#idk society needs to be less weird about nudity

[sparklesmaug]

I genuinely miss porn tumblr but not in a horny way. It was such a positive and supportive space for me, especially being a pre transition trans man, so many people hyped me up and made me feel masculine and handsome even when I didn't feel like my body reflected that. I've been hitting big and little transition milestones and I'm proud and excited about how my body looks but there's just not a space to share it like I used to

[back2themax]

Society (1989) review-

This ain’t about poets honey.

So, I did not see the “from the producer of re-animator” part before and .... The nudity (which, for a movie about a gory orgy cult- is suprisingly less then in re animator?)

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It makes so much sense

I think they really should change the title to “gaslight the movie” as THATS what it really is. So Bill, he’s a rich kid right? He’s doing great in all of his classes, he’s debate team, basket ball team , soon to be school president. His parents are distant, only ever paying his sister attention, his sister is overly perky. He fears everyone in his life, his family, his therapist- everyone closest to him gives him this weird feeling...

Though out the film basically everyone but his close friend is making him think that he’s crazy, he’s paranoid and making stuff up. When he gets evidence the alter it. When he asks questions their concerned about him. Those who speak up are killed, in the end it’s always the same

He’ll make a great contribution to society.

Well society is the rich. The rich do what they have always done, suck the poor dry. In this case, literally! They all melt together and consume people in this slimy , Cronenberg like orgy. It’s also.... weirdly incestual and I still don’t get that part. Like the rest are all like old people, married couples , teens etc. Yet his sister and parents are doing each other... like for fun not even in the huge group they go separate. Maybe the Whitney’s are just into... weirder shit idk. I like the concept it’s actually pretty decent commentary taken very very literally. They also act like rich people the very fake huge smile having thing.

I kinda like how Bill sorta could tell he’s adopted and the twist, is that they literallly brought this kid up and made him a class member in society(literal not the cult) just to cosume him when he’s of age. Which is called shunting  apparently. He’s basically farm raised prime beef(I couldn’t think of a better explanation) which just makes me wonder how they took him as a baby. It’s twisted and dark I love it.

The effects themselves? Brilliant, like it’s slime covered , metly flesh fun like I have to give serious props to the makeup department that is disgusting. Great job sir.

The film succeeds in what it’s trying to do. The whole movie I had that feeling in my stomach, you know the one. That slight paranoia, that worry how you just know something bad is going to happen and you just know they’re fucking with him the whole movie. You genuinely can’t predict what’s going to happen next and I typically can with most movies so I genuinely  appreciate it.

Also it’s unironically funny as shit like they really didn’t need to go as hard as they did

“Now let’s get to the BOTTOM of this” you- you don’t want to know what happens next but you can guess

Just clarissas mom in general is just this huge ass dude with bad makeup and a dress, no reason just is like that

“Mean machine jelly bean” literally 90% of what comes out of clarissas mouth

“Cmon Gumby”

Unironically a great movie

[anik]

i really think “kink” is deeply damaging as a term because it makes the issues people either take with it or take up for it about this nebulous concept of Other Sex but actually i think both that sexual puritanicalism is pointless And that a lot of SPECIFIC kinks are grounded in things that are nightmarish to me. like i’m not anti bizarre sex in the slightest but a lot of the things that are most commonly being referred to when people say kink are things that i think require DEEP examination like bdsm is so rooted in misogyny its actually insane to me. like i think we all need to be way less moralizing about sex so that we can deal with all aspects of it on neutral turf. discussions of Public Sexuality at Pride are almost always straight up pearl clutching homophobia, but also at the first pride i attended when i was 16, a man who was wearing nothing except leather straps and a cock ring asked for a photo with me and i remember the very specific stress of positioning my bag between us so he couldnt put his dick against me, so i also do have Some feelings about this. i don’t think nudity is wrong or necessarily sexual, but i do think care should be taken. but yeah back to my initial point i think the grouping of Kink obscures the point. literally everyone has weird sex things. everyone on the planet. and the demonization of that in the abstract achieves nothing, but a lot of Everyone’s sexuality is tied up in hugely fucked up power dynamics because we are prisms of society and sex in the public conception is so deeply about power, and Extreme sex insofar as it is exaggerating those dynamics is... worth examining on that playing field for what it is, as if sex were not involved at all. i don’t know why the presence of sex makes everything so much more complex but it literally does. and i think that kink discourse is often around some of the more risky ones, rather than there being a lot of extended discourse about the ethicacy of like foot fetishes or being into inflatables, which are arguably more Odd but also far more neutral. idk i’m saying a lot of things and i’m not really paying attention to any of the things i’m saying i’m just drinking a hot chocolate and looking at a cat so take from this what u will

[the-anticlimax-that-is-life]

About me identifying with ‘being asexual’

Hii y'all

This is going to be a personal post/discussion thing..

I guess it would be hard to put what I want to share/say.ask in a decent story, so I will just use bullet points to describe how I feel/what I think about them. 

WHO AM I?

To give you some insight on my current situation, I am 24 and have been happily married for over three years. My partner and I are living together and have been living together for almost five years.

I identify as non-binary, and I do think this is somewhat relevant but I can't fully explain why. Please don't hate me for this, and please don't stop reading because of it; I won't bother you with it any further. :)

I am NOT a native speaker, so please don't judge if I use wrong terminology, thanks. (Also, feel free to ask me to clarify statements if you don't understand what I mean by I certain phrase or word..)

SEXUALITY AND ALL THINGS RELATED:

Before: My partner and I do perform sexual activities every now and then. I generally 'sort of like' the kissing and foreplay part, mostly because of the 'intimacy' part to it, and I also like making him feel good. I very rarely 'really' enjoy it myself, because my mind is just at other places and I simply don't get aroused that easily However, when I drink a fair amount of alcohol, it is sort of easier for me to 'let go' and thus enjoy the things we do a bit more.

During: 'the real thing' is only enjoyable to me very rarely. In general, it just hurts. (Yes, we have tried probably whatever you are going to throw at me..)

After: after 'the real thing' I try 'to finish'- which sometimes works. However, for some reason, whether I succeeded or not on that task.. I feel really, really, really disgusted. It's like, I can sort of 'get myself in the mood' and sometimes enjoy the things we do, but the second my brain kicks in, I am  extremely repulsed and weirded out.

Frequency: I think we 'get it on' once or twice a month, max. I do sometimes 'help him a bit' in the shower, which I don't really mind doing but also does't arouse me or anything.

What does he say about it?: My partner is very caring and never pressures me to do anything. I pressure myself sometimes because I know he likes it and I sort of want to like it but I just can't for some reason. 

PORN,  MASTURBATING AND GENERAL NUDITY:

I do watch (almost all kinds of) porn and I do masturbate. The odd thing is, I just see that as a completely different thing as 'real life sex.' It's more like, idk, just mindlessly doing something out of boredom. It obviously sort of feels good, but not at all to an extend where I could say it would be a problem if I could never do it again. I feel apathetic towards it.

To elaborate on this 'difference,' I also make a lot of dirty jokes throughout the day. I can basically turn anything dirty and laugh about it. (Obviously with no arousal or hidden intend.)

As for real life nudity, I have always had a huge issue with that. I am okay with seeing people in their underwear, but that's about as far as it goes. I really don't like seeing people naked, myself included. 'Mature things' such as body hair make it even worse. (I actually shave myself on a daily basis :x) It is not that I am really triggered by nudity or anything, it just makes me uncomfortable.

HOW THIS HAS DEVELOPED IN TIME:

When I was in my teens, I was curious about sex and all. I have never been squeamish, but I did have an issue with guarding my limits. I have never been raped or physically forced to do things against my will, but I have (to my experience) been emotionally pressured to do things I didn't feel ready for more than once. (To give an example.. One of my exes was a cutter. Obviously, I wanted him not o hurt himself, so I asked if there was anything I could do. And he was like 'the only thing that gives me the same rush is when you make me orgasm....' - Which is complete bullshit btw, I can tell ^^) Probably based on this, the second I would feel someone 'wanting me' for lust rather than intimacy, I completely shut down.

When my partner and I had just moved in together, it was a bit easier for me to 'get in the mood' and enjoy things. I am not sure if this was because it was newer and more exciting (sort of like the way booze can shut the brain) or because of other factors. Still, it was far from 'how it should be' -  'the real thing' most often still hurt quite a fair amount.

In the past years it has been getting worse and worse Maybe because I start to realise it all more and more. In the beginning I felt like I HAD to have sex because 'that's just what people do' and I felt like I HAD to force myself for my partner. (Again, this was not at all caused by my partner, but more by the mindset imprinted by both society and past partners I have had.)

But my problem is.. Now that I am given all the space I need to explore.. I feel less and less attracted to the idea of sex? I mean, ew.

Oof, I could write down so much more but this crappy post is already too damn long. 

Sorry. My main question is: what are your experiences/ideas on the things I have said?