#if you don't have cash you can just download it anyways

[aurosoul]

thanks for sending this to me... I just sent an email to support, but... I don't have my hopes up lol

BIG PSA: if you're an artist, I wouldn't recommend using @inprnt . If you already have, archive all your work until this is resolved. They aren't giving satisfactory responses (if any) or being clear why many of us aren’t receiving payments until MONTHS after their ETA for balance withdrawals, and only respond after numerous emails, if they ever do.

If you sell a print on @inprnt as of summer 2023, you'll have to wait 30 days until the money appears in your site balance, and then potentially up to 4 MONTHS for your withdrawal request to appear in your paypal account. As a reminder, the site's service terms still say withdrawal requests "should take" 3-10 business days.

If you're a supporter of artists, I'd recommend not buying prints from @inprnt. They need to explain what is going on

this all being said, I am no longer offering prints on @inprnt until they come clean or this issue is taken care of.

[unicornfan]

i was going to put this in the tags of the last post but it was getting long. you should never feel guilty for piracy and i'm saying this as someone with things you can purchase on digital storefronts right now. my life would be radically different (worse) if i couldn't get bootleg versions of software and shit to learn with that i'd never be able to afford on my own. keep quiet about it and enjoy whatever you download and everything is fine

just remember that if you do like something someone has made that you do still have to support them if you can, if you want them to make more. i buy everything nowadays just because i have the means to; if you can't you don't have to feel guilty or beat yourself up over it, is my point. and this obviously doesn't apply to shit like Discovery Network Shows on PS5 lol. just buy some itch.io games or some shit on bandcamp friday from people you like when you got some extra cash

anyway thats my post thanks for reading and god bless

[glowyjellyfish]

Founding Pleasantview

Build an Uberhood Through Time, Round 1, Pleasant Family

Spring 1750

As always, the Pleasants were a crazy dramatic ride.

As the founder of Pleasantview, Daniel is the Mayor--with the encouragement of his wife Mary-Sue, whose parents have joined them in their new home. This worked out great for my first household to play, as I didn't have to remember to keep track of their income for taxes!

It was a chore keeping everyone from constantly harassing Lilith. She ended up doing most of the animal caretaking chores, while Herb and Coral did most of the garden work--fun for him with his Nature OTH. Daniel went to work, Mary-Sue tried setting up a home business and didn't get very far yet--one day they'll have wool to weave and milk to churn and meat to sell in addition to eggs. Fortunately, between their leftover cash and Daniel's actual job, they didn't need her business to make much money yet.

I sent Angela, Mary-Sue, and Coral to The Woods (an unowned community lot that doesn't count for CAS points, but is full of harvestable goodies for sims to collect) for firewood and berries to get started. Angela ran into Dustin and enjoyed some time with him while her mother and grandmother worked. She also decided to shower in the waterfall later, which I found very amusing. The waterfall shower's there because I designed this lot to place for lots of different wilderness-ish hoods; I might remove it for this hood.

With the scenario broken and Kaylynn out on her own, there was nothing damaging Daniel and Mary-Sue's relationship, and they proved to be extremely in love with each other, which I don't often see. Mary-Sue quickly got pregnant--a slight hinderance to her business dreams, but giving birth to male heir Jonathan Pleasant was worth it I think. You can see when Coral, local midwife, complimented Mary-Sue on her pregnant glow in the first trimester.

When Lilith became tired of her family and frustrated with her chores, I sent her to the Village Green, where she met Cassandra Goth, Bella Goth, and Dustin Broke. She had quite a lively conversation with Cassandra, discussing the possibility of moon men and ships that might travel to find them, and was happy to play ball with Dustin, free of the looming judgement of her family. Bella--now, I fully intended to have Bella wear some sort of cloak and hood and disguise herself when going out, but apparently I forgot to install what I downloaded, so Bella showed up to the Village Green bold as brass, practically daring her family to find her. I do in fact have some great pictures for a different post. I'll just pretend she's using a bit of magic to glamour herself and hide her identity. Anyway, she met an got along with Lilith, which is step one of my plan to make Lilith her apprentice witch. They'll have to become actual friends next, I think.

I tried to catch and makeover townies whenever I could; you will notice Angela's school friend Sophie Miguel in these pictures. Angela, by the way, is supposed to be working on earning three scholarships so she can attend finishing school--aka university at Academie Le Tour. But she started by hiding her homework in the barn, and nobody cooperated well to teach her to study until the round was nearly over and her grades rather tanked. She's been working to pull them up, but she has more work to do than I expected. (Note that with the aging mod I use, she has about 2 more rounds to earn her scholarships before she can leave for college. I miiight loosen the requirements a little.) Her parents very much want her to go to finishing school and earn a better Mrs. degree than Dustin Broke can offer her. Since there's no actual class system, however, if she and Dustin still want to be together as adults, he can gain permission by simply befriending them. (Lilith, by the way, was kept home from school due to her presence being disruptive. This is because school is an informal affair, being taught by John Burb, who must prioritize students that cooperate, are not needed at home, and whose parents can afford to pay him better. It won't be mandatory public education until somebody masters the Education career.)

I did attempt to have the girls improve their relationship, with mixed results. Lilith beat up Angela, Angela beat up Lilith, but they both apologized a few times and sometimes they talked like civilized sisters. When Angela talked about winning a fight with Lilith, I imagine she's insisting that she fights with Lilith because Lilith drives her crazy. Look at that gesture. Lilith totally gets it, too.

At the end of the round at the dawn of Summer 1, 1751, Daniel is 37.75 years old, Mary-Sue is 37.25, Angela and Lilith are 14.5, Herb is 60.75, Coral is 60.5, and baby Jonathan is 0.25 (one day old; his birthday is Spring 4, 1750). I was planning to play the Goths next, but I think it'll work a little better to play the Lothario household and get Cassandra married to Don and moved in, and then play the Goths (and get Dina married to Mortimer and moved in!)

(it might have been more sensible and readable to put the pictures next to matching paragraphs, but I really like the little visual narrative I organized them into! I'll experiment with different styles as I go along.)

[dausy]

I'm back from Las Vegas and if you need further evidence that I'm out aging technology and can't keep up, this is it.

I purchased a switch OLED right before we left because I hate airplanes and something fun sounds like it would distract me, sounds good. I've been playing Octopath traveler 1 but its a digital download and I had an experience before where I couldn't play digital downloads without wifi. I don't have any other cartridge games to play so I went ahead and got the new Zelda. Which is fine because I have the switchlite and even though it works, I felt zelda is a console game and you have to play it on the big screen. You can't play it on a little screen, that doesn't do Zelda justice. So I bit the bullet and got the OLED. Well turns out I can play digital downloads without wifi so I ended up just trying to spam-game Octopath because if I move onto another game then I'm never going back to it. So, I don't understand how the digital vs wifi works. Like at first it wouldn't let me play without connecting to wifi but as long as I had managed to turn the game on with some sort of wifi at some point and then turned it onto airplane mode and never actually shut the game off, it still let me play. It only yelled at me a few times to turn wifi on so I don't know.

also, on our return trip back from vegas there was a 4+ hour plane delay which meant we were going to miss our connecting flight. This ofcourse made us grumpy. We walked all the way back out of security to the ticket counter to consider our options. Because we didn't pay with cash but rather travel miles, we had to continue on our delay'd airplane because we weren't going to miss that flight. They would only comp us for the flight we would miss so it would be the other airport we got stranded at that would be responsible for finding us a comp'd hotel for the night. I was literally ready to drive to phoenix and catch a ride there but they told us absolutely not, we had to keep our flights. By the time we got off our delayed flight they had already sent us a text message for the hotel we'd be staying at and food vouchers and the shuttle to catch to get to the hotel. Ofcourse they could do that now with modern technology. Here I'm still thinking its 5 years ago and we gotta trudge back down to another ticket counter. Still had to pay for an extra day of boarding for the dog.

anyway, I took footage and pictures of our time in Las Vegas. Thats another entirely different long ass blog post. I don't know if I want to make a vlog or just post those videos to facebook for the memories..or what..traveling you guys. Some of us aint built for it.

[boredgirlsclub]

So I just went to see this guy I've been talking to for over a year now long distance. I went alone, payed for everything the hotel, and flight and all and it didn't go well at all. The guy and I have been having communication issues, I have felt that being long distance that we are he should call, face time me more but he kept telling me to go visit him and how he would not put in effort to talk to me if I was not coming or booked a flight. So I booked a flight to see him feeling pressured because he told me he wasn't ever going to see or talk to me again and that he would block me....I expressed many times how anxious I was and overwhelmed with all of this but he assured me it would be okay and that we wouldn't just hookup, we would do other things and not just drink...so when I got there he was working and told me to continue to message him so that he knew I wasn't going out and meeting other guys so I did but still had a dating app downloaded on my phone as I am keeping my options open because the situation with him has been hard and hes not my boyfriend...anyway so while hes at work he tells me to get dressed up and ready to go out because we were going to go out for drinks and dinner. So I got all ready he came and brought the alcohol which I was confused about because I thought we were going out, he then said we were going to drink first then get dinner and i suggested sushi which we was down for so we drank the hotel tequila with a chaser and I ended up getting pretty drunk fast...All I remember after that was walking to get sushi and in the restaurant he asks me to pay and i was like ok..so then they try charging my card and it declines so then he pays but then asks if i can cash app him...the rest of the night was a blur and woke up with throw up all over the bed, he had left and I tried reaching out to him to discover I had been blocked. I was so anxious because he told me how he wouldn't leave me, how I didn't want to drink a lot especially not get blacked out but did...I tried calling him from private number and he finally unblocks me and messages me and goes "listen. I blocked you because you were talking to other men, that's so dirty, you were even trying to meet someone down here, I saw the dating app, the messages, I can't trust you, you really came here to hoe out, bye for good" then blocks me...I'm just so hurt he not only looked though my phone when I was drunk but sent himself money for the sushi while I payed for everything to go see him and waking up naked not remembering anything....The very reason I even had a dating app and was talking to other guys is because he doesn't treat me right and so I especially don't trust him...I could have died being blacked out

first, i’m so sorry this happened to you

second, there should be no hesitation in leaving this situation completely. don’t try to call text. don’t try to explain yourself. don’t reach out. like girl i love you…but i don’t know why you’re even entertaining this. this man has. no money. no manners. no basic human decency??? for your sanity and health, go.

i totally encourage you to look at other options. and raise your bar way (WAY) higher. before that, it might be beneficial to do some inner healing (maybe via therapy or journaling). truly consider: do you know your worth? why did you entertain this situation for so long — is it because of insecurities? what do you want out of a relationship (and be honest about everything you want!!! even if it seems like it’s a story book prince who cares)

totally feel free to message again 💗 sending love ur way

[sirensplayhouse]

Hey girl I need some advise/input on the situation I'm in please. So I just went to see this guy I've been talking to for over a year now long distance. I went alone, payed for everything the hotel, and flight and all and it didn't go well at all. The guy and I have been having communication issues, I have felt that being long distance that we are he should call, face time me more but he kept telling me to go visit him and how he would not put in effort to talk to me if I was not coming or booked a flight. So I booked a flight to see him feeling pressured because he told me he wasn't ever going to see or talk to me again and that he would block me....I expressed many times how anxious I was and overwhelmed with all of this but he assured me it would be okay and that we wouldn't just hookup, we would do other things and not just drink...so when I got there he was working and told me to continue to message him so that he knew I wasn't going out and meeting other guys so I did but still had a dating app downloaded on my phone as I am keeping my options open because the situation with him has been hard and hes not my boyfriend...anyway so while hes at work he tells me to get dressed up and ready to go out because we were going to go out for drinks and dinner. So I got all ready he came and brought the alcohol which I was confused about because I thought we were going out, he then said we were going to drink first then get dinner and i suggested sushi which we was down for so we drank the hotel tequila with a chaser and I ended up getting pretty drunk fast...All I remember after that was walking to get sushi and in the restaurant he asks me to pay and i was like ok..so then they try charging my card and it declines so then he pays but then asks if i can cash app him...the rest of the night was a blur and woke up with throw up all over the bed, he had left and I tried reaching out to him to discover I had been blocked. I was so anxious because he told me how he wouldn't leave me, how I didn't want to drink a lot especially not get blacked out but did...I tried calling him from private number and he finally unblocks me and messages me and goes "listen. I blocked you because you were talking to other men, that's so dirty, you were even trying to meet someone down here, I saw the dating app, the messages, I can't trust you, you really came here to hoe out, bye for good" then blocks me...I'm just so hurt he not only looked though my phone when I was drunk but sent himself money for the sushi while I payed for everything to go see him and waking up naked not remembering anything....The very reason I even had a dating app and was talking to other guys is because he doesn't treat me right and so I especially don't trust him...I could have died being blacked out. Why would he blame this on me when he knows how I feel...He also followed my mom, liked a family picture on Instagram after I was showing her him and she accidentally viewed his story while he still has me blocked and is ignoring me. Why would he do this...

firstly babes, i just wanna say i am deeply apologetic that this happened to you and that you didn’t deserve this AT ALL and i really hope you went and got tested or checked out after waking up the next morning.

second, i believe you can never really know a person but what they want you to know and i’m not tryna hear the “oh eiypo” or “you manifested this outcome” because you didn’t and it’s important you know and understand that. people can just be assholes and clearly that dude is one of the biggest ones walking this earth.

i truly hope you’re ok and you can reach out to me privately if you ever need to talk or just want to vent🫶🏾

[lovelylau]

Hey girl, I'm in need of some advise/input on the situation I'm in please. So I just went to see this guy I've been talking to for over a year now long distance. I went alone, payed for everything the hotel, and flight and all and it didn't go well at all. The guy and I have been having communication issues, I have felt that being long distance that we are he should call, face time me more but he kept telling me to go visit him and how he would not put in effort to talk to me if I was not coming or booked a flight. So I booked a flight to see him feeling pressured because he told me he wasn't ever going to see or talk to me again and that he would block me....I expressed many times how anxious I was and overwhelmed with all of this but he assured me it would be okay and that we wouldn't just hookup, we would do other things and not just drink...so when I got there he was working and told me to continue to message him so that he knew I wasn't going out and meeting other guys so I did but still had a dating app downloaded on my phone as I am keeping my options open because the situation with him has been hard and hes not my boyfriend...anyway so while hes at work he tells me to get dressed up and ready to go out because we were going to go out for drinks and dinner. So I got all ready he came and brought the alcohol which I was confused about because I thought we were going out, he then said we were going to drink first then get dinner and i suggested sushi which we was down for so we drank the hotel tequila with a chaser and I ended up getting pretty drunk fast...All I remember after that was walking to get sushi and in the restaurant he asks me to pay and i was like ok..so then they try charging my card and it declines so then he pays but then asks if i can cash app him...the rest of the night was a blur and woke up with throw up all over the bed, he had left and I tried reaching out to him to discover I had been blocked. I was so anxious because he told me how he wouldn't leave me, how I didn't want to drink a lot especially not get blacked out but did...I tried calling him from private number and he finally unblocks me and messages me and goes "listen. I blocked you because you were talking to other men, that's so dirty, you were even trying to meet someone down here, I saw the dating app, the messages, I can't trust you, you really came here to hoe out, bye for good" then blocks me...I'm just so hurt he not only looked though my phone when I was drunk but sent himself money for the sushi while I payed for everything to go see him and waking up naked not remembering anything....The very reason I even had a dating app and was talking to other guys is because he doesn't treat me right and so I especially don't trust him...I could have died being blacked out. Why would he blame this on me when he knows how I feel...He also followed my mom, liked a family picture on Instagram after I was showing her him and she accidentally viewed his story while he still has me blocked and is ignoring me. Why would he do this...

Girl, block that man and never speak of him again. I know it's easier said than done but you deserve better, i mean everyone deserves better than him... that's for sure.

Also, why would you pay to see a man you're not even in a relationship with ? If he wanted to see you, he woudl've paid for the flight. Never spend money on men, they should spend it on you.

[tasteslike-cherry]

So I just went to see this guy I've been talking to for over a year now long distance. I went alone, payed for everything the hotel, and flight and all and it didn't go well at all. The guy and I have been having communication issues, I have felt that being long distance that we are he should call, face time me more but he kept telling me to go visit him and how he would not put in effort to talk to me if I was not coming or booked a flight. So I booked a flight to see him feeling pressured because he told me he wasn't ever going to see or talk to me again and that he would block me....I expressed many times how anxious I was and overwhelmed with all of this but he assured me it would be okay and that we wouldn't just hookup, we would do other things and not just drink...so when I got there he was working and told me to continue to message him so that he knew I wasn't going out and meeting other guys so I did but still had a dating app downloaded on my phone as I am keeping my options open because the situation with him has been hard and hes not my boyfriend...anyway so while hes at work he tells me to get dressed up and ready to go out because we were going to go out for drinks and dinner. So I got all ready he came and brought the alcohol which I was confused about because I thought we were going out, he then said we were going to drink first then get dinner and i suggested sushi which we was down for so we drank the hotel tequila with a chaser and I ended up getting pretty drunk fast...All I remember after that was walking to get sushi and in the restaurant he asks me to pay and i was like ok..so then they try charging my card and it declines so then he pays but then asks if i can cash app him...the rest of the night was a blur and woke up with throw up all over the bed, he had left and I tried reaching out to him to discover I had been blocked. I was so anxious because he told me how he wouldn't leave me, how I didn't want to drink a lot especially not get blacked out but did...I tried calling him from private number and he finally unblocks me and messages me and goes "listen. I blocked you because you were talking to other men, that's so dirty, you were even trying to meet someone down here, I saw the dating app, the messages, I can't trust you, you really came here to hoe out, bye for good" then blocks me...I'm just so hurt he not only looked though my phone when I was drunk but sent himself money for the sushi while I payed for everything to go see him and waking up naked not remembering anything....The very reason I even had a dating app and was talking to other guys is because he doesn't treat me right and so I especially don't trust him...I could have died being blacked out. Why would he blame this on me when he knows how I feel...He also followed my mom, liked a family picture on Instagram after I was showing her him and she accidentally viewed his story while he still has me blocked and is ignoring me. Why would he do this...

first of all, I want to give you the biggest hug in the world. this guy is despicable and you deserve so so so much better than that.

to answer your question, I honestly don’t know. I’m not a tarot reader or psychic so I can’t look into that for you, but what I can tell you is you can manifest better men in your life if that’s the route you want to take. my dm’s are open if you want to talk. again, my heart breaks for you, I’m so sorry you had to experience that.

[tooedgyforbrunch]

So I just went to see this guy I've been talking to for over a year now long distance. I went alone, payed for everything the hotel, and flight and all and it didn't go well at all. The guy and I have been having communication issues, I have felt that being long distance that we are he should call, face time me more but he kept telling me to go visit him and how he would not put in effort to talk to me if I was not coming or booked a flight. So I booked a flight to see him feeling pressured because he told me he wasn't ever going to see or talk to me again and that he would block me....I expressed many times how anxious I was and overwhelmed with all of this but he assured me it would be okay and that we wouldn't just hookup, we would do other things and not just drink...so when I got there he was working and told me to continue to message him so that he knew I wasn't going out and meeting other guys so I did but still had a dating app downloaded on my phone as I am keeping my options open because the situation with him has been hard and hes not my boyfriend...anyway so while hes at work he tells me to get dressed up and ready to go out because we were going to go out for drinks and dinner. So I got all ready he came and brought the alcohol which I was confused about because I thought we were going out, he then said we were going to drink first then get dinner and i suggested sushi which we was down for so we drank the hotel tequila with a chaser and I ended up getting pretty drunk fast...All I remember after that was walking to get sushi and in the restaurant he asks me to pay and i was like ok..so then they try charging my card and it declines so then he pays but then asks if i can cash app him...the rest of the night was a blur and woke up with throw up all over the bed, he had left and I tried reaching out to him to discover I had been blocked. I was so anxious because he told me how he wouldn't leave me, how I didn't want to drink a lot especially not get blacked out but did...I tried calling him from private number and he finally unblocks me and messages me and goes "listen. I blocked you because you were talking to other men, that's so dirty, you were even trying to meet someone down here, I saw the dating app, the messages, I can't trust you, you really came here to hoe out, bye for good" then blocks me...I'm just so hurt he not only looked though my phone when I was drunk but sent himself money for the sushi while I payed for everything to go see him and waking up naked not remembering anything....The very reason I even had a dating app and was talking to other guys is because he doesn't treat me right and so I especially don't trust him...I could have died being blacked out

I’ve seen this question posed before to another tumblr user a month ago and I thought their response was a bit harsh. I don’t know you personally, and I’m in no position to give out relationship advise especially since I don’t deem myself “very experienced” I will say tho the one thing I’ve learned from my relationship is that “if he wanted to he would”. If a man likes you you’ll know, if he doesn’t you’ll be very confused. Take this as a learning experience, you don’t know what you don’t know and in this case you can chalk it up to ignorance. In the future you’ll know better and you’ll be able to spot the signs quicker.

[handsome-robot]

I really really want to like "Monster Hunter Now" but it's just not fun. Frankly, it's mean. I never played much Pokémon GO, so I assume this is just niantic's standard now, but MAN. Stingy stingy stingy with the rewards and steep steep steep with the challenge.

Literally costs money to heal yourself. It's classic mobile game bullshit. Everything costs gems and you buy gems with real world money. Let's say it's 100 gems = 1 dollar. It's 300 fucking gems for 5 potions. A potion that does NOT HEAL YOU TO FULL.

You are given 5 free potions a day BUT can only carry 10 free potions at a time. If you are fighting a challenging monster, you can easily use 3 or 4 potions pretty quickly. The game never let's you get ahead or feel like you're comfortable.

Even if you manage to survive long enough to heal, the timers are so tight for each fight you basically need to have perfect runs to beat the harder monsters. So you use the money to buy the potion to heal and fail the hunt anyway!

There's a battlepass since the last time I had it downloaded. 2000 gems for that. There's a deal right now to get 2300 gems for 15 bucks. What a steal, huh?

You don't really get gems for doing anything in game. Pretty much gotta pay for em.

I would be ashamed if I was the creator of monster hunter to see it's name on this soulless cash grab.

[theereina]

So I just went to see this guy I've been talking to for over a year now long distance. I went alone, payed for everything the hotel, and flight and all and it didn't go well at all. The guy and I have been having communication issues, I have felt that being long distance that we are he should call, face time me more but he kept telling me to go visit him and how he would not put in effort to talk to me if I was not coming or booked a flight. So I booked a flight to see him feeling pressured because he told me he wasn't ever going to see or talk to me again and that he would block me....I expressed many times how anxious I was and overwhelmed with all of this but he assured me it would be okay and that we wouldn't just hookup, we would do other things and not just drink...so when I got there he was working and told me to continue to message him so that he knew I wasn't going out and meeting other guys so I did but still had a dating app downloaded on my phone as I am keeping my options open because the situation with him has been hard and hes not my boyfriend...anyway so while hes at work he tells me to get dressed up and ready to go out because we were going to go out for drinks and dinner. So I got all ready he came and brought the alcohol which I was confused about because I thought we were going out, he then said we were going to drink first then get dinner and i suggested sushi which we was down for so we drank the hotel tequila with a chaser and I ended up getting pretty drunk fast...All I remember after that was walking to get sushi and in the restaurant he asks me to pay and i was like ok..so then they try charging my card and it declines so then he pays but then asks if i can cash app him...the rest of the night was a blur and woke up with throw up all over the bed, he had left and I tried reaching out to him to discover I had been blocked. I was so anxious because he told me how he wouldn't leave me, how I didn't want to drink a lot especially not get blacked out but did...I tried calling him from private number and he finally unblocks me and messages me and goes "listen. I blocked you because you were talking to other men, that's so dirty, you were even trying to meet someone down here, I saw the dating app, the messages, I can't trust you, you really came here to hoe out, bye for good" then blocks me...I'm just so hurt he not only looked though my phone when I was drunk but sent himself money for the sushi while I payed for everything to go see him and waking up naked not remembering anything....The very reason I even had a dating app and was talking to other guys is because he doesn't treat me right and so I especially don't trust him...I could have died being blacked out

Dear Anonymous,

I would first like to say, "Don't beat yourself up about this."

Allow this to be your lesson on how important direct/clear communication is in any relationship. This can be in romantic or platonic relationships. You admitted to having issues with communication before the trip. You also said he pressured you to come to him but has he ever made an effort to come to see you? There seems to be more than a communication issue. He seems to be narcissistic or manipulative based on the ultimatum he gave you. You admitted that he did not treat you right. This should have been your biggest reason not to take this trip. If he didn't treat you right before, what honestly would be different then?

To be honest, I don't want to make assumptions, but I think you missed the red flags based on "hope". It was a hope that this relationship would work or become something. You were telling yourself the whole time that it wasn't right or something was wrong. Next time, take a breath and listen to your gut. As a woman, you have instincts for a reason.

Regardless of what he said, it almost seemed as if that was his plan from the beginning. From what you said, his actions did not indicate someone who wanted to pursue a "romantic" relationship. He seemed to only want to have "fun". His finding the dating apps and messages may have just been the ammo he needed to leave. You paid for an entire trip to see him, and he still expected you to pay for dinner when he asked you out. He wanted you there for him to show effort, but he didn't. Something seems very off to me.

I don't know how clear you two were about it not being a relationship. Did you discuss the boundaries or the type of relationship you two were partaking in? This could have been one of the biggest parts of the communication issue. Neither of you knew the dynamic of this relationship. I don't want to be harsh, but it doesn't seem like a relationship would have worked. You did not trust him; he obviously did not trust you. You two didn't seem to know each other too well. Yes, I understand long-distance relationships have limits. I just think that a lot more should have been communicated and worked out before this trip.

However, that doesn't give him the right to do any of those things to you. Your feelings are very valid in that situation. Waking up naked and afraid isn't something I would wish on anyone. I'm sorry that happened to you. You deserved better. He could have simply just left and told you why the next morning.

I hope you see this post. Also, I hope it makes sense. To Anonymous, feel free to message me again if I missed some things or if you want clarification. Tell me if I helped, as this is my first inbox like this.

Remember: be honest, communicate clearly, set and establish boundaries, listen to your intuition, and stay safe!

XOXO, Reina

[fuck-customers]

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i used to work for a well known retail chain. i was a seasonal employee scheduled 7 to 4:30pm, it was about the end of my shift and this old lady somewhere around 70s comes up with a bunch of christmas ornaments and stuff. i start scanning her items and ask if she has the app because a few of her items were on sale /with the app/, she didn't. got real angry i asked, snidely said "and I'm /not interested/, so don't try to sell it to me".

alright lady. i'm tired it's been a long day, Christmas time is always a long day at Retail Store. we get to the end of the transaction when she pays for her 20 dollars of shit and she stops me. says "excuse me. these three tree ornaments are /on sale/." pointing at the ornaments which were 1 whole dollar even when not on sale. and i reply "unfortunately ma'am they're on sale with the app only. there would have been a sign saying with our Retail Store app, they'd be 25% off. since you don't have the app I can't apply the discount to your purchase. if you have a smart device you can download it for free and i'd be happy to scan the code for you--" and she interrupts me to yell how she is /not/ buying the app. just give her the discount since the sign says there's one. why is there a sign that says it's for sale if it isn't for sale?!

well, ma'am...it is for sale. but I can't scan the barcode that will apply the coupon if you don't have the app. she starts /screaming/ at me. calling me a robber, a liar, me personally as if she didn't read "25% WITH STORE APP" and i personally faked the sign just to trick her. demanded my manager. i click the button that will cause my little buzzer to flash to call one over, and then turn off my overhead light.

when working the cash registers we were told by superiors to turn off our lane light if it was about a minute to our clock out time, so when we were bagging for a customer others wouldn't get it our line (not that this rly stops anyone). it was by this time about 5 past when I was supposed to leave so i should have done it earlier anyway. there was already 5 ppl in my line and my replacement hadn't shown up yet.

the old lady takes severe offense to my light being off, while waiting for the front lead: "you're a busy store on a Tuesday night and you're ~taking a break~ right now?! turn your light back on so you can help people after me, are you trying to make your company look lazy?!" gently explain to her that my shift was over at 4:30. she scoffs: "well with how busy things are you should keep working anyway. people need their Christmas decorations, /for the discounted price/." absolutely unbelievable attitude from this grown ass white grandma.

front lead comes over, explains the 25% discount is for the app only, since old hag doesn't have the app, she can't get the discount. takes seconds to download if she wants it. she is /furious/, argues, says she doesn't understand. we spend a long time explaining how the app rewards program works. she doesn't like it, doesn't get it. angry because "it didn't say with Store App it just said 25%." demands we bring the sign up where she picked out the Christmas ornaments to prove that it really said "with app only". neither of us have the time to do that. my Retail Store is very particular about clock in and out times and NO ONE is allowed overtime. my manager wants me outta there, /i/ want out of there. we aren't hunting through the packed-as-hell Christmas aisle to bring up a giant sign just for you.

so my manager takes out her app, scans the code, applies the discount, and this lady -- after thirty five fucking minutes -- snottily leaves with her newly discounted tree ornaments, loudly spouting about how this store has the "worst service ever!"

it was 25%. so, 25 cents off a $1 dollar fucking item.

she kept me 35 minutes past when i should have clocked out over 25 cents. i quit about a week later.

[silvermoon424]

where have you been watching / downloading the new tokyo mew mew series? The only site I've found wants a subscription and i dont wanna deal w that

Watch

Download via torrenting

If you've never torrented before, here is a tutorial. I highly suggest investing in a VPN if you plan on torrenting, because ISPs can crack down on your internet service if they catch you (although they're almost always warn you first). Plus VPNs are just a good investment, anyway.

I personally use NordVPN, it's been good for me and there are usually deals going on (iirc I spend like $100 to get a 3-year plan, which works out to about $2.80 a month. But if you can't front the cash all at once they have monthly plans as well). But there are tons of VPN services out there, you just need to do your research if you want to get one. I would definitely invest in one that lets you cheat streaming services, not all of them do that (for example, NordVPN lets you watch region-locked content on Netflix by switching to a server from that country).

If you don't want to mess around with torrenting, that watch link I provided should be fine. I would use an adblocker but that site has never given me any issues.

[keoni-chan]

Hi keoni♡ I'm just wondering how long your game takes to load! I can load sims 3 in 2 minutes but sims 2 has been taking an hour and I cant touch my computer at all :(

Hi!

I just timed it, and it loads in a little under 5 minutes with 13 GB of custom content. (I used to have 3... Where did I go wrong?)

Sims 2 loading times mostly depend on your system specs, but there are other ways to speed up your game. I do recommend investing in an SSD hard drive. I run my game from an ancient one (like 7 years old) and it really does makes a huge difference. I think one of the new ones, like my husband has, could load my game in under a minute.

If you can't throw down the cash to upgrade (and I don't blame you. Times are tough, the world sucks, shit's expensive), there are some tricks to help your game.

1. Rename all your files so they only use letters, numbers and underscores. All other cutesy symbols (like []~-, and stuff) confuse your game and slow it down. I use Bulk Rename Utility. It's very easy to use.

2. Your Downloads folder should only hold .package files. Throw out those preview pictures and Read Me files. Your game can't read them, but tries anyway, slowing you down.

3. Merge your packages. I wrote a guide on that here. This really makes a difference if you're a bit of a hoarder like me. Because you combine multiple files into a single file, your game has to read less files. Less files to read is faster loading times.

4. Compressorize your files with The Compressorizer. Smaller files load faster.

I hope my tips are somewhat useful.

[thegeminisage]

ms liz, my sister is considering buying me a switch for christmas, so was contemplating games for the Switch because I'm very hesitant to get a game system but only have interest in like 2 or 3 games (I say, aggressively not looking at the decade old psp on my bookcase)

anyways, my question is: I very much love Pokémon, but I've only ever beaten the original Sapphire (and have like 4-5 other ones). I've seen you talk about Pokémon Snap, thats the photography one right? I tend to get overwhelmed by how much there is to do in the games, is Pokémon Snap like that too? are there any other games you would recommend?

and if I can make a recommendation of my own, I recently played a game named Carto on the pc and found out its on switch as well, it was very cute and fun, its rather short too, 7-8 hours but I beat it in under 7.

Have a nice day!! 🌻🌻🌻

HELLO beloved sorry it took me so long to answer u, i've been working all day, but congrats on the switch!!! one of the Most consoles of all time. apologizes in advance bc my answer got a lt longer than i meant for it to. ur not obligated to read it all LOL i have a tldr at the bottom. adhd makes me talk a lot, but it also makes me allergic to long chains of text so i understand & won't take any offense, promise.

first of all, feel NO shame about the psp. you are completely valid and that was a MONEY GRABBING FAILURE to capitalize on nintendo's success with the DS. i used mine as a glorified mp3 player that also happened to have the disc for the movie spiderman 2 in it, so i feel you. we don't judge here. think of it as a collector's item. an antique. like having a virtual boy that won't attempt to kill you in your sleep.

secondly, i feel that way a lot of times when i get a new console, like it's not worth buying just for one game, but the truth is gradually new ones will catch your interest. (also, if you check out the store once in awhile, you can sometimes find stuff on sale for $5 or less, especially indie games, and if you download your big full-price games digitally you will get "coins" which you can use to take some off the price, so it can drop to nothing - i got a 2D galaga-styled shooter called super bit blaster XL for less than a dollar, and even though it's very simple i still killed 5-6 hours on it before i finished unlocking all the ships; well worth the cash.) if you have an opportunity to grab a switch you definitely should because shortages make that difficult rn - if you change your mind later you can always resell it for most of that money back, but otherwise if you enjoy gaming it's a great investment, bc many of the games will eventually get cheaper

re: pkmn snap - i think it's a lot more streamlined than the main pokemon games. i struggle to complete those because even though i love the pokemon and the worldbuilding i find the battle mechanics get monotonous - either too grindy or too easy (so i hope you werent looking for pokemon recs and if u were im sorry lol). pokemon snap on the other hand is basically a "rail shooter," in that you can travel one of a few pre-determined paths and just take photos along the way. pretty simple, but there's a lot of replay value in getting different poses and manipulating your surroundings to see different guys to take pics of, and it's nice to be able to interact with them without having to fight them (i always felt a little bad about asking them to battle). there's a LOT of particular requests that pop up (like, take a picture of a certain guy in a certain pose), but you're free to completely ignore them if you want to. i really adored pokemon snap, so i think if you're a pokemon fan you really will too.

i confess i don't know about getting overwhelmed with how much there is to do...imo, the more there is to do, the longer you can spend playing the game and getting your money's worth - if it's in sidequests you don't HAVE to do any of it, and maybe it would help to think of it that way! or maybe you just like something with more guidance where you don't have to make as many decisions? either way, a few recommendations!! idk what games you've played previously or what you like (i'm just going off of dislike of pokemon/like of carto, which seems neat btw!) so i'm gonna list a LOT of stuff, hence it goes under a cut. (if this list turns out to be way too long for you to read you can come back w/ more details for a more personalized reclist lol. i LOOOOVE reccing people games it's not a bother i promise. i have a short list at the end just in case!)

for puzzle games: try tetris effect or lumines (pronounced lue min ESS). both are "immersive" with stimulating graphics/sounds that are supposed to help u block out the rest of the world & get sucked in. if you like competitive online play, tetris 99 and pacman 99 are both free with nintendo online membership

for a relaxing sim game, try animal crossing or stardew valley. both have a TON of stuff to do but almost none of it is missable and they're both generally very chill (though i personally enjoyed stardew much more on the pc where i could use a mod to slow the passage of time in-game - it depends on how good of a pc you have.) stardew valley offers more guidance than animal crossing, i think, but with animal crossing it's very easy to literally just get on there and fuck around and do nothing - eventually, in your routine of daily tasks (watering your flowers, talking to your neighbors, etc) something to do will just spontaneously throw itself in your path.

if you like more streamlined experiences and don't mind fast gameplay that needs a bit of reflexes, mario kart might be a good choice. it's a racing game but there's no big overworld or anything to tackle, just race after race until you're done. similarly, smash bros - there is technically an overworld involved in unlocking characters, but if you like fighting it's just a bunch of different matchups. both also have multiplayer modes!

also, if you don't mind difficult gameplay/dying a lot, ori and the blind forest and shovel knight are both on switch, along with (i think) the various sequels. they're "metroidvania" style games that involve a lot of map-checking and backtracking and they're hard as FUCK (shovel knight kicked my ass) but generally there's not too many sidequests involved. tbh i do not like being frustrated when i play games so i did not Love shovel knight but it is fun and you can be a gay and trans if you want to. i haven't played ori but i've watched a playthrough and the story is really good and the music is to die for

if you want an adventure game without a big open (overwhelming) world, the zelda games will probably be more your speed. there's generally a good balance of exploration/fighting/puzzle-solving, and they aren't terribly difficult, but aside from the newest one (breath of the wild) they're generally pretty linear and good about telling you what to do next. skyward sword is available on the switch and it's the first one chronologically so you could maybe start there if you wanted the full 3D home console experience (and it's sort of infamous for being a very linear and streamlined experience, for better or worse). if you want something a little less complex you can try link's awakening, since it has a more simple top-down perspective (like pokemon) - the graphics are really cute too, a little like carto. link's awakening involves more aimless exploration but skyward sword might be a litle more difficult to play - some people find the motion controls frustrating there's also a zelda rhythm game called cadence of hyrule which i loved, but it might hit harder if you've already played a game or two. if you like zelda, you may also like okami - it's an adventure game heavily inspired by the zelda gameplay mechanics that employs japanese folklore in the setting/story

if you like "simple" (read: older) games, you can pay $20 a year for a nintendo online membership (criminally low compared to competitors) to get access to emulated nes and snes games. the basic membership with the n64 games i wouldn't pay for unless you're just dying to play some of the games on the list - it's too expensive and the ports are bad - but the nes and snes ports work really well and you can play the original legend of zelda on the nes and a link to the past on snes. there's also a ton of other little games and classics included, like mario, donkey kong, kirby, kid icarus, starfox, ice climbers, ballon fight, yoshi's island, etc.

nintendo's star franchise is obviously mario - i haven't played mario odyssey, but i can vouch for super mario world + bowser's fury. it's a two-game bundle, and while you may find bowser's fury too open (it's a small world that opens up bit by bit, but it is something you have to run around in), 3D world is a very guided experience where you just do one stage after another. new super mario bros u is another one-stage-at-a-time mario game - i played that one when it came out & loved it (though in 3D you can run around freely, and i think super mario U is limited to the x and y axis - it depends on ur preference). to my knowledge oth have co-op modes so you can play with your sister or whoever else is around! mario + rabbids is also great - it's a strategy game, which are normally not my speed, but it was made with so much love i couldn't not enjoy it. again, a very linear experience! also, i cannot vouch for it personally, but i hear the newest mario party game is VERY good - they're essentially board games that have minigames included. if you have friends or relatives to play with it is a riotous time, assuming none of you declare open warfare on one another. (i also hear paper mario origami king is very good, but i haven't played a paper mario in years so i can't vouch for it personally either. it does seem to have rpg elements though!)

and finally, rpgs themselves! i don't know what you've played or what other stuff you've had access to, but a lot of classic rpgs have been ported to the switch. no, they aren't the best, smoothest ports - most of them were designed for the playstation consoles - but if you don't have another way to play them and it's your first time, you probably won't notice the difference, and it's a great way to get classics under your belt. pokemon games are technically rpgs, so gameplaywise they're in the same ballpark, but final fantasy games for example tend to have a strong story/character development angle. ff7, ff8, ff9, ff10/10-2, ff12, and the trilogy of ff13 (my personal fav, and it's a VERY linear experience w/ few sidequests) have all been ported! kingdom hearts is there too if you don't mind something extremely stupid that's going to be a huge timesink. and, of course, the MOTHER of all indie rpgs, undertale, is on the switch. short, linear, hilarious, heartwarming, with a huge replay value and it's one of the best games ever made - there's also deltarune, which is COMPLETELY FREE, another game in the series, and just as good (but only the first 2 chapters are out; we'll be asked to cough up some cash when the whole game is ready).

oh, and one last thing...katamari damacy isn't an rpg, but it's another famous game that got ported to the switch and it's great. very linear, extremely fucking weird/"quirky" and funny! if you like weird games you might also like "untitled goose game" which is another riot.

okay, that's everything i can think of. HERE'S THE SHORTLIST of games i think you're most likely to enjoy, in no particular order: animal crossing, link's awakening and/or skyward sword, nes/snes online (particularly dr mario), katamari damacy, new super mario bros U and/or 3D world, okami, undertale & deltarune, and final fantasy xiii (though i'm a little biased on that last point). and, of course, pokemon snap <3

sorry, that got a lot longer than i meant for it to...at any rate, i hope you get that switch and have a lot of fun on it! the AAA games get the most attention but as you can see the library is literally So Huge!!!

[audifotograf]

How I travel as often as possible

By: Claudia Manganiello

Pictured: Philippine Pesos

1. I’m a waitress.

I think the biggest reasons I love being a waitress is that I make decent money and can virtually make my own schedule. I tell my manager what days I’m available which really means what days I want to work and for the most part that is my schedule. And anytime I want to go on a vacation I just put in a request a month before, but it’s really more of a formal notice. Granted I make sure I don’t travel during busy season, too close together or for too long because I don’t want to risk not having a job when I get back. But in the past I’ve been able to travel up to 6 times a year!

2. I save alot of my extra money towards travel.

This one takes self control. Even though friends constantly invite me out to restaurants and bars, etc. I have to be selective and make sure whenever I spend it’s on something I REALLY want to because I know I much rather spend it on travel.

3. I research.

I always do some general research ahead of time on what the prices of a flight to a place are and how much things cost there (currency exchange). I also check if the prices will have a chance of spiking for instance around a busy time or holiday. This is something I look out for when I go to Miami every year for Ultra Music Festival. Most other times of the year the prices are ~$150 roundtrip, but because the festival is during Spring Break the prices can go up to $350 if you wait too long. So I start checking the flights a month earlier than usual and if I see a normal price or better I buy it because I know the prices are only going to go up. Last year I was able to find a round trip from NY to MIA for $100!!

4. I look for flights on sites like Expedia.

Two months before domestic, three before international trips I start looking up flights on Tuesdays. I check Expedia, Kayak, Syscanner and Google flights to see all different results and prices. What's great about these sites is they have features where you can see side by side how the prices can differ before or after the dates you select. This way you can choose the cheapest possible days to arrive and leave while still maximizing the time you can go away for.

Photo taken from google.com/flights.

5. I try to be as flexible as possible.

I try to work around my schedule. For example, when I was in school I had class from Monday to Thursday so ideally I would go away on a Wednesday or Thursday right after class and come back right before class on Monday. I usually worked it out so I only missed exactly one of each of my classes. But sometimes I had to weigh out the importance of the prices versus time I could go without missing too much school. I ended up going away almost every 2 months while I was in college, but I always planned in advance.

I also try to be flexible about the airport I fly out of. One time I waited too long to buy a flight to Miami and the flights were $350 roundtrip, so I flew to Fort Lauderdale instead for $200! The 45 minute drive to Miami was well worth the $150 I saved. However the cheapest airport to fly out of the New York area is usually Newark but it's not as cheap to get a ride to and its not the easiest to take public transportation with luggage. So most times I just choose the airport easiest to get to.

Less often I'm flexible about the airline I choose. I try to avoid airlines that have poor customer service because if something goes wrong the money is not worth the headache. I missed my flight home from Rome while I was literally AT THE AIRPORT waiting at the wrong gate where a flight was leaving for the same place at the same time (please learn from me: ALWAYS CHECK YOUR FLIGHT NUMBER). American was basically like sorry not sorry. This was definitely mostly my fault but I went through security, checked in and everything, so they knew I was in the building. Yet no one called my name on a loud speaker like they do in the US when someone is missing. No one would help me in person (another lesson learned: look for flights on other websites but always try to buy directly from the airline). No standby was offered. I ended up sobbing to a random lady on the phone in the middle of the airport to get a somewhat affordable flight back home the same day because everyone was just trying to sell me $1000 flights 3 days later. So even though American is often one of the cheapest options, I can't say I wouldn't pay a little more to fly a different airline.

Also sometimes flights are cheaper from smaller airlines but they don’t include a carry-on in the price like most do so it ends up being the same price anyway. If you can fit all your stuff in a backpack (which is totally possible) it could be worth it, but again be weary of the quality of customer service.

6. I stay at Airbnb's/ hostels.

If I can split a room with someone I usually coordinate and book an airbnb atleast a month in advance to get the best options and deals. One time I stayed at a private apartment in NYC for just $25 a night before! But when I traveled alone I found the cheapest option was to share a room at a hostel. I enjoyed time by myself but when I wanted to share experiences I had a bunch of people around who wanted the same thing, it was great.

7. I sort out my money ahead of time.

I have credit and debit cards with zero foreign transaction fees and once I arrive to a place I take out however much I want to budget myself at a bank atm. When I can I use my credit card and if I need more cash I take out just enough to last the rest of the trip so I don't go home with a bunch of money I can't use.

8. I use my phone as little as possible.

I don't like to use my phone much while on vacation anyway, but usually you can't really get out of needing it for GPS. I used to have Sprint which includes 2G international service in alot of countries (a fee for faster speeds), but now I have AT&T which costs $10/day so now I really only use my phone for emergencies. I try to do everything on WiFi and when I can't I try to download any maps, tickets, movies etc offline.

9. I buy groceries when I travel.

I try to buy easy stuff to eat for breakfast and lunch from a grocery store and treat myself to dinner out. It saves time and money and seeing what they sell in grocery stores in different countries has become one of my favorite things to do. I still get to try new foods but at a good price!

10. I take public transportation when possible.

Usually I have to take an uber or local ride share from the airport because of my suitcase but when I pick my airbnb I usually make sure it's also accessible to where I want to go throughout the trip.

11. I avoid expensive tours and other tourist traps.

Before paying for something I try to find a way to enjoy it for less. Instead of taking a tour of a park I just look around myself and it's often much more peaceful and interesting. I saved $20-$30 by simply going to see the Colloseum in Rome instead of paying to see the inside. Not to mention I saved myself from waiting on the long line. Another example is when I went to the Venetian hotel in Vegas I didn't ride the gondolas for $20-$30 but I still got to see them and hear them serenade. 

I don't skimp on everything though, I still love to enjoy experiences as much as possible. But I spend my money on things that are worth it instead. I've gotten full body professional massages in the Philippines for $20 before, you just have to decide what is worth it to you.