#i'm being generous af here kms

[peachblossomsofair]

tbh, I'm so sick of these ships fans. I'm a hard core KM bcs I support them. I do ship yoonmin but its just a ship and frankly speaking, taekook and kookmin supporters are too much to handle. I was on twt when I saw some taekookrs said kookmin was dead and not worth of shipping and those are big accounts too. Then I saw it, how they're digging to the very deep hole when big hit uploaded their photos or bts themselves uploaded it, if tae sat/stand between jk, they'll go wild all days +

+ and said that every moment are taekook moments. these things are actually making me very sick and worried to the point when I got any notification about infos and photos, when i get a glimpse of jk and tk together I will quickly close it. it was so sickening bcs I couldn’t even enjoy the whole shipping stuffs bcs some of them are so obsessive and abusive. I couldn’t enjoy those photos, their choreography, even the gcf anymore bcs they will twist those to make it sounds like their ship +

+ and that was disturbing. I know for the fact that kookmin supporters are chill af whenever those immature taekookrs attacked them but I can’t help but felt down and the need to support kookmin lessen day by day.. bcs bts doesn’t deserve these kind of fans, those are abusive and threatening each other, I got so sick of that +

The point is, i deleted twt and after i post this note, i will delete tumblr too bcs I couldn’t enjoy shipping and supporting ships in bts. I always looking for updates abt kookmin but with the addition of fights between them and taekookrs? I can’t even enjoy looking at their photos without thinking ‘please don’t let any ships fight bcs of this’. I always seek comfort from kookmin bcs I adore, I really love them and I use them as my ticket to get away from my family stuffs that’s so disturbing +

+ but guess after this I won’t embrace all these again and facing those RL problems without a comfort source… I saw something serious abt kookmin but I couldn’t even express it without feeling disturbed by those abusive fans…. Have a nice day, regard from German.

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First of all, if anon can still see this, I am sorry to hear that real life is now hard on you and you are forced to leave your comfort source that is KM too. I do hope things will eventually turn for the better. Fighting.

On the subject of a problematic, perhaps even toxic fandom driving people away, from KM, from BTS, Anon is actually not the first person who expressed such feelings to me. But every time I hear it, I still feel sad that it is the sensible fans that are being driven away.

I myself actually had for a few times considered leaving tumblr too. I actually wrote a post about [here], then another one when I recollected myself [here].

I then later wrote a post on a metaphor, which though was meant for a more specific BTS subject in mind then, also fits the situation now:

I like the colour yellow a lot, and I like clothes that are yellow… but I never buy yellow coloured clothing simply because they tend to attract more bugs than other colours, and I dislike bugs so much that I’d rather simply give up yellow coloured clothing in order to avoid the trouble they bring.

Have you ever experienced similar circumstances or feelings?

And yes, the example of yellow coloured clothing is both literal and metaphorical…

So I think, BTS is now to you a yellow coloured shirt, though you still love it and want to wear it and enjoy it, the bugs it attracts and the trouble it brings give you no other option than to give up the yellow shirt completely.

I guess I am saying, I understand, others feel the same way that you are feeling now; you are not alone in feeling heavily distressed by the fan wars, ship wars and just general toxicity. And if distance helps, I do think you are right, and your own wellbeing is of the utmost importance.

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However, I think it might also be helpful to share with you how I personally deal with the problem, which is basically to ignore the problematic side of the fandom and pretend it does not exist (I don’t use twitter unless it is to search for information), until it very unceremonious intrudes itself upon me and my blog (such as the case of Danny), at which I shall not hesitate to smack it as hard as I can, cause it is the one who is asking to be hit, mocked and ridiculed.

I want to try to build up this blog as a safe space for KM supporters and shippers, our fort (or dock) so to speak, where we try to promote critical thinking, logic and reason, healthy discussion, and learn to be adults, to be respectful to each other and each other’s opinions on issues relating to KM and BTS in general…

Occasionally I will speak on things that I feel is wrong, like over-hyping in the fandom, or how I feel BH could have dealt better with Euphoria, but all subsequent discussions on the posts are to be done in the comment section below or via direct messages to me, as this is a safe space, I will hence not involve the whole of my reader group in a debate in ask/answer form that doesn’t concern the majority of my readership [example here]. And if occasionally, I see facts being twisted, things being intentionally mistranslated, I will also call out or reblog posts that calls out such behaviour, for awareness sake.

So I hope my readers will be able to breathe here. I am sorry that I am not able to do more; I wish things were different and better.

Love, support and best wishes.