#i’m a bisexual with a hatred towards men

[meganwinchester]

there’s just something about those long haired men…

[kitteneddiediaz]

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[babydarkstar]

You, in combination with a mutual of mine I've been talking to recently, got me into TLT.

Also you have impeccable taste in cute animal pictures. ALSO your open desire for other women (specifically butches) is deeply inspiring to me, as someone who spent my early years kind of afraid of my own same-sex attraction (scared of being socially ostracised and seen as predatory), and deliberately isolating myself from other lesbian and bisexual girls and women irl because of that.

You're really cool is what I'm saying and I'm glad I found your blog :) I hope you have a wonderful weekend.

(This is in response to that "send me anonymous opinions on my blog" post you reblogged)

omgg anon!!! this is SO sweet, thank you for the kind message 💖💖💖💖i love tlt and it’s always on my mind. im a griddlehark butchfemme truther til death tbh, tho i know that’s not the most popular interpretation of them. just something about being a lock and a key, a sword and a shield, a bomb and a throne, a tombkeeper and the entombed. if i think about them too much i explode.

i also struggled with a lot of shame regarding my attraction to women, including massive amounts of internalized homophobia and self hatred. but after all of that and after coming to terms with who i am, it honestly feels so liberating to be able to express it now and in a way where other women can see it and share their joy and love. i have a deep, deep fondness for butch women and part of my openness about it stems from the suppression of my desire for them for all these years. it feels good to know so surely that i’m attracted to the female body and that i have a place among those who are attracted to mine. masculine lesbians in particular receive an overwhelming amount of disrespect both in the way that society scorns their gender nonconformity and the way they love. men sexualize them because they see them as a pet project that ‘hasn’t had the right man yet’, and heterosexual women often refuse to associate with them; their mothers refuse to accept who they are, scandalized at the idea that their little girl could be something they deem so undesirable to our wider society. as a femme it is incredibly important to me that i extend my warmth and acceptance toward butches who don’t always get to have Warm and Fuzzy—i want them to feel desired, i want them to feel loved, and i want them to know there is a home for them in me, or at least in the part of me that contributes to lesbian camaraderie/solidarity. i love butches—they are the most beautiful women in the world.

[menalez]

What's your opinion on this as a lesbian https://www.tumblr.com/watermelinoe/723599331891019776/i-get-the-mistrust-i-see-how-homophobic-bi-people?source=share ?

i disagree ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ homophobia as a term acknowledges why bi people face for example higher rates of IPV in their opposite sex relationships, and at the end of the day we can see how the term biphobia is typically used. it’s often used to talk about interpersonal prejudices. the group that faces significantly higher rates of poverty are bisexual women, bisexual men face similar poverty rates to lesbians. when you look at mental health issues in bisexuals, it also relates to facing homophobia from one’s heterosexual partner:

i don’t think acknowledging bisexuals face a form of homophobia (not exactly the same as gay people but still homophobia nonetheless) somehow “cheapens homophobia”, frankly i think it shows that even if your relationships are socially accepted, homophobia can still impact your life because your relationship being accepted doesn’t mean you’re accepted within your relationship. it also often means that to get better treatment, you need to be closeted which, rejecting your same sex attraction isn’t good for anyone’s mental health.

at the end of the day biphobia has been, as a term, directly used to argue gay ppl oppress bi people and that bi people face stuff like the “double closet” and “double oppression”.. this is not something i imagined because i’m so mad at op and bisexuals for talking about their oppression, it’s something bisexuals & bisexual organisations have argued and pushed for. and i don’t see any reason why homophobia isn’t a good enough term to describe what bisexuals experience nor do i think it means they’re “functionally part-time homosexuals” because i don’t think you have to be homosexual to experience hatred towards u being same-sex attracted. so. i just disagree tbh

[pokeheros-drama]

Forgive me if the images aren’t on the post. They’re attached below as a redundancy. All I’m going to say is our newest social pariah needs a lesson in handling conflict. Cath here, the screenshots are mine as proof it’s me.

I love that you comment toxic misinformation on my feed, tell me my facts are opinions, and to “ha e a great day!” And then I’m blocked? With no preamble? I can see your feeds still. There are screenshots here on the drama blog. I don’t live under a rock: I know what you said. I’m just glad that their are other people to call you out too.

So Bretty: stop. Just shut up. Quit while you’re ahead. Your excuses don’t work on me. I come from a devout catholic family. I know the mixed messages from religion first-hand. I was raised on the fact that “boys can’t marry boys” was an unspoken principle, girls marry and serve their husbands. Many people in my life make you look like a rainbow warrior. It’s the type of thing that I don’t know how much of my family will react if I come out to them, so… I don’t. It’s my personal choice. I hear them make comments, and have to smile and nod, because I don’t know what they say. They intrude on my safe space and cite religion when they can.

But anonymously, online, I do everything I can to make sure people can have a safe space. I don’t need to take your fucking bigotedness. So here’s your bullshit, debunked.

1. Bisexuality is not just a Phase. This myth comes from people in the process of finding their sexuality that have a bisexual experience, even though they are not bisexual. It’s okay to experiment, as long as you set healthy expectations with your potential partner(s). In bisexuality, the physical and emotional attraction is more important than gender and, because of this, bisexuals choose to not limit themselves to either men or women.

2. Bisexual People are not just confused. As I stated before, preference is a thing. Some bisexuals choose to “lean straight,” meaning they generally prefer members of the opposite sex, while same-sex partners are still an options. Other bisexuals can “lean gay,” where they prefer members of the same sex but opposite gender relationships can still be an option. This is a matter of personal choice and has nothing to do with confusion.

3. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to be bisexual. Ohmygosh, you have bi friends in heterosexual relationships! “We have an understanding,” you said. “I’m fine with them,” you said. “I have no problem with bisexual people,” you said, with a caveat you didn’t even realize attached to the end. So are they doing it right and the rest of the LGBTQIA+ community is doing it wrong? People live their truth. It’s not your right to judge it.

Let’s define your viewpoints so you know the severity of your words. Homophobia, or heterosexism, is the assumption that people should be, or are, heterosexual. (Medical News Today) It is the fear, mistrust, hatred, or discomfort toward those who experience same-sex attraction. (Planned Parenthood). It can also take many different forms, ranging from the use of negative and offensive language, to more extreme forms, including bullying, abuse, and physical violence. A person may exhibit homophobic tendencies or thoughts due to their upbringing or conservative religious beliefs. That does not excuse said beliefs. Experiencing discrimination in any setting can have a huge impact on a person’s health.

Every website I have visited says something along the lines of “People can also speak out when they witness homophobia/heterosexism, for example, when a person makes an offensive joke or bullies others.”

Just try for five seconds to imagine a world where you’re wrong. Please. I haven’t even blocked you back yet if you want to talk. Message me. I’m still willing to hear you out. I’m willing to teach, provided you’re willing to listen.

As always, my palpad is open for all who take offense with my words. (Sorry blog owner, it’s another Cath essay!)

Images:https://ibb.co/JnPBGh7https://ibb.co/hHvD3Bqhttps://ibb.co/TwPrmxvhttps://ibb.co/47V6FMLhttps://ibb.co/wC7F71p

Sources:https://www.healthyplace.com/gender/bisexual/top-myths-about-bisexualityhttps://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/homophobiahttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-decisions/201405/3-myths-about-bisexuality-debunked-sciencehttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-things-lgbtq/201712/the-dangers-homophobia

Mod edit; For some reason, the links all go to the same thing. If you reblog this with the sources fixed, I’ll reblog it.

[rustedskyprisms]

So um, my sister is bisexual, but her boyfriend is pretty homophobic. It’s a long story as to “why” he’s like that and I’m not going to get into it. But…we were on the subject of the lgbt community and she’s telling me she feels trapped, like she wonders if she’s being her authentic self. And how she feels like because of him she’s become homophobic (particularly towards gay men) and that she was never, ever that way before. And yeah, I don’t really remember her being like that when we were younger. All I said was basically, I’m not gonna tell you what to do, but I can say as someone who has dealt with self-hatred for years due to sexual orientation/gender stuff, it’s not gonna end well.

[somecunt]

I’ve dissembled my lesbophobia, my misogyny, and my femmephobia.

I’ve carried a fear of being attracted to women, for a long time. I have a lot of anxiety surrounding attraction to women. Whenever I’d see a nude woman in a sexual context I’d become disgusted. This is partially due to it being very normalized for gay cis men to find women’s bodies, and objects associated with women’s bodies repulsive.

I’m working on it definitely. I didn’t value the relationships of wlw or wlnb/nblw or lesbians,sapphics and related attractions.

I used to have a, “not like other girls” mindset, yeah sure I’m ftm and I was in fact “not like other girls” but I leaned into misogyny heavily to distance myself for girls/women, and femininity in girls/women. some of my hatred of female bodies may also come from my need to not be in association with girls/women.

This could be misinterpreted for me as an trans male coming in to scold cis gay males for their “inherent attraction to male bodies and repugnance towards female bodies”, being a gay man isn’t synonymous with hating vaginas, breasts, and loving dick. I’m firmly attracted to nonwomen, and I like breasts, and vaginas, I like penis as well, but in terms of men I do have a preference toward vaginas, nonbinary people, no preference.

In the way I interpret sexuality, what I believe determines it is what are you thinking behind it. regardless of your partner if you’re intimate with them because you’re perceiving their body within womanhood, then you’re probably attracted to women, if you’re partner doesn’t perceive themselves that way, that’s an issue. there’s other things that affect this, like are you forcing yourself to perceive their body in some sort of way to prevent you from facing the reality that you’re one way. I think forcing, and widening your perspective is different.

We’ve been taught that penises, are male genitalia, they’re don’t have to be, they’re penises at their core, and they’re attached to many types of people, trans/cis men, fem/masc/neutral aligned people, trans/cis women. It’s understandable that you categorize penises as male because you were raised in a society where that’s the norm. Seeing more women and non-men with penises while genuinely recognizing them as women, and nonbinary can aid in expanding that view. You don’t need to sleep with anyone you don’t want to, but placing their body into a category of disgust is wrong.

Women’s bodies are beautiful, although I’m not attracted to them sexually, aesthetically all bodies carry their own intense beauty.

Some people don’t even weigh gender presentation, gender identity, or genitalia in their attraction to people, which I guess would be called pansexuality, although plenty of bisexual people also feel this way about their attraction. This doesn’t mean pansexual people can’t have these same issues of perceiving all bodies afab as women’s bodies, and all bodies amab as men’s bodies.

[woofdrm]

hi you've been talking on twitter about how people are biphobic towards dream but hes not bi is he? so im a bit confused.

Sure thing anon. Firstly: biphobic rhetoric can be used to attack anybody, regardless of their sexuality. But with Dream in particular (and I’m being very specific with how I word this, because I don’t want to be misunderstood) while he does not use the bisexual label, he does fall under the bisexual UMBRELLA of multispec attraction. And because of this, he is particularly targeted with biphobic rhetoric.

I’ll compare him to Ranboo to illustrate this. So both Ranboo and Dream came out as queer on twitter around the same time, and both said they were not using labels. Ranboo however, said that they were okay with the label "gay" and tended to be attracted to a certain type of person (men, as I understood it). Dream meanwhile is very adamant on not using the gay label, and always expresses his attraction for both men and women when discussing his queerness.

It is because of this (Dream's attraction to both men and women) that allegations of queerbaiting, faking queerness, and claims that he is too vague in describing his sexuality, are leveled at Dream, but not at Ranboo. This is why people demand that Dream provide labels, or "prove" his queerness. This is why people claim he can't face discrimination, as he's "straight passing". This is why people claim that he's lying about his sexuality. This is why people say he's not actually queer. This is why people refuse to take him at his word when he describes his queerness. It's all due to biphobia (and hatred of Dream, and the utilization of conservative rhetoric, but that's for another post).

Also, the fandom does this too, just in the opposite direction. I've seen so many people, in their efforts to embrace Dream's attraction of men, completely ignore his attraction for women. In their attempt to embrace his queerness they actually erase his true queer identity, which is one where he is attracted to both men and women. People say things like "Dream is a HOMOSEXUAL" or "Dream is a GAY MAN" when neither are true. People use the term "gay" to describe Dream, hiding under the guise of it being an umbrella term despite Dream making it very clear that it is not a label he accepts for himself. Many antis erase Dream's attraction to men because of biphobia, but many fans erase his attraction to women for the same reason.

Anyway, tldr; People utilize all sorts of biphobic rhetoric as the main way to attack Dream's queer identity, and this is why it is appropriate to describe much of the queerphobia he faces as being specifically biphobia.

[marigoldwitch]

trigger warning: homophobic remarks

I’ve spent all morning reading comments and DMs on Twitter from people (mostly men) insulting me. I try to remain respectful and not engage in childish behavior towards them but it’s difficult when people are specifically targeting you.

I even had some man make one of those lists on Twitter (I honestly don’t know how it works but I’ll share a screenshot) where he targets just me and calls me a “dumb bird bitch.” Idk what that means, unless it’s a reference to the whole “this stupid bird app” thing. Idk.

Someone insinuated that I’m a gr**mer because I’m bisexual (or maybe because they think I’m a lesbian). Another person made fun of me because I’m neurodivergent. And another because I’m a witch.

Btw, this is what I said: *i’m sarahthevampyrslayer*

There’s even worse crap in that thread.

I just hope these people find some peace one day. I hope hatred doesn’t control them one day. I also hope they get out and experience real life, away from the internet. I hope they learn how to treat people with kindness and empathy.

[dootiexcupcake]

Hola hope you’re well! Just a lil question I have: you said you’re a Jehovahs Whiteness, and as someone who was raised as one, I was wondering how you feel about queer people? Cause I know they/y’all have ahem beliefs about that. And how Jehovahs Whiteness’s view it as wrong. Lol at first a thought it might’ve been a joke cause I believe you write smut and I just saw a post where you reblogged something with a curse word in it. Both of which things I know aren’t supposed to be things you do in that religion. Hope this doesn’t offend you in any way. Just wondering what you believe on these matters before I interact with your blog. Personally I still view myself as a Christian. Just not a JW anymore because of those beliefs

Hey hey! Thx for the ask and no I’m not at all offended by ur question(s) at all 😁. Regarding my views on queer ppl, 1 Peter 2: 17 says to “Honor men of all sorts [and to] have love for the whole association of brothers,” so I do not have any hatred or phobia towards queer people and I’m very respectful to them as well. As a matter of fact one of my best friends is bisexual and she’s like a sister to me! So if you want to interact with my blog I have absolutely no issue with that ^_^! And as for me writing smut uhh, I don’t write smut 😅? I write “suggestive” stuff from time to time (like PG-13 stuff) but writing full on porn (mature/18+) is a hard no for me lol. And with me rebloging smth with a curse word in it, I myself do not swear at all but that doesn’t mean I can filter out every single thing I see and hear so sometimes there will be a curse word in it and that’s just how it is unfortunately 🤷🏾‍♀️. If you have questions about anything else feel free to dm me I don’t mind 🖤

[alrightsnaps]

This is probably weird to say but I am so thankful for your blog. As a bisexual woman with anger issues (which I’m getting help for!) it’s been tough going on social media recently because I can so easily imagine myself in a similar situation to Amber and this whole thing is like a massive reminder that if I ever came forward this is how they’d react because I’m not a “good victim”. The real slap in the face was seeing Amber’s bisexuality weaponised against when she allegedly had a threesome with Cara Delevingne and Elon Musk, as if that isn’t the oldest bi stereotype in the book, and people believed it. So to see a blog like yours, consistently defending her and providing sources no matter how horrible the depp stans get, makes me feel a little less lonely, and that if I came forward there might be someone who’d believe me. So yeah, sorry for dumping this on you but you should know the impact you have for people like me <3

So happy to have a bisexual woman in my inbox! sending the warmest wishes your way anon! 💖

This trial has been so tough to watch for so many women (especially DV victims). The public response and unhinged vitriol towards Amber Heard, the insane... I'm still trying to process the fact that this is really happening not 5 years after MeToo. My heart just goes to abused women every time I read all the comments demonizing a woman for using violence against her abuser, because the reactions to this trial have really shed a light on how little support victims will receive from their environment and ultimately encourage them to stay silent. I cannot stress this enough and idgaf about that asshole's stans flooding my inbox: abused women using reactive violence does NOT make them abusers nor does it make their abuser a victim. That's DARVO and it's straight out of an abuser's textbook. The fact that so many women are running with it and trying to turn Depp into some poster child of men abused by women is just disturbing. It makes me feel hopeless for the future because this trial will set a precedent both legally (Marilyn Manson has already filed a defamation lawsuit against Evan Rachel Wood so watch the public rip her to shreds as well in a while) and on a social level.

It solidifies the gaslighting abused women everywhere already suffer. The only good victim is the dead victim. And even then, their abuser will find a way to smear their name.

And the whole thing definitely hits harder if you're a bisexual woman given our demographic's increased risk of intimate partner abuse. The homophobic abuse Amber suffered by Depp during their relationship is sickening enough, seeing so many comments specifically targeting her because of her bisexuality (I've seen some similar comments about Evan Rachel Wood too) and trying to paint her as the abuser of the uwu pure powerful white man who talked about raping and burning her corpse? It makes me sick to my stomach.

I've legitimately never seen people treat actual Hollywood pedos and rapists with half the amount of demented hatred they're directing at Amber and that's a message to women everywhere. MRAs must be having the time of their lives.

[tressasinterlude]

𝐑𝐀𝐍𝐓 #𝟑: Female Public Figures Dating Men with Questionable Views That Contradict Their Image & Alleged Politics

𝗗𝗜𝗦𝗖𝗟𝗔𝗜𝗠𝗘𝗥: These rant blog posts are really just reflective of my thoughts at the time that I make them and are posted here because I need an outlet to release all of this shit I have going on my busy ass mind. That’s it and that’s all. Now let’s get into it..

This rant was greatly inspired by none other than Ms. Robyn Rihanna “Tell Your Faves To Pull Up [in regards to social injustices directly affecting black people]” Fenty and her openly colorist boyfriend, A$AP Rocky. Aside from the fact that Rihanna tends to slip under the radar and is never held accountable for her problematic ways due to her conventional beauty (i.e. Her heavy usage of anti-Asian slurs, particularly targeted towards Chris Brown’s ex gf, Karrueche), it’s very alarming that a woman who has an entire makeup brand with a campaign based around the inclusivity of ALL black women is publicly flaunting a beau who once said that DSBW do not look good with red lipstick.

And yes, I’m very much aware that Rakim said this tasteless comment over 8 years ago but from the looks of it, not much has really changed with him. Don’t @ me about it neither because I don’t care.

Also peep how he compares a hypothetical darkskinned woman to a man (Wesley Snipes) while trying to explain how his antiblackness isn’t wrong because he said something about white women as well. Gaslighting at its finest. Don’t you just love it! 😀

Furthermore, you would think that somebody of Rihanna’s level of stature would know not to associate themselves with someone as messy as A$AP Rocky but... Stupid is what stupid does, I guess! I can’t even begin to place the blame on him anymore because he’s revealed his true colors and we all have made the deliberate choice to either accept it or don’t and have discontinued all support for him. Unfortunately, misogynoir is never the dealbreaker for most people and the hatred for [dark-skinned] black women is so engrained in society that it’s frowned upon when we publicly speak out against it. Very ass backwards if you ask me but that’s society for you. Now, enough about that. Let’s focus back on Ms. Vita La Coco.

As a woman who claims to be a girl’s girl and is always presenting herself to be someone who is the epitome of a pro-black feminist bad ass, it just makes her alleged activism come off so disingenuous when she’s also laying down with the same man that actively attacks the demographic she’s supposed to be standing in solidarity with. It’s “Black Lives Matter” on the IG posts but your vagina is getting moist for a man who openly stated he doesn’t relate to what goes on in Ferguson because he lives in Soho & Beverly Hills. Ferguson being the exact place where a 17-year-old black boy’s lifeless corpse laid on the hot concrete for FOUR hours after he was murdered by a police officer. He couldn’t 'relate' to the fate of so many black men, women, and children who are murdered or seriously injured from state-sanctioned violence because they’re poor and he is not or so he thought.

But then again, what can I really expect from a woman who identified as being “biracial” until as recent as roughly 6 years ago? What can I really expect from a woman who called Rachel Dolezal a ‘hero’ for cosplaying as a black woman? I’d be lying if I said my expectations for her were high in this regard because sis has always shown us she was lacking in this department. And just for the record, this is not a personal attack on Rihanna at all for the die-hard Navy stans in the back. I admire her latest fashions and bop my head to her music just like the next person but she’s getting the side-eye from me on this one.

Trust and believe me though, she’s not the only woman who I can call out for being a hypocrite. Of course not! This stone can be cast at a few others. So without further ado, why don’t we bring Ms. Kehlani Parrish to the front of the congregation? Prior to Kehlani’s recent declaration of identifying as a lesbian, her last public relationship with a man was with YG. Yes, the same YG who felt it was necessary to say him & Nipsey had ‘pretty light-skinned’ daughters to raise in the middle of his deceased friend’s memorial. By the way, Nipsey’s daughter is not even light (or at least not in my book anyways.) She’s a very deep caramel tone just like her father which makes what he said even more moronic. Yes, the same YG who thought it was clever idea to use slavery as an aesthetic for a music video to a diss track about 6ix9ine. And yes, also the same YG who has derogatory lyrics targeted at bisexual women. Just to end up sweating the red carpets with one. I swear the jokes just continue to write themselves.

This raises the question once more; How high of a pedestal can I really put a multiracial woman who has a song titled ‘N*ggas’ and when received backlash for the song in question, she used the ultimate ‘I’m mixed’ copout while not having a visibly black parent in sight?

It’s also kind of suspicious to me that many were not privy to Kehlani’s secret romance with Victoria Monét (pictured bottom right) until Victoria did an interview with Gay Times revealing she fell in love with a girl but they subsequently broke up because Victoria had a boyfriend and that girl was pregnant in a polyamorous relationship. Fans began to speculate because both Victoria & Kehlani previously candidly spoke about their sexual orientations, Kehlani had just had Adeya and they both were seemingly close. Their short-lived fling would later be confirmed when Victoria released the song ‘Touch Me’ on her last project and Kehlani hopped on the remix. Meanwhile, Kehlani’s relationship with Shaina (pictured bottom left) was very overt and all over her Instagram feed from my recollection. And as you can see, Shaina looks absolutely nothing like Victoria. They look like the complete opposite of eachother in every aspect which is kind of alarming(?) to say the least because why is it that the women she proudly claims as her partners tend to have a very racially ambiguous look such as herself but her ‘sneaky links’ on the other hand are undoubtedly black women? Again, it could just be me jumping conclusions. You know, I’m kinda good for that however something tells me I’m not. Y’all be the judge of the material though.

Last but not least, I’d like to touch on Ms. Raven Tracy very briefly. I was very weary about even including in this segment and if I should just put her in a entirely separate blog post with other women who openly date abusers despite their checkered past (alongside Nicki Minaj & her r*pist murderer of a husband, India Love & Sheck Wes etc.) being this particular blog post was based around the theme of lightskinned/mixed women dating men with extremely problematic views about DSBW. Raven obviously isn’t lightskinned or mixed however I refused to ignore how contradictory her [former] relationship with an alleged (I used this word very loosely and mainly for legality purposes.) serial r*pist while promoting a brand that is all about feminism & body positivity. This also traces back to A$AP Rocky by default being that Ian Connor is his very close friend and he came to Connor’s defense when several women came forward detailing accounts of Connor allegedly s*xually assaulting them. (I wish I could place the actual video of what A$AP Rocky said verbatim but Tumblr only allows one video per blog post. 🙄)

Back in June of this year, Ian & Raven had a back & forth on Twitter after Ian tweeted about Raven “fucking everybody” behind his back. I can only assume that he was alluding to Tori Brixx posting a video of her ex, Rich the Kid & Raven kissing on her story. Disgusted is not even the word to describe my feeling when she admitted she stuck by Ian despite of his many allegations of s*xual abuse because she loved him and her being a empath causes her to want to help everybody. Imagine aiding and abetting a predator and even paying for his bail & legal fees just to turn around and expect sympathy because this same individual cheated on you and exploited you all over Twitter for the public to see. The same man that you would get back with not even a WEEK after the fact & turn off your IG comments because it isn’t our “business” after making it our business...

That being said, I just genuinely want to know: Why do these women completely go against what they stand for in regards to these men? Maybe it was never genuine from jump street and if that’s the case, why jump on the bandwagon of performative activism? Is it because it’s profitable right now? Is it because disrespecting black women is not an immediate death sentence to your careers and more often than not actually helps you advance even further? I guess that’s the billion dollar question that’ll never truly be answered. I just want the world to stop using black women as their stepping stool to get to where they need to go and then discarding of us when we’re no longer beneficial. Support us all the way or don’t support us at all. We deal with enough disrespect as is so we’d appreciate if y’all would stop straddling the fence and partake in your misogynoir out loud if that’s what you choose to do. We have no use for fake allyship and quite frankly, it’s doing more harm for us than good. Please and thank you!

Sincerely,

- 𝙼𝙸𝚂𝚂 𝙴𝙳𝙶𝙰𝚁 𝙰𝙻𝙻𝙴𝙽 𝙷𝙾𝙴. 💋

[lily-radiance]

Sangwoo x Female Police Reader: Masterlist

Summary:

Imagine what it’s like to grow close to a cold-hearted killer, a creature of the night who takes pleasure from pain. What happens when your childhood best friend and someone you know you love much more than friends becomes the maniac taunting Korea? What will happen when you go looking for an old acquaintance only to be met with dead ends? Will you work with the cop who may lock your friend away, or stay ignorant?

Trigger Warnings and other info: mentions of blood, gore, abuse, suicidal thoughts or tendencies, anxiety, depression, attempted sexual assault, questioning of sexuality discovery(I’ll say queer but leaning towards bisexual), afab reader, suggestive content like alluding to sex, light sexual encounters, mentions of alcohol, murder, mature language.

NO SMUT

- NO HATRED OR SHAMING WILL BE ALLOWED, IF I SEE IT I BLOCK IT

Chapter List:

Chapter 1 (Rough Detective by The Dead Weather)

The chase begins as the various detectives of the police station scan the clues presented. If only you weren’t one of the officers, maybe you could catch a break. After everything you’ve been through, being friends with a killer wasn’t on your itinerary.

You’re an unusual suspect now and may be right/The kind all men cannot recollect or forget at night/You’re the rough detective with the smokey eye/Where the person you are after is the other guy

Chapter 2(I’m Happy Just To Dance With You by The Beatles)

As long as you’re with him what do you have to worry about? Forget the monstrous boyfriend. Forget the coworker you slept with. Forget the missing friend. Forget the overbearing mother. Just remember his name and the memories attached to him, because the rest are insignificant.

Just to dance with you/Is everything I need/Before this dance is through/I think I’ll love you, too/I’m so happy when you dance with me

Chapter 3(Heads Will Roll by The Yeah Yeah Yeah’s)

Everyone is afraid of something, and that rings truest for the townspeople of Korea. Lock your doors, get your weapons ready, and prepare for the world to end.

The men cry out the girls cry out/The men cry out, oh no/Oh oh! Oh!/Oh oh! Oh!/Off, off with your head/Dance, dance til you’re dead (dead)/Heads will roll/Heads will roll/Heads will roll/On the floor

Chapter 4(I’m Not A Vampire by Falling In Reverse)

The exhaustion is almost too much to bear as the conversations get harder, but it’s the price you pay of being friends with a monster. After all the scariest monsters are the ones with human faces.

Well, I can lure any woman that I want to in my bed/With me/And whiskey seems to be my holy water/Mothers better lock your doors/And hide your daughters/I’m insane/Well, I can feel it in my bones/Coursing through my veins/When did I become so cold?

Chapter 5(Edelweiss by Richard Rogers from The Sound Of Music)

Even now his voice remains your calming beacon, singing you to bliss as you wait in that unfavorable hospital bed. If only you knew the horrors that left those vocal chords every other night….

Edelweiss, Edelweiss/Every morning you greet me/Small and white, clean and bright/You look happy to meet me/Blossom of snow, may you bloom and grow/Bloom and grow forever/Edelweiss, Edelweiss

Chapter 6(Keep Driving by Harry Styles)

When did ignorance become easier and honesty the toughest pill to swallow?

Maple syrup/Coffee, pancakes for two/Hash brown, egg yolk/I will always love you/A small concern with how the engine sounds/We held darkness in withheld clouds/I would ask, “Should we just keep driving?”/Should we just keep driving?/Passports in foot wells/Kiss her and don’t tell’s/Wine glass, puff pass/Tea with cyborgs/Riot America/Science and Edibles

Chapter 7: So Sad, So Sad by Varsity

Your partner at the station is beginning to realize she may not be what you’re looking for in a lover. But how could you deny her a chance and blatantly ignore all the good qualities she offers? Is your new infatuation really that big a deal? Maybe you’re just overlooking everything that deems him a threat?

So sad, so sad/I could never make you stay/Too bad, too bad/I could never walk away/So sad, so sad/I reply upon cliche/To help me explain/Why I will never be the same/Trying to be a perfect circle/Neat just like I take my drinks/A crumb upon my plate leads to a week of crying streaks/I could never walk away…/I could never make you stay

Chapter 8: Real by Lily Kincade ( WIP)

Yura has to confront you on this, had to know why you’re continuing to ignore her, to avoid her, to continue living in that godforsaken apartment. She’s lost in denial, unaware that as her misery grows, someone else’s pride expands.

I remember driving through the canyon with the windows down/Couldn’t help but smile when we were talking/I remember thinking now there’s no way out/My head was in the clouds yeah, I was falling/I remember calling my friends and telling them all about you/Thinking you could be the one thank god i found you but/Maybe you’re right we weren’t enough/And you can tell everyone you know you’re so glad it’s over/That you were never in deep enough to/Need closure, but don’t pretend you hated us/You can say that you don’t feel the way you used to feel/But don’t say it wasn’t real/Real love/Don’t say it wasn’t real

Chapter 9: Teeth by Lady Gaga (Suggestive!)(WIP)

The tension between you and him has grown past the breaking point. You need to prove once and for all that Yura is just a memory of the past, and prove to yourself that you are finally about to be with the guy you’ve chased for so long.

Don’t want no money (Want your money)/That shit’s ugly/Just want your sex (Want your sex)/Take a bite of my bad girl meat (Bad girl meat; take a bite of me)/Show me your teeth (Let me see your mean)/Got no direction (No direction; I need direction)/Just got my vamp (Got my vamp; uh-uh)/Take a bite of my bad girl meat (Bad girl meat; oh, take a bite of me, boy)/Show me your teeth (The truth is sexy)/ Tell me something that’ll change me/I’m gona love you with my hands tied/Show me your teeth (Just tell me when)/Show me your teeth (Open your mouth, boy)/Show me your teeth (Show me what you got)/Show me your teeth, your teeth, teeth, teeth.

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

what do you think about bi/pan/mspec lesbians and bi/pan/mspec lesbian exclusionists? i've been seeing them on twitter recently and i dont feel so good abt it (i mean the exclusionists ones)

I support mspec lesbians and they are 100% welcome on my blog.

Exclusionists? I don’t particularly like them tbh. Like mspec lesbian exclus can stay on my blog but you’re on thin fucking ice and if you start discourse I’ll block you and the only reason I’m saying this is because I know a lot of exclus who became inclusionists after being in more inclusive spaces.

Tbh I think the community has bigger issues than someone calling themselves a bisexual lesbian. Like if that’s a label they feel comfy with, okay, that’s awesome! Why am I supppsed to hate them? Now exclusionists why don’t we focus all that energy spent bullying people online towards accessible HRT?

I don’t know, I just. I don’t know. Like. 

What’s the use? 

What’s the use of directing all your vitriol and hatred towards queer people when the cishets are the ones making it harder for us to live as we are? Why shit on someone using the SAM when trans kids are being kicked out of their homes? 

Why hate someone using “contradictory” labels when gay kids are being sent to conversion therapy? Why bully someone for using the labels they feel fits best when HRT is being made more and more inaccessible? Why spend all your time on Twitter yelling at people for using labels you don’t like when kids are being told there’s something wrong with them and they should hide who they are?

I don’t know, mate. Like, the community’s being torn apart from the inside out when the thing we need to do right now is stick together, when we should support each other for our right to live as we are and marry and be happy, people online are screaming at each other for defining themselves in a way that isn’t palatable. 

So if a person wants to call themselves a pansexual lesbian, that’s awesome! I’ll support them all the way. Because other queer people aren’t the enemy. 

We’re just living as we are. 

It’s not the fault of other queer people that the world is the way it is, it’s the fault of transphobia and homophobia. Which is perpuated by cishets. Not other queer people.

It’s not the fault of a trans person that a cis person thinks everyone who’s gnc is trans, that’s the fault of cis people being cisnormative and enforcing gender roles. It’s not the fault of a bi lesbian that men think they’re entitled to lesbians, that’s just them being misogynistic and lesbophobic shitheads. 

Other queer people aren’t the enemy and the time we need to stick together the most isn’t the time we should be tearing each other down.

Anyways I sorta went on a whole rant because I hate exclusionists with a passion, especially for what they’ve done to our community. But yes, I 100% support mspec lesbians no matter their “contradictory” labels because they’re literally just using the labels that make them feel the most comfortable. As a bi man I’ll forever support my mspec lesbian sisters, y’all are welcome here.

don’t start discourse on this post, you will be blocked on sight. fuck off.

[headspace-hotel]

I went through the notes of the posts that have gotten the TERFs mad at me to do some systematic blocking and it was the most depressing experience in a couple months I need to play minecraft or smth to get my mind off all that.

like as ive said before I’ve gone through their tags and all the “resources” they send people to try to convert them or whatever and there are always the “nice” and “respectable” ones that make posts about how TERFs actually aren’t evil and really they’re just well-meaning people who empathize with trans people and just want to help them be less constrained by the construct of gender or whatever, and literally right next to those people, reblogging the same posts, posting in the same tags, are just the most abhorrently hate-filled people you’ve ever seen.

hating men and trans people is expected from them, but TERFs post about hating addicts, hating the mentally ill, hating bisexuals and asexuals and pansexuals, hating anyone who is slightly “weird” or a “nerd,” and hating women who disagree with them. They body-shame and mock the idea of ableism. They talk sometimes about having violent fantasies against the main objects of their hatred. As I read these blogs, I try to imagine the internal state of someone like this. I think many who are bigots compartmentalize, dehumanizing the people they hate, and separating themselves from their hatred, thinking of it as something different than hatred. But I see these people just...openly boiling with vitriol for every category of people they deem somehow aberrant or socially unfit, and I struggle to understand how their internal lives must work. I don’t know how you live that way. I can’t imagine having this kind of mental landscape and still maintaining an outward persona that’s possible to coexist with as a friend or family member.

And usually, these people have very calm pastel blog themes and post lots of pretty “aesthetic” photographs, and reply to messages from other “radfems” with this very sweet, supportive, nice tone, and it creates this kind of eerie poisonousness that makes you want to forget that this terrible side of the internet exists.

I’m just very struck by how all these blogs seem to have a much higher incidence of hateful attitudes toward a variety of people, regardless of their relevance to gender. I saw, for the first time today, someone arguing in the wild that audiobooks aren’t reading. In the tags they were mockingly referencing the idea of someone accusing them of “hating blind people.” No one calls out or criticizes such things in these communities. What a disturbing enclave.

[nebulaniggatry]

im sorry this is long, you can delete if you want, but i dont quite know where or how to ask this question and i figure this is a better bet than most wlw blogs on this site. but do any other bi women just feel SUPER unwelcome around a lot of lesbians lately???? this has happened to me in a couple different groups within the past few months, i start getting along great with a group of gay women, and then as soon as i mention im bi and not a lesbian its like they get disappointed and quietly try to shove me away. the energy just automatically changes. instead of everything being abt loving women, suddenly its all abt their hatred for men. plus, a week ago, i almost got kicked out of a group chat because someone accused me of being a "bi lesbian" (i dont even know how that would work or where they got that idea) and everyone freaked out and started saying i hate lesbians and want them to get r*ped by my boyfriend?? i did correct them and explain i dont even date men, but i ended up leaving the group anyway very soon after bc they didnt apologize or anything, they just stayed distant. i hope im just being dramatic, or getting unlucky, but has anyone else been dealing with this kinda stuff??? i get so much anxiety talking to other wlw now, and it hurts a lot. ive cried over it a couple times now so i guess im looking for some kind of support or advice.

Hey. You’re most likely not alone in that, but from my experience it definitely depends on the environment and where you’re meeting people. I’ve vented before on here that I’ve told a gay person, who previously thought I was gay, that I was bisexual, and I could physically see the light die from their eyes with disappointment lol. While I know generally for bisexuals we don’t go “:///“ when we encounter other gays or have them in our spaces, but are more or less happy we found another gay person to relate to. But that also could be because bisexuals don’t really have a grounded “community” by itself.

In general I prefer meeting lgbt people online in order to see their viewpoints first since its more open, but I can understand as well how that probably isn’t as enjoyable if you’re meaning to hang out. A lot of lgbt ppl I meet irl often hold strange grudges and misconceptions against another, whether that be biphobia, misogyny, transphobia, general bigotry, etc. So you’re definitely not alone.

Even now with on Twitter, recently this thread caught traction about bisexuals wanting their own spaces in NYC, and in the thread many bisexuals (bi women especially) have come forward about their mistreatment and alienation in gay bars. Which is, of course, met with biphobic statements like this:

My advice to you is to search for more inclusive spaces and groups, and also be blunt and combative towards people attempting to alienate you for being bisexual, even if that may be difficult. Gay people bullying other gay people stems from insecurity and unpacked self-hatred. There’s a reason why so many wlw target each other but worship the ground attractive cishet women walk on. It’s easier. Hope that helped you somewhat, and I’m sorry about what you’re going through 😞 💖💜💙