#is it for big bearded masc NB people?

[a-kind-of-merry-war]

"Here's our new group!! It has the word 'girl' in the name!! Its super inclusive!! It's for cis women, trans women, and nonbinary people!!"

[niolen]

Not here to trans your gender just to share my (non-fully-relevant) feelings!

I consider myself non-binary leaning on the masc side, i generally fall under the label of "guy", i love my beard, i love my long hair, i love flowy clothes and singing and dancing and my voice has had people calling me "ma'am" on the phone, i am also a big hairy fuck

in the end i can't call myself a man because i just don't feel like i fit, i want to wear dresses without someone going "but you're a man" and i want to have my soft voice and just saying i'm gnc doesn't stop people from trying to shame me for not being man enough, so i'm nb, i'd never be a woman, thought about it too!, i wanna paint my claws, i have them long

i'm rambling

in the end, nothing of that matters, that you relate to trans women means you understand the shame of growing as male, relating to trans women means you have the sense to criticize what you've been told you should be, that you've been disappointed by the cruelty of your environment and just won't deal with the bullshit anymore. this overlaps with living with autism

there is no egg to crack, because you have already extended your wings, but there can always be a change of feathers, or you can paint them over if you want

relating to trans women is good actually. I think that's how most people become women and i'm surprised it hasn't happened to me. yet.

[horseboneologist]

Y'ALL we gotta climb up a mountaintop and shout out our love for fat GNC people. I'm out here seeing posts with "omg GNC icon 🤩" and the pic is of, like. Some skinny high-femme movie star in a necktie. Or a twink of a dude wearing eyeliner. And don't get me wrong, I'm happy for them for them and all that, but!!! Where are my appreciation posts for fat GNC people?? Are you fucking kidding me??? Is there ANYTHING more beautiful than a fat butch? Or a fat bearded NB?? Or a fat queen???

Every time I see a fat masc person with big tits, or a fat femme person with a deep voice, I want to grab them by their shoulders and stare deep into their eyes and ask "do you know? do you understand how important you are? do you know that you're the definition of cool, and sexy, and you make the world a brighter place every single day??" Do you know that you're a fucking ICON?? 🤩

[xyilous]

Moon Boys with a trans reader !!

as gender neutral as i can get, a bit trans masc leaning because that is me and it’s pride month 🤺 🤺

typing this while fighting meds 👹👹

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Steven would be the most educated on the whole thing, he seems like the one to hear the term transgender once and go on a curiosity fueled deep dive and know what gender dysphoria n stuff is. He’d have this whole notepad ready when he asks about your pronouns and what pet names you’re alright with, just so he doesn’t accidentally make you feel bad. He’d help you with your hormones by doing your shots if you’re squeamish or reminding you to do your gels/take ur pills. If Steven ever slipped up he’d panic and apologize profusely, you’d have to let him know that it’s better to quickly correct yourself instead of making a big deal over it, in which he’d start just clamming up before eventually settling. If someone else misgendered you, he’d be a bit apprehensive to correct them, not wanting to cause a scene but also not wanting you to have to listen to it.

If you got misgendered he’d try and subtly call you affirming names more often, he’d also avoid places that make you dysphoric while he’s cuddling with you, would let you put him anywhere that makes you feel better about yourself. Would accidentally ask slightly inappropriate questions, not realizing that they’re invasive 💀💀 speaking of which, if you get surgery while in a together he’d be at your beck and call, assisting you with anything you could possibly need, even if it means needs to call into work that day. If you have top surgery scars he’d insist on being the one to put creams and ointments on them, would absolutely pepper kisses along them when they are healed enough. If you’re trans masc he’d teach you how to shave your beard or style your hair to be more masculine, would also cut your hair for you if you’re not fond of salons.

While he does know ftm and mtf, Steven doesn’t know all that much about the non binary side of things. He knows of it, but his knowledge is pretty narrow and his idea of it is right between male and female and a nb person must be androgynous. With some explaining, he picks up on it pretty quickly and understands that it’s more like a spectrum and has a massive range of what non binary people can look like. Tbh i feel like he’d atleast contemplate using he/they pronouns, would probably get a pronoun button with he/him on it to help normalize it :00 would ask for your opinion on things before committing to it, just incase he’s invading a space not intended for him

Marc would be more confused, he’d know of trans people but mostly only because of warped news articles and not actual research. He’d think of it as people going from one gender to another rather than a person presenting themselves as who they truly are. After you and him have a long conversation about it, he’d have a better understanding of the whole thing and feel a bit more confident around you. He’d also help with your hormones, but if they’re shots he’d do it regardless of whether or not you’re nervous about it, it feels intimate to him and he’d do it everyday if he had to. If someone misgenders you he’d correct them immediately, only getting upset if they try and argue or complain about it. Out of the 3 he’d probably be the one to get a little too clingy and accidentally hold onto your ribs or thighs, possibly making you dysphoric.

If he saw something he felt like you’d like and would possibly make you feel more comfortable in your skin he’d hold it out for you to accept or decline, he’d absolutely do his best to convince you to get it if your fear is looking like you’re trying too hard/obviously not cis, but wouldn’t overdo it. Marc would match with you to try and make you more comfortable (like wearing nail polish or jewelry). If you have surgery scars, he’d make sure you take good care of them and get as much rest as you can to insure you recover perfectly. Would show you workouts that can make you look more masculine (possibly fem too? idk how muscles work, i just draw em) If you’re transfem he’d have no issue with protecting you more or treating you more ‘lady like’, if it’s the other way around he’d show you how to defend urself as well.

Non binary identities are a whole new area for him, he’d be confused but supportive, mostly understanding that you don’t feel like a boy or girl (or some variation of that) and calling it a day, would be totally down to have a full crash course on it if you’d like tho. Like Steven, he might ask some personal questions but isn’t as bad, just let him know it’s not the best thing to ask hdjdjdj

Jake would probably be the most chill out of all of them tbh,, im absolutely projecting but he seems like the kind that doesn’t talk all that much, would much rather 👍 instead of verbally agreeing, ANYWAYS he knows a good portion of the whole ordeal thanks to Steven and you talking, when he fronts he’s incredibly nonchalant about it and treats you as any other person instead of swarming you with pet names (still uses them of course, but he feels as if hearing a name you connected with so strongly that you made it yours works just as well, if not better) If someone misgenders you he’d have to fight to not flip out, his reasoning being that you clearly look, act, and sound like what you say you are, even if it’s an honest mistake and not them purposely being transphobic. If they were intending to be mean he’d watch them closely until they were in a vulnerable area where he could get rid of the problem as a whole. He’s rather protective of you, regardless of how you identify, so there’s not much of a chance of you being alone in the city, sorry 💀💀 Too many shit people.

I think he’d have the best understanding of being non binary, he’s been kind of the third option between in the system so he knows what it’s like to just be,, out there. He’d be able to pick up on when you start getting dysphoric and immediately ask what he can do, even if it’s driving to the store at 1 in the morning. While he’s the understands you, he wouldn’t be great at helping or comforting just because he isn’t really sure what to do in such a specific situation. Tell him what to do and he’d do his best to make it happen.

[96theater]

the thing about me going on hrt is, i’m already androgynous, and i’m nonbinary. these match. theyre convenient. and the things i want--like a beard and a deep voice--are not typically seen as androgynous

so when i think about going on hrt, it feels like i’d be trading something. i get to look how i want, but people are going to be more likely to think im a guy. i present pretty masc already so it’s almost a certainty. and i feel like if i look very gendered people are going to be like “well you dont LOOK nonbinary” and then refuse to respect that

but the fact is gender is different for everyone. and me baby?? i wanna be ty from the office type. big bearded and nb. who is doing it like them

[dr-gloom]

Trans(Masc) Survival Guide: Hormones

This is an important, and surprisingly varied topic. So, I thought I should touch up on this, call it Part 2 if you will. Part 1 (top surgery) here

Rem, testosterone is for people who identify as male and wanna be male! You know, have the beard, the deep voice, the big muscles. I don’t want that! I just... Want to be in the middle ground!

Well good news! The amazing thing about testosterone is it’s taken in doses, whether you’re using cream, a patch, a shot, what have you. As such, you can change how much T you want in your body! A lower level of testosterone will give you more.... muted results, for lack of a better term. Low doses are recommended for folks who identify as FtM or nb who don’t wanna be super masculine, but don’t really wanna be feminine, either. ((this also applies to top surgery; if you tell the surgeon you just want a gender neutral/less masculine chest, they may be able to help))

I’m scared T will make me more angry/worsen my mental health/exacerbate my mental illness. What do I do?

Well, thankfully, this is very rare. Testosterone has actually been shown to help folks level out. Everyone remember the stereotype that women are “hysterical” and “emotional”? None of that on T. Your emotions don’t go away, but without realizing it you’ll start to express them differently. What does that mean? Lemme share a little personal info. 

Before T, I was the guy who cried because someone on TV cried, or because I’d had a horrible day/week/month. And yet, I kept my problems to myself; cried by myself, never snapped at anyone, never shared my stress. Once I was on T, I quite literally lost the ability to cry. I can tear up, but that’s it! And, I’ve become more vocal. I’m not suddenly hulking out here, yelling at people left and right, but I am more likely to speak up when something makes me mad. Overall though? My emotions are level.

Of course, there are a few risks. For certain personality/mood disorders, T can affect them, though that’s a conversation to be had with your trans care provider.

I’ve heard T can make you..... horny

Yes, yes it can. Any kind of hormone treatment runs the chance of affecting your libido, but that doesn’t mean you’ll magically become out of control, overcome with urges, or willing to screw anything that moves. I’m aroace, and while biologically I feel the changes, my orientation hasn’t been affected. You should explore whether this is something you are willing to deal with, if it’s worth the risk. If not, possibly consider a lower dose.

What things happen.... physically?

A number of things! The timeline on these things varies depending on the person, because people metabolize things differently. I’m going to talk in averages here, but I personally hit these benchmarks sooner than expected.

Skin becomes more oily - and may be more prone to acne - anywhere from 1-6 months in.

Facial/body hair grows/darkens anywhere from 3-6 months in.

If male pattern baldness runs in your family, it will show probably within the first year, though it seems it varies too much to give folks a definite estimate (going off of the info packet my doctor gave me, here).

Muscle mass/strength increases 6-12 months in (which I don’t think is accurate. Everyone I’ve talked to has experienced it much sooner, myself included. It helps to start working out, though - this is the easiest and best time to gain muscle; once you’ve started T).

Body fat redistributes in about 3-6 months.

Your period is estimated to stop around 2-6 months. This was the only marker I fell behind in; like I said, it varied from person to person.

Your clitoris gets bigger within 3-6 months in.

Vaginal atrophy (thinning, drying, inflammation of vaginal walls) happens in 3-6 months unless you’re sexually active. In the least crass terms I can manage, if you use it, you don’t lose it.

Deepened voice occurs from 3-12 months in, though it doesn’t happen to everyone. If it doesn’t happen to you, don’t panic! If it’s really important to you to have a deeper voice, there are Speech-Language Pathologists who are trained in transgender voice therapy who can teach you to deepen your voice yourself.

As mentioned above, increased libido happens about 1-3 months in.

vaginal dryness, though some people actually experience the opposite, happens in about 3 months ((basing this on personal experience and talking to a few other trans men)).

All of these timelines are averages, and this data’s been taken from people who are on the track for the typical, male-aligning results. If you’re taking a smaller dose, the timeline will be longer.

I have Diabetes, how will T affect it?

I answer this because this is a question I had that my doctor couldn’t answer. I have Type 1 Diabetes and I was scared because a possible risk of T is insulin resistance, which, for a Diabetic, is reaaaally bad. Turns out, I had nothing to worry about! Since starting T, my blood sugar has been more stable, and my sensitivity to insulin hasn’t changed for the worse. If anything, it might have increased. 

What are the health risks of taking testosterone?

Possible side effects for testosterone are:

hepatotoxicity (chemically-driven liver damage)

insulin resistance (the body’s ability to process insulin decreases)

weight gain

lipid (fat in blood) changes - lower HDL, higher triglycerides (meaning the unhealthy fat content in your blood could rise)

polycythemia (a dangerous rise in red blood cells)

acne and oily skin

fluid retention 

headaches

increased bone density

I’m scared I can’t take Testosterone because I’m not really the healthiest. Can I?

People who are advised against taking testosterone are:

those who are pregnant

those with uncontrolled coronary artery disease

People who need to speak with their doctor and proceed with caution are:

has a family history of heart disease and/or breast cancer

has/had a blood clot in a leg, arm, or lung

those with high cholesterol

have active liver disease

already have a high red blood cell count (hematocrit)

obese

smokers

So... How does this work? Do I take a shot? A pill? Rub oil on myself and sing kumbaya?

Testosterone comes in many forms, the most common being a shot or a patch, though it may also come in a cream.

I feel like I should defer to people with more expansive experience, so I’ll be linking YouTube videos here

T Shots VS Patches

Gel VS Injections

Other videos about taking T you may be interested in:

Things Testosterone Won’t Change (5:52)

What I Wish I Knew Before Starting Testosterone (11:32)

Everything Testosterone Changes (12:07)

Pros and Cons of Testosterone (7:01)

What Happens When You Stop Testosterone? (4:22)

And I feel like those videos say the rest! If anyone has any questions or wants another installment of the Trans Survival guide, just shoot me an ask or DM me! 

[bean-a-rin0]

This is something I’ve routinely struggled with. I’m by no means a femme presenting non binary person. And here’s where it gets tricky: I used to be. When I was skinny, I dressed more androgynous and wore makeup, but as I continued to do so I found that it felt more and more ingenuine. So I dressed masc again, in a lot of the same ways other NB’s dress masc, and just gently reminded people I was non-binary. People explained to me “It’s not you. But a lot of people have been hurt by men, and the way you look makes it hard to see you as anything else.”

I immediately lost my support groups. Queer folks stopped speaking to me regularly in LGBT spaces, and I had several times where afab nb’s were gatekeepers in the community. I would regularly hear folks asking behind my back “But is he really enby?”

This is the face of a non-binary person. I am not a man. I am not a “he”. I exist outside the binary and on the gender spectrum. I like the way sweaters and dress shirts sit on my body. I like my hair short and I like having a beard. I like being the big spoon. All these things have made people question me. Have made them say “But... Is he really enby?”

They. And I am. Please let me be with my people.

NB 👏 Does 👏 Not 👏 Mean 👏 Woman 👏 Lite