#in the commentray to media I watch

[moontheoretist]

I just saw a post complaining that people on servers want to have vent channels in order to be able to talk about their life problems, and that people also talk about real life issues in commentary to entertainment media, and that this is really annoying and reminds them that life is shitty. And then a response saying that being able to not think about bad stuff is needed for self-regulation because psychologists said so.

Ok. Let me tell you why I don't like this.

The first one implies that mere existence of a vent channel on a server reminds them of bad stuff even though it's completely up to them if they enter that channel or not. They can even mute it, or ignore it. They can sit on a server with 20 channels about mundane stuff, but no, that one vent channel existing is a problem. Mute it. I personally find servers without vent chats unatractive, because to me it's a clear message that everybody there will do everything in their power to never ever allow anybody to even make a pip about an issue. Vent chats are needed for people even on servers that are 100% cozy. They provide a safe space to just throw their issues in, and just ignore them and come back to talking about cute cozy stuff. Some people need it. Not everybody is rich enough to go therapy so just let them have it.

Also I prefer not to be banned for stating facts.

Second one is a problem because it assumes that people who dare to talk about social issues while enjoying something don't rest from the issues simply because they included them in their commentary about a TV show they like. Let me tell you, noticing similaries between real life and a TV show you watch is super easy, and if someone wants to share it then it's up to them. You can block them if you want to, they don't force you to read them. But it doesn't mean that their entire life revolves around the social issues and they never ever find ways to run away from the stressors. You can't just tell people to stop doing that, especially if they enjoy doing such comparisons when they watch.

So, do we all understand how "curate your own space" works?

Or are we going to police the internet to be paradise now?

No problematic or real life shit ever again? WTF?