#i unfollowed a bunch of people recently because my dash had a lot of hating yourselves jokes

[castrovulcant]

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I haven’t been on tumblr for quite as long as a lot of people but over several years I’ve noticed this interesting gradual sorta,, shift in the general culture? that it went from this mostly depressed, nihilistic outlook where people would regularly joke about hating themselves and being hopeless and depressed, to a wave of vehemence of “STOP hating everything actually the world is Good and you deserve love!!!” type posts, to now, where those aggressive ‘PSAs’ have faded away and instead I regularly see people romanticizing simple things like stars and hot tea and rainy mornings, and waxing poetic about their friends, and just trying to put love out there. and I don’t know exactly what that means (someone who knows more than me could probably say something smart about generational expression and trauma or popular perception of mental health and whatnot), but I do know that it makes my heart very full to see people learn to love the world and themselves by extension, and a whole userbase adopting healthier coping mechanisms, and therefore teaching the younger users to do so as well. I might just be following different people, but I really do think we’ve grown. everyone has grown. five years ago it wasn’t unusual for the next post on my dash to be a scathing commentary on why nothing matters or an anon ripping into someone they barely knew or someone complaining about how pathetic their interests are. now I have mutuals who get excited and spam reblog art of cows and friends I see tagging each other in pictures of frogs and strangers writing paragraphs about how much I matter. it makes me happy. idk. just an observation I wanted to make. I think people are good and everyone’s just trying their best at the end of the day

[jimines]

Hey so this is pretty random lol but I'm not sure what to think and I really wanted someone else's opinion. So I have this blog that I blocked because its essentially just endless negativity and criticizing bts and army, I mean you could scroll for days and not find a single positive or even neutral opinion about bts. Which is fine, like its their blog, I heavily disagree with a lot of the absolute insane takes they have about stuff (I actually thought this person just enjoyed being a contrarian so much that they would just defend bizarre takes for the sake of having a different opinion lol), but its their blog so I just blocked and moved on. but recently I decided to search the blog name just to see if anyone else had mentioned them, however when I did, I found that multiple blogs I follow were actually mutuals with this person (like they had done mutual tags and stuff like that within the last year). So now I'm not sure what to think about these blogs I follow that are mutuals with that blog. I get having friends/mutuals with different opinions, but that blog is basically just a bulletin board for people to shit on bts/armys, so it makes me feel weird. For example, if you run a jimin blog and then are friends with blogs who use their blog to shit on jimin, its valid to feel weird about that right? Idk, am I blowing this out of proportion? Am I allowed to feel weird about that? I will say I'm jimin biased so I have unfortunately gotten used to seeing big accounts on places like twt get exposed for being in group chats just shitting all over him, so now I think I'm a little more sensitive about who I follow. I really like these blog content, but I've been considering unfollowing them and I just wanted someone else's opinion

(also this isn't about you haha just wanted to make that clear and ease any anxiety, I have no idea if you are a mutual with the blog I'm talking about so just wanted to make it clear I'm not trying to hint at you being involved or anything)

Ahhh I think it's valid to feel a little weird about it. I mean, I don't know what blog you're talking about or what they post, but I'd definitely feel a little strange if a bunch of my mutuals followed a toxic blog that shit on bts and its fandom all the time... Personally, if it were me, I don't think I'd go so far as to unfollow/break the mutual or anything with them, unless they were reblogging or preaching this blogs negativity all over my dash. As long as they themselves aren't toxic. Some people may just not see the issue, or maybe these other blogs just don't have a problem with this blog sharing their "opinions" and see it as just that. I've got no idea. Though if this blog you speak of is just spewing hate left right and centre and being an ass just for the sake of being an ass, that's a different story, because I feel anyone would know not to associate with a blog like that unless they felt the same way. That's a red flag for me and I'd consider unfollowing. But again, I don't know this blog or their content sdgjlhdfskgj it's all subjective to how you feel about it. If it would make you more comfortable to simply unfollow everyone associated with that blog, then go for it. It's up to you, I can't tell you what to do. And I can't say whether you're "blowing things out of proportion" or not because it's just how you feel and you have a right to feel uncomfortable about it. Do what would make your experience better on tumblr, hun.

And sjkghldhfg you didn't need to specify it wasn't about me kalslkalksa I don't follow any toxic blogs LMAO I've blocked the five I've come in contact with so far😂

[rpbetter]

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About Vespertine

You can call me that, Vespertine. I’d rather you didn’t go with Vesper, but as it is unfortunately so likely to happen, I won’t feed you to the dogs over it either. RPB Mun is also acceptable.

I’m alright with either she/her or he/him, they/them is also fine. Apparently, that was big enough clue-in for the poor reading comp crowd, so while I feel it is not of importance, I’m nonbinary, yes.

Late 30′s, chronically ill but still working adult with neurodivergence. I’m both busy and Busy, and always sick. This limits my brain power and ability to be here. I have an active RP blog that I won’t be sharing to keep responsible distance. That is always going to be my priority, it is my primary hobby.

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Honesty and openness are policies.

And in the spirit of that, I repeat; you can fucking do better, tumblr RPC!

[coplins]

(1/3) Thanks for responding. I totally see the queerbaiting/kill your gays criticism - it's clear from Misha's comments after the fact that he really thought he was doing something supportive and didn't get how it was the opposite. I wasn't upset with ignoring Eileen because that whole plot was so badly written, and I didn't mind blurry wife because that was a story they'd never have time to tell, so leaving it to be your choice of wife/co-parent (Jared's words) worked for me.

(2/3) I don't see Dean's lack of reciprocation as a problem because Jensen and the showrunners have continuously said that is not their intent in writing/acting that character, so anything folks read into it is subtext. Again, Misha thought it would be better rep than it was. It was a bad call. John isn't canonically a child abuser, just a lousy parent. Both Dean and Sam have done so many crappy things as well that honestly, they shouldn't be there by that metric either. 3/4) But I don't think the finale (awkwardly written as it was) cancels out their character development at all. They are different people - back at the starting point, but not the men they were when they started. Dean is emotionally open; he's dropped acting tough and can talk about his emotions. He can be alone and be okay. Sam is no longer afraid of his blood or turning into John; he can be a good dad. I wish we'd seen Jack and Cas, or heard them at least wish them well, even just a prayer. (4/4) But even though that was crappy to leave out, I don't think it negates the show or the characters. 19 added Cas and Jack's names to the table, and I can be happy with that as the final episode. I was prepared to pretend it didn't exist before it even aired. I AM really glad you're anti-harassment. The shit that even folks like Kripke have been getting on their pages has made me so sad. Dabb posted something about baboons and folks even thought it was about them, not his new show! (Also, sorry to dump like a huge text thing in your inbox. It's totally fine that we disagree on things. I've just seen so many crazy things like people blaming Jared and saying the episode was an ad for Walker and to boycott Walker - a ton of Jared hate in general, really. Or saying Jensen "Destiel Isn't Real" Ackles is secretly a heller who's been viciously silenced by the powers that be for years. And now Misha's getting dogpiled for trying to interact and understand how he fucked up.)

It's fine, Nonnie. :)

Okay, so, just to make one thing clear. If you enjoyed the finale, then I think it's great. For everyone who didn't get their joy sucked out of them, that's awesome! I got to see the Wincest side of my Tumblr dash go apeshit from happiness and I'm happy for them. I've since had to unfollow some of those blogs when they turned bitter and hateful towards those of us who didn't like the ending. I curate my Tumblr (internet in general) experience to avoid seeing hate thrown at ships, actors, characters, fans, or people in general. I unfollow people if they post too much toxic stuff no matter if they're Destiel shippers, angel fans, or whatever part of fandom they're in.

I try not to reblog too much angry/bitter crap either. There are a lot of posts on my dash that I wholeheartedly agree with but don't belong on my blog. And I've written my share of wank and rants over the years but seldom hit post because I don't want to ruin someone else's positivity. When I do hit post I tag it "spn wank" so it can be avoided. If I need to angry-rant I do so in chat. Sometimes I mess up. There are undoubtedly some less than nice posts in the Buckleming wank category on my blog.

Generally speaking, my M.O. is disengaging and/or vote with my wallet. I will never condone cyberbullying. No matter how famous the person, or how nasty they are, harassment isn't okay. Actions have consequences and I try to think of what they are before I act. If I vent hurtful opinions about an actor, it'll be kept in chat, with someone who understands that particular frustration. (Not related to the current situation.)

When it comes to canon, it doesn't matter what showrunners or actors tell us about how it's meant to be interpreted or how they meant to act it. Canon is what's shown on screen, period. As curious as I am about what the actors have to say about things, it isn't important regarding canon at all. I'll stan my boys no matter what their characters get up to on-screen. <3

Yeah, I've seen the theories and the dogpiling. Luckily, I've avoided seeing the Jared hate but I knew it would be there because the internet is a cesspool of people lashing out aimlessly or misdirecting their anger. Even IF they wrote the finale in a way that they thought would put a spotlight on Jared's upcoming series, HE was nowhere near a position of power to make that decision and should be left out of it. I just figured, if it was true that that's what they thought, then the Wincest bunch was their target audience for the new show. *shrug*

Interesting to hear your take on the finale. If I follow people who have your take, they're not vocal about it, or I'm simply missing it because I don't stalk Tumblr. All it takes for me to stop scrolling and go back to my writing is 3 unknown anime posts in a row or one reader-insert fic and I'm nope-ing the hell out of here. X)

I'm not going to argue against any of your points. It's great that you saw it that way. Fuck, I wish I did too.

I kinda feel like I need to address the child abuse comment I made, though. Some separate neglect and abuse like those aren't the same, some only count physical abuse, others include verbal abuse. Too many of my loved ones (both close friends and family) have experienced all three of those categories and the one who was left alone to care for her little sister as a child, definitely has a lot of mental scarring from it, so I'm counting neglect as abuse. That said, I fucking love John Winchester. So it might be Jeffrey Dean Morgan's charisma, so sue me. But John canonically neglected the hell out of his sons. We got proof of that even in this season when John drops his son off for days in a town where kids have gone missing recently. So, yeah... But, on the other hand, of course both he and Mary should end up in Heaven. Like, that wasn't even a question.

I think my strong reaction against it was how every part of the found family the Winchesters had gathered over the years was erased from the narrative as soon as Dean died. The only one who is shown as important is Bobby, a found-family member that initially was connected with John, not someone the brothers had found and connected with on their own. Bobby is also the only non-Winchester in the photos Sam has over his bed when he's dying. I don't know, man, "Everyone's here," simply doesn't do it for me.

"Family ends with blood" like the finale implied, only works if the greatest monsters in life haven't been family members, and my best friends (twins) growing up, just like my mother, were abused, mentally, physically, and sexually, by parents. I've seen the aftermath of those hellfires, how long it takes to assemble the fractures of your being and become, if not whole, at least functional and happy. For them, it was the friends they made along the way, those who loved them when they couldn't, who really mattered.

And that was one thing I really loved about SPN (and still do). Team Free Will. Wayward Sisters. All the people that they met along the way and connected with. I've loved to see Sam and Dean develop their bond by taking it from unhealthy, destructive co-dependency to step by step with several setbacks become their own individuals with lives outside of each other, yet still having the strong bond full of brotherly feels where the love they had for each other was rooted in respect for each other's differences and not who they "were supposed to be for each other". And unlike you, I can't see anything but regression in how the finale played out.

Okay, I gotta stop talking now. ^^ I have one scene my betas told me I need to rewrite in my next chapter, and another chapter half done, and I'm itching to post so I need to get on with it.

I hope I didn't put too much of a dampener on your enjoyment of the finale. My opinions don't matter. We all come from different life experiences and therefore find different things compelling and important. I don't begrudge anyone their happiness. <3

*Hugs*

[sheikah]

Hi there! Just wanted to say that I love your blog and I love everything you stand for. With that being said, I've had to unfollow quiet a bit of game of thrones blogs because of their anti dany posts that have jus recently started showing up on my dash (I guess because of the promo) but anyways, are there any game of thrones blogs that are dany stans / don't reblog anti content? I need more game of thrones blogs to follow! Once again, love you bunches!

First, thank you so much! It means a lot :’) I’m sorry to hear you’ve had to unfollow a lot lately. Unfortunately I can relate to this too well–I’ve been having a similar experience here and have had to do some unfollowing. I follow a lot of bloggers who love GoT and don’t post anti content or hate! I don’t follow antis of any kind (or at least, I try not to!) Below are some of my favorite bloggers who are pro-Dany and who also make content of some kind whether it be edits, meta, fanart, whatever. I also follow and love a lot of people who may not make a lot of content but still reblog a lot of content that is pro Dany so you can check people I follow here and check the fic rec post I made recently for Dany-friendly fic authors :)

@daenerysjon @muttpeeta @dracarysqueen @unburntdaenerys @oberynmartell @highvalyrian @annabelleebythesea @truegodofthearena @aegon @yocalio @madaboutasoiaf @daenerys-stormborn @bitchfromtheseventhhell @insomniarama @midqueenally @ladyofdragonstone @oadara @jaimeofhouselannister @aryaestarks @chillyravenart @jonerya @nnymeros @alaynesstone @daensarah @maisieswilliams @daenerya @thebronzefury 

Anyway I am sure I’m going to remember someone right after I post this haha. I get so much anxiety making recs because I don’t wanna leave someone off and then my mind draws a blank. But here are some good people!

[a-xxj0kerxx]

☯ ♦ ☆☁ ☼ ☣ - questions for the mun meme

☯ Is there a muse you’ve always wanted to play?

OF COURSE OOF. This beautiful man, Hong Jong-Hyun. If he’ll accept his role in that new drama, then it’s fair game. He’ll be my next, I’ve always liked him. To me Jong-Hyun is like a softer, nicer version of Woo Bin! My collection will be complete with him on my list! Other than him, Seo In-Guk is on my watch list! Since I’m too lazy, doing Seo Kang Joon and Krystal Jung right now. Lee Soo-Hyuk hasn’t been getting much love. Resource wise, he will most likely be next unless there is a handsome face that can convince me otherwise!

♦ What’s an AU that you’ve always wanted?

It has always been on my mind for Kim Chun-Ha to be Jeong-Ki’s grandfather. If you look at it now, he is 70 years old and Jeong-Ki is only 29. Though my first time making him his father, it played into Jeong-Ki’s health. Because they had him past 35, so it left room for any disorders to happen to his child’s health. But could it be all a lie that Chun-Ha has been holding from his own children? That their actual father died a long time ago and their grandfather found it to be too bothersome and find how much of a disgrace his son was to him that he died first before him. Keeping any information about their father and putting his grandchildren under his wing as his very own children! Dats deep.

☆ What type of fantasy AU would you like to do one day?

I have never considered any fantasy or any fantasy AU in general because I’d like to keep the canon universe of my characters into a cliche 21st century Korean drama with cliches up the butt! It’s a low percentage that I’ll whip out a Goblin AU for my human characters. But I would not mind making Min-Jun a vampire. He’s pretty kinky. Plus he is so damn pale that people could mistaken him for one! LOL

☁ What’s an FC that you refuse to play with? Why?

Lee Fucking Min-Ho. He is ugly, end discussion. When I see his face, I want to puke and punch it, I still don’t understand why people like him. Probably because I am more biased with Woo Bin and he was the male lead for The Heirs and poor Woo Bin was the second male lead. I had hardcore second male lead syndrome. Probably why I dislike Lee Min-Ho so much. I see him on my dash, I will unfollow that person that reblogged it!!! D.I.S.G.U.S.T.I.N.G

☼ What’s an FC that you’re dying to use? Why?

Kim Min-Jun, I have come to realize that he has been in the shadows behind people like Lee Yong-Joon and Kim Jeong-Ki, others! But the only reason why I don’t use him is because I don’t have a lot of resources for him, if I did I would throw starters out! Though like him with Jeong-Ki, they are very selective muses. I prefer to ship him with someone like a Krystal Jung or a Im Jin-Ah, or even both to just spicen things up! Have the typical Korean cliche with the main and second male lead to chase for the girl, but it’s the girls chasing the male lead! I also know my like-list is very small so they come off as very selective. I don’t think I have a thread with him, not recent at least. So I’d like a change with new faces on my dash! I’m trying to stray away from Lee Yong-Joon because I have a bunch of threads with him, give others to love and hate!

☣ What’s one thing that will make you drop a thread?

Lee Min-Ho as a paired muse, disgusting. But aside from a nasty face, I’m very lenient with threads. Most things are okay with me, 90% at least. I don’t have much trigger warnings, I’ve yet to encounter something that has made me drop a- WAIT WAIT WAIT. If I play as a female muse, please don’t make me so goddamn uncomfortable LOL I am okay if it’s a male muse, but goddamn when people touch touch. I shriek, don’t make me shriek! Unless it’s a good shriek! I am very bad with playing female muses so bare with me, don’t just go ham on them! If you do something that you think might make me shriek, please let me know in advance! Surprises sometimes are unwelcome! Planning is always welcome! I love planning!

I’ll throw in this one just for you Haru, I got your name correct this time so don’t worry!

♧ Is there an RP partner(s) that you credit for becoming a better writer?

@scarletxaya@moooon1x1@momcnts@mvn94@beatenbyarp

Thank you all for staying with me from the beginning! I am very grateful and appreciate you all very deeply! I consider you all as my deepest friends!

☯☯ Going back to this, I can not promise you this haru. But hopefully by the end of the year, I’ll have a Song Joong-Ki as a muse with plenty of resources!

[sexatoxbridge]

benwinstagram is an anti........

I presume you are mentioning this because I reblogged a bunch of stuff from them. All of which had absolutely nothing to do with One Direction. If they are an anti they’re either not very vocal about it or I’ve just never caught that on my timeline. 

I’ll be honest, I don’t follow people based on whether or not they believe Larry is real, I follow people based on whether or not I like their blogs. And if I’m being totally honest I’ve seen a lot of blogs on here recently that I haven’t liked very much because there’s a lot of 

at the moment, which is why I just looked through all the blogs I follow since I have a handy chrome extension that tells me who’s following me back and when people were last active and basically unfollowed over 100 blogs that were either inactive or non-mutuals in the 1D fandom because I pretty much get all my 1D news from Twitter anyway and it’s been a bit of a witch hunt around here lately. I still have hundreds of 1D mutuals who I love and who will ensure that my dash is full of 1D-related content, but seeing people attack other people is a hard pass for me. 

And seeing people attack Ed Sheeran, literally one of the nicest people on the planet, has me like

There’s a lot of bitterness on Tumblr but there’s also a lot of awesomeness, and I think this site is what you make of it, which is why I follow like 30% 1D mutuals, 50% dog accounts, 15% Drag Race blogs, 4% meme blogs and 1% 1D blogs that don’t follow me back. Like @zayn and @benwinstagram, who blogs about Roman-era cock rings and other hilarious things like that. Plus her icon makes me lol every time I see it. Look at this and tell me you didn’t laugh

Anyway, I love One Direction but I hate drama which seems literally ironic, but if people want to unfollow me because I follow someone they don’t like then go for it. I can’t write off everyone I have a disagreement with or else I’d have no friends. 

@vocabularryonthemind is literally one of my best friends in the entire world but we fight about dumb shit all the time like puns. Like, I’m completely serious. She’ll probably even argue that puns aren’t “dumb shit”. But, yeah. I lost my shit in an argument about the DUMBEST thing ever and even to this day if she tries to tease me about it when I’m not in the mood I’m like

But I still like her more than probably any other person I’ve ever met so I’m not going to be like “THE END” when I see her reblog from someone I’m not mutuals with or when she tries to get me to admit that I was wrong. Which I probably was like 1% wrong, but whatever. 

When it comes to @nautilarrie who had to witness this argument in our group chat I’m like 

She’s the most unproblematic person you’ll ever meet. She gives me horoscope and tarot readings and we rode all the rides at the Wizarding World of Harry Potter like seven times rapid fire this past summer and did spells with our wands. She’s literally the most magical person ever. Also if she reblogs from someone I don’t know I usually immediately follow them because I trust her inherently with my blog choices and my life. 

Hell, @mellygrant all but deactivated but she’s still ½ of my main HOETP. I love that bitch and I miss her sassy posts but we still have other things to talk about in our vida locas. 

This post wouldn’t be complete without mentioning @peachesannndgravy and I only used this Nicki gif because we were literally laughing about it last night when I was hanging out at her house listening to Mind of Mine and watching the Grammy’s. If there’s one example of how you can just agree to disagree with people, it’s my friendship with Tracey. 90% of the time we don’t even talk about One Direction. When we do, there is of course a lot of mutual eye rolling because she’s as vocal in real life as she is on her blog about not liking Harry and I’m constantly shoving photos of him or artwork Chuck did of him in her face. She gave me all of her Harry merch because she knows I love him so it was kind of a positive situation for me and even though she’s like

when she sees my framed copies of his album photos that she gave me, it’s not like she refuses to be my friend because we disagree on these things. In fact, I would say that Tracey is one of the best friends I’ve ever had. I’ve been in the ER three times in the last two and a half months and she not only took me to the hospital but then took me to pick up all my prescriptions, made me food and took care of me. When my housemate told me on New Years Day that they were giving me 30 days notice to move out Tracey started looking at Craigslist before I even did, and went to every single viewing with me, offered to let me live with her if need be, and helped me not only move, but also clean and paint my new place. Anyone would be lucky to have her as their friend (and, in my case, legal council).  

SO. Tumblr is what you make of it. If you don’t like the people I follow, you don’t have to follow them or me for that matter, but I am not sorry in the slightest for who I follow or who I reblog from. 

And that’s all I have to say about that. Also

So imma go now. 

[revampthevamp]

Blog Update

hey dear followers,

just an to give you guys a heads up, i plan to undergo a pretty big reinvention thing with my personality. in my private life a whole bunch of messed up crap happened (i won’t go into too much detail, and it probably wasn’t obvious as i rarely make personal posts), such as depression, self harm, suicidal ideation and a few attempts, anxiety, panic attacks, a dash of anorexia, insomnia, and very mild PTSD after an abusive relationship, and upon reflection i wish I had been a bit more candid about it, not only because it would have helped me by venting or finding communities to help with this, but also to humanise me a bit more. recently I’ve been diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome (which explains a hell of a lot of my previous mental stuff, as that often happens to undiagnosed aspies, especially females on the spectrum) and finding all the lovely positive blogs here and information was really helpful. generally i am happier with myself, as a combined effort with my family and friends and significant other (as well as seeing a doctor and getting properly medicated) has got me out of my worst mental state. however, although I’m generally happier about life, it’s mostly because I realise how lucky i am to be surrounded by wonderful people and relatively good things are happening to me. it should be enough but eh as a human being i will be inherently narsassistic, and thus the reason why my mental state isn’t normal yet is because i really loathe myself. im not being funny here, there are literally very few aspects i like about myself, partially the way i so drastically fail to fit in societies ideals, partly the way i don’t fulfil my own expectations, and so on. one of the main reasons however is that after the whole mental illness thing, there isn’t much of me left. it was all such a big part of me that my identity as of now is incomplete and out of date to who i think i am (i know this sounds like bollocks but please bear with if for some reason you are still reading this). something my boyfriend said to me (he is a very wise owl) was that often after depression/anxiety etc one needs to reinvent oneself, so that you don’t become defined by past or present sadness. i think he’s right, and it’s finally time to reinvent myself into something that isn’t so vulnerable it’s ruined by sheer existence, but also something that isn’t dependant on my sadness to make me interesting. on this blog, i may attempt to document this reinvention process. if anyone finds this, which i doubt, as nearly none of my followers know me personally, and those who do barely talk to me anymore (not in a bad way, not blaming anyone, sometimes people just drift apart) i’ll probably just nuke this account and start over. so, it begins…

If you find my personal posts triggering in any way and I haven’t tagged them properly, please let me know so I can fix the problem. I’ll try my best not to upset anyone, and I don’t want to ruin someone’s day by triggering them (as someone who occasionally is triggered in the non meme sense, it ain’t that fun). however bear in mind that since i will be posting personal stuff, a lot of it may be triggering, so if you are a follower who finds the majority of my content disturbing, feel free to unfollow me. i won’t mind, ofc ill miss you but honestly no shade and no hate if y'all unfollow. honestly even if you don’t want your dash filled with my negative sadgurl bullshit it’s totally okay to unfollow, i understand tumblr is an escape mechanism for some people, and i don’t want to ruin that because of my personal struggles.

TL;DR am reinventing self and blog, will be posting more personal content, sorry if it’s triggering, it’s a - okay if you unfollow

have a nice day naughty children