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jays-system · 5 years

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MY EX AND HER HORRIBLE WAYS

I have a story to tell, its quite a long one, this is my side of the story tho and I really want to tell it. (This is only my side, she has her own, I did fuck up as well but this is my truth) back peddling 6 months ago: I was dating this guy and him and I were decently okay ( I was happy at least ) we had our problems like any other couple does, fights, doubts, shit like that, I had met this girl who quickly became my best friend, we spent ever moment together it seemed, she fell completely inlove with me and became really obsessive, she got jealous over mine and my ex boyfriends relationship and she wiggled her way in the middle of it and tore me and him apart piece by piece, ruining the foundations of our trust and putting terrible thought in to my head, now I’m a person who if not told otherwise is easily swayed, Him and I eventually broke up and I was pretty upset, she came in like a princess on a fucking rainbow and brought me back up to my happy self, she was so kind and loving and caring and loyal..in the begining, I thought the absolute world of her, we got engaged as best friends and then eventually we got into a relationship and the married on imvu, so we were “husband and wife” so to say. as our relationship progressed she got..even more obsessive, she would always want to call and never let me have any time to myself, I couldn’t even watch PORN because she was constantly there on the phone, sleeping on call, showing while on call, going to uni while on call, going everywhere while on call, the life i did have slipped away from me and everything was about her, she use to buy me alot of things to mask the fact that she knew i wasn’t happy anymore, she tried to buy my love, I never asked her for the things she brought me, I always told her no but as she knew my address she would do without my say so. our relationship got so toxic, she would go to everyone about our problems and wouldn’t keep our shit private, she would tell others things that are not true about me and make me seem so selfish and terrible, her close friend keaton *we will get back to him soon* and others began to resent me and wouldn’t listen to my side of the story. I had eventually had enough of her, I tried leaving her so many times because the relationship was so toxic it was suffocating me, I never had time for anyone else in my life, even my IRL FRIENDS, I felt like i was being stripped of my humanity, every time i tried to leave her she would cry and BEG me to stay, now see I’m a nice guy and I care alot, the term “wear your heart on your sleeve” is me to the T, I always try see the good in people and never want to give up, so i felt bad and didn’t end up leaving her until 3 months ago. I was free, I had left her, we were still good friends and she was even coming to see me *still is sadly*, she lives in the UK and I in Australia, I do not wish to see this woman, she has stood in the way of so many relationships I’ve tried to have after her, even the man I currently am In love with..*keaton*, she still makes me seem like the bad guy when I react to things she does, she purposely does things she knows will upset me..to make me seem bad. we were friends and best friends and we were genuinly okay..then I fell inlove with her closest friend, she hated me for it and as much as she denys it she still hates me for it. she betrays me and always is hurting me..I do not want any more contact with this woman..ever again..but she is coming to my country and staying with my family and me for 7 months, I feel as if im obligated to be there for her..i have so much resentment for this woman..she broke me..broke my heart..made me believe love isnt real anymore, until I had met keaton..but mine and his story is for another blog. thank you for reading~ any questions don’t hesitate to ask~

#IMVU #imvurelationships #imvuheartbreak LongDistance betrayal broken

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alciell-blog · 5 years

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My Side of “MY EX AND HER HORRIBLE WAYS”

There are a few things that need clearing up- Other people have talked out and I have been encouraged to make my side known too so here goes.

I was dating this guy called Elijah. I had known him a while and things were going pretty good...Until I was warned about this guy my ex. Him and Elijah hated (still do as far as I'm aware) each other. I was warned to stay away from him but I am not the kind of person that listens to others opinions and I like to form my own (I even told this to him). We got to speaking and became very close friends. Ollie was dating this guy called Travis at the time. I was told by Elijah that he seemed a lot like our friend, Damon. After extensively looking into it I managed to catch the guy out and confess to being the other guy. I was trying to be a good friend, I personally know what dating an alter/person that doesn't exist is like and didn't want that for him. The truth came out and they carried on dating after.

My relationship got kind of toxic, I was broken up with for reasons I don't even remember and I wasn't even allowed to say I love you to the guy despite us just being on a break and stuff... My ex came in and told me that the relationship was toxic and I didn't deserve that and saying all these really nice things. His relationship with Damon had lost its trust and Killian was crying all the time... So when he asked me if he should end it, of course, I advised him it's not healthy. We had spent 2 days straight on the phone, he didn't seem to wanna hang up and neither did I. Time passed by so quick before we even noticed. After some time had passed him and Damon had broken up and me and him were still close, he suggested that we should get married on imvu and so I bought a marriage package, then he said we were getting married in real too.

After I asked what this made us he said we were dating and we got into a discussion about how long we had liked each other, I know if I like someone from when I start talking to them, I knew I would like him so I admitted to that. He said he liked me from when he first time we spoke but he didn't figure it out back then. We were together and things were going great, we had a fun time. Irl he had a lot going on... he was living with roommates, he wanted to go to bar tending school and he also wanted to attend university. I tried my best to support him through that. He came to me crying 1 day saying he was going to be kicked out of his home, he didn't have the money to pay his rent to his roommate and she was grinding him for it hard. I sent him the money, I didn't want my boyfriend homeless when I could clearly help prevent that... Occasionally he would not have money for food, bills, data to message me... I sent it all as best as I could to help him...

He never asked for that (and has reminded me ALOT that he hasn't) but when someone repeats how hungry they are 9 times...You start to look for ways you can help. I accumulated a lot of debt to try and clear up the money I was getting to help keep My ex on his feet and to keep going...He literally told me many times that I saved his life. There were times that I even went without food (I was in university and fending for myself) to keep him fed and homed. I wanted to keep him happy as he meant the world to me. One day he came to me and started talking about an ex of his, I got highly insecure but tried to brush it off... Most of the time when someone came into a room on IMVU he would tell me that they were an ex or him and them had a history so I heard a lot of stuff. I can't quite remember the deal with this girl but I just remember she played a big part in what’s to come. He needed money to go drinking, he had been working so hard at Bartending that I thought he deserved a little fun and he was so desperately wanting to go so I sent him money to.

Minding my own business, I get a call later in the night from him, randomly telling me he loves me and stuff part drunk and then hanging up. *Later he confessed that his reason for this was because some girl at the club (she was the owner of a hotel or something) started to chat him up, flirting and shit so he brushed her off and called me to show some love.* It was weird behaviour and sparked up massive insecurity in me, so I wanted to talk it out. My ex was busy and most of the time when I say I'm insecure he would tell me there was no reason to be... That doesn't help someone not be insecure... So I went to talk to a close friend of mine about it to see what I should do because I needed to talk it out to someone... I was in tears, I talked it out to the guy and his boyfriend... 1 went batshit crazy and started cussing out my ex, I told him its just me being insecure and I just need assurance, the other understood and told me to calm down and wait to talk it out with him. He was right of course... so I waited.

My ex got home, drunk af and called me because he needed me to confirm to him that he was actually in his room and not someone strangers, it was a funny convo and made me laugh so hard, we had a good night and I left the convo of my insecurities until the morning because I didn't want to ruin the good vibe for not only him but myself too. But when I woke up I was bombarded by messages saying I needed to fix stuff and that I needed to clear it up. Turns out they had a bust up with him about it all... I was pissed and upset, my day was ruined before it began and he was yelling at me to fix it or else he’s gone...I fixed it and he blocked me anyway.

After a while of being blocked I changed relationship status to single, he came back and yelled at me that he'd never actually broken up with me but now he was...and left again. I think all in all this guy has blocked me AT LEAST 20 times. The thing that I hate... is its always my fault. I'm blamed for everything and even when I'm supposed to be his "best friend" he still holds shit over me saying "well Alex you do, do some stupid things sometimes". But Even when others were chatting about him in a bad way...I would still defend the fuck out of this man. I ended up losing SO many friends because of him. He made me block some, he'd scare some away, he'd fight with them which meant I couldn't say anything in return... He’s called me a pathetic cunt, a piece of shit, told me he hopes I rot, a bitch, a twat, useless, heartless bitch, a tart (he meant it as food but in my country its still an insult so I'm posting it.), annoying, attention seeker... A lot of things and worse...

We bounced in and out of dating a while, then 1 day he broke up with me for a pathetic reason... I was confused at the time but the next day he confessed to being in love with someone he had previously blocked me for insinuating he loved (he did this like 3 times...). Then another time he started dating this guy called Zach. I was happy for him. Until I was told by a close friend of mine that Zach was currently still ERP'ing with him whilst dating my ex. I told him. He claims I did it to "wreck his relationship" but if I hadn't have said anything what would that make me? And no doubt he would have yelled at me for not telling him something "so important". I was being a good friend and not letting him get fucked over. But to him I was apparently "ruining a good thing".

In total- me and said close friend worked it out (it was a method for me to get over him...) I had spent over $2,000 on him... And there were times when the money I provided wasn't spent on what it was meant to be for... His blog made me cry HARD because of how it made me come across... Anyone that knows me knows that I am NOT an obsessive person. When I love someone I put my all in but that’s just what I expect a relationship to be like... As you can see, there was freedom unlike he claimed. He claims that I trapped him in calls and shit when in reality I waited for HIM to call ME because I’m TERRIFIED of seeming like a bother. I ALWAYS ask before I call someone unless I'm emotional, crying, anxious, having an attack or we scheduled previously to call at that time. I have every conversation I have had with this man so if any "proof" is needed...I got you.

After all this bullshit, me and him were Best Friends (he uses the term loosely because he uses it against me. “You’re supposed to be my BEST FRIEND” and “some BEST FRIEND you are” and shit when he’s mad). Being friends with him was good. Except when anyone showed me attention. Friends couldn’t hug me or sit close to me without being growled at. If I got a head pat he would growl at them, say “My Alciell” and cling to me. I started seeing another man to see how it would go and he said “how could you do this to me” saying I betrayed him and blocked me...then he scared the guy away for good...)

I'm going to be posting a separate story about @imortii and him after this post so stay tuned-

#IMVU imvurelationships imvuheartbreak LongDistance betrayal broken

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jays-system · 5 years

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story..about a guy I love..

***THIS IS JUST MY SIDE OF A STORY/RANT, HE HAS HIS OWN, DO NOT GO HATING ON ANYONE THAT IS MENTIONED IN THIS BLOG*** I was not going to do this..even sitting here and typing this out is making my mind a cluster fuck..but I have to, right? I’m in love..truly deeply in love..its a all consuming love, a love that I can’t get out of even if i want to.. This past month I have been spending time with a guy, a really caring and gentle guy..we spent mostly everyday on call to each other..texting, hanging out in chat rooms on imvu, sending memes to each other and laughing with each other. pretty much just spending every day with each other..it was lovely..nice..I had never been so..inlove..with anyone then I am with this man. lemme give you a bit of a backstory as to how our friendship/relationship fell apart and how we met. Meeting: so this story runs through the one i previously posted about my ex, if you haven't read it go read it here https://pawhe.tumblr.com/post/188806768733/my-ex-and-her-horrible-ways, I met this guy threw my ex about 6+ months ago, I hated this guy from the moment I had met him, he was constantly yelling at me or being a big ass cunt to me, he had reasons to and these reasons are understandable, he was just trying to do right by his friend *my ex gf*, she would go to him and complain about me for shit I didnt even do, always made me seem like the bad guy, which of course made his opinion of me bad, in his defense he didn’t know any better as he didn’t know me, he never even knew what I was REALLY like. I never gave him a chance to know me..I thought he was just a prick the whole time, until recently. The past month: we stopped hating each other and some how we became friends, he made me smile one day and then ever since then I wanted to get close to him..to know him..so as I said before we spent alot of time together, and when you are attracted to someone you genuinely catch feelings for someone even if you try not to..and that is what happen. we caught feelings for each other, I admitted my feelings to him, my ex gf found out and had a tanty over it, it literally was “forbidden”, he admitted he was falling for me, I felt happy that he was..but at the same time I KNEW that things were about to get really..dicey. both of us admitting to each other brought a whole lot of drama and hell on us, we still go threw hell..but it was worth it. I got use to falling asleep on call to this man, everyday I found myself falling more and more in love with him and I couldn’t stop it, I got attached, as did he. he was dating this guy who tried to keep us apart, he would constantly tell Keaton to block me, to stay away from me and not talk to me, of course Keaton never listen to him, an ex of his literally caused so much hell for him..and “us”, always constantly begging for him to not “be” with me, threatening to do bad shit to herself, so pretty much everyone caused alot of hell for us, even myself included.. I am a depressed human, I always have been since I was a youngling, this path month has been especially bad, I wanted to end my life, I have attempted to in many ways, man all i wanted was to be with the guy I love. Last week: I went to hospital because I was having bad thought of self-harm, this man stayed with me, didn’t leave my side..he is a really caring man.. Friendship hell: I don’t want to make him seem bad because I CANT stress this enough, HE IS A REALLY NICE GUY, but he also..is..troubled. hes been threw hell from past relationships, hes always been hurt, left, cheated on, lied to, which in results makes it hard for him to let ANYONE close..even if he loves them. he would constantly be..in a rage, mad at everyone..everything, and even tho I tried to make him happy and smile..I was always fucking up, hurting him, saying stupid stuff, in result he treated me..with a indifference, he would say he loves me but ignore me for hours, yell at me, blame me for things, ignore my text/calls, I would cry myself to sleep every time we were fighting, I even tried to hurt myself over this, my heart was literally breaking..my whole world was falling apart. I was prepared to wait years..if it took that to show him I love him, to show him I wouldn’t leave him, no matter the pain, the hell, the hurt I went threw.. Yesterday: he blocked me..on EVERYTHING, because I was constantly treating my ex gf cold, with hate, because I DO hate her, she fucked my life and my heart up, she broke me, then she tried to stand in the way of me even being remotely happy..everyone tried to. Today: I miss him alot, I wish I could call with him, hear the voice I love, the laugh I’d do anything to hear.. I want to be with this man, more then anything I’ve ever wanted, I’d do anything for him, He makes me feel whole..he blocks out every bad thing that has happen to me and makes me feel happy, a happiness I’ve never felt before. I WILL ALWAYS love this man, no matter the circumstances.. this blog was supposed to be of like our whole relationship but in all honesty..he didn’t do anything wrong. we are both at fault, we let it get this bad..we failed each other. I can only hope that one day..I can have him..but until then..this is how I felt..and some what of what happen, like i said this is only my thoughts and views on what happen, he is a GOOD man, and he doesn’t deserve any hate or criticism.. THANK YOU FOR READING~ got any questions? post them to my “ask me” TAB~ ~Jay

#imvu #imvurelationships #love #love unconditionally

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