#ik you’re happy she’s a sapphic

[strawbbfluff]

if i see one more person say “she’s for the girls” about a bisexual woman i’m going to flip

[etinceelle]

Sorry if this is a little too vent-y for your blog’s tone and you honestly don’t have to answer it publicly if you’re not comfortable but… as a very active artist for a popular sapphic Ruby ships do you ever get tired of how popular that stupid “h*mophob*c Ruby” meme is?

Ik I shouldn’t take a stupid fandom meme that seriously and even actual Ruby fans use this damn joke, but I’m just so tired from my personal experience how so many people keep bringing it up like it’s a fact and they’ve constantly made it Ruby’s only defining personality trait (which literally isn’t canon).

Also call me biased or whatever but I also find it insulting to Ruby’s character like… I can’t speak like NND is factually canon but as someone who personally sees Penny and Ruby’s relationship as more than just friends it just sickens me even as a stupid fandom “joke” people would imply Ruby hates LGBT people so much she wouldn’t even have any feelings for Penny. Especially when even some of the RWBY cast and crew have admitted to being NND shippers

No problem !

Tbh (and as a lesbian myself), at first I found this meme funny because it was from the fandom and from queer people, and from people who knew this was a dumb joke and that Ruby wasn't really homophobic.

When it started to be annoying is when it got out from the fandom by people who stopped watching the show a long time ago (the traditional "RwbY waS bEtTer BEfiorE V3" bla bla bla people), or by people who never watched the show. And straight people lmao.

I think this is really sad and stupid a lot of people took this meme seriously and shared it so more people with idiot views would come and say the same things. I just thought it was funny with a handful part of the fandom, those who REALLY know what they're talking about.

But it's really hard to be able to deal with people who cause problems, so for those sharing stupid things I just block them. It doesn't solve the problem but at least it's out of my tl on social medias. There's a lot of people who love to say so much stuff about RWBY, at some point if you want to keep enjoying being in the fandom you have to block massively. It's the only way to protect yourself and your mind, and I have no regrets in blocking people because the option is here for that.

And I agree on the fact that this is stupid considering Penny was important to Ruby, and IS still important despite being gone. And I also completely agree on the fact that Ruby probably had feelings for her and never got the chance to understand them and to realize what she felt, this is THE tragic yuri ever I will never shut up about these two-- So yeah it's pretty dumb considering Ruby was lashing out because she bottled up, kept everything to herself for so long, she exploded to the people who had found happiness right in front of her. The relationship isn't the issue for Ruby here, it's the whole situation, her sister is able to be happy with Blake while Ruby falls more and more into despair and isn't able to protect anyone. It's such a complex mental state and difficult to read from someone who don't think that way (I do act like Ruby, working on it, so I understand what she feels). I think before laughing about dumb memes people should be able to understand the situation fully

[cowboyjimkirk]

maybe nb anon (gender dysphoria tw?)- think i mightve sent the ask to some1 else. mysterious. but basically…im afab & always just went w she/her bc idc v much/its easier & bc there are times i do rly like looking/feeling fem (& times i hate myself for not looking fem enough). but there are also times i catch myself wishing 4 a male body & admiring a more masculine look on myself (not just bc male privilege i dont think), & generally i dont feel v fem? but ig that cld just be the rigid gender roles/expectations that dont fit? i mean since i don’t feel over-strongly abt this, what right do i have to complain/wonder—ig that would prob just make me she/her, since i dont Loathe the concept of being aligned with women. & maybe my being sapphic plays into this too. but idk. hm. ik u cant answer this For me, but are these experiences at least familiar to u/anyone who might be reading this?

hey! so first, you shouldn’t feel so guilty about this. questioning your identity is healthy and good and we should all do it more often. you’re not appropriating someone else’s struggle or perpetuating gender constructs; you’re trying to figure out who you are.

i’m cis and not qualified to help you with gender stuff, but i did some similar angsting while figuring out i was a lesbian. id politics sometimes gets us mixed up and makes it feel like the simple act of questioning our gender or sexuality is a form encroaching on a marginalized group’s space. it’s not. you’re not. you’re just questioning and that’s awesome!

what helped me was following lesbian blogs, engaging with lesbian media, interacting with lesbian people...just generally dyking it up. i’d known for a while that the bisexual identity didn’t fit, but i wasn’t ready to run headlong into lesbianism. it felt like too great a leap, too bold, too irrevocable, and too big a transgression if i turned out to be wrong.

it took me several months of questioning to finally say ��oh, wait. i am a lesbian.” but it was like an exhale after years of holding it in. i finally got to be a lesbian; i didn’t feel guilty anymore.

and it’s worth mentioning that, even though i’m happy and secure with my identity now, i still question it from time to time. like i said, it’s healthy and good and we should all do it.

so i guess my advice is to question all you want. talk to nb people and other trans people. follow trans blogs and read trans literature. think about gender and sexuality and try to figure out what fits.

and even if you do all this and come back realizing that you’re not nb, that’s okay too! you’ll have an enriched understanding of gender and your place in it. you’ll know yourself better, and that’s always worth the work.

if any nb or other trans people want to add to this/share their experience/impart wisdom, please do!!!

[fr3aklike-me]

omg hiiiiii i missed youuu <3 and im so glad you have more energy now !! was today better than yesterday in that sense or pretty much the same ?

omg fr, any edit of anytbing in the opposite context literally makes me cry laughing, it’s so fucking funny. like ik i’ve seen this somewhere but i can’t remember wtf it was, but like turning “family dinner” into a horror film with the dramatic music and screams at like the simplest sentences, idk it’s so funny. esp bc i don’t have siblings so i never had a family dinner w my own family except just my parents which makes it 10x funnier when i go to someone else’s house and we all sit down for dinner, and then they start bickering, i literally have to stop myself from laughing bc i make it a horror film in my head LMAO. but yesss, i almost forget they exist sometimes, like i’ve spent money on books i’ve never really even read and the fact i could’ve checked them out- like i really want to start doing that. and yesss omg there’s a giant beanbag chair at my library and i sat there for so long one time, it’s so nice. YES i wanna visit mine now too ahahha i’m so excited to read the book w you !! STOP ITTTT awww shhddujsjsh you’re so sweet, i literally melt everytime you imagine what i’m saying i’m doing, like it’s so sweet and tender to me, you’re the sweetest. skjdjdjsj of course you’re cute, oh my goodness you’re so fucking cute, and the fact you hold your cheeks at things that are sweet is like the most adorable thing i’ve ever heard. omg it’s like so cute to imagine our day together, and cuddling to fall asleep omg, id sleep so fast, i can actually sleep if someone’s next to me hsjdhhd it’s even better than the british man. LMAO but yesss, it’s the best it’s so calming. yesss it’s such a good show, it’s so interesting and it rly makes you think, like there’s so so so many unsolved cases and it’s crazy. but i’m not sure on an episode, it’s been a while since i’ve watched it. BUT i do have an interesting case, it’s solved tho. look up “the Turpin family house of horrors” or something like that, it should come up. (tw: it’s about intense child abuse and neglect.) but the super crazy part is the girl who escaped and called the cops was 17 and she didn’t even know what medicine, or her address was. it’s crazy and so interesting to me bc this all happened in the city where my dad and i used to go to the lake when i was a kid. like we went when this was still going on, and it’s only like 30 mins from where i live, genuinely terrifying to think about. but the success story of the children is really cool, the adult ones at least. and yesss anything sapphic that’s not from like, this time period, even if it’s fictional is so so nice to read, it is rly comforting !! REALLY ?!?! omg really ?!?!!! i will actually come, that’s such an honor truly <3

jsjsjsjjdfkfdk of course i tried to read it, it took a lot of tries but omg everytime id look at it i’d be blushing but i wanted to see ittt🥺 and omg lmaoooo you rly don’t know at all then, is it a suprise trip ? i’ve felt literally so so cared for, like so much so, you’re so comforting. and omg, it makes me so happy that you feel that way, it means so much to me. you absolutely so deserve that title my angel, jdjdjjsjs i wouldn’t give such a title to anyone else <3 yeahhh the summers are intense, but it’s kinda nice when it’s like 25, feels like winter on those days LMAO but that sounds like such nice summer weather, what you have there. i wish it got to negatives here in winter, or at least snow, ik it sounds crazy probably lmao but i love both summer and winter, and i truly don’t know what it would feel like hahaha i think it’s sub-zero when i go to the mountains and it’s like 2 degrees.

-💟

I missed you too <3 and thank you!! today, I thankfully had more energy (and finally did my whole skincare routine LMAO) and felt a lot better, but I've been catching up on a book that I only started two days ago and have an essay on tomorrow jfjdjfk

seriously, it also reminds me of those trailers made for different films, Honest Trailers, I think they were called, and the voice over was so dramatic dkjldkfj. omg I need to watch that! it reminds me of the dinner scene from Hereditary, and how it was so chilling. I've even seen clips of Friends, particularly with Ross, edited to seem like a horror film, and it is so weirdly accurate bc without the laugh noises, some of the shit he says sounds so creepy. LMAO omg when there are huge family dinners, and all the debating, bickering and chaos starts, it can be so funny. I don't have family dinners that often either, but when I visit my family in another province, sometimes we will all start bickering and yelling across the table - not in a serious way, but just out of pure annoyance with the cousins sjdklsjd. oooh, so you don't have any siblings? me too, I think once I started spending more of my own money, I realized just how fucking pricey books are, sigh. GASP, A BEANBAG CHAIR. I FORGOT HOW COMFY THOSE ARE. honestly, I would love to get one in my bedroom, they are so fucking comfy - I remember a bookstore I used to go to had those in the children's section, and as a child, it was so comfy, and they even had a table with a wooden train set to play with - I'm feeling so nostalgic rn. omg, of course I do, you paint such a cute image with all your different reactions, they're so sweet. DKJKSJ thank you omg 😭 you saying it's the most adorable thing is so fucking sweet ahhh. oooh, really? for me, it depends on the person. like, with friends, yeah, but if it's relatives I haven't seen in several years, it's a bit more awkward LMAO for sure, and it's also frustrating and heartbreaking to know that some of the harm against innocents is unsolved and justice won't happen. damn, that's intense, I'll check the case out - so, she didn't know where she had been living in? holy shit, that must've been so eery and weird to have known it all occurred somewhere you and your dad visited so frequently. like, it is actually so frightening to think of that, I definitely understand why you felt terrified. wow, I'm so glad there were some success stories, though. and omg, absolutely!! if you come, and are in an area close to me, like the province I live in, omg I would absolutely love to meet up!! like, I would be so down for that

omggg that is so cute, that you were making those attempts to read it, and would blush when you got a glimpse kjdkfldjlkf. so, the thing is, I have family there and me, my dad and brother are hoping to go, but I think my dad is probably watching out for less pricey flights, and he's currently waiting for my brother and me to be done with our classes and officially on break. and so, the plans are very vague at the moment till we plan what time will be good. the family we're visiting probably won't be surprised, my dad will probably let them know, we're just seeing when the best and most free time will be, haha. omg, thank you so fucking much. seriously means the world to me that you feel comforted and cared for. so, so much. I absolutely feel so cared for and doted on in the best way by you too. omg 25 celsius is winter for you guys?? that's so interesting, for us, it's so warm, haha. oooh, yeah, I get that, the snow is pretty, and the weather is crisp and manageable until it gets too low. omg do you go to the mountains a lot? (also, will find some pics of snow to add in)

[sappho-give-me-strength]

Ok so im a bi girl and for the longest time ive had this crush on this straight girl who happens to be one of my closest friends and like i think she was the reason i finally realized that i like women so i really cannot let go of her. All through my senior year i was crushing on her and i was like literally never hiding it. I was always jokingly hitting on her because she used to be very insecure and i was always like bitch why you pretty af (thats actually how the friendship started) 1/?

2/? And she always flirted back you know? And like i knew she was joking but i was always like what if she isnt tho? Which ik is silly and bad because i was only getting my hopes up. But she also showed so many signs of internalized homophobia like when i say she was pretty is because she IS pretty like she was always being followed by guys no kidding like i left her alone at a party once and i came back and i almost drown on testosterone bc a circle of no less than ten guys was around her  

3/? And like every and each of her guy friends has had a crush on her at least once, some even twice but she always rejected them???  Because “it didnt feel right” and im like honey thats gay??????? But i never actually did tell her that but like they were perfectly good guys that even i would be with and she was just like :/ “im waiting for the perfect guy” skdlfjañf and then she was always just like “why cant no guy treat me like you do?” And im just like send help pls   

4/? This bitch spent most of prom with me instead of her actual (BOY) prom date and like when i was on vacation i took some nudes bc i was on a cruise and there was literally nobody that could see me through the windows and when i get back and tell her about it she goes all “why didnt you send them to me?” And i am shooketh to my core you have no idea, and so bc i am deeply sapphic i take out my phone and show her the pics and she fucking zooms in and im like :)  

5/? And thats not even the gayest thing shes done like she constantly talks about how she wants to move in with me to some cottage in the woods and have a happy life together and im like you!!!! Cant!!!! Tell!!!! Me!!!! That!!!!! Shit!!!!! And anyways the whole point of this is that we were on a dinner party this friday and i got drunk and i began serenading her with you belong with me by taylor swift and she said im already yours and idk man i want to stop liking her bc shes straight but ?????

Okay, first of all, this was a ride from start to finish. Like, I think all WLW, have that sort of experience where we fall for a straight girl and we can’t tell if she’s only joking or if she might be flirting with us and there’s the hope that maybe she’s not so straight after all. I know it’s hard not to get your hopes up, I’ve been there but honestly, this is on another kind of level.

Obviously, I don’t know you and I don’t know your friend so it’s not like I can say for definite but this doesn’t read like how a straight girl would act or things that a straight girl would say. Your friend doesn’t only seem pretty gay but it also sounds like she’s totally into you. And a lot of what you’re describing reminds me of my own experiences with internalized homophobia, like sure I thought I was into men and that I could date one but he would just have to live up to my totally impossible standards first.

I can see why you wouldn’t be able to get over feelings for her, especially the way you two behave; I mean what straight girl ditches her prom date to hang out with her friend? That’s kind of gay. Honestly, it seems like the best thing you can do is talk to her; I get it that you won’t want to jump straight into it all out confessing you have feelings for her or anything like that. And I get you can’t really say, oh, by the way, I think that you might not be straight but you haven’t realised or aren’t open about it because of internalized homophobia.

But maybe you could find a way to broach the topic of sexuality? Maybe you could ask if she’s ever had a crush on a girl as an easy starting point and go from. I’m not sure, maybe some of my followers will have more experience with this sort of thing. If it does turn out that she is straight then obviously you don’t have to stop being friends though if that’s the case it’s going to be tough getting over her.

Also, I’m sorry if this isn’t what you were looking for or if this isn’t very helpful. But as a clueless Lesbian, giving advice isn’t exactly my forte but I hope this is something.