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eddis-not-eeddis · 2 months ago

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I keep seeing this thing where guys swear up and down that they want a good Christian girl, but then balk if that means she wants to be anything more than a wife and mother. Like, my guy, you do realize that there's a lot more to Christian women than being married or having babies? Yeah? What about a woman who works among the homeless, or runs a bible study, or volunteers to teach refugees a new language, or who takes part in the prison ministry, or who spends a lot of her spare time in another city street preaching? I see a lot of guys who claim they want "a girl who loves Jesus" but don't want anything to do with a woman who does more than just go to church and lives a life of active ministry outside of her home.

#i overheard the song 'can't have mine' playing and it's making me have some THOUGHTS #XD #ever since deciding to make missions my life work the amount of people going “don't you know you won't be able to get married”#has been baffling #it is so firmly ingrained in the conservative american mind that the ONLY place for a woman is at home with babies #that it is inconceivable for a christian woman to do anything else #secular guys have always thought i was a little crazy because of my faith #but since i had my “”“second work of grace”“”“”“ moment last year and have been getting more active in ministry types of work #even christian guys think i'm nuts #which is disheartening because i would love to get married and have kids #but there's a lot more to the christian life than that #even as a woman #and apparently that's too much for most “christian” men #and maybe some of this is bitterness #but mostly i'm just tired #the box for christian women is so small sometimes in my area of the world #and it often feels like they think i'm not a real person #which i expect from non-believers #but not from other christians #I keep being told “in japan you will be an outlier” but it makes me laugh because i'm already that here #i'm a single christian woman whose goal isn't simply to get married and have kids #which means i am nothing and nobody in the eyes of the evangelical church

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