#incommunity

[yaoicrack]

Be careful out there romeo 🙏 if it’s any consolation the corpses are likely from the bottom of lakes and rivers that overflowed rather than deaths from the flooding… but I might be wrong so you’re still right to be concerned. I hope you still have enough food and toiletries in the house to be ok 🙏

thank you quinn🫂 luckily my area hasn't suffered any damage, but everything south of the river has flooded. they're finding the bodies at pharmacies, shops and supermarkets, but mostly in garages since people were trying to save their cars. no government help is coming at all so people in the city are organizing civilian groups of volunteers to clean and get the bodies out. a lot is going on and it's just all very desolating. but again i am alright! i can't offer physical help but we keep sending food water and hygiene stuff where it is needed.

[hypertextdog]

listen... living w your parents and having to operate by and enforce their strange rules is ok. but you do not get to be "guy who doesn't have to tell his friends about the rules" if you're gonna be "guy who is gonna enforce the rules." that makes you much much more of a dick than you ever were for abiding by the precepts of the householf

[sleepynegress]

[rangers-are-cool-moved]

Honesty hour 👀 : Halrë & Hal - what do they look for in a partner?

AN: When it comes to this particular question and these two muses, it can be sometimes be hard to answer as qualities in a partner have a tendency to overlap. But here we go:

Halrë ~ Patience <- This is the biggest factor for this old elf ~ Tolerance - especially when it comes to communicating as he's... not the best at it ~ Not minding that he relies more on body language to communicate than actual words ~ That sometimes they may need to yank him away from his forge and into the real world

Hal ~ Not caring about them being genderfluid ~ Patience ~ Awareness that dealing with emotions is not something Hal is capable of doing ~ Tolerance ~ Ability to cope with one very blunt and often sarcastic Ranger ~ Independence <- or the relationship will go absolutely NOWHERE

Yet for both of them, there are a few main qualities that is necessary 💜 Trust 💜 Respect 💜 Friendship 💜 The knowledge that no matter how far they travel or where they go, Hal and Halrë will ALWAYS try to return to their partner

[smeehaw]

I hope this email doesnt find you, since you wont read it in full either way

[bonito-flakes]

please, repost and help with the diffusion of this post!!!!

hey so probably not a lot of you are aware of what's going on in Valencia (Spain) right now , and we're going through some really bad meteorological conditions (know as DANA) which paired with the government's late actions have caused A LOT of people to be victims of floods.

as of now, around 160 people have been declared dead and there are uncountable missing people. the situation is critical, many people from the municipalities around Valencia (paiporta, alfafar, sedaví, xiva, benetusser, catarroja, silla, la torre... and more) don't have running water or electricity. hundreds of animals are being transported however possible since shelters have been destroyed. people are starving unable to drink water, and incommunicated. everyone around here is trying to help, but for now, the accesses are cut and we can't go physically help them, we can only donate things they need.

DONATIONS/GOFUNDME

these are some links to help the victims of this situation and the future reconstruction of this huge area that has been destroyed

https://www.gofundme.com/f/una-copa-por-valencia?qid=4d79e2c673dc9f2024b6d8acb47953ca

https://www.gofundme.com/f/ayuda-damnificados-por-el-dana-en-valencia?qid=4d79e2c673dc9f2024b6d8acb47953ca

this link is specifically to help animal shelters that have been wrecked and are in a critical situation

https://www.gofundme.com/f/ayudemos-a-el-refugio-de-maria-tras-la-dana?qid=4d79e2c673dc9f2024b6d8acb47953ca

INFORMATION/DIFFUSION

this is an instagram account which reports missing people around here

https://www.instagram.com/desaparecidosdanavlc?igsh=MXIzcmFlbmZ2MmF6ZA==

this account is trying to find specific help for people who need it using help forms

https://www.instagram.com/suportmutudana?igsh=MXF6YXFtNTl1dGQ2bg==

I'll try to update more resources about the situation and links where you can donate whenever i can although im pretty busy since im doing stuff around here too.

thank you for reading, please, spread the word! <3

[drdemonprince]

the asks and responses you've been posting about this ex-abuser friend and abuse as a skill set are so so interesting to me. it's more related to your responses, but I've been thinking for a long time about autistic forced passiveness teaching manipulation tactics. personally, since I've been trained out of advocating for what I want (or even noticing I want something), I've noticed I fall back on tactics anywhere from asking very leading questions to gradually pushing people's boundaries to get what I want, and a bunch of other behaviors that aren't supporting anyone. it doesn't help that a life of masking has given me a very analytical brain for social interactions. this is something I'm working on, obviously, but I imagine that there must be other autistic people who subconsciously find themselves unable to ask for what they want but also still...wanting things and having to figure out (unfortunate) ways to get them.

This is SUCH a great message, thank you for sending it. And yet another of the reasons why I hate the victim-perpetrator binary. Most Autistic people have been victims of immense boundary violation and disrespect. We're a highly marginalized, disenfranchised group! And we ALSO develop ineffective or manipulative coping strategies to deal with this reality a lot of the time, and have been taught to use them by our families and communities!

I have fallen back on many of the exact same strategies you've mentioned here, and more. I've taken on responsibility for other people's problems in a codependent way, hoping they'd magically notice all that I was doing for them and intuit what they should do for me; i've tried fixing other people's interpersonal problems for them and passed "benevolent" (I thought) gossip behind their backs; I've tried controlling people's behavior ""for their own good"" hoping that if they needed me, they'd love me; I've made passive aggressive remarks, aggressive remarks, and given people the cold shoulder. I've played "the game" with friends and partners and been artificially chilly so that I never seemed like I liked or needed them "too much", I've cried and beaten myself up when criticized in a way that has silenced or scared other people, I've directed my meltdown energy at the wrong people, and on and on.

And I've seen a LOT of Autistic people pull this kind of manipulative, incommunicative, triangulating, controlling shit, and even outright abuse one another with such tactics, and it's so tragic, and it cannot be easily explained by one person having an "abusive personality" or belonging to a "dangerous group" and another person not having those attributes. Shit is complex and contextual. And we use the tools we have been taught to use and seen treated as typical in our communities. That means we can also learn our way out of using them -- but that has to be a social process too. No one just becomes a better person through guilt or sheer force of will.

[pearlsdefenseattorny]

since we're all talking about SU again, i want to say my perspective of pearlrose neither condemns their relationship as toxic or upholds it as ideal. i think that stance is surprisingly uncommon. theyre a comfy mix between Meant for Each Other, and Coercive Doomed Incommunicative Mess, and the middle ground ive settled on is that despite powerful mutual love, they never fully understood each other nor could they provide what the other really Needed in a comitted relationship. i LOVE them together. not just becuz theyre sweet and cute and sexy but becuz, like most of SU's relationships, theres a huge well of depth to dip into. much of it is sad. the tragedy of pearlrose isn't that Rose didnt love Pearl (bonkers take) or Greg showed up and ruined everything (double bonkers) or Pearl had to move on from her evil abusive ex (triple bonkers), but that neither of them could wade that swamp of trauma and shared history and feelings to SEE the other clearly and accept her. THATS sad. not your weird half-baked surface level heteronormative take which boils Rose to down to a caricature and Pearl to a victim.

Rose is a really sad character. PD was a deeply empathetic individual in a society which criminalized empathy, stamped down compassion, and rewarded and fostered exploitation and dehumanization of those hierarchically beneath you. i am totally willing and happy to hash out all her sins (gag order, abandoning spinel, bubbling bismuth, lying..) but not until we aknowledge the humility and good character revealed in establishing the rebellion itself, emancipating pearl, and so on... homegirl never even knew what mutual respect was LIKE before greg becuz in rebecca sugars own words, he was the ONLY one who demanded to be treated like a real person. i think she said "everyone else had either been above or below her."

Rose was set up for moral failure! she didnt stand a chance (and neither did pearl😬) but she made the boldest, most humbling, most *dangerous* move of playing both sides then at last ceding power and we need to give her credit. the biggest failure of the movie was hammering into the audience's head how awful she was. she was so complicated. she was so sad. she hated herself. she loved everyone. she tried so hard. she LOVED pearl. you werent always good Rose Quartz but they could never make me hate you

[kitsu-katsu]

Help out the people of Rio Grande do Sul!!

If you care about anything I've posted hear me out

You need to know what's going on in Rio Grande do Sul

They're going through an unprecented crisis due to immense flooding. THIS IS NOT A ROUTINE OR NORMAL THING TO HAPPEN THERE!

People's houses are literally floating away. Animals are drowning. People are getting terribly hurt and being left completely homeless out of the blue

One day they were living normal lives, the next the sudden flood either took everything away or left them stranded in what suddenly became an island surrounded by rubble-filled water

From what I've heard the Rios Grande do Sul state also suffered immense flooding last year and some were just now getting stable again after that, and in cane a flooding up to three times worse

The water is still going up. It is not stopping. The situation is getting worse

They're being left resource-less and incommunicated and from what I've heard this isn't even getting proper coverage within Brazil itself

Please listen to the actual Brazilians, I wanna help them out but I'm not Brazilian myself. Look up Rio Grande do Sul, see what's going on, see if you can donate to help them out

I'll provide some links to video coverage of the situation because

If you speak portuguese, thus video covers the current and last year's situation well as well as speaking on the lack of proper media coverage

[lacrimalis]

i'm sure you must be right about binghe hate coming out of ship

i havent read svsss (yet, i have the pdf tho) but why does this binghe guy (??) get sm hate

Anon I'm so sorry but this is one of the funniest asks I've ever gotten gimme a little bit to put together a cohesive answer

[nikantros]

Into the Future, into the Past

Fandom: Avatar: The Last Airbender

Pairing: Sokka/Zuko

Rating: E

Archive Warning: Graphic Depictions of Violence

Words: 15,918

“Fire Lord Zuko,” the spirit Khon starts, “I see your wish has been fulfilled. Yet you see it underneath yourself to give thanks to the deity for its work.”

Zuko really didn’t have time for this. Handling a spirit’s hurt pride definitely wasn’t his forte.

Instead, he gets to the point immediately. “Where is ambassador Sokka,” he asks stiffly.

Khon pauses. When he answers, he presents his pointy teeth.

During his search for the Avatar, Zuko had made a deal with a spirit named Khon: a throne and a happy return to the Fire Nation for his heart’s true love. Years later, Khon returns to claim his prize from the young Fire Lord and Zuko has to travel into the spirit world to rescue Sokka. Yet, the damsel-in-distress in question is not overly delighted to reunite with his stupid-brooding, incommunicative, no-good former boyfriend. But first they have to survive the minacious whims of two intricately star-crossed eternal beings.

Finally I can share this fic I wrote for @zukkabigbang2024 with you!

This journey would not have been possible for me without the one and only @atuats-sidechick! They closely beta-read the fic and gave me many detailed and smart notes.

And then @sidvishess came in and painted this absolutely stunning art piece. Sid captured the mood of the fic perfectly, it makes me emotional!

[smaeemo]

Destiel would have been more canon if Supernatural were a book series and here’s why:

Destiel feelings are “subtext” but as Jensen said it’s “Clear Text,” and that was canon destiel confirmation enough for me. I think that a lot of people wanted Destiel to be canon in the sense that they got a romantic relationship, however with what we know now, and prior to that knowledge; they already had a relationship. Relationships encompass a lot, such as friendships, platonic, familial, etc. And they already had a much more complex and intricate relationship than most people can comprehend. Speaking strictly in canon, they technically already had a relationship that was fueled on savior, on love, on so many foundations. And let’s say for argument’s sake that neither of them had romantic feelings, but rather familial love, their story would still be circulated around LOVE.

However, I think that most of us can agree that it wasn’t just love that comes from a sense of friendship and commrodery. I think that a lot of the time we forget that Castiel and Dean are paradoxical, they realistically could never be in a happy relationship due to the fact that their story is inherently a tragedy. Now, we can also incorporate the “Chuck wins theory” into this and argue that they can never be together because of Chuck’s manipulation. However that can also be easily outweighed by the fact that Cas was never even supposed to be in the story, and that he was the only one with a “crack in his chassis.” (sorry got a bit rambly”

Destiel, is the love story (for many reasons that I will get into another time), but it is also the tragedy. The fact that over and over again, Dean and Cas hurt eachother, the fact that emotional repression and incommunication is a constant in the story is what makes them, them. So, in my eyes the confirmation that it wasn’t just subtext was enough for me to feel that it was canon. For a tragic love story to be canon there doesn’t have to be dates (which there are, they just don’t know it) or kissing, or grand love confessions (which again, there is CANONICALLY), but there doesn’t have to be the confirmation that they even know what they are. But, with interpretations of canon we can clearly see that they are in love they just don’t know it/they can’t know it.

What my point is, is that Destiel is already canon but we should have been fed more! Like if Eric Kripke wasn’t a bigot, or it wasn’t made in the 2000s, or if Sera Gamble didn’t hate Cas etc. Most all of the factors that played into the tragedy and denial of canonical destiel was due to circumstance. Also, given that Supernatural is a show about Sam and Dean and their fucked up family and brother shit, it wouldn’t have made sense to not make destiel a tragedy or to let them be happy. After all, the show wasn’t originally about them.

All in all,

If Supernatural had been written as a YA book series, Destiel would have still be canon, but we would have been given a better perspective on why and how they were canon. Actually seeing into their inner monologues, whereas in the show so much of it is left purposefully open for interpretation. So, realistically Destiel could never actually be happy, but they already are canonically burdened and tortured by their love for eachother and we would have gotten a better perspective of their own perspectives if it were in book form (such as Twilight and Midnight sun).

Which is also why fanfiction is such a staple of what makes them, them. Now I have to say, The fanfics I like the best are “Codas” rather than “fix-its” because Destiel is already canon, and their tradgedy is what makes them, And I want my Destiel version of Twilight and Midnight sun!!!

[imsobadatnicknames2]

Hey btw I don't wanna be too much of a downer but... Some of you might know Acapulco de Juarez in Mexico got hit with Hurricane Otis today. That's where my husband is from and most of the city is incommunicated since last midnight, so we haven't been able to communicate with his friends and family back home yet.

[amethyst-sage-29]

Emily keeps fumbling the bag with these astoundingly hot men (Thomas the hot philosophy professor, Alfie, and Marcello soon enough) for a homeless-looking, unfaithful, incommunicative chef who ironically has the most bland personality I have ever seen. you know what girl, just send those men my way

[beanghostprincess]

Just a very incommun pair that I think that make sense: Pudding x Perona

Don't even have to be the romantic, but I think they would be great together and like- Perona probably would really love Pudding third eye (finding this cute? Kind of?)

(I once read a pt br fanfic where Pudding is adopted by WhiteBeard and she have a family/crew who absolutely loves her the exact way she is)

Aww, I actually thought about that too while writing the whole thing about Pudding joining Cross Guild. I think their princess personalities would match perfectly. It's funny how Perona tries to act intimidating and like she doesn't care when she actually does care, and Pudding kind of does the opposite? And when she cares, she has a hard time admitting it too. Pudding would love Perona's style and her ghosts and Perona would absolutely love her third eye. Princess outcasts that people never understand? They can rely on each other. Also them talking about Zoro and Sanji 😭 They're complaining about them 24/7 but they deeply care for them actually. They'd love each other's sense of style and their extreme change of moods. I think Pudding's extremely angry side would scare Perona a lil bit. Like- "Girl, you're fucked up. And that's fine, but, y'know". I think their personalities would match and they'd find cute the things people hate about them <3