished bc of him

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feeling a lot of emotions abt Ashley Jenkins again 🫠

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you know how in breaking dawn jacob went to the park or mall so he could imprint and was being really rude to the nice pretty girl who came up to him.. yeah i hope she's doing ok. i bet she felt stupid and embarrassed afterwards :( this is why the whole imprint thing is so dumb because without it, jacob could've CHOSEN to hang out with her/couldve ended up together :( after all the shit he went through, she couldve been the one to save him!! or atleast find each other in the future

that scene was so painful and ridiculous oh my GOD........ I remember reading it for the first time when i was like 11 thinking “....what is this supposed to mean?” he’d be driving around trying to find some random girl to imprint on but every 2 seconds he’d be thinking about bella again? and leah????? I really wasn’t following.

overall I liked the jacob chapters of breaking dawn for what they were bc I love the pack sm and we DID get some of the best leah moments ever, but that whole section was so......bleak. like, bella’s narrative could be bleak at times too but you just always KNOW that things are gonna work out for her and edward in the end no matter how many dangerous situations she gets into bc she’s smeyer’s perfect good girl self insert. but when jacob’s narrative started and from the jump he was contemplating shooting himself but he didn’t know if it’d work or just be a big mess.........I kinda wanted to die with him. it was just so sad. someday I’ll get into the double standards this fandom holds between edward and jacob and how their depression is expressed but that’s neither here nor there.

ANYWAYS

I really didn’t care for that random girl jacob met in that one scene, I don’t believe in romantic partners “saving” each other, and I’m glad he didn’t end up with that character bc it would’ve been such sudden copout (still 100x better than renegade obviously but still a copout).

if smeyer was in the business of writing good stories with good characters over making money, there could have been some commentary about fateful love or whatever the fuck and how that often flops for a lot of people, esp teens, but teens DO still have time to find romance as they grow older. bella’s whole issue with age was all about having such little time but that was resolved with her changing. a parallel theme could have been made about jacob realizing that he actually has more time to get his life back in the aftermath of all the bullshit with bella and edward. but like, smeyer didn’t write jacob w the intention of him being a fully realized character of his own. we been knew tho

time aside, if smeyer was REALLY about to, there could have been a point made abt how even if you don’t find romance right away, there are still ppl out there who love you, and specifically love jacob - ie his pack, billy, rachel, etc. ofc by the time we got to breaking dawn smeyer told us loud and clear that Friendship is Not and Will Never Be As Fulfilling As Fateful and Romantic LoveTM. but wouldn’t that have been great too?

i guess what I’m trying to say is that the random girl jacob met when he was trying to find someone to imprint on would have been a better conclusion to his story than what we got, but it’s still not my fav. I could get behind it more if imprinting weren’t a thing and he didn’t find her out of sheer desperation but it’s whateva

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I'm curious what you think the worst shipping dynamic is? And the reasoning behind it if you have any.

Thank you so much!!!

haha I do have several of those actually. I’ll include both what I think are the worst dynamics and the kind of ships that “I just don’t get why would you ship smth like that”.

1. What I actually call “a mom and a manchild”.

examples: Hatori/Chiaki from “Sekaichi Hatsukoi”, Ikuya/Hiyori.

I guess, technically there’s nothing wrong with this, if they both enjoy being this way, but firstly I just hate adults behaving like infants and I don’t think encouraging such behavior can lead to anything good, and secondly watching this just makes me uncomfortable for many reasons. And moments like when Hyori came up to Ikuya when he talked to Haru and was like “it’s too late and you can’t talk to this man, time to go home” and Ikuya went I just cracked up at this. Also when one part is basically changes the other’s part diapers, but in return gets tantrums or basically nothing or “but I wanna play with someone else tho”, it’s just a kink I do not get, like why would you want to be treated like this is beyond me.

But then I also generally dislike infantile characters, and I can’t ship smth if I don’t like both parties, so maybe bc of this. I always like the mature characters. Like even when I do know in theory that a 13 year old in reality can’t behave like Todoroki, I’m still like, I don’t fucking care, that’s the one I like xD But when 20 years old Ikuya behaves like this, I just do not appreciate it, I guess.

2. “I don’t have an identity, my identity is you or what you want me to be” category, including “my dignity flew out of the window” ones and “I just do what you do”. (I CANNOT HANDLE THIS DYNAMIC, YOU KNOW I CAN’T!!!!!!! I DO NOT WHY, BUT IT’S JUST PISSING ME OFF THE MOST OF ALL PROBABLY)

examples: Eren/Mikasa, Haru/Makoto, Natsusa/Sei from “Number24″.

Sports animes do that a lot. “The only reason I played rugby is because you played it” is a major cringe. And no, it’s not romantic. Romantic is like when you’re both passionate about this and doing this sports together makes it even better/more meaningful, that I get. Not, “I only went there bc you like it” and I’ll have what you have, I’ll do what you do. Like.. huh? You firstly a person, as in fully formed one pls, you can’t exist as someone’s trail. 

Those ships always contain this one person (like Mikasa, Makoto), who are just the accessory of the other character. Mikasa’s problem is not the ackerbond, it’s her life position, she herself chosen to be Eren’s doormat. And some also find this romantic, I think, but I just hate such things. Also the truth of life: if you don’t respect yourself, your crush won’t respect you either. Just saying.

Makoto, I sincerely think, if Kisumi would be his neighbour instead of Haru, he’d be playing basketball at school lmao. Like SD has so many of absolutely terrible scenes, where Makoto just for real turns to Haru and goes “do you think I should go to the basketball club if we’re not swimming?” like dude, I’m... he’s like a walking definition of “meh” if there ever existed one. How can you do not care what you do? Like at all. This is beyond me. That’s sad. Watching him makes me sad.

I just need both characters in a ship be you know THEM, fantastic on their own, then when they’re together they become an absolutely explosive magic. It’s just a true fact.

Also there is one ship who is not quite this category, but kinda touches this theme. Ciel and Lizzy from “Kuroshitsuji”, ike the original Ciel, for whom she wanted to pretend to be a dumb damsel in distress for the rest of her life. Like fucking seriously????? You’d live like this????!!!! Fucking hell, you must really don’t love yourself like at all.

3. Humiliation isn’t my kink.

examples: Dazai/Akutagawa, Midoriya/Bakugou.

Akutagawa and Midoriya are badass motherfuckers and also wonderful human beings on their own. When they encounter Dazai and Bakugou they become sheeps. I hate seeing them like that, that’s basically it. Also humiliation is really not my kink. The whole “treat him like crap” thing. Like some things they did to them is just.. my god, I don’t like it.

Like when Dazai asked Atsushi to throw the phone moment, I literally flinched so hard watching it, I can’t even explain this feeling between the dejection and utter disgust at the fact that Dazai did it, that I felt watching it, but I fucking hated it.

4. Those who bring out the worst in each other or don’t bring out anything in each other.

All my ships literally all with no exceptions make each other the best versions of themselves, push/challenge each other to become better/brighter/happier, etc., or add to each other that piece the other was missing. 

If someone makes someone feel depressed, miserable or even just simply stuck in a rut, that’s probably not it. There are some ships who just simply can’t make each other happy or even make each other unhappy and that’s a fact.

5. Ships with no development or development so tiny that you need 120 episodes and an magnifying glass to see it.

examples: I’d say, but I just don’t want those 10 year olds in my ask box again.

Hate this for obvious reasons. Because as wise ppl say “only fools don’t grow” or "if we don't change, we don't grow. if we don't grow, we aren't really living."

6. Those who are like brothers to each other and said so and don’t emmit any and I mean ANY sexual vibes or attraction in that kind of way towards each other. 

examples: Harry Potter/Ron Weasley (like THE FUCK seriously), Stiles/Scott from “Teen Wolf”, Keith/Shiro.

I just cannot imagine them being romantically involved, I literally can’t. And I don’t get it. It’s like they even say “you’re my brother” thing, but also they just do not give off any couply feels and imagining this kinda make me cringe a bit, cause I have two sisters I’m very close with and their relationship remind me of our relationships so just.. no.

7. They are not each others priority. Meaning both putting someone else or something else before them.

If they don’t put each other first, I most likely probably don’t want it. 

My jam is like Stucky and when they say to Steve “you do this, captain, and the whole world would think of you as a criminal” and Steve being like “fuck you, take your shield, take your idiotic hero rules, I don’t care, he matters to me more than your whole dumbass world”.

My jam is Lan Zhan who went against the whole world and a horde of stupid donkeys and fought for his baby till the end. He really didn’t care if he’d lose everything and what would other ppl think, if it meant that Wei Wuxian will be with him.

On the other hand, we have Jin Guangyao, who had Lan Xichen, but he wanted power and idiots’ love more, so he chose what he chose. Do not get this ship, like no, thanks.

As for putting specific someone else first. Rin/Sousuke, for example. I in general do not get it, but also like there are like 10 moments in the anime like in Yakusoku when Rin forgot about him, when he saw Haru during the tournament and an actual quote “Sousuke looked at Rin, who will always put Haru first”. So like... I do not get it. If you see them as a couple this is technically no good no for Sousuke, no for Rin.

8. Obviously straight ones, but “hey, I need them gay”.

I in fact just do not believe in a “straight ppl do not exist” thing. As I’ve said before there are exceptions where some characters give off the clear bi vibe, but those are pretty rare tbh. And even more rare canonically proven ones like Kanda from D.Gray-man, for example. 

The moment they show some character in anime drool over some girls he doesn’t even know, but he don’t react to any of the guys like this, this just means he’s most likely heterosexual. Cause only straight guys drool only specifically after seeing random boobs. So this thing always throws me off in some ships.

99% of my ships are either canonically gay or most likely gay, but author doesn’t want to label it. 

There are just lots of animes where main character/s have shown no interest in an opposite gender whatsoever like “Natsume Yuujinchou”, “Kuroko No Basuke”, “AOT”, “Number24″, “Fukigen na Mononokean”, “Tower Of God”, “Owari no Seraph” etc., but did in fact show interest in the same gender one. That I get, yes. 

And btw even if you want somebody to be as I call it a “wishful bi”, I think it should be only in situations like if these characters have some absolutely wonderful/undeniable connection, not just the ship for the sake of gay ship.

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That’s probably it. Otherwise I’m fine, I think :D  

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Can we have some more big sister Sam advice?

o shoot okay

here’s some assorted stuff that I could go off about if u were my lil sibling tbh

we spend so much of our life worried about what other people might think about us/being embarrassed but like……..u only got one life. so wear that pretty dress you’re worried about ruining, use that sticker set/washi tape u bought, flaunt your interests. it’s crazy how society really tries to push the whole ‘blend into the crowd, keep your head down’ shit. don’t be ashamed of doing stuff you love. if you love folk metal and neon clothing and writing fanfiction…….that’s valid and fun. anybody who tries to smother ur creativity probably has some deep issues that have……nothing to do with u

your art is not bad. your writing is not bad. your creations are not bad. you are not trash/garbage/an awful person. this kind of bs (and ‘relatable, omg I’m so ugly, stupid, bad’ culture) is so toxic. if you look at the stuff you make and dislike aspects of it, that’s okay! it shows that you’re growing and honing your craft! nothing is perfect on the first try. NOTHING is ever perfect. ever. and even when you criticize aspects of your work/yourself, please know that first and foremost, you HAVE to be your own biggest cheerleader first. you have to believe that your art is worth making, that your stories are worth writing, that what you create is worth creating, and that your life is worth living. and you want to know why?? it’s because you exist, this sum total of coincidences and situations and dreams…..and what you do matters. because you won’t be here forever. so make it matter. to you.

invest in some good bras/underwear.

one day, if it hasn’t happened yet, someone will break your heart. this will most likely happen more than once. and it will hurt, like your heart has been pulled out of your chest and there’s ice in your blood. and you’ll cry and feel empty, and cry some more, and that emptiness will fill every part of you. it will be bad. but it will pass. it will.

stop talking shit on people!! we all love to feel like we’re cooler/more accomplished/better than other ppl but,,,,,,,living in drama and stirring the pot will really only isolate u and make you feel worse over time. (this is obviously not about calling out real issues btw, this is purely about talking shit just to talk shit/gossiping). festering in negativity and putting down people to lift yourself up never works. It just makes you look bitter and gross lol

don’t fcken trust grown ass men/women that persue you when you’re freshly an adult/”legal”. their intentions are usually fucked. a 30 something year old has nothing in common experience-wise with a 18 year old and shouldn’t be trying to mess with you. 

don’t be upset at your past self. they made you into who u are now. and that person is pretty cool.

sex is not as big of a deal as society makes it seem. really. like, sure, it can be fun? but it absolutely does not define you. when I was younger, I felt very pressured to grow up/be in a relationship/have sex, which got me into some very uncomfortable situations that really warped my view on relationship dynamics/sex in general. having sex doesn’t change you as a person—-it doesn’t make you better, or worse! it’s just sex. 

take pictures! take videos! preserve the stuff you love. memory is faulty and less tangible.

go to shit alone! concerts, movies, lunch. it’s okay to do things without an audience. don’t miss out on stuff just because you’re scared of looking dumb and alone. ppl really are very self-centered and do not notice or care tbh. no one will give u shit. (and if they do, what the hell)

nothing u see on instagram/youtube/twitter/tumblr/films/media is real life. everyone is presenting a polished version of their reality. nobody looks that good all the time, if ever. no love story is as perfect as it may appear. no life is as ideal as you think it is. comparing yourself to people on these terms is useless bc you only ever see what they choose to let you see.

oof that’s a lot sorry