#i was going to do the color isolation technique here but it's too time-consuming so i decided not to

[books-are-my-life-stuff]

"Are you going to help that person from the Ghost Tribe? In that case, I'll go too. I'll be by your side wherever you go."

Kitaro Tanjou: Gegege no Nazo - Sayo Ryuuga (Pink Kimono)

[wellknownwolf]

I want to move into a new phase in my relationship with fandom, as I mature with new experiences. I'm not sure what exactly that looks like though. What is your take on the parasocial affection inherent in an RPF like Rhett & Link? Or even the deep attachments that can form with fictional characters? Or a desire to emulate fantasy worlds? I'm sorry if I've made you uncomfortable with all this, it's just that it's been a long time coming, and once I got started I couldn't stop. - Natasha (5)

First, let me post the full question, since it came in 5 parts:

Hey, it's me again. Your 'mystery inquirer', as you so adorably dubbed me. You're right, I had forgotten I'd sent in that ask. Just now, I couldn't help but think about a scene from Life After, as I am wont to on a frightfully regular basis, which is what got me back here. When you said you pondered over my seemingly simple, banal question for a good while, and wrote out a beautifully thoughtful answer like you always do, it made me happy.

Your narrative voice is similar to my own, and it made my chest ache in a certain way to have gotten such a response to what felt like a random shout out into the abyss (though it obviously wasn't, I sent it directly to you, I guess it's more what it felt like taking a chance on a conversation with a random stranger online). And now I'm cringing a bit at how melodramatic all sounds. But I'm committing to it, anyway. That's the beauty of anon, eh?

Wolfie (is it presumptuous to call you that? Please do forgive me the liberty I'm taking), I must admit. I'm quite envious of this community you have with @missingparentheses, @lunar-winterlude, and other wonderful people. Since childhood, I've been head over heels in love with fandom. Not a specific fandom, I've been a traveller through dozens, but fandom in general. I've read probably thousands of fanfics, spent countless hours daydreaming about beloved characters and their stories.

To the point where, in my most recent and worst depressive episode, it may have been for the worse, if I'm honest. Escapism and yearning to the point of impairment, engendering a sense of constant bereavement. But it's taught me so much about life and its wonders, I can't write it off as just some damaging habit. It's such an integral part of who I am, a deeply curious soul (shout out to my Enneagram Type 5-ers out there!). But I don't anyone to share it with, and it can get quite lonely.

I want to move into a new phase in my relationship with fandom, as I mature with new experiences. I'm not sure what exactly that looks like though. What is your take on the parasocial affection inherent in an RPF like Rhett & Link? Or even the deep attachments that can form with fictional characters? Or a desire to emulate fantasy worlds? I'm sorry if I've made you uncomfortable with all this, it's just that it's been a long time coming, and once I got started I couldn't stop. - Natasha

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Thank you for giving me so much to respond to, Natasha.  Thank you for continuing to reach out.   I accidentally wrote something like a paper in response to your thoughtful question.  I even conducted a little research and cited a source.  ENGLISH TEACHER, ACTIVATE!

Also, for what it’s worth, I feel at times that I communicate exclusively through shouts into the abyss, so it’s a language with which I am at home.  In fact, it is this very technique, this experiment with intense vulnerability at the hands of a virtual stranger, that earned me one of my absolutely most-treasured friends: @missingparentheses.  I have poured out a great deal of my own melodrama to her, and she has received it and reciprocated it in a way that, three years later, continues to teach me how to be a better friend.  In short, I’m a firm believer in diving straight in when it comes to new friends.  Cringe not; I’m on board.

So let’s dive.

R&L is really only the second “fandom” with which I’ve been involved.  Third, if we count my preteen obsession with ‘N Sync (and considering how much wall space I dedicated to their posters and self-printed photos, we probably should).  My point is, while I don’t have much experience with the community facet of fandom, I do relate to your feeling of near-obsession.  Or clear obsession.  

I know the feeling of escapism you’re describing, and I know the yearning and melancholy that can come on our worst days, where we feel like “real life” will never measure up to the color and brilliance of the worlds we spend so much time considering. These worlds, these characters and their relationships, their challenges, victories, and defeats all seem so purposeful: they’re the plot points we use to craft the stories in our heads (regardless of whether we’re writers at all).  It can be much harder to view ourselves as protagonists worth analyzing, viewing and reviewing through new lenses, perhaps because we’re warned against navel-gazing, perhaps because our self-perception just won’t allow for it.  Maybe a little of both.

But yes!  It teaches us!  We DO learn about life, other people, love, risk, all kinds of things through what we consume in these fandoms, so I would never classify it as a “bad” thing.  We hone our imaginations and learn to pay attention to our own emotions as we recognize feelings from our favorite shows, games, books, and characters arising in ourselves.  

I used to be a little afraid of the fact that I was always telling myself stories, internally imagining myself as someone else, a player in the worlds I often loved more than my own.  I suspected that someday, somehow, I would be caught playing pretend all the time in my own little ways.  I was a bright and ambitious young woman, so why would I give so much of my mental energy to such frivolous pursuits?

In my first semester of graduate school, though, I learned from a Lit. Theory professor who intimidated the hell out of me that we all do this.  We’re all telling ourselves stories all the time, some of which are true and close to objective reality, some of which are more subjective to whatever fantastical (or fandom) material we last consumed.  I’ve whispered my own dialogue in the shower, but so have you whispered yours in your head (if not also out loud in your shower!).  And through this act, however it is performed, I have made those worlds part of my own.  So have you.  In this way, they are real, and I no longer feel fearful of being “found out.”  

When we have those moments of doubt, though, when we wonder whether we’re going too far, it probably stems, at least partially, from the “us v. them” divide between fandom and mainstream society.  We love our little worlds, but we also feel that twinge of anxiety that we might be bordering on obsession, that our guilty pleasure might be discovered and we will be socially punished for it, namely, as Joli Jensen writes in “Fandom as Pathology: The Consequences of Characterization,” because “the fan is characterized as (at least potentially) an obsessed loner, suffering from a disease of isolation, or a frenzied crowd member, suffering from a disease of contagion. In either case, the fan is seen as being irrational, out of control, and prey to a number of external forces” (13). According the consistent covert (and overt, at times) messages of the mainstream, “[f]andom is conceived of as a chronic attempt to compensate for a perceived personal lack of autonomy, absence of community, incomplete identity, lack of power and lack of recognition” (Jensen 17).  Yikes.  That doesn’t feel good to admit about ourselves, does it?  

Luckily, it’s bullshit.

Treating “fans” as others (outsiders, people who can’t form relationships or find fulfillment in the “real world”) “risks denigrating them in ways that are insulting and absurd” (Jensen 25).  Those who take this stance, who see fans as victims of hysteria or desperate loners, do so in order to “develop and defend a self-serving moral landscape.  That terrain cultivates in us a dishonorable moral stance of superiority, because it makes other into examples of extrinsic forces, while implying that we [members solely of the mainstream] somehow remain pure, autonomous, ad unafflicted” (Jensen 25).  In short, that us/them thinking just makes people feel better about themselves by pointing out an easily-identifiable “other.”

 I have also grappled with the concept of parasocial affection, particularly with R&L.  I was well into writing my first Rhink fic when the thought crossed my mind, “Oh my god, what if I actually met these people someday?  How would I look them in the eye?  I’d feel like a crazy person (again)!”  From the safety of the Midwest, I laughed off the thought.  And then a year or so later, they were announcing their first tour. And I was still writing, here and there, still deep in my affection for them, sometimes wrestling with the thought that I’ve devoted so much energy to people who would never know I exist.  

It doesn’t matter that the attachment was in the most obvious, tangible ways only one-sided.  As an adult who is ever-learning how to navigate the worlds of her own creation and the ones over which she has far less control, I view my intense attachment to characters both real and fictional with deep fondness.   And while I may not receive affection or attention directly from the sources (R&L, fictional characters, sports teams, who/whatever we build fandoms around), I am still earning some very real rewards for my involvement: Because of them, I found my way to a participatory culture in which I was supported and encouraged to express my creativity.  This gave me the push and interest that I needed to hone skills that have not only made me a better writer, but also a better teacher and mentor.  With fandom comes the ability to immediately strike up a conversation over shared interests. With fandom comes a sense of belonging in what we have proven is an awfully divisive world.  

Right now, I’m consuming far less fandom-related material than I did a few years ago.  I don’t really watch GMM anymore and I’m on a break from Ear Biscuits (though I still love it), Gotham ended over a year ago and I’m not in the habit of reading fics right now, and I can’t yet play the remade Final Fantasy 7, so that’s out for me, too (though I know I will fall deep into that well once the game is in my hot little hands).  This all happened by itself.  I never consciously moved away from these sources; I just floated on to other interests and other levels of interest, knowing that if and when I wanted to dig back in, I could always come back.  

I used to feel quite sad at the thought of someday “moving on” from these intense interests.  I couldn’t fathom somehow falling out of love with those bands, actors, or video games.  But for me, the transition into wherever I am now has not been painful in the least.  I’m glad I knew the intensity that I did, and I’m happy with the distance I have now. And there’s a good chance I’ll be fanatic about something else someday.  I’m looking forward to it!

 Here are some responses that I couldn’t organically fit into my essay:

Yes, you can call me Wolfie if you’d like.  That name started with @missingparentheses (her second appearance in this answer!), and quickly became a reminder to not take myself too seriously.  

Second, I don’t think I know any other Type 5s!  I’m a type 8. 

Also, here’s my MLA formatted citation for the Jensen source:

Jensen, Joli. “Fandom as Pathology: The Consequences of Characterization.”   The Adoring Audience: Fan Culture and Popular Media, Routledge, 1992, pp. 9-29.

[christiandomme]

Some thoughts on healthy coping skills

Coping skills is a tricky topic. One person’s coping skills may not be accessible to folks that face additional barriers or even harmful is the coping skill activates a trigger. So acknowledging that not every coping mechanism fits every person here are some thoughts...

Coping skills are simply the responses and ways we survive difficult situations and stimulus in our lives. Some ways we respond are good for us and align with our goals, some are destructive to ourselves or others or not adaptive for new environments we find ourselves in. 

A coping skill is not a solution. It does not ‘fix’ the stressors you are experiencing. They are intended to help you weather storms of heavy or overwhelming emotional/physical/cognitive sensation. Where possible, it is good to also working on managing or resolving root causes. 

Coping skills often fall into the categories of:

Self-soothing - activities that may feel stabilizing or reinforce your desired emotional/physical/cognitive state

Distraction- give your brain something else to process for a while, change your environment so that you’re not reminded of what is causing the upset

Replacement- give your self the gift of the opposite; this can be affirmations when you are drowning in negative self talk or pulling out a box of ‘evidence’ that helps counter whatever false reality you are battling; doing a soft and gentle thing when you feel like raging or lashing out

Know thyself- naming what is going on; when we feel overwhelmed we often face a jumble of emotional/physical/cognitive signals, giving yourself time and tools to identify what’s actually present and where it’s coming from can be empowering

Mindfulness - there are mindfulness techniques based on ‘emptying’ yourself of extraneous sensation and techniques based on filling your mind with specific sensation, these can have wildly different impacts depending on what you’re struggling with  

Support plan - sometimes called a crisis plan, it should not be held in reserve until you are fully in crisis; who are the people that you have asked to be part of your support circle when your day is heading in a negative direction? Preparation and communication and really helpful here

Here are some of the specific coping activities that work for me or people in my life. Feel free to jump into the convo with your own.

EXPRESSION

If you are working on an art project and can engage with that, great! 

If not, do something that reminds you that you have a voice and that you are here. 

Paint a chest of drawers: it is the distraction of researching the process + going out into humanity to buy supplies + the process itself, bonus you end up with a check of drawers that look like Starry Night done in purples

Coloring books!!!

A personal approach: Go ahead and destroy some objects you wanted to get rid of anyway, glue them back together and then destroy them again. Repeat as needed. End on either the constructive or destructive phase of the cycle as it might benefit you.

Go somewhere you won’t be arrested and scream. Scream a lot. Maybe cry. Laugh at how ridiculous you look. Scream some more. Kicking rocks is optional. 

I know everyone says journaling but it really can help you not only express but it helps track your feelings so you become more aware of patterns.

Journaling can be written but it can also be visual or auditory - there isn’t a ‘correct’ way to do it. 

A lot of folks don't want to stare at a blank page so doing something structured can be much more helpful. Back in my day the Mind Over Mood workbook was a clinical favorite and it is available at general bookstores.

 PHYSICAL ACTIVITY

I do enjoy going on the stereotypical walk in the woods but it can be much smaller than that. Move from the room you are into another; Watch a youtube video and learn a new dance (even if no one will ever see it!) or practice holding your arm’s in a ballerina’s pose. 

This can also be small motions, I repetitively touch each finger to my thumb when I can feel my emotions rising in a public space and need to give my brain another task. 

This can be a variety of things in the touch, sound, sight, taste, smell categories

Watch kitten youtube videos or listen to music recommended by an internet stranger, try a new recipe or buy an ingredient that you’ve never heard of at an international grocery store, make your own potpourri

I know that have a lot of action oriented suggestions on this list but that reflects my own bias towards needing to feel like I am creating/impacting/changing things. That is part of coping for me. 

But self-soothing can be putting your favorite blanket in the dryer so it’s warm and has the fabric softener smell and giving yourself permission to consume some guilt free media while snuggled up. 

REPLACEMENT

This is my favorite because one of my top five personality traits is sheer contrariness. Events are conspiring to get me down? Watch me get up just so I can kick something. My trauma response makes me want to isolate or lash out? Forget that - I will stride up to someone and provide the tenderest caregiving you ever did see. 

This doesn’t mean I’ve never been in a depressive funk for a month or that anxiety hasn’t kept me away from things I wanted - that’s very real too but when those struggles have left me even an inch, I have tried to turn it into a mile. 

On the caregiving note - that doesn’t have to be people. Get a plant that you can nurture, make it’s caregiving a regular habit. 

Around turning thirty I got really serious about providing the care to myself that I would provide to another person. I would never say about someone else what my inner narrator said about me. So I started saying out loud the opposite statements, the affirmations, that I would say to someone else when ever that narrator got to yammering. 

What is love to you? Seriously, how do you receive love - quality time, words of affirmations, gifts, acts of service? GIVE YOURSELF LOVE! Be intentional about scheduling how you will get these things or have them on standby when thigs are spiraling OR get them for yourself. Do an act of service for future you. Give present you quality time with yourself enjoying one of your preferred activities (I go to a library). Give yourself words of affirmation. 

[anearthstruckalien]

▌𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐋 𝐍𝐀𝐌𝐄 : Giegue

▌𝐒𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐋𝐄 𝐎𝐑 𝐓𝐀𝐊𝐄𝐍 : single

▌𝐀𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐈𝐓𝐈𝐄𝐒 𝐎𝐑 𝐏𝐎𝐖𝐄𝐑𝐒 :  he’s an insanely (no pun intended) powerful PSI-user (in terms of raw power and skill level alike) and while his core strengths lie in causing external destructions of various kinds and mind warping techniques, he is nonetheless also quite capable of altering his own statistics, levitating and telekinetically manipulating things, healing, putting up barriers, etc.  Outside of psychic abilities, Giegue is also exceedingly good at engineering whatever he needs and figuring out foreign technologies and is great at scheming and strategizing his way towards accomplishing a desired goal courtesy of his high level of creativity, attention to detail, and general sense of cautiousness --he basically knows how to make things happen (and if he doesn’t he will find out) and has every bit of determination required to do so.

▌𝐄𝐘𝐄 𝐂𝐎𝐋𝐎𝐑 :  dark blue irises (human disguise) | dark blue irises, pupils, and sclerae (true form)

▌𝐇𝐀𝐈𝐑 𝐂𝐎𝐋𝐎𝐑 :  light blonde (human disguise) | colorless and hollowed-out (true form)

▌𝐅𝐀𝐌𝐈𝐋𝐘 𝐌𝐄𝐌𝐁𝐄𝐑𝐒 : Psions aren’t biologically related to any life-form.  They are all distinct from one another because they are independently (and artificially) produced via a machine at the core of the Psion home-planet.  The closest one comes to biological ‘family’ is either through being a duplicate of another or of the same ‘type’ of Psion.  As such, while Giegue doesn’t really have a biological family to speak of, he does have non-biological relations of a familial nature to the following - Maria (adoptive human mother), George (adoptive human father), anyone related to Maria... albeit this is more of a ‘formality’ on his own part and seeing them more like an extension of Maria rather than it being genuine affection for them.

▌𝐏𝐄𝐓𝐒 : not applicable.  Giegue doesn’t have any pets nor does he want any because he doesn’t think that he’s suitable for taking care of other living creatures (except for maybe plants) and feels that he has enough matters to deal with without throwing a pet into the mix.

▌𝐒𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐘 𝐃𝐎𝐍'𝐓 𝐋𝐈𝐊𝐄 : there are a LOT of things that Giegue doesn’t like, both of which were revealed at some point in this blog’s history and on the main information page, but to deviate a little from that (i.e offer something more mundane) and cite something that hasn’t yet been revealed? I would say that Giegue doesn’t like the taste of any kind of meats.  As such, one won’t really find him consuming it at all among the narrow range of non-Psion food that he does end up consuming from time to time.

▌𝐇𝐎𝐁𝐁𝐈𝐄𝐒 / 𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐕𝐈𝐓𝐈𝐄𝐒 :  reading (which itself falls into a broader category of acquiring knowledge), engineering various things, playing video games, taking apart foreign machines to see how they work, solving puzzles, etc.

▌𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑 𝐇𝐔𝐑𝐓 𝐀𝐍𝐘𝐎𝐍𝐄 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄 : with Mother 2′s events alone, Giegue has done A LOT of harm to others ranging from individual life-forms to the fabric of the universe itself.  So when you take instances outside Mother 2′s events into consideration as well?  it all adds up to a substantial amont of times and ways he has harmed others, both directly and indirectly alike.

▌𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑 𝐊𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐄𝐃 𝐀𝐍𝐘𝐎𝐍𝐄 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄 : naturally, this follows from the previous point with a gigantic YES though to a notably lesser degree since killing someone is a subset of everything that falls under harm for one thing.  And for another, excluding all that time where he went completely off the rails (wiping out half the universe in the erased timeline and trying to destroy everyone and everything during Mother 2), Giegue would ordinarily try to avoid having to kill anyone where it was possible... albeit if only because it seems fundamentally ‘pointless’ to waste his own energy on something like that unless it serves a valuable purpose aaaaaand because (and this applies more to his time working for the Psions) doing so would otherwise be a senseless waste of perfectly good ‘resources’.

▌𝐀𝐍𝐈𝐌𝐀𝐋 𝐓𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐑𝐄𝐏𝐑𝐄𝐒𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐒 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐌 : cats

▌𝐖𝐎𝐑𝐒𝐓 𝐇𝐀𝐁𝐈𝐓𝐒 : it’s no secret that this alien creature is something of a liar or at least sometimes insincere in his interactions with others (aka wheneer it suits his purposes)... but an arguably worse variant of this is just how much he actually lies to himself --which is quite a bit if that fake pride of his and the way he just ‘has to’ look down on something (the Psions) to feel better about himself is any indication; he’s way too hard on himself in that not only does he have these exceedingly high standards (which isn’t too bad on its own) but he can be really unforgiving towards his own mistakes and missteps in a way that he isn’t with others despite  being relatively harsh about it, the key difference being that he’s willing to forgive others more easily than he is when it comes to matters regarding himself; and he is rather paranoid and mistrustful of others (even when he can rationally acknowledge that there’s little reason to be given his own observations of the situation).

▌𝐑𝐎𝐋𝐄 𝐌𝐎𝐃𝐄𝐋𝐒 : while I wouldn’t precisely refer to her as a ‘role model’ in this case, Giegue is undoubtedly inspired by Maria (what she did for him and what she taught him) and thus strives to use her as a guiding point in his life now.

▌𝐒𝐄𝐗𝐔𝐀𝐋 𝐎𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍 : Psions don’t really have words for things like sexual orientation or romantic orientation or any of that stuff given that they’re missing many key social concepts that are present in human society, SO this creature wouldn’t describe himself like this, but he (like every other Psion) can be regarded as asexual.

▌𝐓𝐇𝐎𝐔𝐆𝐇𝐓𝐒 𝐎𝐍 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐈𝐀𝐆𝐄 / 𝐊𝐈𝐃𝐒 : first and foremost, it doesn’t apply to himself and he knows that thereby making it ‘irrelevant’.  But beyond that? he primarily sees children as the by-products (with differing and shared characteristics within and across differing species alike) of a species’ efforts to maintain their existence... whereas marriage to him is a ceremony that he strongly associates with humans (despite knowing that it’s present across other non-Psion species as well) albeit something of a confusing one.  He just doesn’t understand what purpose marriage serves since (from his perspective) all it’s doing is repeating what the people involved already know without really changing anything significant.

▌𝐒𝐓𝐘𝐋𝐄 𝐏𝐑𝐄𝐅𝐄𝐑𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐄𝐒 : anything that comfortable, plain (not too flashy, bright, or ‘needlessly’ complicated in design), and doesn’t obstruct his movements in a significant way.  As such, in Giegue’s case, this often tends to be varying sweaters in neutral colors.

▌𝐒𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐎𝐍𝐄 𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐘 𝐋𝐎𝐕𝐄 : Maria, but anyone that’s been paying attention to this blog probably already long-since knows this given how obvious it has consistently been on here.

▌𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐑𝐎𝐀𝐂𝐇 𝐓𝐎 𝐅𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐃𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏𝐒 : Giegue doesn’t really... have any friends, but if he were to (somehow) have friends then he would make an effort to do the whole friendship thing ‘correctly’.  And by that, I mean that he would make certain to be well-informed about the baseline expectations of a friendship, how to optimally maintain it (i.e what constitutes a good friend), and attempt to implement it in a sound and efficient way.  Though because this is Giegue and because of how he was raised, there would inevitably be some awkwardness sprinkled in.

▌𝐅𝐀𝐕𝐎𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐄 𝐃𝐑𝐈𝐍𝐊 : black coffee

▌𝐅𝐀𝐕𝐎𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐄 𝐏𝐋𝐀𝐂𝐄 𝐓𝐎 𝐒𝐏𝐄𝐍𝐃 𝐓𝐈𝐌𝐄 𝐀𝐓 : he doesn’t actually mind Earth much.  Apart from spending time in the Mt. Itoi base (though even that is a bit mixed as far as his feelings on it go) he actually likes the isolated points of wilderness on Earth, especially places that are abundant in grasses and flowers like meadows... provided that there’s sufficient cover from the brightness of the sun given his own aversion to bright light.  In off-planet scenarios however, naturally his favourite place to spend time at ends up being his own ship.

▌𝐒𝐖𝐈𝐌 𝐈𝐍 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐋𝐀𝐊𝐄 𝐎𝐑 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐎𝐂𝐄𝐀𝐍 : Giegue... doesn’t know how to swim pf.  In fact, he’s never even attempted to do it before and doesn’t like getting wet anyways.

▌𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐈𝐑 𝐓𝐘𝐏𝐄 : not applicable... assuming that this refers to physical appearance that is because he doesn’t really frame things as ‘pretty’ or ‘ugly’ on a purely aesthetic basis --there has to be more to it than that since appeareances are a rather superficial means of judging others as far as he’s concerned.  The most he ever judges someone’s physical appearance is based on metrics such as ‘usefulness’ and ‘efficiency’.

▌𝐂𝐀𝐌𝐏𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐎𝐑 𝐈𝐍𝐃𝐎𝐎𝐑𝐒 : indoors.

Tagged by: No one, I just felt like talking about this alien creature (again).

Tagging: Go right ahead and do this.  It’s fun enough to fill out in any case.

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Another anon asked before about how to write believable battles and you told him/her to ask about it again on Friday. Since he/she may've forgotten it, I'm asking you now because I'd like to read the answer!

Thanks to this question and some prodding from @hiddenhistoryofwesteros, I’ve been crafting this. Much thanks also to @goodqueenaly for fixing my atrocious grammar.

Battle can be an important conflict piece for any piece of media, but too often, battle is either turned into a series of duels or is used merely as a setpiece for character drama. The battle itself can be a moment of action and tension, and as such, a poorly-written battle detracts from the experience of the novel, and that I don’t like. I after all, have a vested interest in explaining how battles were waged and the vicarious experience of the soldiers that were in them. So that being said, let’s see what we can do to understand how battles work and how you can incorporate them into your writing.

What do you want?

Usually my first step for anything is to research. Unfortunately, there have been a lot of battles over the course of history (citation needed), and so just looking at battles isn’t going to be very helpful.

Instead, focus instead of what the conflict and resolution needs to be for the story. This requires worldbuilding; you need to know who is fighting and what are the particular circumstances of this battle in the macro- and micro-sense. Figure out the level of technology and bureaucratic organization for the players in your novel. Figure out when the battle is, what will the results be, the characters that will be present, and how this is going to resolve in your story is important. Once you figure out what you want the battle to be and how it fits in your story, then you can begin plotting the battle so it’s realistic from start to finish.

Research - Find Your Starting Point

Now that you understand what the technology level of your people are, and how you want the battle to shape up, you can look at battles from the past to find your inspiration. Battles that resemble what you’re looking to portray is a good start, until you get the handle of building your own make-believe battle step by step. If you are writing a medieval fantasy, look at medieval history. If you have a supernatural element, figure out how that effects the world and look for an analogue in history. Dragons can become air strikes, divination magic becomes satellites, and so on. Use these facets to narrow down your research topics until you can pick a battle. If you’re still having difficulty, think about the characters that are in your battle, and what their specific strengths are. Looking at the campaigns of a general with similar skills can help you find a battle that you can use

Once you find the battle, lay out how the battle was waged from start to finish, and look at pivotal moments of said battle to see how the battle was won. Depending on how in depth you wish to go with your own writing, idle reading through Wikipedia, armchair generalship from military enthusiasts like yours truly, or deep scholarly work might be your requisite level of depth. That is an artistic decision that you the author will have to make.

Diaries and journals are a big help here. First-hand accounts of battles can give you a sense of what soldiers were thinking. While nothing is written in the heat of combat, many journals were written with the intent of preserving memories as they were experienced. Even if the journal itself is a lie, the voice it provides is useful.

Modification - Make the Battle Yours

Alright, now that you have your baseline, it’s time to integrate your characters into the battle. While it’s tempting and easy to do a straight one-for-one, that requires your characters to be in the same type of position, politically, militarily, culturally, socially, etc. to the people that were present at the battle, and that drastically limits your character’s potential. Instead think, where should the character be, and put them there.

Use your character’s strengths to your advantage when it comes to shaping actions on the battlefield. Smart and quick-witted characters should be using them to recognize things, strong characters should be doing things that are strong, cunning characters should be doing things that are cunning. The closer you can stay to the actual course of the battle, just scrubbing off the name of a historical figure and replacing him with a fictional one, the more realistic the battle will be. Once you gain more understanding of battles (usually by studying multiple ones with similar characteristics), you can start mixing and matching which will make the battles less predictable for any military nerds and give you the writer a greater sense of satisfaction for owning your own battle.

To learn more about that, you need to start researching about actual techniques

Giving Voice - Writing the Battle

Now we get into the meat of the whole thing. You have your battle scripted, now you must put the script to paper. Much of this will depend on your own literary choices and style, but here’s things to know. After all, an invisible, immortal being floating in the sky sees different than a soldier on the ground, but the battle still happens either way.

Battle is confusing - Warfare is very noisy and very confusing. Everything is drawing your attention and the sensory input is overwhelming and disorienting. Adrenaline is rushing and this makes it hard to concentrate. In almost all battles, dust is a major concern for soldiers, and that sensory deprivation.

Battle is intense - People are trying to kill you. This is stressful. Adrenaline is pumping as mentioned, danger is all around. To some, this is terrifying, to others, its exhilarating. Let me make this clear: If someone experiences exhilaration in battle or enjoys any or all of the experience, it is not monstrous nor is the character a monster. Those hormones and the intensity can have an effect on someone. How your character reacts to battles, particularly first or very hard-fought battles, is a personal thing; it is likely to be one of the most intense experiences of their lives. Make it a part of themselves. How they react to it, and how they react to others in that lens, is important.

Battle is a living thing - Things ebb and flow on the battlefield, and the soldiers respond to what happens. Do not have events happen in a vacuum, use cause and effect to chart the course of the battle. Also, armies consume much. Food, fuel, supplies, all of these things

Battle is not in isolation - Very few battles are all-or-nothing affairs. While famous battles tend to dominate conversation, real warfare is about campaigns and strategy as much as it is about tactics and battle. Remember this, know it. Move the armies, let them withdraw and adjust based on actions that happen.

Will the Protagonist Please Stand Up?

Author perspective’s choices and the military character will form how your reader reads your battle. The character will drive the drama and their voice will color the battle.

The grunt will primarily be seeing the action as it is being undertaken. Limited in scope, the grunt will likely be looking to complete their mission and kill the enemy. As the grunt is a very limited perspective, the key way to increase drama is to take advantage of the grunt’s lack of knowledge. The grunt does not know the major battle plan, and this uncertainty leads to anxiety and fear of what the enemy will do next.

A squad leader also will have a limited perspective, but has a new concern, that of the troops under command. As squads are small, the leader likely knows the troops by name and has a relationship (good or bad) with them. Tension here comes from the relationship and the mission, as well as the uncertainty.

A junior officer has more understanding of the overall strategic plan, and their unit is tasked with a slightly larger mission. The tension here comes from accomplishing the mission set out, and how the plans change in response to the battlefield. If the junior officer’s unit accomplishes the mission, but the unit to the right collapses, the officer needs to adjust, and this reaction helps emphasize the dramatic action.

Senior officers understand the plan, so dramatic reveals of cavalry in the wings does not work because the senior officer is supposed to know the greater tactical plan. A senior officer’s tension comes from observing the execution of the plan.

These aren’t hard and fast rules. Alexander the Great was clearly a senior officer, but at Issus River and Gaugamela, he was fighting in the thick of it, with the perspective of a leader on the front lines. The tension in any Alexander-centric story will come not from the culmination of a strategic plan, but the action of charging into Darius III’s ranks, looking to take out the Persian Emperor on his mighty chariot.

Alright, I think I’ll stop here, but hopefully this should give you everything you need to start thinking about making a battle, adapting it to your work, and making a believable, but thoroughly well-written battle.

Thanks for the question, Anon.

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[sasukeuchiha-eternalmangekyou]

~Curse Mark~

(Part 9) - (Part 10) - (Part 11)

Contents: -Mind Awakening Pill -Second State

Mind Awakening Pill

To compensate for the draining effect, Orochimaru developed the Mind Awakening Pill, a drug which forces the user's cursed seal to advance to its second state, though doing so will result in the user's death. The Four Black Fogs Formation (a barrier ninjutsu that seals one in a coffin while the process takes place) and Dark Sealing Method (this seal is added as another layer of protection while in coordination to create the seal, Sakon writes the incantation in blood on the sealing paper and then attaches it to the container before activating it with a hand seal) are used to keep the process from killing the user by placing them in a temporary death state. The power of the cursed seal can synchronize with the user's regular body through extended use, exponentially enhancing the abilities of their normal state.

“Before we go any further, I’m afraid you must die just this once. You will take one of these Awakening pills.” “That mark on your shoulder is only a first state curse mark. But those pills will stimulate and magnify its power, making it a level two.” “One problem. Strengthening the curse mark will also increase its effects on your body. Such a rapid change would kill you at once and so, to insure you survive the transition to the second state, we must give your body time to get accustomed to it. Several hours at least. After that, once the transition is complete, your power may even be equal to ours. Unfortunately, the fact remains that even with all these preparations, you’ll still have to die.” “So, I’m dead. What’ll happen after that?” “Not to worry. Why do you think my friends and I are here? We’ll cast a barrier ninjutsu to lessen the effects of the transition. Instead of dying you’ll only be suspended in a state of half death for a while.” “And I’m supposed to trust you guys to make sure this half death doesn’t turn into the real thing?” “Listen Sasuke, don’t forget who we are, Orochimaru’s handpicked bodyguards. If there’s anybody who knows about curse marks, barrier ninjutsu, and all the rest, it’d be us.” ‘One things for sure, I can’t afford to die. Not yet.’ “I guess I’m in your hands.” – Sound Four and Sasuke (Episode 111: Sound Vs Leaf)

Despite the risk of death, of losing his revenge, Sasuke is willing to put his life in the hands of others. All the while he is never truly aware of Orochimaru’s true purpose of taking his body as his next vessel immediately. If not for the Retrieval Team’s interference and Naruto’s fight soon to occur, Sasuke wouldn’t have lived to see his revenge accomplished.

As we later discover, even when aware of the Sannin’s trade for power, Sasuke is more than willing to hand his life over to ensure his vengeance. Only years later he decides against the initial idea, by temporarily killing Orochimaru via the Evil Releasing Method. It’s used to release technique-induced seals on a person rather than sealing them. In comparison to the Evil Sealing Method Kakashi originally used on Sasuke, it requires far less preparation. Sasuke used this technique to revive Orochimaru, mixing a piece of Kabuto modified flesh to create a body for the consciousness of Orochimaru that was left in Anko’s Cursed Seal of Heaven.

The Mind Awakening Pills are a drug Orochimaru developed to enhance the contamination speed of the curse mark which as stated, results in death. The false death lessens the impact on the body, probably absorbing the strength of released chakra rapidly spreading to create the transformation the second state unleashes.

Sasuke’s willingness to chance death alone displays his limitations. He’s prepared to die, but also has nothing to lose after tossing his life aside in order to take his chosen path. After undergoing a lifetime of isolation and pain, he realized that this was all he needed to survive, to endure long enough to avenge his family. Although throughout the series we see parallels to Naruto’s childhood and Sasuke’s identical suffering, but there’s significant difference. However, since Sasuke reacts negatively, his actions are received negatively. He desired to leave home in order complete his goal, but that wasn’t the issue, it was going to the enemy and handing him the sharingan that would potentially be used against the village along the line. In spite of that, Sasuke needed space, needed a change after his brutal reunion with Itachi. Perhaps if he wasn’t ambushed by the Sound Four and pressured himself so severely for losing and giving himself reprimand for it, he could’ve recovered. But the opportunity to ensure a set time span of three years was a guarantee he needed to have.

“Sometimes your eyes are even better than mine. Wherever he is, Sasuke is in the darkness.” – Neji (Episode 115: Your Opponent is Me!)

This line from Neji signifies the beginning of Sasuke’s long and painful journey further into darkness. And Naruto’s everlasting endeavor to chase after his friend. Shippuden’s main focus relies on the back and forth struggle the two live through, individually and together when their paths cross up until the Fourth Shinobi World War.

It’s been a long mental battle for Sasuke to combat the curse mark’s sway with little to no guidance. The pressure he places on himself was immense, and even knowing the power was a foothold, he instigated the desire to use it against warnings because he was left to his own devices. So, believing he needed to head to Sound, and advance his power level to the second state, the necessity became a voluntary transaction Sasuke figured he wanted if pursuing his objectives with no obstacles.

Relying on the curse mark isn’t considered natural strength, which Sasuke recognized later on, commenting on it in the Boruto movie when Momoshiki Ōtsutsuki consumed the chakra fruit to sustain god-like power, youth, and longevity. His personality was mentioned to mirror Sasuke’s when he was bent on killing Itachi, which later on Naruto refutes. In consideration of how easy it was for Sasuke to fall prey to given power, let’s not ignore that he also had to train in order to reach the level of potential he sought. He worked with what was handed to him as it’s been ingrained in him to do.

Second State

The second level of the seal causes the black marks to completely envelop the user, followed by many unnatural alterations to their body. Once transformed, common features include eyes with yellow irises and black sclera, altered skin color, and longer hair. When in this state, the seal eats away at the mind and personality of its user, driving them to madness if used for too long. This is why Jugo goes in and out of his lacking control. It also takes quite a toll on their body, since they are being mutated by the seal. Skilled users of the cursed seal are able to perform partial transformations in which the mentioned alterations can be limited to specific parts of the body.

Only those that undergo the process of surviving the initial receiving of the curse mark, and have an immense toleration to the Mind Awakening pill’s effect, can achieve the activation of the second state or else they will undoubtedly die. Those with the potential inner strength can combat the effects to some degree, but once the transformation is complete that power is there’s to own.

[magicmakesmehappyasaniffler]

Broken. Chapter 4

Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4: 

He doesn’t move. Not much at least.

           Not for minutes.

                       Not for hours.

                                   Not for days.

Instead, he stands in front of my writing desk with his eyes trained on the paperwork beneath him. His eyes were memorizing every word on the page in front of him as if the longer he looks at it the more likely he’ll see something he didn’t see before. He looked at it for so long that he’d almost become a statue in front of me.

A statue of a handsome man seconds away from breaking apart at the seams. A man who had a hope that was fragile and inches away from consuming his every thought.

He seemed broken suddenly as if the vengeance he’d wanted to perform had fallen by the way side. I could tell that his pain was driving him nuts. The internal pain of whatever Grindelwald put him through.

           Pain that I couldn’t imagine.

Even now I couldn’t understand the pain he’d gone through, the pain pulsating beneath the surface of his calm exterior. Under the slicked back hair and nice dress pants paired with the black buttoned up shirt. All of it masking the pain that he’d been trying to cast away with every passing breath.

I stand in the doorway and watch him closely, my eyes fixated on the way he hunches over the desk in front of him, his hands on either side of the stack of parchment on top of the Cherrywood desk. His slicked back hair seemed to shine in the minimal light coming through the window.

The light that marked the tenth hour in a row that he’d been standing in front of that desk. He knows I’m watching him but he says nothing as I watch on in silence.

It’s not until I take a step into the room and my feet step over the squeaking floor boards that he decides to acknowledge that I exist in the same room as him.

“Are you sure this is all the paper work you have for the case on Grindelwald?”

His voice quiet as our gazes lock together. He’d asked me that same question at least five times in the last three days. A question that I’d answered more than a few times.

“Yes Percival…”

I whisper as my eyes move to the cup of coffee I was holding for him, the warm mug meant to help him focus.

I place the cup on the desk in front of him and sigh when our gazes lock further, a tension building between the both of us.

He wanted answers and he wanted them now, even if I couldn’t give him what he wanted. Even if a small part of him knew that I had already given him everything I had.

“… Maybe you should take a break. I’ll cook you something and we can regroup. Maybe taking a bit of time away from the paper work will be a good thing.”

My suggestion causes his face to contort to pure frustration the moment he hears it, protest evident in his eyes as I hand him the cup of coffee. A part of me knew it wasn’t a good idea to say anything to him, but I couldn’t resist wanting to take care of him. I couldn’t resist the way he looked at me and how broken he was after everything.

He’d lost so much and I knew he need to get his strength back before we could do anything productive. Anything that would really help him get what he wants.

“Anastasia, this is important. We can’t take breaks and we can’t act like this isn’t as important as it is. I don’t want food or talking. I want answers.”

He speaks through clenched teeth and with furrowed brows. He’s angry that I’m not as focused on his need for revenge. He’s angry that I’m not as ready to hunt and kill every single wizard who’d wronged him and led him to being captured.

He’s angry that I am not ready to kill Grindelwald.

Not like he is.

At the ice-cold tone that escapes him my head tilts down, my eyes finding the ground as he puts the cup of coffee I’d made him down onto the table in front of him. Even the way he takes the cup from me suggests anger and frustration, something that sparks my own frustration within me.

I’d been the one to find him all those weeks ago.

           The night he was broken and battered.

I’d been the one to take him into my home and take care of him, but now it felt as if he thought everything I was doing wasn’t enough.

           As if it wasn’t up to his standards.

And perhaps my way of doing things wasn’t up to his standards. Percival graves was a man with a lavish lifestyle. A family name that instilled fear into the heart of anyone who dared to oppose him. He was the man at the top of the ladder and I was just some person he’d let get too close.

I didn’t matter before and I didn’t matter now.

I was a means to an end.

A means to helping him get the revenge he so desperately needed.

“You know…”

I start through clenched teeth, my eyes daring to meet his for a moment.

“… You might get far treating other people like shit, but that’s not how it’s going to work with me. You don’t get to treat me as if I’m not doing enough, not when I’m doing everything I can.”

I speak quickly as the tears of frustration threaten to build up and spill over right before him, something I didn’t want to happen. Something I decide to not let happen as I turn away from him, my eyes fixated on the doorway I desperately want to leave through.

Except when I attempt to move I feel his hands grip mine, his touch stopping me instantly.

“I’m sorry…”

He whispers quietly, so quiet that I almost think I’ve hallucinated the words. In fact, if it weren’t for the secure grip he had on my arm I would’ve thought it was all in my head. But it’s the moment I feel the sensation of his fingertips brushing my skin as they continued to grip my hands I know it’s real. That’s the moment I decide to glance over my shoulder to look at him, our eyes meeting again.

Once eye contact is made a look flickers over him for a moment, a devilish look that dances in the corner of his eye as he watches me. A look that I’m so captivated by that I don’t realize he’s moved in closer to me, that his body has managed to guide mine to face his.

Our chests touch and the devilish look in his brown orbs seems to grow as he lets out another raspy apology.

“… I didn’t mean to raise my voice. Nor did I wish to seem ungrateful…”

He pauses as his body seems to move in a bit closer, our noses inches apart. His eyes move from mine to my lips and back up in one swoop. An action that makes my breathing hitch, my whole body paralyzed by his sudden intimate actions.

An action that worsens slightly when his lips find mine without warning.

His touch is unlike anything I’ve ever felt before. His lips go against mine in a slow skillful fashion, as if he knew exactly what he needed to do to make me go crazy. His lips seem to deepen the kiss a bit further when his grip on my hands tighten a bit, an action that draws me in closer to him as my hands fall at his side.

“… I’m more than grateful for you.”

He murmurs against my lips as he struggles to breath when the weight of our kiss becomes too much for either of us to bare. He pulls away after a moment and rests his forehead against mine until we both begin to breath regularly again.

I don’t know what had brought on the kiss nor do I realize why he suddenly decided to kiss me, but I don’t want to argue. In the years, we’d known each other trust had been something we’d formed. An unspoken bond that meant a lot to the both of us, something that had only been confirmed by the kiss we’d just shared.

“Is that how you end all your arguments?”

I ask lightly while looking up at him. Our bodies are so close that we can study the rich ridges of our eyes, the colors in them and the way his pupils dilate at the breathless voice I have once he’s done kissing me.

The sound seems to be music to his ears because he pulls his lips back down to mine, this kiss slower than the last. As if he’s trying to memorize the way we fit together. This time I manage to break my hands from his and this time I find his chest. Under the weight of my touch I feel him flinch for a moment, his lips breaking away from mine for a moment.

When he does this panic finds him, the pain he’d been feeling finding his face the way it had for the last few days. I feel my brow furrow at the sight, a look of confusion pulling at me.

Had I hurt him?

           Had I crossed a terrible line?

“Percival…”

I whisper when the tears come, when the pain moves from his eyes to his face. I know instantly that whatever affection we’d shown each other had been used against him by the same man who’d taken him.

           The same man who’d traumatized him.

“… It’s me. It’s Anastasia. You’re here with me and safe with me. No one will harm you.”

There’s a strength to my words when I say them, a strength that seems to grow when I reach forward and place my hands on either side of his head. I half expect him to pull away, but he doesn’t. Instead he leans into the touch, his face resting against the palm of my hands.

“I know…”

His voice murmurs in a breath.

“… It just all comes back at different times. I have no control over it. I have no way to stop it and I think that’s what drives me the most insane.”

I nod because I understand. I understand what it means to be traumatized by something even if I hadn’t gone through it the way he had. Even if I hadn’t known his pain or what it was that he went through.

“I know you don’t want to talk about it but, if you ever do, I’m here. I’ll always be here for you.”

As aurors we were always encouraged to not have feelings for others. Yes, we could care but we were encouraged to hide those feelings. To bury them as far down as we possibly could. To pretend they don’t exist or that there was no hope for them. It was a technique used to isolate us and make us realize that there was evil in the world and having feelings could make everything more complicated.

           Could make our jobs more complicated.

But in this moment, under his gaze, I feel compelled to let my feelings out. To let him know how I could help him. How I could make him feel less broken after everything he’d experienced.

A small smile plays on his lips when I say the words his tears seeming to freeze in place as he thinks of the right way to respond to what I’ve said and the intentions I have within me.

“When you came into my program I didn’t think I’d be able to work with you…”

He starts.

“… You were beautiful and I thought you’d be a distraction for me. But I knew I was wrong the moment we had a meeting and you opened up that mouth of yours and gave us the facts that no one else had. I remember not being able to listen to anything else. That’s when I knew I liked you. The moment you spoke, then it only expanded when you excelled at your job. When you showed your kindness and your willingness to always do the right thing. No matter what. You inspired me to be more than an Auror.”

I feel my cheeks redden at the words, at the suggestion that I’d inspired the man in front of me in any way. When I’d started working at Macusa I’d worked hard but I never thought it was anything compared to what he did on a day to day basis.

He’d been the man who could do it all. All I did was take in the bad guys and support the stats when they were needed. I did what he told me… I wasn’t anything worth inspiration.

“That’s awfully kind but I didn’t do anything nearly as impressive as you are. You’re the Percival Graves. You do great things and you’ll continue to do it when you get back to work.”

The smile grows on his lips as he moves his lips back to mine. His kiss as slow and beautiful as the last two kisses we’ve shared.

“You have no idea what kind of things you inspire in people.”

He rasps while his hands move to my hips before drawing them in against him, our bodies connecting as we remain caught in each other’s eyes. The longer he looks at me the more I realize that he’s forgetting all about the things that had been bugging him. The longer he looks at me the more I know that this is his way of forgetting about the horrors of his revenge.

“I learned from someone I met at work. A man who knew how to make the world a safer place.”

He chuckles darkly when I compliment him, his eyebrows raising.

“I’d like to take you up on your offer of taking a break if you don’t mind…”

He whispers leaning in to kiss the side of my head.

“… I think getting a second to think is exactly what I need.”

He sounds hopeful when he speaks, his hands moving from my hips as he looks at me, his eyes never leaving mine as he waits for me to distract him. As he waits for me to ground him in reality as opposed to the trauma that still haunted his features.

“I’ll get right on that sir.”

I move my hands to his and decide to drag him with me. I was going to give him a break alright and it would be one he wouldn’t forget.

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How can photo editing in photoshop like a professional

Perhaps you are looking for photo editing. You have landed on a safe place. In this post can know about all the key things of photo editing. This article is going to be very helpful for you if you want to know about photo editing. You will gain a brief idea about photo editing.

Are you dealing with image-related business? If you are engaged with an E-commerce business, graphics design, logo making, Clothing Product Business, Modeling, and Photography, then you have to deal with lots of images daily. But the images that are you using is it perfect?

I want to make a note here. Do you know what I mean by perfect image? If you know, then okay fine. But if you don’t know do not need to do worry. I’m here to explain you all the basic things. Perfect photo means photo that cover the all basic requirements to look attractive. But, is normal image capable of giving attractive look? The answer is simple, obviously not. Even the professional photographers unable to take perfect shot every time.

You need to remember this, “Time is money”. When you failed to take perfect shot, what do you do? Try to take another shot. But this is very boring to repeating shot. At the same time, it is time consuming too. Even you keep repeating shot taking one after another. It’s very tough to click a shot that doesn’t need anything. As I mentioned before, occupational photographer failed to do so. If you manage to cover all the basic things, at the end you will realize that the background is not perfect.

Background is a major factor of image. Especially when you are going to use photo for business purpose, you should not use the original background. Cause, normal background can divert viewer’s attention. Losing attention is not a pleasant fact in the business field. When customer keep concentrated on your object, a motive can came in their mind to buy it.

But are you thinking that how can I edit my photo? You can edit your photo both on computer and mobile devices. But for the best result you should edit photos on computer. There are lots of applications available for Photo Editing. Adobe Photoshop, Adobe Lightroom, Skylum Luminar, Adobe Illustrator are some popular photo editor. But for using these apps you need to have some basic knowledge on photo editing. Allow me to inform you a basic concept of image editing.

Selection: For Photo editing you must need to have a proper knowledge on selection. Selection is a basic and authentic task for photo editing. Sometimes you want to edit the entire image, sometimes you want to edit the whole image, sometimes you want to edit specific portion. With making selection you can choose which area of image you want to change. You need to be very careful when you are making selection. IF you cannot make the selection perfectly, your image portion will mark as visible edges after completing editing task. So you have to be very cautious about it.

Layer: Layer is one of the most authentic factors for image editing. For editing image with perfection, you should have proper idea about layer. Layer is such a term that allows you combine a photo by providing isolating elements of a pictures. The main facility of using layer is you don’t need to do any damage to the main photo. Using layer gives you a massive flexibility. You have the option to edit in non-destructive way. So, this is concept should be clear to you.

Cropping Image: The next thing, you need to know is cropping Image. Cropping is an important concept to know for Photo Editing. You can call cropping as re-sizing. You can compose a new image by applying cropping technique. Moreover, Image resolution remains the same. At this point, it is better to use high resolution image as main image. Suppose you have captured a picture that contains two pet. But you want to separate those two pets. You can use cropping at that point. You can isolate to pets and make two separate photos with the help of cropping image.

Selective Color Change: This is an important and interesting feature to learn for photo editing. Do you want to change a specific color of your image? By applying selective color technique, you can change specific color of an image. Suppose that, someone has captured an image of yours. You liked the shot. But your hair not looking proper black in that, image another thing is ok. You can use selective color in this case. You can make black pure black, red pure red and white pure white as well as other colors too. Isn’t it great?

Saturation: If you take your image in low light, you should use saturation. Does your image look sallow? Looks like it has washed out? No need to take stress anymore. Saturation feature is available to help you. By increasing saturation number, you bring a fresh look in your photo. It can make image more color full. But be careful while applying it. Excess of anything is not good at all. Applying too much saturation can give a burn look. That can ruin your overall photo. So, keep the balance.

Color Balance: This is another important fact to mention. You may think this is similar to Saturation. But you are wrong dear. It’s related with color levels but saturation is related with exposure levels. When you see that your photographs your photo’s overall color tone is looking dull and not attractive, you can solve it with white balance feature. So, you just cannot avoid this feature in the field of photo editing.

Exposure and Contrast: Color balance, Saturation, Selective color change can help you change color level and overall looking. But without Exposure and contrast your photo always looks incomplete. For giving the final touch you must need to know about this feature. By applying this option, you can make your photo so bright as you want. At the same time, you can also make the image as dark as you want.

So that was some key factor about photo editing. You have to read about these points specifically and apply them in practically when you use photo editing process. Apply them according to your image need. But you should always remember that don’t try anything excess. Photo should be looked natural. Raw photo cannot fulfill your expectation. There is some gap remaining always. Try to fill those gaps by photo editing. Not anything else. Thanks for reading. Keep connected with us.

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Best Earbuds for Motorcycle Use

If you use a motorcycle to commute on a daily basis, getting a nice pair of earbuds can help make the drive more enjoyable and go by much quicker. There are several factors when choosing the best pair of earbuds for motorcycle use that should be factored in for your purchase; are they loud enough, are they going to fall out of your ears when driving? You definitely would not want noise-canceling properties as this could make driving more dangerous. A tip can be to only pop in one earbud when driving if you are worried about becoming distracted. See below for several of the top earbuds for 2020 for motorcycle driving.

Top Earbuds For Motorcycle Use 2020

Name: Rating: Price on Amazon: Apple AirPods with Charging Case 5.0 TOZO T10 Bluetooth 5.0 Wireless Earbuds 4.8 (Best Option Under $50) Echo Buds 4.9 (Best Alternative to Airpods )

When riding a motorcycle one of the main factors you will want to look into when purchasing your bluetooth earbuds is to make sure they get loud enough to hear over the road conditions. All of these earbuds get super loud and will be more than enough to hear when driving in traffic.

What To Look For In Earbuds When Driving A Motorcycle

Really earbuds have been around since the ’80s, if you remember they usually came in what looked like a lady’s makeup compact. You would put them in and wind up the chord on a little disc.

For a long time the best earbuds were just an alternative to the headphone and weren’t really considered a status symbol or must-have item. But that all changed when a company named Apple, you may have heard of them, introduced a little device called the iPod. Not only did it change the way we listen to music and other media but it created an earbud phenomenon

These little earbuds created a massive cultural movement. It was now a status symbol to display your iPod white earbuds. It meant you were hip, cool, with the times. You were somebody pretty awesome! Everyone started rocking these earbuds. Then came the aftermarket styles, because once everyone and their brother had them it wasn’t so cool anymore.

Companies started making their own earbuds and they came in every color imaginable. They were making earbuds that represented your own personality. If you were into 80’s Hot Pink then you could find an earbud that matched. Companies also started modifying the design to make them more comfortable and to provide options that would enable them to better fit any type of ear. It truly become a very lucrative market and continues to thrive with every iPod, iPhone, MP3 player, or CD Walkman sold!

Sound Isolating Earbuds For Motorcycle Riding

There are 2 distinct technologies that are very different but often confused with one another.  There is a technology called sound or noise-canceling and there is a technology called sound or noise isolating.  On the surface, they look very similar but when you dig deeper and look at the technology involved you will see they are very different.

Sound canceling earbuds work by using electronics to filter out the environmental sound and allow only the sounds being transmitted from the device they are connected with to pass through to the ear.  They create a filter in essence to produce a higher quality sound.  They don’t even have to let sound pass through.  Many models will filter out the outside sounds creating a simulated peace and quiet.  This comes in handy on airplane flights or when you are trying to ignore your screaming 3-year-old!  OK maybe not so much with the toddler but you get the point.

Sound isolating earbuds attempt to filter out environmental noise through fit and insulation.  It is very low tech in its approach when compared to its sibling.  The key with sound isolating earbuds is finding a good solid fit along with good insulation.  Often with these styles of earbuds, you will find that they come with several different sizes of foam or rubber attachments.  These allow a certain level of custom fit as the size of a person’s ear canal varies.  You should try each size to see what fits the best.  You are looking for a snug fit that acts as a seal but doesn’t create discomfort or pain.  When you first put this style earbud on it may feel awkward and uncomfortable.  Usually, this passes and you get used to it but if it continues you should either try a different size bud or an entirely different set of earbuds.  I had the hardest time finding a pair of earbuds that fit because it seemed like every earbud was painful and annoying.  But after some research and trial and error, I finally found a pair that felt good.

To wrap it up just remember when looking at earbuds that there are really two different types of sound filtering earbuds.  The kind that uses electronics and usually cost much more and the other that are sound isolating earbuds that try to filter sound through fit and insulation.

Different Types of Wireless Earbuds

What are wireless earbuds? For anyone who pays attention to performing artists, such as musicians, they will notice that most of them these days use wireless in-ear monitors, as opposed to the traditional clunky stage monitors that used to create feedback and other undesirable noise. While these in-ear monitors are generally quite expensive, the technology used in them has allowed a new generation of music lovers to enjoy their favorite music, wherever they are, without wires hanging from their heads and tangling around everything.

Wireless earbuds allow a person to simply enjoy their music in comfort. There are quite a few choices when it comes to wireless earbuds, and figuring out where to start can be a challenge. Not all wireless earbuds are created equally and in this category, as rare as it may sound, price doesn’t always equal quality.

Quality factor

Before getting into the nuts and bolts of wireless earbuds, it’s important to note that, when it comes to quality, wireless earbuds are simply not going to offer the same level as wired earbuds. At the same token, wired earbuds will pale in comparison with over the ear headphones, which will have some limitations when compared to the best speakers on the market.

Quality is in the eye of the beholder, for the most part, when it comes to wireless earbuds. Some individuals will simply not be able to tolerate the loss of mid-range frequencies or the minimal bass that is produced. Others will feel that their wireless earbuds create too much white noise or too much low-end frequency and when turned up in volume, the sound begins to become muddled.

Wireless earbuds are tricky to rate, simply because what makes them appealing has more to do with convenience than about sound quality. With that being stated, there are two basic types of wireless earbuds: Bluetooth and Kleer.

Do Noise Cancelling Earbuds Have High-Quality Sound?

The core function of Noise-canceling earbuds is to lessen the undesired ambient or acoustic noises through the ANC or Active Noise Control technique. The circuitry uses the earphones electronic indicator to create anti-noise signals. This results in a sort of damaging interference that results in the canceling of ambient sound that is heard through the earpieces. These can be great for a passenger who desires to sleep or rest in noisy automobiles such as subway cars or airplanes. In addition, they help people who would like to enjoy the music from their portable players without increasing the volume too much.

The ANC technique does not influence the soaring frequencies a great deal and soundproofing eliminates the need for complex design. These work extremely well when the consumer is beside an incessantly buzzing fridge but on the other hand, their effectiveness can be reduced quite rapidly by varying audio frequencies like human speech. Previously, these technologies used to come in earbuds only that would assist airline passengers while flying.

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A lot of these take up power from batteries which have to be recharged or changed. In addition, the quality decreases with the diminishing of the battery life. Former versions used to create extra unwanted noises which would disturb the listening experience as well as damaging the eardrums if they were too sensitive. The latest models have batteries in their accessible space however these do not diminish the weight.

Numerous earbuds come with additional noise cancellation switches which can be adjusted to the customer’s needs. They do add to the mass of the earbuds but present the owner an option to make use of them merely when they are desired. A few have a disadvantage against numerous ANC featured earbuds that can also offer strong bass support. However, this disadvantage is removed by modern models that are more expensive but provide superior bass in addition to noise cancellation.

Bluetooth earbuds are perfect examples of wireless technology when it is done right. In a mobile world where everything has become hassle-free, Bluetooth earbuds used with Bluetooth technology offers an exceptional alternative for individuals who utilize Mobile phones. Bluetooth technology enables conforming to Hands-fee driving laws. Its user-friendly access to the phone and because many mobile phones are not only used for making phone calls anymore but to listen to music make Bluetooth earbuds an attractive phone accessory. Bluetooth technology offers extremely low power consumption and hands-free convenience. Coupled with Bluetooth earbuds, it is becoming more popular each day. The Bluetooth earbuds built-in microphone makes it easy to switch between listening to music and making a phone call.

The Bluetooth earbuds built-in microphone makes it easy to switch between listening to music and making a phone call. Although the price may seem expensive, the Bluetooth earbuds versatility and ease of use fully justify its cost. Anyone can talk, walk or jog hands-free without worrying about wired earphones. The beauty of Bluetooth technology is that the background noise is completely blocked by using the earbud allowing people to keep the sound volume low. This, in turn, reduces stress to their eardrums, which has been a concern from the medical profession as earphones use has increased. Purchasing Bluetooth earbuds offer a number of advantages to mobile users. The prolonged use of earphones, which generally causes discomfort or irritation in the ear, is limited when using bluetooth earbuds. The makers of Bluetooth have developed different kinds of rubber fittings for the earbud to suit anyone’s preference.

The makers of Bluetooth have developed different kinds of rubber fittings for the earbud to suit anyone preference. A choice of soft or hard padding makes the use of Bluetooth earbuds even more desirable. Bluetooth technology has become so user-friendly that people with less technical knowledge can also make full use of it. Users are falling in love with Bluetooth technology because getting Bluetooth earbuds can make using mobile technology easier, stress-free, hands-free not to mention stylish.

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Can Soy Contribute To Bad Parrot Behavior?

Hello! I have a question concerning Indian Ringnecks. I have 2 males, ages 9 and 11, both rescues, each very unique, due somewhat to their reasons for rescue. I just read that soy might contribute to hormonal behavior. Agni, full flighted, gregarious, toy lover, loves soy beans. Eats them every day with fruit and other veggies. Should I cut him off in Spring time? Also, saw study of cockatoo drumming. Agni and Boingo are great drummers. Since they roost in the same room I sleep in, they will drum (test) to communicate with me. Once it thundered outside in the night and they "texted" me. I "texted" back that it was ok. Agni drums a lot in his spring fling time. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fyX8DuBKPZc Anyway, about soy beans in diet calming Agni down. Is that a good idea? Thanks. I read your blog every week and have learned a lot. Sure hope you keep it going. Kathy M (Agni, 9, and Boingo, 11) cool about the drumming Kathy and yes I would advocate eliminating the soy beans altogether. here's a great new soy free blend from Alternative Formula from Hagen  all the vets are raving about  I've been blogging for 10 years and will continue until I am no longer able Big THANK YOU! Mitch on your reply. I guess I've been just fueling Agni's fire!! They are cut off from soy, but they do like limas and peas, as well as other occasional beans. I will let you know if I notice any difference in behavior. Oddly, Boingo, who is 11, and, while he has his full wings, cannot fly due to a cat encounter, has no real interest in spring fling behavior much. He is intellectual, preferring watching parrot videos, and he is a great fan of the ringnecks on UTube. He knows them like we know movie stars. Agni did not talk when he came to live with us and Boingo taught him all the words and songs we use. Since Agni tends to "chirp loudly" we request English. They are, in effect, both bilingual. Boingo has anxiety issues though and will chew on his tail feathers. He has lots to chew on though and he likes to chew. His all time favorite "game" is chewing on a beak-proof cloth with my fingers moving around underneath. The attention time with that game a few times a day has done wonders to cut down on feather chewing. I am the parrot nanny who lives with them, and they have me all day and night, so they aren't neglected. Respecting and tending to their individual "issues" makes for a happy flock.

Agni "chirps loudly" every day at 5 (nut time). He knows the word nut but won't say it. If I ask if he wants a nut, he drums loudly. He also "chirps loudly" every day at 6:30. I figured out that he is calling one of his flock home. He's sure it works because, sure enough, soon his flockmate walks in the door. Learning to communicate with the parrots has been a wonderful pleasure. Thank you for helping! Kathy and thank you Kathy for leaning how to speak bird best mitchr your zygodactyl footnotes Q: Why does Harrison’s contain SOY and is it bad for my bird? Does SOY cause hormone stimulation in birds? A: Negative press about soy (soybeans) is another classic example of anonymous claims from internet sources that must be taken with a grain of salt. (see additional notes below) For starters, Harrison’s formulas are steadily reviewed by PhD avian nutritionists. This practice of review has been in place for almost 30 years. Many products being challenged for their use of soy actually use soybean by-products, which are made with soy oil or soybean oil meal from a chemical extraction technique using hexane. Hexane was formerly used as a cleaning agent for removing grease in the printing industry as well as a solvent for rubber cement, but now it’s showing up in many so-called “natural” and even “made with organic” soy foods. Even this inferior soy source has not been proven harmful. (The soy in Harrison’s Bird Foods is whole, organic, rolled and toasted.) The digestive system of a bird functions in a way different from ours. They can tolerate foods we can’t; we can tolerate foods that would make them ill. We do know there are many beneficial effects for birds from consuming soy products; the negatives are much more a speculation. At the 2nd International Symposium on Pet Bird Nutrition in Hannover in 2007, we at Harrison’s discussed this with our current nutritionist, Dr. Kirk Klasing of the University of California Davis. He is studying the feeding of soybeans as they are normally raised and those that are genetically modified to produce phytoestrogens (specifically genistein), which are used by the pharmacological industry. This latter soybean has a thousand times the phytoestrogen content of regular soybeans. Dr Klasing has found no indication that even this high level has any effect whatsoever. His research subjects are finches, which have the highest metabolism rate and would show problems the soonest. His co-researchers have also set up flocks of finches for breeding, which starts at less than one year of age, and have not seen any effects on fertility, hatchability, chick maturation or illness. Harrison’s has been fed to the leading breeding facilities in the world for almost 30 years, and the egg-laying, hatching and survivability have always been excellent. In fact, Harrison’s was developed to solve breeding problems in hyacinth macaws (i.e., no eggs, infertile eggs, eggs that had to be incubated to hatch, weak hatchlings that needed assistance to hatch, rejection by parents so the chicks had to be hand fed). There was a 1970’s lawsuit in New Zealand claiming rosellas were maturing early due to being fed soy, and that some even died. The claimant had millions to spend on the case, whereas the new USA pellet manufacturer did not, and the case “appeared” to prove soy was the problem. It did not. Veterinarians familiar with the case said the birds were infected with one of the first cases of circovirus in rosellas. The manufacturer has continued to use his original formulas that have been used for over 30 years at the U of California cockatiel research flock without incident.  The claimant has saturated the internet for these 30 years with the weakest of claims, all based on poor empirical observations. There is a failure by claimants to conclusively prove that feeding products that contain soy are unhealthy. And again, processed soy is a very different product from raw soy. The soy in Harrison’s Bird Foods is whole, organic, rolled and toasted.That is because our mentor was John Stoodley, who used whole organic soybeans in his famous formulas. John’s breeding results are unparalleled in seed-eating birds. He kept impeccable records. Most aviculturists do not. So there is no honest way to compare diets. Another exception is Eric Von Kooten, who has the only peer-reviewed comparison of traditional aviculture diets to Harrison’s. The study was on the members contributing to the Ruppel’s parrot stud book. His summary: “The conclusion is justified that the use of HBF (Harrison’s Bird Foods) is definitely worth the extra costs when compared to the use of traditional feed. Next to the benefits mentioned previously, such as a larger number of young birds, fewer dead birds, healthier birds, faster independence of young birds and fewer ill birds, other aspects have not been mentioned. Among others, the most important are that we experienced a major improvement in behavior since the introduction of HBF as well as a remarkable change in color of the feathers. No doubt, the introduction of HBF is one of the elements that has improved the well-being of our parrots in addition to the other actions we initiated in the early 1990s to realize a more sensible captivity of these beautiful animals.” Hormone stimulation comes from many other causes, in my experience. Plastics and pesticides are some of the worst. We have never seen it from soy. Feeding warm foods, rich table foods, fruit high in sugar, sweet corn, high oil items (nuts, sunflower seeds), hand feeding and stroking are the main causes of hormone stimulation, in my practical experience. Finally, the poor health resulting from feeding seeds and tablefood, still being promoted by well meaning but misinformed bird owners, is and always has been the most dangerous preventable cause of suffering in birds.    LETTER TO RICHARD JAMES FROM A VETERINARY CLINIC IN WHANGAREI (BRUCE PICKFORD) I have recently been on holiday in Canada and the USA, During a stay in Alaska I visited a Raptor rehabilitation centre in Sitka where I learned that they too used Soybean based granules as feeds for their chicks. They too have had some problems with mortality, early maturation of birds and suspicious deaths. The problem is increasing and information is urgently required concerning Soybean products. "PARROT SOCIETY NEW ZEALAND" ARTICLE, BY VALERIE JAMES (NOVEMBER 1996) In 1992 she was keeping and raising some of the native birds which she had been doing for some years on her own food formulas. However she started to use a commercially made food and her hobby suddenly became a nightmare when the chicks began to sicken and die. The food was promoted as scientifically developed and as such was not suspected initially. Autopsies of the dead birds indicated an immune system breakdown with the result of multiple organ failure and a lethal multiplication of the birds own benign bacteria. Survivors often had poor muscle control and matured prematurely, Some were also aggressive or displayed inappropriate sexual behaviour. a chemist carefully tested the food and found it contained a structure which was almost that of coumarin, a substance upon which most modern rodent baits are based. Coumarin was once allowed in small amounts in human food as an aromatic flavour enhancer but has long since been banned when it was shown to be cumulatively toxic when fed to animals. The three ingredients of the bird food were found to be Soy protein isolate (as in Soy infant formulas), Soy all and corn flour. There was no trace of this coumarin. However, it was discovered that there were three other plant structures similar to coumarin, all of which can occur in Soy. They are: 1) The fungal toxin zearalenone - - caused by poor storage or poor growing conditions. 2) Coumestrol, this being present in Soy sprouts and sometimes in the beans. 3) Insoflavones which are always associated with say protein. This occurs in very few other foods for human consumption although it does occur in beer causing the feminization of men who are heavy beer drinkers. Because of the similarity of their chemical structures zearalenone coumestrol and the isoflavones are phytoetrogens (that is estrogen derived from plants causing many of the symptoms noted in the birds). Further research was done and it was discovered that soy beans contain other toxins most of which are only partially reduced by modern processing and have shown in commercial products to cause ill health in animals. So the Soy content of the food especially the Soy isoflavones which are not significantly reduced by processing causes many problems for our animals and especially birds. Research up to this date by bird keepers that have withdrawn all Soy based products from their birds diet have shown the disappearance of the problem. However birds and their offspring's previously exposed to Soy had continuing problems into the third and fourth generations. CONCLUSION Many problems have been highlighted and recognised as being related to feeding soy based products to our birds. The above examples are only a few extracts of many related reports from many different sources. Although they are all very disturbing the Soy problems relating to the retarding effect on the reproduction/fertifity systems of birds is causing the most concern as it appears to be irreversible. It seems bizarre that so many bird products currently in use are Soybean based even though many of the effects have been known and reported for some time now. Wild life preservation programmes have also employed Soybean products and supplements for adult animals and birds as well as infant feeds for cats and parrots etc. It is established clearly that all soy foods contain toxic substances causing chronic poisoning and endocrine system disruption at very low levels, This effects all forms of life that we feed it to including our own infants. However, for our birds it is critical that something is done now as their are so many feeds on the market that rely on a Soy base. Our birds both for us private keepers and Zoos etc., are already becoming scarce without the addition of this very basic feeding problem we are now faced with. Click to Post

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Tried and True Tips To Lose Weight After Weight Loss Surgery: Everything Old Is New Again

We’ve come to the last article in this three part series, and I’ve saved the least favorite parts for last. I already know that you’re not going to like reading these final few tips I have for you. Everybody knows them; nobody really wants to do them. But I also know that this list will give you great insight on how to lose 100 pounds or more and how to stop emotional eating after weight loss surgery. My clients usually moan loudly when I start helping them incorporate these sure-fire weight loss strategies into their daily routines, so I won’t be surprised if you feel the same way. However you also know in your heart that they’re effective because they’ve worked off and on for you and many other people after weight loss surgery. So here goes: * Chew, chew, chew. And chew some more. The more you chew the more nutritional value you can get from each meal before you get full.

* Count calories if you need to. There’s no shame in using this time honored approach. Actually, it’s what most of the rest of the world does to maintain their weight – and for good reason – it works!

* No eating from delivery boxes. Ever. Also, don’t eat while watching TV, working on the computer or any other activity that might set you up for mindless eating.

* Eat breakfast. A combination of small portions of yogurt, oatmeal and fruit makes a great breakfast that provides both protein and healthy carbohydrates to help regulate your insulin level and give you a mental clarity boost.

* Have some fruits and/or vegetables at every meal and snack (unless they problematic for you to eat after your surgery). Intensely colored produce like carrots, sweet potatoes, spinach, blueberries, dried plums and squash pack a powerful nutritional punch.

* Keep a food and wellness journal. Research has repeatedly shown that people who track what they eat on a regular basis lose more weight and have much less trouble keeping it off. This will also give you valuable clues on how you can stop emotional eating habits that are killing your weight loss.

* Keep an eye on portion size – even with so-called “healthy” foods. It may seem counterintuitive, but it’s still very easy for you to sabotage your weight loss when you have big portions in front of you.

* Minimize the amount of fat in your diet. Although your body does require some fats, the more fat you consume the less likely you are to get sufficient amounts of produce, whole grains, fish, vitamins C and A, folic acid and fiber into your body.

* Make good choices when eating out and learn healthy cooking techniques at home. Eat fewer processed or prepared foods. Choose foods that are closest to the way nature made them.

* Join a support group and participate regularly. Trying to figure out how to lose 100 pounds or more on your own can be lonely, confusing and overwhelming. Don’t try to do this on your own. This just makes your journey to health and wellness unnecessarily hard for you. It also sets you up for failure because battling your weight problem in isolation makes it too easy to lose momentum and focus. Next thing you know you’re slipping back into the old habits that made you obese in the first place.

* Take the vitamin, mineral and protein supplements recommended by your surgeon. Do this religiously as if your life depended on it, because in fact, it does.

As people who’ve already been on every diet under the sun, more times than we care to remember, we also know that if we just add these things to our daily lives we’d have no trouble losing all the weight we want after weight loss surgery and keeping it off for good. So why don’t we? How can we stay focused and do what we need to do to ultimately get what we so deeply desire? No caring person would ever discount your experience and say that staying committed and focused is easy to do on your own. However, having the right professional support showing you exactly how to stop emotional eating and how to stop compulsive eating after weight loss surgery can make the all the difference in the world between failure and success by. Hmm… and you already know that too… what are you waiting for?

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