#i'm sticking this under the kerryrants tag because i don't have anything else on this blog to use

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Hi!! Idk if this is any help, but I can talk about my own experience with gender identity and mlm pairings for the previous anon. I'm an afab demigirl (she/they) and, like I said before, this may or may not be any help at all because everyone has a different experience with gender :))

For me, reading fanfic made me more aware of my gender expression because I felt more comfortable reading explicit mlm fics compared to wlw or heterosexual pairings, and I preferred the way mlm fics described physical attraction. When looking into it, I found that was because I didn't feel super comfortable reading about anything regarding the chest area. It made me realize that I didn't just prefer sports bras over regular bras, I was actually feeling slight dysphoria about my chest. Also, mlm fics tend to

Of course, this is just my experience, and there are other reasons why you might enjoy gay pairings more, like how there aren't forced gender roles or stereotypical power dynamics. Another thing that helped me was reading about other peoples' experiences with gender identity on Reddit. I hope this helps!

for you, original anon!

(but also this was very helpful to me! it can definitely be small details vs. the more general “mlm” category that actually help shape your gender identity, and i haven’t considered that.)