#is boring and reductive

[bedazzlecunt]

hot take. its shitty to make fun of people who can't / don't / won't give head, even if those people are men. not liking giving oral sex does not inherently equal being shitty inattentive partner, and the longer we pretend it does the more we run the risk of people feeling pressured to take part in sex they dislike or which makes them uncomfortable

[parkerstorms]

im sorry i dont usually do this but this post pissed me off so fucking bad and op has replies turned off (because of course they do)

fellas. is it gay to wear pink and have long hair and sing and dance? cause i didn’t realize we were using bioessentialism in movie analysis now that’s crazy

sarcasm aside this is literally why i don’t go in tags anymore because none of you are media literate. not a single one of you. longlegs is not wearing makeup in the movie. it’s shitty plastic surgery; that’s why his lips are red. you can literally tell by just looking at him that it’s not lipstick. the clothes he wears are all off-white or white. the falsetto he’s doing is very obviously meant to mimic that sort of “goochie goo” baby talk a lot of adults unironically use towards children. also coding? ‘coding’ is not when you interpret something from a movie as anything you want because you feel like it. coding is an intentional act committed by creatives to further their story and allude to specific real life things for a specific narrative purpose. it is an intentional act of storytelling. it is not you looking at a movie and assuming something as fact based off slight vibes

and i’m just gonna say it. if you see a male character with long hair that’s acting generally creepy in the vicinity of a child and automatically assume that that character is being coded as a transwoman, YOU ARE THE ONE BEING TRANSPHOBIC.

like holy fuck some of y’all have never actually looked inwards once in your life and it shows

[butterflysonnets]

yes i'm rooting for m*leven breakup because byler is neat but mostly? i'm rooting for m*leven breakup for the sake of el and mike.

to me, their romance was always a puppy love born out of a combination of social pressures, naïve curiosity, and a lack of true understanding regarding intimacy and romantic love and what it really is. it was real in that they do truly, deeply care about each other and they are close friends, maybe even shared an attraction, but a maturing romance is so much more than that. they've grown up and out of being boyfriend/girlfriend, and that's okay! i think television/film needs to show more often that most of us don't have definite "soulmates" or first childhood loves that we spend our whole lives with. it doesn't mean these relationships meant nothing and didn't impact us, it just means they've run their course and that something else is in the cards, and this is part of life!

i've always felt el was at her best and most confident self when broken up with mike, discovering who she was and what she liked alongside another girl her age instead of just relying on mike for mentorship on how to live in the real world. she deserves more of an opportunity to find herself, her autonomy, and her independence, and to love who she is, and she's made it clear she's felt insecure in the relationship with mike because she isn't being loved and understood the way she wants, needs, and deserves from someone who is her partner.

also, it's okay if mike doesn't love her in "the way he should". he is not obligated to love her romantically and stay in a relationship with her just because she's a girl, because she "needed someone", or because he cares about her a lot. he shouldn't be pressured into a romance if it's not truly coming from his heart. he deserves freedom to find out and honour who he is, too, instead of just staying in his non-functional first relationship — one he got into as a child, essentially — and defining himself that way because it's what's expected when a boy and a girl are close. he loves her in some way, yes, but it's okay if he doesn't feel comfortable or secure being her boyfriend anymore, for whatever reason that is. he's felt insecure too, and that's valid and it matters.

they are their own people and are steadily growing and changing every day. they need time to figure out who those people are, and it's become clear (at least in my opinion) that those people aren't meant to be a couple at this stage.

they deserve freedom. they deserve to grow up and be authentic to themselves and not feel like they need to lie for the sake of a relationship. they deserve to move on from this version of their relationship that isn't making them happy and rekindle the best part of their bond: their strong, beautiful friendship. they don't have to be a couple if it doesn't make them stronger and better and happier people.

i think it would be healthy and wonderful for a show, especially one consumed frequently by young adults, to show a relationship starting, progressing, and ending on good terms in this way. sometimes things don't work out, and that is okay.

[akajustmerry]

least favourite kind of bi woman-ish content on the clock app is, "I'm a girls girl for the girls and then I remember [hot male celebrity] 😭" type videos. it annoys the fuck out of me like. do you really think you're doing Something for feminism or the lgbt community by performing shame for experiencing attraction ?????? what are you catholic??? the best part about being bisexual is being attracted to people of all different genders!! It's beautiful!! It's fun!!! It's delicious!!!! like, if your attraction to men genuinely makes you feel gross then maybe just maybe you're not into men!! And that's lovely too!!! being a lesbian is beautiful and iconic! But people need to unpack their feelings about men privately instead of normalising shame through irony poisoned posting!

[6-atlas-6]

Hush is waiting for you in the bathroom stall

Y'all I'm sorry I am NOT drawing hands

🎀Tags: @kissesformilo @xanyiaz @amaranthmylove @annmarie101 @kitheking @crescentgrim @anunmarkedface @samlizdavis @thatweirdomidas @cyc-chilla @tanker-redactedaudio @a-gay-piece-of-paper

[cuephrase]

the thing about bruce and jason's philosophies that gets to me is how similar they are. they're both very simple, child-like views on how evil should be dealt with. but they differ on killing and it sets them so far apart.

i remember being 9 years old watching a:tla with my family and being so frustrated that aang was unwilling to kill firelord ozai. like, yeah, taking life is a big deal, but if anyone had earned it ozai had earned it. i wanted aang to get over himself and see the bigger picture and do the right thing.

and the thing is, i do think he ultimately did the right thing. not that killing ozai would've been wrong- it would have been the wrong decision for aang, but my point is that there was more than one "right" decision to dealing with ozai.

life isn't neatly black and white, with only one correct choice at every step. but bruce and jason, typically, do not think that way. sometimes they can be respectful of differing viewpoints but by and large, they are so set and defensive of their ways that they struggle to connect even though there is so much room for them to have common ground. because they think that if they concede to any of the other's views they're contradicting themselves and that would make them wrong and they cannot be wrong. and it's unfortunate because it holds them back from growing.

they're never going to have the exact same viewpoint. and that's okay. but that doesn't mean that one of them is always right/good and the other is wrong/bad.

[supercantaloupe]

at this point it is a red flag to me when a production of don giovanni/its director says it's a response to the #metoo movement. like can you do literally anything other than the most basic possible reading of the text here

[lucky-clover-gazette]

halfway through my 20s, i’ve definitely picked up this pattern where i will every so often have a “baseball bat year” in which i realize i’ve stagnated and very suddenly and determinedly decide to change major parts of my life for the better, then i reap the rewards of that hard work for 2-3 years, and then it’s baseball bat year again because there’s always more and i want it all. it’s called baseball bat year bc i just eventually realize that i need to be bonked really hard with a baseball bat and get things moving again

[lordkingsmith]

Me: oh I need a better name than “Night Crew” for my monster rangers I should look at a generator for ideas :)

The generator:

Me:

Me: the universe is making fun of me

Everything except ultra, ice, and poison strike are. Exceptionally accurate. The monster rangers is also just an objective fact lol

[front-facing-pokemon]

[oidheadh-con-culainn]

i have a mentor through disability support services who is meant to help me with like. organising my time and coping with all the undiagnosed brainweirds I've got going on but uh

they assigned me a cool queer nonbinary person with an interest in medieval literature so let me tell you, we do Not get much time management planning done

[mildew-dread-mold]

"they're homophobic" is quickly becoming a very boring reason to hate a fictional character. sometimes the homophobia is funny. sometimes it is literally the least of their worries. please don't erase fictional characters' much stranger more fucked up issues because they called someone a homophobic slur xx

[iratusmus]

also going to say something that shouldnt be controversial but probably is a bit anyways: fiona/scourge is NOT girlboss x malewife and i will die on this hill. you are watering down interesting characters and interesting dynamics to fit neatly into bland cardboard #feminist boxes that they Do Not Fit Into. look. look at me. look me in the eyes. this is simultaneously girlloser x boyloser and also girlboss x boyboss. understand this.

[jonsnowunemploymentera]

Have spent the day defending my good sis Arya on r/asoiaf

[llycaons]

im such a jyl defender she doesn't have to be badass or a fighter or even a great political mind or another demonic cultivator to be a valuable and worthwhile character. it would be cool if she got to fight but she doesn't, she's not very strong, she's not a cultivator, and I love her anyway you know she's got shit going on internally

[secret--history]

I know that 'The Secret History is a satire' is an extremly prevalent take, and I think it came about as a response to the idea that tsh "romanticises" things like classist ideas/substance abuse/murder, but like. It can be unsupportive or critical of the characters without being a satire. Satire is not the word you're looking for here