#intercultural weddings

[venusssands]

you deserve this

“I feel so honoured that you’re choosing to share this with me.” Eve whispered.

“I said I’d give you everything. All of me. All of you. Can’t break that promise, right?”

[bayesiandragon]

I have so much respect for those couples who wrestled with intergenerational cultural conflicts when wedding planning, particularly with immigrant parents. Y'all are strong folk and deserve the world, sending my love

[cha-cha-kaarija]

armenia is serving balkan wedding realness that's what i call interculturality

[chaosnojutsu]

What's a scene you Desperately Wished happened in Naruto?

um only a singular scene?? can’t pick, sorry, have a few <3

- naruto changing the hyuga clan

- where the hell was team gai during the pain arc

- shikatema wedding (i’m a nerd and wanna know about all the politics and intercultural stuff okay. i’m also trash for them but we knew that)

- neji tsukuyomi vision

- shino telling iruka he wants to become a sensei

- live ino reaction to sakura coming back to the village after galavanting with sasuke with a whole ass daughter (but only if sai is the one holding the camera, i need to hear his voiceover as this plays out)

[lindalofbroome]

30 - Unity

'Let the seven gifts of the land be joined — at the last.' [Zara's father said.] Adin took the great gem and pressed it to the last, empty space in the belt. It slipped into place with a tiny click. And at that moment, our world changed. TALES OF DELTORA The Deltora Annals The Battle for Deltora

just wanted to draw my moon and stars ocs since i love them and they are Adin-era so i guess it fits the first deltora unification but then i ended up drawing them in wedding garb so i guess it's double unity or something alsdkfjh

anyway this is Badr of Rithmere and Luisa of Del, theyre warriors who spedrun enemies to lovers because of the shadow invasion. they often had princess bride esque encounters of "you seem a decent fellow i hate to kill you" "you seem a decent fellow i hate to die lol" type of border skirmishing / patrolling etc. found themselves fighting side by side at hira and developed a nicer respect rather than the grudging kind and they began to enjoy each other's company more as they could hang out in peace under Adin's rule

i think it's too presumptuous to say that they were the first intercultural marriage, i would imagine that there were some at least they were just quieter and lived in the country or something to avoid conflict. but badr and luisa's wedding(s) wouldve been a big deal post-adin's coronation because now everyone is start to trade and intermingle and chat with each other in friendly terms, and they would be well known for their courage and skills so their respective cities were definitely Too Involved lmao

anyway del people are curious and love travelling so i think generally they wouldve been like "oh cool" but also "please have a del wedding with us" because they want to partayyy 🎉 etc but the mere were probably waaaaaaaaaay more reserved. maybe average reserved. like not the most suspicious but also not the most enthusiastic lol. they'd be like woah a stranger here. but luisa is so bubbly and loveable they take to her eventually 😌💙

i drew a rough version of the mere wedding attired because i've sort of done del wedding attire for jaslief so i thought why not try something else

also it's a coincidence but ive latched onto it so much but im obsessed with giving del moon imagery because of how the topaz and the moon are so interlinked and i think it's important to their culture, but guess what's also in the night sky. stars. you know who's famous for star motifs?? the mere. [always sunny in philadelphia red string.gif]

here's some drawings i haven't posted yet because i've been trying to do the warrior getup for all the tribes and i haven't done that yet lol

they're my favs my lil guys :)

and all because i drew a mere person swindling a del person once upon a time lmao

[justhellacesome]

Had a dream where I attended an interculture coming of age wedding ceremony between Parseltongue Muslim Indian Family and Parseltongue British Christians, and it was an interesting ceremony where the contract between the couple was hurn and the oil was extracted then to be put on the bride and grooms face or even drank. I lnew they were Parseltongue because I saw the contract and the shifty dream words on it.

I kinda got kicked out of the ceremony and didnt see the rest of it but as I was kicked out everyone else left the ceremony from the disrespect I was given. Love those dream family honestly.

(it was a long dream I also remember gallivanting in the rain and just skipping around when some parts were pouring like crazy and the other spots are just soft showers it was fun)

[mishkakagehishka]

Opening the comment section on an intercultural wedding and thinking what fucking year did i stumble into

[hoonvrs]

was on Instagram and saw an international couple? get married and her husband adopted her culture let's say. and i thought that was so beautiful

my abandonment issues could never 😭 i want that

intercultural relationships are so cute esp when they have mixed cultural wedding💔💔

[thenaiads]

☝️☝️☝️

I don't know much about Jews community and Israel culture, what I know is that Israel actually think less to other Jewish communities and cultures in the world that don't follow Israel rules and example.

To the point that Israel made laws that see intercultural weddings as some kind of blasphemy and other racist-neonazi bullshit.

This last year was the great "wake up call" for everyone in the world.

Hey I’d really appreciate it if goyim and even ashkenazi Jews would read and rb this

[ghostjelliess]

Sinneró fell to the earth as a torrential rain at the very beginning of time, collecting in unwelcomed floods and storming through city gates with all the restlessness of lonely gods. Nearly a millenia later, Masley fell in love with him. He asked her to marry him three times, without once wondering how she could understand an immortal spring like him.

He was kind, mostly, but he was ancient and would forget simple things about the world. He might remember the fall of empires from his distant view, but forget that phones existed at all. They might be walking peacefully hand-in-hand when he would halt to question how engines work or ask where a building was, only to find it had burned down centuries ago. He didn’t have many cosmic answers, so she let him be spring: chaotic, unpredictable, and frustrating. If she missed him while he wandered some mythic realm, she had only to look at the infinite bas reliefs decorating every cathedral. They were hardly a likeness, but he was there, in every public fountain and bill of currency, in statues heralding government houses, around the necks of anxious grandmothers, even tiled into the ancient road leading to the museum. He was in the art she curated, slipping into conversations as naturally as he’d appeared in her life. 

He was more complex than the adoring Shín allowed, regarding his duality as the cornerstone of their civilization. Masley might have had more qualms about what it meant to love such a god, had she been one of them, however, she was not Shín, so instead of worrying about conflicting mortalities, they had fights like any other intercultural couple. Once Mas called him a tired bear and he wasn’t nearly as offended as he ought to have been. Another time, Sinne, covered head to toe in flour, proudly presented a traditional pie that was neither nutty nor delicious, and Mas told him as much. Their worlds held the weights of existing in different ways, and as they grew familiar with who wanted questions asked and who wanted time to be upset, a new pattern began to form. It was beautifully intricate, a mosaic of braids and twists woven between them by Fate or destiny or the stars or Masley and Sinneró themselves. 

Sinneró, bound to his godly province by a people as they waxed and waned, rather than any maps or walls or gods, dreamed of visiting Masley’s neighboring homeland of Biv–of learning everything there was to know about her, so he could make her happy. Though he’d never had to define concepts like emotion, or communicate ideas like love, it made him laugh when she pouted, and it made him happy when she smiled, and it made him mad when she was disappointed or hurt or sad, and that was close enough to how she’d explained love when they’d met at the museum. 

Sinneró happily made room for Masley in his vast expanse of life. He made wedding decisions, met her friends for brunch, messaged her throughout the day, bashfully forgot to pay bills, and sat patiently through her lectures. He was content exploring the depths of their love, but Masley didn’t seem to do the same. She rushed around him, a new tributary desperately defining itself, never revealing its source. Still, Sinneró did not stop to ask how a human could love a chaos like Spring.

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[seewetter]

While I'm not totally on board with OPs presentation of the topic (I think there's a bit of connective tissue missing as to why the hostility of men specifically in blue collar jobs has relevance to a discussion of right-wing men in general), this post says things that I've been trying to articulate for a while.

To draw a somewhat absurd comparison, I think the people OP is criticizing seem to internalize a view of conservative ideas akin to sappy Hollywood films like "My Big Fat Greek Wedding", where the intolerant people simply "come around" and warm up to the idea of a intercultural wedding (or some other new state of affairs) because there was demand for them to change their minds. Nothing wrong with stories simplifying the world like that, but the realities of changing minds are more complex than "everyone clapped".

To me, one of the most under-discussed factors holding back feminist movements is that our society hasn't yet solved creating a financially safe environment for men leaving the workforce to enter traditionally feminine-coded domains like housework. This is true for blue-collar workers who if they try to re-enter the work force suddenly have big gaps on their resume and its true for white-collar workers: a lawyer would have to go to law school again for several years to re-enter the field (ditto for a doctor, etc.). This doesn't necessarily affect how society thinks about transgressive gender expression or sexual orientation or about trans people, for example, but in an economy where businesses try to cut corners and pay as few people as possible it is a factor that means that many men will view the destruction of the patriarchy as a huge risk of their personal, individual ability to financially survive. Some feminists might tell these men to suck it up and become house-husbands, but that position comes with far less prestige, far less voice in society, far less autonomy, far less social mobility and requires ingenuity (taking on smaller jobs) in order to survive. It generates a dependency on another individual: this is why women's magazines so often revolve around what men want, what men like, what pleases men and how to make men happy while men's magazines revolve around male hobbies.

What OP is criticizing has to be viewed in that context: not only is OP correct that male peer groups make personal status and respect conditional on edgyness at best and often on outright bigotry... but if our society doesn't figure out the financial escape route for male independence then they will continue to intuitively think of genders as naturally polar opposites, some subsets of men will automatically oppose women entering the workforce (or men leaving it), maintaining fragile masculinity and emasculation will continue to be (in a certain bounded rationality sense where we don't consider broader and more radical alternatives) valid concerns.

Like: are conservative parents who let their sons bring girls home but don't let their daughters bring boys home not effectively showing concern about the future prospects of their children in a proportionate way? Men who fool around and disappoint or challenge their partners with a broader pool of sexual or romantic encounters can continue to have a nice life if their financial subsistence comes not from their current main partner but from their job. If the wife is unhappy with her married husband, he can receive a pay raise from the boss tomorrow because the boss is probably not the wife and the wife's wants and needs are totally unrelated to the employers wants and needs. If the husband is unhappy with his married wife, he can dump her...and now she has to scramble to figure out if she can receive alimony, how to receive alimony or whether she can survive with her relatives for a while. I agree that most conservatives are probably not thinking this deep into it, but their value systems allow for a kind of bounded rationality where if society operates like this, placing an unfair double standard on your children gives those children the maximum autonomy that that society grants without getting those kids into risk of serious trouble.

If we can solve this problem then presumably convincing conservatives to raise their kids different will be significantly easier -- it will be comparable to the kind of progress women made in the 1920s when wearing pants and earning money from a "man's job" often went together and enabled women to pay their own bills and do what they wanted without social punishment. And if the kids are raised different, they will have different priorities. These male spaces where men prove themselves by socially reinforcing loyalty to the hierarchies of society and glorifying the power they have over others...they will stop making as much sense to a younger generation. There will be respected and well-known men in society who are not conforming in any way to male norms. The male chauvinism will become less important to those groups which previously seemed to be fueled by it. In such a world, patriarchal attitudes will just be opinions, not a form of bounded rationality. Nothing important will hinge on these opinions, people will be far more able to give up these opinions...especially future generations.

If your vision for the deradicalization of right-wing men begins and ends with "other men telling them that that's gross and to stop it" then I'm sorry, you do not understand how masculinity works.

"Men who hold patriarchal status" and "men who are feminists" are two groups who overlap less than you want them to. I'm sorry. That's not solely because men are so happy with patriarchal status that they don't want to risk it by policing misogyny/queerphobia/racism, It's because being misogynistic, queerphobic, and racist, end expressing other forms of toxic masculinity(and often abusively so) are part of how people establish and maintain patriarchal status. The men who have the ability to stop this via nothing but peer pressure are the very people who are doing it. That's by design. And engaging in feminist intervention is, in and of itself, usually the abrupt end of that status and its associated power to persuade misogynistic men.

Like, I have worked in blue collar jobs as a notably queer person. It was pretty much a constant deluge of verbal abuse. In my experience, most blue collar work environments are exploitative, abusive, and bigoted, and very gleefully so. On the occasions I have spoken up about someone saying something that was super fucking out of line (asking me which of the girls walking by was hottest. We were installing a portable classroom at a middle school), believe it or not, they completely failed to be shamed! Because nobody else on the crew gave a fuck. *I* was the weird one. They ghosted me. A full blown company ghosted me. I suddenly didn't have a job anymore because they just straightforwardly stopped telling me where the next job site was.

Like, this doesn't mean that it's your job to do it, but this vision you have of these big groups of men where everyone is on the fence and there is precisely one shit stirrer who can be shut down by a brave feminist man who can single handedly set the example for all these other guys...you are high. You are describing an "everybody clapped" level absurd scenario. Most of these truly virulent misogynistic guys either have zero friends, because, you know, our society is atomized to fuck, or they are in a group where the feminist guy is actually the weirdo who can be shut down and ostracized much, much easier than the misogynists, because there is no such thing as a man misogynists respect who stands up for women.

You might be saying "well, we're talking about longstanding personal relationships, actually. Like, they need to have to want to spend time with you and then, as a side effect, you can mind control them out of being a threat to us."

Problem with that being:

1: Many feminist men also have no friends, see the atomized society above.

2: Feminist men already stopped hanging out with men who make rape jokes because why the fuck would we want to spend time with them.

3: That isn't just because we respect women so hard. We are in many cases talking about men who are also deeply queerphobic, heirarchical, violent and abusive to other men. What initially drew me to feminism and women was a lack of heirarchical squabbling and constant bullying, and the ability to be openly queer. A lot of men who came to feminism did so because they knew that the patriarchy was not a place they would find success or acceptance. These are not the men who are gonna be able to change right wing minds.

4. Men do not view themselves as a monolith. There is no universal brotherhood of men. The actual meaning of the term "Fragile masculinity" is that men are constantly expected to prove that they are deserving of the status of being a member of their own gender. There are large swathes of men--including most of the men who you'd look to as examples of good, feminist men who you want to undertake this project--who are considered failed men, sissies, f****ts, soyboys, ect. They are. Not. Going. To. Convince. These. Men. Of. Jack. Shit. Much less successfully *shame* them. Jesus.

I know all of this sucks. I know it would be cool to be able to just point at a group and have them be responsible for the work. But nah. It's gonna have to be a societal project, one that will probably outlast all of us. Sorry. The thing you want these men to do is, absolutely, the morally correct thing to do. But presuming that it would be effective is, and once again I am so sorry about this, just ignorance of how these social groups function.

[trueenewshub]

Trump welcomed Indian ‘bahu’

IMC WEB DESK NEW DELHI: ‘As I began to think deeply about my identity, I fell hard for a classmate of mine named Usha’ JD Vance, Ohio Senator and Trump’s pick for Vice President reminisced about his Indian-origin wife.

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The intercultural marriage of US Senator

Born on August 2, 1984 James David Vance was the surprise pick as the running mate for by Donald Trump. The American politician, lawyer, author, and Marine veteran has served since 2023 as thejunior United states senator from Ohio. Republican candidate for vice president in the 2024 United States president election.

It is not that Trump and Vance has always been in paradise but at the end of the day the comfort level between the two won the day.

Trump’s running mate has an Indian-Origin mate in real life! James David Vance met his wife Usha Chilukuri at Yale Law School in the year of 2010 while discussing over a group project named social decline in white America.

In 2014, they finally got married in Kentucky after dating for four years by both Hindu and Catholic customs and rituals in the presence of their families.

Who is Usha Chilukuri?

Daughter of Indian immigrants, Usha Chilukuri Vance hails from a distinguished family of academicians in Vishakhapatnam.

The San Francisco Litigator’s parents Chilikuri Radhakrishna and Lakshmi moved to USA in 1980. Usha was raised in Sandiago suburbs. Usha’s grandfather and father have studied from the prestigious IIT.

Her father currently teaching engineering and her mother takes classes on molecular biology.

Her younger sister is a mechanical engineer with a semiconductor company in San Diego and an aunt a medical professional in the southern Indian city of Chennai.

Ms. Chilikuri has a great-aunt in southern India, aged 96, celebrated in local media as the country's oldest active professor.

The Indian-origin wife of Trump’s pick for Vice President had graduated in BA in History from Yale University 2008 and went on to pursue MPhil from University of Cambridge as Gates Cambridge Scholar in 2009.

According to The New York Times, during their wedding in Kentucky in 2014, the pair was blessed by a Hindu Pundit in a separate ceremony.

The Chilikuri family is known to uphold the Hindu ideology despite residing in USA for the longest time.

Foreign is not foreign to Indians

USA has always been inviting to Indians. It is noteworthy that Indian Americans hold over 60 notable positions in the federal government in 2013 and increasing to more than 150 by 2023.

The political radar is surely topped by Kamala Harris, the Indian Vice President of USA. She was the nation’s first Indian American senator and California’s first female and South Asian attorney general. Harris is the first woman to become vice president, as well as the first Black or Asian American person to hold the office.

The corporate world has always been open to super intelligent brains from India. Sundar Pichai is currently the CEO of Alphabet Inc. and its subsidiary company Google. He studied material engineering. Pichai joined Google in 2004, where he led the product management and innovation efforts for a suite of Google's client software products, including Google crome and ChromeOs, as well as being largely responsible for Google Drive.

Another Indian-American Corporate Stalwart, Satya Narayana Nadella was born 19 August 1967. He is the executive chairman and CEO of Microsoft, succeeding Steve Balmer in 2014 as CEO and Jihn W Thompson in 2021 as chairman. Before becoming CEO, he was the executive vice president of Microsoft's cloud and enterprise group, responsible for building and running the company's computing platforms.

One of the top CEOs of the world is an Indian-American, Indra Nooyi Krishnamurthy who was was the chairman and chief executive officer (CEO) of PepsiCo from 2006 to 2018. Born on October 28, 1955, Nooyi has been consistently ranked among the world’s 100 most powerful woman. In 2014, she was ranked at number 13 on the Forbest list, and the second most powerful woman on the Fortune list in 2015 and 2017. She sits on the board of Amazon and the International Cricket Council , among other organizations.

[figjelly]

I feel like there's something correct about a lesbian wedding having a intercultural conflict with a dragon.

[matchfindermatrimonialin]

Pareek Matrimony - Bridging Communities Through Marriage

Introduction:

Matrimony in the Pareek community transcends the union of individuals; it serves as a bridge that connects families and communities, reinforcing cultural bonds while embracing the dynamics of modern relationships. This exploration delves into how Pareek matrimony plays a pivotal role in fostering unity and continuity within the community.

Cultural Significance and Traditions:

Pareek matrimony is deeply rooted in cultural significance and age-old traditions. From elaborate engagement ceremonies to vibrant wedding rituals, each step is imbued with meaning, symbolizing not just the union of two individuals but also the integration of families and the preservation of ancestral customs. These traditions serve as a cornerstone of identity, celebrating shared values and heritage.

Community Cohesion and Support:

Marriage in the Pareek community extends beyond the couple to encompass the collective support of families and the community at large. Matchmaking often involves the input of elders and extended family members, who ensure compatibility based on cultural, social, and economic factors. This collective approach not only strengthens familial bonds but also nurtures a sense of unity and solidarity within the community.

Adaptation to Modern Realities:

While rooted in tradition, Pareek matrimony has adapted to modern realities and aspirations. Young Pareek individuals increasingly seek partners who align with their personal values and career ambitions, reflecting a shift towards individual choice and autonomy in marital decisions. This evolution underscores the community's ability to embrace change while preserving its cultural essence.

Role of Technology and Matrimonial Services:

Technology has revolutionized the landscape of Pareek matrimony, offering platforms where individuals can connect beyond geographical boundaries. Matrimonial services cater specifically to Pareek communities, blending traditional matchmaking principles with the convenience of digital platforms. These services facilitate the search for compatible partners while respecting cultural sensitivities and familial preferences.

Celebration of Diversity and Inclusivity:

Pareek matrimony celebrates diversity within the community, accommodating regional variations and personal preferences while upholding core traditions. Inter-community marriages are welcomed, fostering intercultural dialogue and enriching the fabric of Pareek identity. This inclusivity strengthens community bonds and promotes mutual understanding among diverse segments of society.

Challenges and Resilience:

Despite the evolving landscape, Pareek matrimony faces challenges such as balancing tradition with modernity, navigating cultural expectations in a globalized world, and addressing generational shifts in marital expectations. However, these challenges also stimulate innovation and adaptation, ensuring that Pareek matrimony remains resilient and relevant amidst changing societal dynamics.

Conclusion:

In conclusion, Pareek matrimony serves as a vital link that bridges communities through the institution of marriage. It embodies the harmony between tradition and modernity, uniting individuals in shared cultural heritage while accommodating the aspirations of contemporary lifestyles. As Pareek communities continue to evolve, matrimony remains a cornerstone of identity and cohesion, reinforcing bonds that transcend generations and uphold the rich tapestry of cultural values.

[bonaesperanza]

I love the kind of intercultural weddings when each part of the couple dresses in their own traditions ❤️