#i wouldn't survive this animated

[ichigoginchan]

IT'S OVER FOR ME IM CRYING SO HARD OMG ROBIN AND SAUL REUNION 😭 AND THE OTHER STRAW HATS CRYING ODA HOW DARE U MAKE ME CRY LIKE THIS 😭

FUCKING SAME 😭😭😭😭

[orenji-iro-no-sora]

With every episode of jjk s2 where I don't understand a word gojo says about his cursed techniques, I become more and more convinced that if I were in that universe I'd be more baka than yuuji.

[despair-tea]

I think a lot of girls fall into a pit where you transition to overcome depersonalization, and that on its own tides you over for a bit. But once the rush of the new is over and you're living in your new body, if you haven't made a self to go along with it, then you'll fall right back into the hole, right?

You might not have the dysphoria anymore, but you go back to viewing yourself from afar, playing by remote control.

The self-concept is more important than the medicine. I mean it.

Medicine is wonderful, don't get me wrong. The softness is like a dream, the new curves are beyond what I cold have hoped for when I was young. I love having a body I'm comfortable in, that looks beautiful in the mirror, that doesn't repulse me when others tell me it's beautiful. I'm so glad to find out that it wasn't my body that was wrong the whole time, there was always treatment that could have helped me get here.

But those things... they really come down to having a good relationship with my own body, you know? And that won't change even if my hormones do.

I'm dedicated to building my body up the way I want it - to live in the way I think is most beautiful. But I also am a pragmatic beast who's known what it's like to have nothing too. I can still live. I can still be me, even without the medicine that makes my body more comfortable.

A sense of self. "Imagine a future self who has already surpassed her own limits," then make every move you can to get to her.

It sounds like magical thinking because it is. Many of us - rational-minded and pragmatic creatures with both feet on the ground - shy away from ideas rooted in magical thinking. "That's just bullshit," you say, shaking your head. But let me enlighten you: The whole concept of the self is magical thinking. Yet even in the depths of your disconnect you believe in it. You believe other people have one, which is why you feel so alienated from them.

You need to stop and reassess.

The self is inherently magical. It can't be proven or disproven. It can't be quantified or measured. Science has yet to find a way to isolate the sense of self in the body and I suspect it never truly will. Yet we have it. We, as humans, all have it.

So use it to your advantage.

That's how you overcome depersonalization for good. You need to decide who you want to be. Create an image in your mind. "I don't know what I want to be..." Of course you don't know yet - you're afraid of finding out your limits. But all the time you spend not pursuing your ideal self is time that your dreams spend slipping away from you.

What's that? You don't dream, either? Well - you're too old to not have a dream, aren't you? Adults wither away without one - they grow up into bad kids, or maybe like you they grow up into nothing at all.

This world is so vast and we are such small creatures. We can't change the world - there's barely anything you or I can do to change the flow of history or the fact of our era.

But you can change yourself.

Decide who you want to be and become them. That's called Self-Actualization, and it is the one and only magic afforded to us as humans.

I want a future that's kinder, that's full more of hope than the bitter-black despair I've known for so long. I want to be a person who's worth having lived this long. I want to be the person my past self will be proud of having grown up into. And I want to become the future self who has been there by my side this whole time, waiting to meet me in the future. My greatest ally in the whole world.

So even though I'm just a small part of this world, I'll change myself to make it so.

I hope you can find your Worth too. It's right there inside you.

[passive-nightmaresans]

Nightmare sans wouldn't be opposed to cannibalism send post

[patiann345]

Well this 414 was kinda ass

[billdenbrough]

fundamentally disinterested in the recurring discourse about kevin's drinking that aims to a) make it his Specific Problem To Focus On And Overcome when it is a crutch and coping mechanism to get him through a Much Bigger Problem (emotional fallout he can't square with by himself, culture shock, trauma, loss of his extremely wildly co-dependent relationship w riko, losing the structure of the nest, mourning a future he was meant to have, processing a grave injustice, anger and fear and desperate grief, all of which is his Actual Specific Fox Problem) while he builds himself back up, and b) thinks that even if it is a problem (more on that later), it's the foxes' problem to deal with.

like. it's just not.

yeah, he doesn't drink until he meets them. they gave him that habit, and in traditional terms, they're (the monsters specifically) a 'bad influence'. but these are the foxes. this is kevin day, son of exy, whose meteor is crashing spectacularly through no fault of his own. there are no traditional terms to be found here. the framework for it literally doesn't exist. neil comes into the foxes with more conventional expectations—appalled at the athletes' substance use, his horror at matt's trip to columbia, his steadfast and early repeated stance that none of the foxes should let andrew treat them the way he does, and certainly not nicky—and tends to engage with them less as the series goes on and he folds himself into the foxes. the thing about the foxes is that they've all been in pits deeper than they are tall. and some of them got a helping hand on the way—erik, andrew's extreme intervention methods, stephanie walker—and wymack was always waiting for them on the other side, ready to throw down a rope, but all the foxes dragged themselves out of their own holes. often not alone, often not without assistance, but at the end of the day, they have to do it.

there's that line neil has about aaron in that scene that got deleted when the timeline shifted around, when he thinks about how aaron got this far in life on his own, surviving on willpower and sheer desperation. that applies to aaron in a way that's a little more acute than some of the rest of them—boy who doesn't let the foxes in bc of andrew, boy who doesn't let nicky in bc he doesn't know how, boy made of flinching and seeking an escape and grieving the one who hurt him—but is broadly true for the foxes en masse.

this isn't to say the foxes can't help each other, but it's not their job. it just isn't. they'll keep kevin alive, keep him safe, keep him flanked and contained within their ranks. they'll fight tooth and nail in this battle with him, fight to get him to that championship game, fight to get that trophy in his hands. but that's all they've agreed to. that's all they're responsible for, in this covenant they've made with him. he says they can make this happen, and they're going to get him to that final game, but it's up to him what state he's in when he gets there.

like. they're foxes. they've been triaging their whole lives. they hate each other and they hate everyone else more. they're the kids with their backs up against the wall. half of them are addicts. i don't think kevin is comparable, personally; he's getting through a horrific situation with a coping mechanism. that's not the same thing as battling yourself to stop using. but that's not really the point of this. what i'm getting at here is that to the foxes, it's easy math: kevin who can lean on vodka and andrew and wymack and the foxes to stay upright when he's not ready to stand on his own two feet is still a kevin who is standing. a kevin with one less piece of scaffolding to lean on is a kevin who falls over, a kevin at risk of complete collapse, a kevin one phone call away from running back to the master, a kevin one crucial loss away from not ever making it back to himself at all. they're triaging. this is low on the totem pole of things they have the room to care about. they very much have bigger problems, both individually and even just kevin-related. if alcohol makes seeing the boy he knew best in the world and moved in tandem with his whole life and who destroyed their entire legacy and his entire life in one move — if alcohol makes facing that boy easier to stomach, then, fuck, why would they take that away? they're foxes. they've all got their demons. this is what kevin needs this year and a half to let him face his, that's all. they can understand that. it doesn't have to be pretty, as long as it keeps him in the fight. that's the priority.

i think there's absolutely space to explore this in fic and art and fandom in a way that maybe does explore it as a Problem, both that it's an active problem for kevin & that it's something to explore other foxes helping him with (there's a t&n fic that i've been gnawing at the bit to read for months that seems poised to explore this premise, and that's super up my alley)! i just think we're in different territory when we're talking about the series—and its characters and dynamics—in a conversational rather than transformational way, and end up talking about this like the foxes are responsible for kevin's choices. i love kevin day. i read these back at the start of 2015 & he's so dear to me that loving him was the blueprint for how i feel abt kageyama. but it's been pretty weird to see how the conversation has been translating Loving Kevin Day into... thinking the foxes are doing wrong by him with respect to this in actual canon. like that's just not how it operates there

[thecraftgremlin]

I think the mistake a lot of people have made with Dungeon Meshi is expecting it to be a cooking anime with a fantasy backdrop, when it’s a fantasy about cooking. The expectation for cooking media to be fluffy, plotless, and (urgh) cozy is a whole other can of worms here. And I can understand to some degree why some people feel there’s a bait and switch happening, but it’s not like the story ever set out to deceive the audience. “Cooking but in a fantasy dungeon!” is about as good a descriptor for Dungeon Meshi as the infamous “Lesbian Necromancers in Space” tagline for the Locked Tomb series. Yes the series is technically about that, it's central to the theming and the story would be unrecognizable without it. But it's also massively reductive to everything else the story is about.

[shopcat]

the one horse argument that pisses me off so much is like.. well it isn't an argument it's just a sound bite people repeat bc they think they're funny and/or smart (they're not 🤎) is when people go on and on and ON they just never stop, frankly, fucking talking about is how fragile and horrible horses are for various reasons that boil down to them just describing anatomical features of an animal than being like "and that's HORRIFIC" bc they're most of the time going into this with obvious bias against or even outright hatred towards this animal 😭?

like "their legs are so fragile they can break just by stepping wrong" so are your toes and fingers and ankles and wrists and legs and arms and ribs and hips and collar bones and your fucking skull. a human being can die just from falling the distance of its OWN HEIGHT. YOU can drown in an inch of water. YOU can die just from tripping over. YOU have one of the worst body plans in the natural animal kingdom. you have entire organs that are defunct and can decide to one day kill you. your bones are so fragile and your organs are ridiculously mapped out and your back and spine is absolutely fucked which includes your neck which is connected to your HEAD. we were granted as a species enough intelligence to form written and oral communication and this is the way you use it ... to be a fucking idiot who speaks like a redditor trying to write the next copypasta online because you think you have something interesting to say and end up sounding like a toddler who is scared of a dog on the street.

[valkilmerr]

Here are some pics of my 3 1/2 month old baby bunny Snowball! 🐇 🥰

[citrine-elephant]

the way my smile returned upon watching leon french kiss that lepotica and hearing his muffled panic under all that fleshy icky sound and zombie scream-joy. therapy.

[c0ntaminxted]

my mom is making a "disciplinary whip" for my dog.

[psychedelic-ink]

what happened with dbf age gap thing?

honestly idk people keep taking shots at each other and for some reason refuse to apply the "don't like don't read" logic

i honestly couldn't care less about what people are writing and it baffles me that people are so pressed about it

[boogiewoogieweeb]

if i had a cent for every time jared harris played a veteran, harried sea captain who ordered his loyal first to have a female poc with ties to a powerful folkloric creature thrown off his ship bc of his own internalized self-loathing, i would have two cents. which isn't a lot, but it's weird that it happened twice.

[lofan]

I'm definitely not a furry. And not to sound like one,

BUT-

They can decide to squeeze the life out of me, and I will die happy with a "please" and a "thank you!" I don't make the rules.

[shopcat]

and i like that female lions do all the hunting and the males just stay at home being stay at home wifes it's kind of slay (literally). relatedly these are my two favourite lion photos ever

lions babysit and communally raise their young and usually like a mothers subadult daughter or her sister will look after the cubs when she's hunting but male lions are known to be extra protective of their prides when they have cubs like they patrol more and keep watch more to take care of them which is so cute to me idc... they don't hurt their own cubs despite rumours otherwise and even play with them and they do babysit too if all the females are elsewhere :) so sweetie. if the pride is large enough a male lion will almost always be with the group for protection on papa duty ☝️☝️

[nobodybetterlookatme]

I've never heard of emts working only at events? What's that like for you if you don't mind my asking?

Yeah, there are ambulance companies that staff certain events, but there's some event specific companies out there lmao. For me specifically, it's almost entirely college events, whether it's happening on a campus or not. It's not great, usually pretty boring, but it's better than being on an ambulance or in a hospital. We do get actual emergencies sometimes, but usually it's just getting drunk people to the tent or giving out water and bandaids lmao. Again, boring as fuck, but I chose this over working on a 911 rig, so that's on me 😔 if I'm being so real tho, other than my coworkers, the best part of the job is the food lmaoooo it's so good and all the food trucks/food booths give discounts or free food to us depending on the location and event. And there's almost always a ton of downtime, so I basically just get paid to sit there and vibe for the most part