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biggest-gaudiest-patronuses · 3 years

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that's enough "grieving" when a person transitions. you didn't lose a kid, you lost a concept. you gained a kid who is happier & healthier & has so much more joy in their life. learn to celebrate instead.

#make gender transition an occasion of celebration not mourning #our lives are not tragedies. and neither are our identities #not a shitpost #instead of wasting time making your kid feel guilty with grief that is unnecessary and self-centered #why not take the opportunity to celebrate all the new firsts and milestones you get to share with them #take them out shopping for their first suit/formal gown #get excited alongside them about buying makeup or binders #take them out for dinner to celebrate their transition and mark their milestones #CELEBRATE YOUR CHILD #send them the message that they are WORTH celebrating #and they will reward you with a relationship that is so much more than most parents could hope for #anyway. raise the standard of what is expected. it's not enough to simply not object.#parents need to be actively supportive and involved in their kids lives. in big and small ways.#supporting gender transition is absolutely included in that #respecting names and pronouns is the bare minimum.#parents are also responsible for asking questions and getting involved and providing positivity and emotional support #the bare minimum is not enough #by the way. this applies to adult children too! parenting is a lifelong commitment #the expectation and the level of involvement changes as they move through adulthood #but you were still expected to be involved in your adult child's life. they don't stop being your kid just because they are no longer a kid

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