#im sitting here like. well i cant eat this because im too fat and diabetic. but mostly bcus im too fat and i dont deserve to eat.

[narutomaki]

bro I hate it here....

[uncloseted]

what do you think about pressure on people being pretty and skinny? i am a little chubby and i used to have problems with this but i actually think i look really nice and i learned to accept myself and love myself too, and i hate that most girls like me dont feel the right to feel pretty or wearing a bikini or crop tops or whatever. but i have friends who are even more out of the convencional beauty type than me, and they are bigger than me, and one of them told me that you can be fat and+

Anonymous said:                                                 

+love yourself and accept yourself, but the world around you will still be made for thin people, and that means that maybe they wont get a job because they are fat (this may sound over but it REALLY happens, it used to happen with my mother before she loses weight) and they cant find pretty clothes that fit them (only plain clothes of plus size fashion, which dont include lots of options), and they maybe dont fit in their sit on the bus, etc. and what is worst is that people say to them they+             

Anonymous said:                                                 

+need to lose weight because ''they are not healthy'' but i mean people dont bother my fat friends who smokes about the cigarettes, but they bother them about losing weight because they are bothered to look at fat people. and only because someone is fat it doesnt mean they are not healthy. im chubby myself and i eat lots of fruits, vegetables, etc, and my medical exams are great, really, and i know thin people who feeds on soda and nuggets and just stay thin because of genetics. its unfair.     

 Anonymous said:                                                 

(huge text about being fat anon here) and i also hate that people want everyone to be pretty. i personally try and almost everytime can see and appreciate the different types of beauty on people, but supposing that there is one person who really is, in fact, ugly. SO WHAT?? people are not here to please your aesthetic standards!! people have plans, dreams, their life, you know?? even IF they are not the best looking, they can still be interesting, intelligent, nice,funny. it makes me mad af.                  

I wrote out a huge response to this and it got deleted (shakes fist at Tumblr), but hopefully I can remember what I wanted to say a second time.  This is a topic that has a lot of dimensions and is hard to talk about because it is so complicated and so persona to so many people.  I think you’re right that people shouldn’t feel obligated to conform to a beauty standard and that everyone should be able to appreciate and enjoy the way that they look.  And I think you’re also right that some people aren’t beautiful, and that’s okay.  There are other traits that those people have that other people love about them, and those are just as important, if not more, than being physically appealing.  By trying to push this idea that “everyone is beautiful”, I think we’re sort of discrediting all of the other things that might be important and interesting and lovable about a person.  That said, I think you also speak to a reality of the situation- beauty is prized and seen as something that’s important, and it will take systemic change for us to get beyond that.  And that change should and does need to happen.  It’s not fair for a person who’s heavier or less attractive to earn less money in their lifetime than someone who’s thin or pretty, and yet that discrimination is a reality right now.

I think it becomes complicated, though, because being overweight or obese is a real health concern, and at least in the US, it’s a public health issue.  Excess body fat isn’t (uniquely or necessarily) a symptom of unhealthy behaviors, as you mention.  A person can eat fruits and vegetables and be overweight, and another person who has a less healthy diet can be thinner (but it’s not really about genetics- more about environment and upbringing). 

But excess body fat is unhealthy in itself.  So even if a person has other healthy habits, such as healthy diet and exercise, the excess body fat itself puts them at an increased risk for heart disease, hypertension, stroke, diabetes, gallbladder disease, osteoarthritis, arthritis, osteoporosis, sleep apnea, respiratory problems, and certain cancers, among (lots of) other health problems, especially if the person is overweight or obese for an extended period of time.  It’s also worth noting that obesity is one of the leading preventable causes of death worldwide.  (Also, on a side note, I don’t know where you live, but in the US smokers are publicly shamed much more frequently than people who are overweight or obese, which has actually led to a decrease in smokers overall.)

I wish I had a more conclusive note to leave this on, but I think it’s a topic that should be a discussion, so I’m interested in hearing what you all think as well.