#if anyone has a source or anything hmu ig

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...I could write a half-decent Chucky, I imagine...

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things on dating apps i consider red flags:

(disclaimer: all of these pertain to cis men in my experience, i'm using inclusive pronouns bc i'm sure some of them are gender neutral. i have little-no idea what a red flag looks like in a womxn or nonbinary people bc while i'm attracted to both i haven't interacted with either much)

"I'm too ____ for most people and end up alone most of the time" this is hiding under the "it's just who i am i'm sorry" excuse- they just refuse to work on themself

"Swipe left if you're _____" more worried about what they want than how they're presenting themself- bio is not the place for this.

Any mention of "thick girls" or "latinas only" or anything like that. (Some versions if this are ok. Follow your gut) same as above and often racist/fatphobic/etc

No profile bio

Hardly any pic showing the person's face- this type of insecurity suggests not being ready for a relationship.

All/most pics of them involve alcohol/weed/cigarettes/etc. Think about how they choose to represent themself.

"I'm not here for a long time, I'm here for a good time" No Randy you're irresponsible

"Ig I'm the old fashioned type" You're not old fashioned you're either racist or sexist or both and/or pride yourself on outdated chivalry and expect for it to make up for your lacking in another area.

"6'1 since that matters" general saltiness toward standards men are being held to- understandable but this is often either a humblebrag and their height is their only personality trait, they're lying, or they're salty @ women for this particular standard, often a sign they don't trust women

"Let's see where things go" sounds like they want your commitment with the freedom to ghost you like things were casual

Any reference to "started from the ground now i'm here" or "the haters"- thinks they work harder than they do, thinks people are expendable, etc

"Does anyone even read bios?" They should, and this tells me you don't.

Mentions recent weight loss- might be their only personality trait.

"Don't hmu if you can't take a joke" huge asshole, will cross lines for a "joke" and gaslight you when you ask them not to

"Dark humor" "sarcasm" esp in men. this too often is an excuse for offensive humor and gaslighting. if he's defining his wntire personality by this- big red flag. run.

guns in pics- this one's personal but hear me out. people who make a hobby out of hunting and collect guns. it's killing things. a hobby. it's not "hunting to survive" the US is NOT the place for that. it's like 400% cheaper to just... buy meat at the store. this is some peoples' main source of getting away/taking a vacation. why is this part of our culture. this is disturbing and a huge proponent of southern toxic masculinity.

for obviously strajght cis men: pics with other dressed up women. it may be my own insecurity talking but i always see this as "you must be this pretty to ride this ride" or something like that.

"i need a girl that can eat" ew.

"i'll probably break your heart" a little too okay with treating people badly, or just has noticed that pattern and refuses to work on it. say it with me: it's not a challenge. it's a warning.

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